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Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Factfinder1(m): 3:59pm On Jul 22, 2020
ADVIVE TO MALES TRYING TO SETTLE DOWN .
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You hustled through sacrifice and pain to get where you are.
Now that you made it, how do you buy news cars, new homes, new clothes but somehow forget to get yourself a young fertile blonde.

Even if you don't value yourself, Please, Please, Respect your sacrifices.

One of life’s biggest tragedy is watching a young gent marry a f/male in her late 20s/early 30s etc .. Committing the rest of his life to a f/male who dick rode her prime years. All because he thinks "she's the one" not knowing her real motives

Know this bros, f/males who wouldn't even look at you in your 20s will look at you hard in their late 20s/early 30s, it's called “provider time”.

The “provider time “ comes as a f/male realization of the “the wall effect” .. damn!

Her motive is simply to find a male who will save her financially, since she's off no value on the sexual market anymore

Remember .. a f/males retirement plan is a “man”

She really doesn't love you bro , you're just the safe option.

She only likes your provision (ability to take care of her financially) & your scarcity mindset

(obviously when you're marrying a f/male in that age range you're an option-less betamale).

And that's the opportunism in a f/males dating strategy. Her prime years are for alphas .. she calls it (ho-phase)

While her washed up years are for cucks and betas .. ( She gets to eat her cake & still have it) ... Bros, if a f/male isn't married past 26 27.. stay the fxck away!

If you can’t have her at her prime years .. why then should she have you at yours ?

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by mdan(m): 4:11pm On Jul 22, 2020
There's sense in what you said.
But I think guys should try searching early enough for a girl before making it eventually, cause you can't say you didn't search and they didn't approach you, makes them a hoe automatically. If you have this mindset that until you're really made till you can find a good girl who's less than 26 or thereabouts you gonna get played big time.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by kazyhm(m): 4:24pm On Jul 22, 2020
There is an exception to this school of thought


There are girls that school/career make them marry late........imagine you marrying a practicing doctor, lawyer, pharmacist, engineer at 25 ?

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ubunja(m): 4:34pm On Jul 22, 2020
Say it louder bossman. Men need to respect their sacrifices. Why would a man who has hustled for years settle for second-hand damaged goods?? When so many fresh young women are looking for men who have their shet together.

Most men just hate themselves.

If men loved themselves they would seek only the best for themselves. Self love is something men need to learn.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Athemisia: 4:38pm On Jul 22, 2020
kazyhm:
There is an exception to this school of thought


There are girls that school/career make them marry late........imagine you marrying a practicing doctor, lawyer, pharmacist, engineer at 25 ?

True..... Also most girls in their early 20s are not emotionally stable... because they feel they hot and have many toasters...

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Athemisia: 4:42pm On Jul 22, 2020
ubunja:
Say it louder bossman. Men need to respect their sacrifices. Why would a man who has hustled for years settle for second-hand damaged goods?? When so many fresh young women are looking for men who have their shet together.

Most men just hate themselves.

If men loved themselves they would seek only the best for themselves. Self love is something men need to learn.

Nothing like second hand there... it's such a shame that this is coming from a lady.... smh..

I will gladly marry a 38yr old lady than a 24yr old girl who is emotionally unstable... and still feels the world revolves around her...

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Nobody: 4:42pm On Jul 22, 2020
mdan:
There's sense in what you said.
But I think guys should try searching early enough for a girl before making it eventually, cause you can't say you didn't search and they didn't approach you, makes them a hoe automatically. If you have this mindset that until you're really made till you can find a good girl who's less than 26 or thereabouts you gonna get played big time.
Which Nigerian girl will support you when you're like. I really find it bizzare when guys says girls supported them in their struggling days

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Zabiboy: 4:43pm On Jul 22, 2020

At the end man, it's all a gamble...
I'v read stories of men getting married to girls in their early twenties only for them to come up with the light Switch Effect months/years later because they still have that internal Zeal/Will/Tendency to explore

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by kazyhm(m): 4:45pm On Jul 22, 2020
ubunja:
Say it louder bossman. Men need to respect their sacrifices. Why would a man who has hustled for years settle for second-hand damaged goods?? When so many fresh young women are looking for men who have their shet together.

Most men just hate themselves.

If men loved themselves they would seek only the best for themselves. Self love is something men need to learn.

This is true....love yourself, respect yourself and don't marry a liability


Flirting around is far from marriage in practical sense..........

Come to think of it......do men who marries teenage girls really love themselves ?

I actually can't see the logic in it in the long run

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ubunja(m): 4:48pm On Jul 22, 2020
kazyhm:
There is an exception to this school of thought


There are girls that school/career make them marry late........imagine you marrying a practicing doctor, lawyer, pharmacist, engineer at 25 ?
I think men need to choose. Either a simple uneducated girl with a fresh fresh body or an educated successful woman but who's older and has a body that is no longer fresh because its not as if while a woman is studying all those years she's celibate. For many women college and university years are a full hoe phase.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by mdan(m): 4:48pm On Jul 22, 2020
Masonkaycares:
Which Nigerian girl will support you when you're like. I really find it bizzare when guys says girls supported them in their struggling days

Common bro!
You don't go about generalizing that no girl would support a struggling man.they are very few of I must say but they exist. Some tend to stay if they see potentials and looming prospects.
My point is that don't wait till you get made to eventually get laid or better put, you don't necessarily have to be rich to find love.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ekaF(f): 4:49pm On Jul 22, 2020
mdan:
There's sense in what you said.
But I think guys should try searching early enough for a girl before making it eventually, cause you can't say you didn't search and they didn't approach you, makes them a hoe automatically. If you have this mindset that until you're really made till you can find a good girl who's less than 26 or thereabouts you gonna get played big time.

Classic female response.
This is why guys should take words of women lightly. They never understand the struggles of the male folk.
No Offence to you. I'm just tryna make a point

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ubunja(m): 4:50pm On Jul 22, 2020
kazyhm:


This is true....love yourself, respect yourself and don't marry a liability


Flirting around is far from marriage is practical sense..........

Come to think of it......do men who marries teenage girls really love themselves ?

I actually can't see the logic in it in the long run
Loving yourself is seeking the best for yourself. And in terms of sex and reproduction a young fresh women is always better than an older woman.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ekaF(f): 4:51pm On Jul 22, 2020
kazyhm:
There is an exception to this school of thought


There are girls that school/career make them marry late........imagine you marrying a practicing doctor, lawyer, pharmacist, engineer at 25 ?

Trust me, there exceptions are only a handful

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Nobody: 4:52pm On Jul 22, 2020
mdan:


Common bro!
You don't go about generalizing that no girl would support a struggling man.they are very few of I must say but they exist. Some tend to stay if they see potentials and looming prospects.
My point is that don't wait till you get made to eventually get laid or better put, you don't necessarily have to be rich to find love.
Check out my everyday routine.

Wake up

Exercise

Wash

Do chores and eat

Naira land

Sleep

Play football.

I don't even Facebook

Women are a bonus

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ubunja(m): 4:52pm On Jul 22, 2020
mdan:


Common bro!
You don't go about generalizing that no girl would support a struggling man.they are very few of I must say but they exist. Some tend to stay if they see potentials and looming prospects.
My point is that don't wait till you get made to eventually get laid or better put, you don't necessarily have to be rich to find love.
yes. This "make money get women" mindset that men have has to go. Personally I got the best pussy when I was broke and jobless. Many players know this because they've been through this.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by kazyhm(m): 4:54pm On Jul 22, 2020
ubunja:
Loving yourself is seeking the best for yourself. And in terms of sex and reproduction a young fresh women is always better than an older woman.

Loving yourself is seeking the best for yourself....that is correct but in a context however, there are long time best and short time best........
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by kazyhm(m): 4:56pm On Jul 22, 2020
ubunja:
I think men need to choose. Either a simple uneducated girl with a fresh fresh body or an educated successful woman but who's older and has a body that is no longer fresh because its not as if while a woman is studying all those years she's celibate. For many women college and university years are a full hoe phase.

Then its a gambling choice......so to say

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by engrtee(f): 5:13pm On Jul 22, 2020
Ask her what her dreams are. If it is similar to your dream, fine. If not forget it. Marriage is not a life purpose
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ubunja(m): 5:17pm On Jul 22, 2020
Athemisia:


Nothing like second hand there... it's such a shame that this is coming from a lady.... smh..

I will gladly marry a 38yr old lady than a 24yr old girl who is emotionally unstable... and still feels the world revolves around her...
older women are easy because they know they've expired.

And I don't know what 24 yr old is emotionally unstable. Women mature very early emotionally.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Factfinder1(m): 5:27pm On Jul 22, 2020
ubunja:
Say it louder bossman. Men need to respect their sacrifices. Why would a man who has hustled for years settle for second-hand damaged goods?? When so many fresh young women are looking for men who have their shet together.

Most men just hate themselves.

If men loved themselves they would seek only the best for themselves. Self love is something men need to learn.

I miss you ubunja why did you stop blessing us here on nairaland

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ubunja(m): 5:35pm On Jul 22, 2020
Factfinder1:


I miss you ubunja why did you stop blessing us here on nairaland
ban after ban by the mods made everything boring. Now my writings will be published through other platforms.

But how are you bro?

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Factfinder1(m): 5:47pm On Jul 22, 2020
ubunja:
ban after ban by the mods made everything boring. Now my writings will be published through other platforms.

But how are you bro?

Never been better
..thank God for everything pls keep me informed when you get a better place to do your posting

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Thatlong9: 5:53pm On Jul 22, 2020
Damnnn, why get married
Emancipate yourselves from that bondage called marriage. Guys give yourselves peace

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by emmanuelewumi(m): 6:26pm On Jul 22, 2020
kazyhm:


This is true....love yourself, respect yourself and don't marry a liability


Flirting around is far from marriage is practical sense..........

Come to think of it......do men who marries teenage girls really love themselves ?

I actually can't see the logic in it in the long run


Men who marry teenagers are not rational and do not love themselves, what value is she bringing to the association

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by emmanuelewumi(m): 6:27pm On Jul 22, 2020
ubunja:
Loving yourself is seeking the best for yourself. And in terms of sex and reproduction a young fresh women is always better than an older woman.


Different strokes for different folks.


Value is in the eye of the beholder
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by emmanuelewumi(m): 6:29pm On Jul 22, 2020
kazyhm:


Loving yourself is seeking the best for yourself....that is correct but in a context however, there are long time best and short time best........


Long term best is logical and also the best
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by NobleDeSage001: 6:58pm On Jul 22, 2020
All these small small girls of 22 down to 18 never break your heart before. Matured girls are still the best. They know what relationship and marriage entails...

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Nobody: 6:58pm On Jul 22, 2020
ubunja:
ban after ban by the mods made everything boring. Now my writings will be published through other platforms.

But how are you bro?
wait!!!! so you mean the mods do ban you for the enlightenment? shit!!! I think there is a society network to keep men dump, daft and suppressed. I just feel its not ordinary, this thing is a global network.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ubunja(m): 7:00pm On Jul 22, 2020
emmanuelewumi:



Different strokes for different folks.


Value is in the eye of the beholder
A woman starts aging after 25. Feel free to share your success with damaged goods all in the name of different strokes for different folks.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ubunja(m): 7:03pm On Jul 22, 2020
Kenplay:

wait!!!! so you mean the mods do ban you for the enlightenment? shit!!! I think there is a society network to keep men dump, daft and suppressed. I just feel its not ordinary, this thing is a global network.
that's why I rarely come here lately. I just write but don't post. But I do keep people updated on my moves.
What we call enlightenment other people see as a threat.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Auladimeji(m): 7:05pm On Jul 22, 2020
NobleDeSage001:
All these small small girls of 22 down to 18 never break your heart before. Matured girls are still the best. They know what relationship and marriage entails...
They know because time is not on their side
They've passed the HOEING stage

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