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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ubunja(m): 6:33am On Jul 23, 2020
ZINIBANKS:

Please and please give this girl 100 likes I read all her comments and it's all make sense honestly
can someone please tell this guy

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Nobody: 6:38am On Jul 23, 2020
LizBathory:
A rapist, registered sex offender, murderer convicted for manslaughter and gang banger. Thats who she chose. I already pity the child in advance.
She's not a good woman so she don't worth a good man grin

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by donjhyde(m): 6:49am On Jul 23, 2020
The end of the matter is that do not settle for liability as a wife.... Look for someone that will complement your effort as hustler.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Vecto(m): 7:02am On Jul 23, 2020
ubunja:
can someone please tell this guy

grin

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Vecto(m): 7:02am On Jul 23, 2020
ZINIBANKS:

Please and please give this girl 100 likes I read all her comments and it's all make sense honestly

Na guy be that o grin

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Nobody: 7:06am On Jul 23, 2020
Vecto:


Na guy be that o grin
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh really grin grin
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by davien(m): 7:17am On Jul 23, 2020
Nobody is describing the situation of the op right. Even the op.

You see those young women who aren't serious?

They are the ones who turn into the serious ones after age, family pressure and losing their friends to marriage.

Women know they will always be catered for, they've been given this idea since birth and society mostly supports them.

Since women can now control their own pregnancy which is new to the past 3 generations, we are seeing more and more women opening their legs to more and more men.

Sex is something women don't put much emphasis on because they can have it anytime they want, and now that they don't usually get pregnant following sex, they now start to choose, exchange, double date, party, one night stand anybody they want who fits and can push their emotional buttons.

Now mother nature gave women enticing assets at young ages so she can attract the closest mate possible and bond with him forever(or at least till he died) through the estrogen they release after sex(google female pair bonding).

But because women today monkey-branch from one relationship to the other looking for the perfect 6 feet, handsome, bearded, tall, charming, rich, charismatic, athletic, doesn't watch football and is loyal they sleep with more and more men thinking they can hook the top men eventually with Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, michat lewd pics in a known process called hypergamy(a female trait).

And since social media has created a broader world of men for them who senselessly love and like all their pictures and sponsor any of their stupid, childish or rude request those women have become extremely entitled and now rate themselves higher than they normally would without social media(this is why back in the day a gorgeous woman was also smart and had virtue while being with a hardworking not so goodlooking man as they had little awareness of men outside their vicinity).

Combine with the low quality of life in Nigeria and women who know and have all these suck many men dry and keep multiple men around them(even if it's not for sex), just so they can keep the sense that they are high value and all men must want them.

This constant chasing for higher men crashes at age 26 above when they stop getting as much attention from all of these men and/or realise that these men just want to have sex with them only, the pair bonding ability in them that was supposed to make them follow the only guy having sex with them is also out the window as multiple sex partners makes it hard for females to stick to one partner and hypergamy(the feeling females have to explore) at this stage keeps pushing them to find the best man.

Finally after they've seen "life" and aren't a "small girl" anymore they go to the closest church, give their life to Christ and "change" into a "mature woman" looking for a "God fearing man" that will house them, raise their kids and take care of them. They settle for such men who are yesmen since they couldn't get the "best man"(which is almost impossible by the way statistically speaking, all women can't marry dangote).

Being "serious" with any woman is a risk you're better off not taking as they don't take themselves serious till they're all used up then start pressuring you into being a loyal husband/father with sex, compliments, and before they get married. After that, they gain weight, become entitled yet again as they've known you're stuck with them and then start comparing you with other men.

Not all women are guilty of this, but the traits are universal to those who know them.. I don't know any girl that doesn't want a guy that's equal or more than them in anything. Women date up and will throway your feelings once she feels you aren't up to her.

So now you can marry a used 30 year old who doesn't know how to pair bond anymore and is overly entitled by telling you to be a "man" or you can enjoy a woman who knows herself enough to let you train her into a woman you'd have kids with(with high chance she'll want to "explore"wink )

All in all, life is short and a womans satisfaction shouldn't be in your mind unless she's earned it.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by RealEzee(m): 8:14am On Jul 23, 2020
ubunja:
Say it louder bossman. Men need to respect their sacrifices. Why would a man who has hustled for years settle for second-hand damaged goods?? When so many fresh young women are looking for men who have their shet together.

Most men just hate themselves.

If men loved themselves they would seek only the best for themselves. Self love is something men need to learn.
wow coool, coming from a lady, nice one.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by RealEzee(m): 8:22am On Jul 23, 2020
Masonkaycares:
Which Nigerian girl will support you when you're like. I really find it bizzare when guys says girls supported them in their struggling days
there are, not all babes are the same, I've not meet babes from well to do homes been burden, I guess it's something about how they see the relationship between their parents tho, somehow they tend to get involved in ur life like their mums are with their dad, they don't really need you as per se Popsy sef don already dey care of their bills, that's just the ones I've come across and friends with.

but you see most from poor homes ehnn, it's not easy ooo they too are looking for liberation,most of them made up this current 'slay queens' we find kwa, las las when time reach they go calm down.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Omar09(m): 8:34am On Jul 23, 2020
ubunja:
can someone please tell this guy

Allow him enjoy the ignorance.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m): 8:54am On Jul 23, 2020
Athemisia:


Virginity is a state of mind.... there is no big deal there....
what if the lady was molested?
what if she was raped?
These are also some factors to consider before looking for virgins as though you want to use them for sacrifice...
says a woman that has straddle 352 pipes while at school...virginity is no state of mind rubbish. there is nothing philosophical about it. proof of virginity is hymen..period. your mind has nothing to do with with your virginity. laughable

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m): 8:57am On Jul 23, 2020
Athemisia:


Now I stand to doubt if truely you are a woman... you might be hiding under a female moniker...


sex is not what makes a woman a woman....

would you marry a woman that says she has slept with 300men(spartan army)...if sex does not make a woman, why does she always lower her body count. stop lying

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m): 9:00am On Jul 23, 2020
SweetCunt97:
Nicki wants a family without the nonsense drama. It's cool she went for a nobody instead of fellow rich rappers with craze up their heads.
after sleeping with most of the rappers in the industry.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by drnoel: 9:02am On Jul 23, 2020
This youngman is pained. Pls free them. This life is too short

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m): 9:05am On Jul 23, 2020
davien:
Nobody is describing the situation of the op right. Even the op.

You see those young women who aren't serious?

They are the ones who turn into the serious ones after age, family pressure and losing their friends to marriage.

Women know they will always be catered for, they've been given this idea since birth and society mostly supports them.

Since women can now control their own pregnancy which is new to the past 3 generations, we are seeing more and more women opening their legs to more and more men.

Sex is something women don't put much emphasis on because they can have it anytime they want, and now that they don't usually get pregnant following sex, they now start to choose, exchange, double date, party, one night stand anybody they want who fits and can push their emotional buttons.

Now mother nature gave women enticing assets at young ages so she can attract the closest mate possible and bond with him forever(or at least till he died) through the estrogen they release after sex(google female pair bonding).

But because women today monkey-branch from one relationship to the other looking for the perfect 6 feet, handsome, bearded, tall, charming, rich, charismatic, athletic, doesn't watch football and is loyal they sleep with more and more men thinking they can hook the top men eventually with Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, michat lewd pics in a known process called hypergamy(a female trait).

And since social media has created a broader world of men for them who senselessly love and like all their pictures and sponsor any of their stupid, childish or rude request those women have become extremely entitled and now rate themselves higher than they normally would without social media(this is why back in the day a gorgeous woman was also smart and had virtue while being with a hardworking not so goodlooking man as they had little awareness of men outside their vicinity).

Combine with the low quality of life in Nigeria and women who know and have all these suck many men dry and keep multiple men around them(even if it's not for sex), just so they can keep the sense that they are high value and all men must want them.

This constant chasing for higher men crashes at age 26 above when they stop getting as much attention from all of these men and/or realise that these men just want to have sex with them only, the pair bonding ability in them that was supposed to make them follow the only guy having sex with them is also out the window as multiple sex partners makes it hard for females to stick to one partner and hypergamy(the feeling females have to explore) at this stage keeps pushing them to find the best man.

Finally after they've seen "life" and aren't a "small girl" anymore they go to the closest church, give their life to Christ and "change" into a "mature woman" looking for a "God fearing man" that will house them, raise their kids and take care of them. They settle for such men who are yesmen since they couldn't get the "best man"(which is almost impossible by the way statistically speaking, all women can't marry dangote).

Being "serious" with any woman is a risk you're better off not taking as they don't take themselves serious till they're all used up then start pressuring you into being a loyal husband/father with sex, compliments, and before they get married. After that, they gain weight, become entitled yet again as they've known you're stuck with them and then start comparing you with other men.

Not all women are guilty of this, but the traits are universal to those who know them.. I don't know any girl that doesn't want a guy that's equal or more than them in anything. Women date up and will throway your feelings once she feels you aren't up to her.

So now you can marry a used 30 year old who doesn't know how to pair bond anymore and is overly entitled by telling you to be a "man" or you can enjoy a woman who knows herself enough to let you train her into a woman you'd have kids with(with high chance she'll want to "explore"wink )

All in all, life is short and a womans satisfaction shouldn't be in your mind unless she's earned it.
over sense dey worry you. very correct.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by RealEzee(m): 9:06am On Jul 23, 2020
ibkonekt:

never marry if she is not a virgin
but if all guys were virgins, we for also see more virgins na, abi na lie? My guy if we try look things from the other side of the coin we too as guys at times put ourselves in situations that's not favorable all because we won straff(short term goal) whereas when it's time to marry(long term goal) our short term exploits complicates our long term venture.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by SweetCunt97(f): 9:08am On Jul 23, 2020
ibkonekt:

after sleeping with most of the rappers in the industry.
Comes with d job.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m): 9:13am On Jul 23, 2020
SweetCunt97:
Comes with d job.
it does not, wh0redom is wh0redom...they are celebrities that quit the industry to avoid wh0redom....its doesnt come with the job, it comes as a choice. the choice to Wh0re around.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by SweetCunt97(f): 9:21am On Jul 23, 2020
ibkonekt:

it does not, wh0redom is wh0redom...they are celebrities that quit the industry to avoid wh0redom....its doesnt come with the job, it comes as a choice. the choice to Wh0re around.
Na u sabi.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m): 9:22am On Jul 23, 2020
RealEzee:
but if all guys were virgins, we for also see more virgins na, abi na lie? My guy if we try look things from the other side of the coin we too as guys at times put ourselves in situations that's not favorable all because we won straff(short term goal) whereas when it's time to marry(long term goal) our short term exploits complicates our long term venture.
let me ask you if a woman tells her people that she has a man that wants to marry her...the first question they will ask is "WHAT DOES HE DO" aka how much does he have...can he provide for you and protect you...these are the things men are valued for....nobody will ever ask if he is a virgin....these questions dont even come up when a virgin girl wants to marry a man.
now for a man to say he wants to marry a woman the first question is "HOW DOES SHE LOOK" aka is she young, is she fertile, is her vagina top quality...women are always valued for their beauty and fertility first and foremost. other attributes are secondary.
in essence a man that is able to bed many girls (not street wh0res) is wanted by many women because of herd mentality, women think if genevieve wants him then he must be a catch...you get the idea....but a woman that has slept around will never ever be wanted by any man no matter the amount of money that she has. that is why she will never tell you the true number of men that she has slept with in her lifetime
this is the reality of life. a man is a hunter and he will attempt to bed as many women as he can, it is the woman's job to tell him that the only way he can get sex is to marry and protect her.
women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gate keepers of marriage and commitment. we each set the standards here.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Liposure: 9:24am On Jul 23, 2020
ibkonekt:
after sleeping with most of the rappers in the industry.
allegedly
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m): 9:25am On Jul 23, 2020
SweetCunt97:
Na u sabi.
exactly so if women are free to wh0re around when they want...high value men are wising up to not marry the sluts again (Law Of Causation)....women caused the redpill to flourish by their actions. despite the bible telling us to marry only virgins, men did not think well then...but now...we are breaking the matrix and cleansing the ignorance...i feel sorry for wh0res in the near future.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m): 9:27am On Jul 23, 2020
Liposure:
allegedly
was she a virgin, obviously not. she openly did sexual acts with meek mills on stage and for everyone to see. so the numbers are "alleged" i agree. which is why the standard is virginity...if she has been plowed once then its over...there is no mistakes or any nonsense excuse

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m): 9:37am On Jul 23, 2020
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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Liposure: 9:41am On Jul 23, 2020
ibkonekt:

let me ask you if a woman tells her people that she has a man that wants to marry her...the first question they will ask is "WHAT DOES HE DO" aka how much does he have...can he provide for you and protect you...these are the things men are valued for....nobody will ever ask if he is a virgin....these questions dont even come up when a virgin girl wants to marry a man.
now for a man to say he wants to marry a woman the first question is "HOW DOES SHE LOOK" aka is she young, is she fertile, is her vagina top quality...women are always valued for their beauty and fertility first and foremost. other attributes are secondary.
in essence a man that is able to bed many girls (not street wh0res) is wanted by many women because be a catch.......but a woman that has slept around will never ever be wanted by any man no matter the amount of money that she has. that is why she will never tell you the
pornstars/hoes do get married. So there re exceptions
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m): 9:43am On Jul 23, 2020
Factfinder1:
ADVIVE TO MALES TRYING TO SETTLE DOWN .
you hustled through sacrifice and pain to get where you are.
Now that you made it, how do you buy news cars, new homes, new clothes but somehow forget to get yourself a young fertile blonde.
Even if you don't value yourself, Please, Please, Respect your sacrifices.
One of life’s biggest tragedy is watching a young gent marry a f/male in her late 20s/early 30s etc .. Committing the rest of his life to a f/male who dick rode her prime years. All because he thinks "she's the one" not knowing her real motives
Know this bros, f/males who wouldn't even look at you in your 20s will look at you hard in their late 20s/early 30s, it's called “provider time”.
The “provider time “ comes as a f/male realization of the “the wall effect” .. damn!
Her motive is simply to find a male who will save her financially, since she's off no value on the sexual market anymore
Remember .. a f/males retirement plan is a “man”
She really doesn't love you bro , you're just the safe option.
She only likes your provision (ability to take care of her financially) & your scarcity mindset
(obviously when you're marrying a f/male in that age range you're an option-less betamale).
And that's the opportunism in a f/males dating strategy. Her prime years are for alphas .. she calls it (ho-phase)
While her washed up years are for cucks and betas .. ( She gets to eat her cake & still have it) ... Bros, if a f/male isn't married past 26 27.. stay the fxck away!
If you can’t have her at her prime years .. why then should she have you at yours ?
a big problem with women that have slept around is that they have been imprinted by a man in her past, that man always has her mumu button. once a woman has been imprinted by maybe 3 guys...its over for her. she can never pair bond again. this is why you should not marry a used up thot

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m): 9:46am On Jul 23, 2020
Liposure:
there are exceptions. i know of pornstars/hoes who do get married
TO THE LOWEST OF SIMPS.....my statement that "no man would want a wh0re" is factually incorrect because we have like maybe 5% of SIMPS that will marry such a woman. so yeah thanks for pointing that out..still the intent of my words are "most" men (high value men) wont marry such which are the men that she truly desired.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by RealEzee(m): 9:47am On Jul 23, 2020
ibkonekt:

let me ask you if a woman tells her people that she has a man that wants to marry her...the first question they will ask is "WHAT DOES HE DO" aka how much does he have...can he provide for you and protect you...these are the things men are valued for....nobody will ever ask if he is a virgin....these questions dont even come up when a virgin girl wants to marry a man.
now for a man to say he wants to marry a woman the first question is "HOW DOES SHE LOOK" aka is she young, is she fertile, is her vagina top quality...women are always valued for their beauty and fertility first and foremost. other attributes are secondary.
in essence a man that is able to bed many girls (not street wh0res) is wanted by many women because of herd mentality, women think if genevieve wants him then he must be a catch...you get the idea....but a woman that has slept around will never ever be wanted by any man no matter the amount of money that she has. that is why she will never tell you the true number of men that she has slept with in her lifetime
this is the reality of life. a man is a hunter and he will attempt to bed as many women as he can, it is the woman's job to tell him that the only way he can get sex is to marry and protect her.
women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gate keepers of marriage and commitment. we each set the standards here.
do they LovePeddler by themselves or are they not whoring with guys?

There is always two sides to a coin you know, at times we seek what we are not and that's hypocrisy, let's not lie, there should always be a balance in things, alot of the chaos we see in relationships is a result of the first attempt at love, we tried got burnt then turned rogues, some left with lasting ptsd, some trying again and find beauty of fulfillment at another attempts, we call it whoring phase for the ladies but ours as guys na playing mode lol, yet we all want the fullness of what we didn't lay foundation for, well that's one side of the coin tho.

Las Las na make we all dey aiit

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m): 9:58am On Jul 23, 2020
RealEzee:

do they LovePeddler by themselves or are they not whoring with guys?

There is always two sides to a coin you know, at times we seek what we are not and that's hypocrisy, let's not lie, there should always be a balance in things, alot of the chaos we see in relationships is a result of the first attempt at love, we tried got burnt then turned rogues, some left with lasting ptsd, some trying again and find beauty of fulfillment at another attempts, we call it whoring phase for the ladies but ours as guys na playing mode lol, yet we all want the fullness of what we didn't lay foundation for, well that's one side of the coin tho.

Las Las na make we all dey aiit
there are 2 sides to a coin and they are different, I said in my last post that women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gate keepers of marriage and commitment. we each set the standards here.

I said a man will try to bed a woman and the woman has to resist or tell him to marry her before he gets sex. This way she can keep her virginity until marriage…simple.
The difference between a man and woman sleeping around is this

Man: a man has to work and put in a lot of effort to get a girl to have sex with him. He must be fine, intelligent, sleek with words, make her laugh, buy her stuffs, appear rich, appear confident….a whole lot of things all to get a girl to give him sex

Woman: a woman has to take a bath and just stand there and look pretty.

I hope you can see the reason why men are praised and women are shamed.
If as a man I could just open my d1ck and women would be begging me to give me BJ and please me sexually then men would be shamed because it is EASY….
WOMEN ARE SHAMED FOR FVCKING AROUND BECAUSE IT IS EASY FOR THEM…..THE HARD THING FOR WOMEN TO DO IS TO RESIST….WHILE THE REVERSE IS THE CASE FOR MEN IT IS EASY TO RESIST SEX AND HARD TO GET SEX (FOR MEN). THE ONLY THING YOU CAN RIGHTLY SHAME A MAN FOR IS THAT HE DOES NOT HAVE MONEY. IN ESSENCE MEN ARE VALUED FOR RESOURCES AND WOMEN ARE VALUED FOR FERTILITY

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by angelfallz(m): 9:58am On Jul 23, 2020
emmanuelewumi:



There are teenagers who are more damaged than a 25 year old lady...

Marriage should be a synergy that will enhance the wealth creation ability of the partners, I will choose a 30 year old lady that will add value to me over a 25 year old lady that is a liability or a leech.

One plus one equal to Two


In management and business when you have synergy which will enhance the economies of scale

One plus one equal to Three or more.


Marriage should be a synergy that will enhance the wealth creation ability of the partners,
Please where did you learn the statement that is in that quote?
That statement is shocking!
Enhance wealth creation?.... my God!!!

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by angelfallz(m): 10:02am On Jul 23, 2020
ubunja:
depends on where you are in life. If you're still hustling you'll seek a fellow hustler. But If you've money already what a woman brings to the table won't matter.

100% right.

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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by emmanuelewumi(m): 10:04am On Jul 23, 2020
Karma is a ruthless bitch, same way some egoistic Nigerian guys who claimed they are Alpha males fvcked bitches in the US for decades and decided to come to Nigeria to shop for virgins in their villages when they wanted to get married because they could not get any in the US.

Too bad their virgin wives are now making life so unbeatable for these guys, some lost all they worked for. They trained their virgin wives to become registered nurses so as to live off them, but it turned out to be investments without returns.

The frustration and bitterness, now made some of this egoistic Nigerian men kill and maim their wives, not considering the great bodies and wonderful veejays they held in high esteem.


In Investment value should increase and appreciate with time,

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