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Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ubunja(m): 2:24pm On Jul 23, 2020
angelfallz:
This exact thing you said here is exactly what Rollo Tomassi spoke about in his book, The Rational Male; Positive Masculinity.
Where he spoke about how the BETA male would willingly accept a woman that has prostituted herself during her peak Sexual Market Value years; early to mid 20s. Believing that the said woman has finally learnt her lessons and now accepts him as the good man that has been there for her all along.

WOW!! ROLLO TOMASSI WHEREVER YOU ARE, YOU'RE AN ORACLE!!
a woman "learning her lesson" is a woman who has done all the shiit she can and finding out it doesn't work for her. She may think that's commendable, but from a man's point of view it just makes her trash of the trash. I see it every time on YouTube.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ubunja(m): 2:32pm On Jul 23, 2020
Omar09:
Allow him enjoy the ignorance.
agreed. How you doing bro.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by emmanuelewumi(m): 2:40pm On Jul 23, 2020
ubunja:
knowing what i know about women I wouldn't be so confident in my wife the way he's confident in his wife. Female nature is just something else.
Rational men trust no one, they have back up plans.

They think with their heads.

Having full confidence in anyone means we are reasoning with our hearts or dick. Men and women are humans, and they are bound to make mistakes and are imperfect.

Pray for the best, plan for the worst and prepare for surprises and disappointments


Most women play this game better than us, the earlier we start seeing it as an emotional business the better
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by SweetCunt97(f): 2:42pm On Jul 23, 2020
ibkonekt:
exactly so if women are free to wh0re around when they want...high value men are wising up to not marry the sluts again....women caused the redpill to flourish by their actions. despite the bible telling us to marry only virgins, men did not think well then...but now...we are breaking the matrix and cleansing the ignorance...i feel sorry for wh0res in the near future.
Alas Jesus fell in love with a LovePeddler... Stay there and b deceiving yourself.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Omar09(m): 2:42pm On Jul 23, 2020
ubunja:
agreed. How you doing bro.
Refreshing. I've been discovering myself lately, and in the course of it, I learned a skill.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by emmanuelewumi(m): 2:44pm On Jul 23, 2020
In this game, play it with the end and dividends in mind.

Because both partners are interested in the continuity of the business, they will not want to be foolish to make mistakes that will lead to " Mutually Assured Destruction", because they have both invested in the association
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ubunja(m): 2:50pm On Jul 23, 2020
Omar09:
Refreshing. I've been discovering myself lately, and in the course of it, I learned a skill.
share more details of this self discovery
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ubunja(m): 2:55pm On Jul 23, 2020
emmanuelewumi:
Rational men trust no one, they have back up plans.

They think with their heads.

Having full confidence in anyone means we are reasoning with our hearts or dick. Men and women are humans, and they are bound to make mistakes and are imperfect.

Pray for the best, plan for the worst and prepare for surprises and disappointments


Most women play this game better than us, the earlier we start seeing it as an emotional business the better
you did your due diligence and it's commendable but all it takes is for someone to give a woman a better deal and she's out.

And in any case I personally never want any business association with a woman im fvcking. If our romantic relationship goes sour, proceeding on the business side of the relationship will be hell. Business and pleasure mixing is a no no.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Omar09(m): 2:57pm On Jul 23, 2020
ubunja:
share more details of this self discovery
Okay. I have anger issue, and I at first do blame people around me for making me angry, but later, because I wanted to be a better version of me, I discovered I am the one getting angry and I am the one who can decide to get angry no matter what happens. I learned to let things go, also, I learned to be indifferent to things, life to avoid disappointment. And most importantly, I learned women are auxiliary to my life.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ubunja(m): 3:11pm On Jul 23, 2020
Omar09:
Okay. I have anger issue, and I at first do blame people around me for making me angry, but later, because I wanted to be a better version of me, I discovered I am the one getting angry and I am the one who can decide to get angry no matter what happens. I learned to let things go, also, I learned to be indifferent to things, life to avoid disappointment. And most importantly, I learned women are auxiliary to my life.
you can say that again. Anger is very districtive for the one entertaining it. Kudos for the self awareness. The worst thing about anger is the regret of doing things you never meant to do.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Samuelkirk(m): 3:30pm On Jul 23, 2020
[quote author=ubunja post=91993075]you think you're the only hater?don't make me laugh. [/quoteUbunja how can we reach you your phone number or anything and where do you post your writings
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ubunja(m): 3:35pm On Jul 23, 2020
Samuelkirk:
quoteUbunja how can we reach you your phone number or anything and where do you post your writings
hie Samuel I'm writing but currently not posting anywhere because I'm thinking of putting out books.
Get in touch through my whatsapp although it's been days since I was last there. I update everyone who hollas there.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Ifeoluwav(f):
There are some really bad advice here. Too much bad advice from the "experts"

Men are eager to learn how to use, trash and dump Nigerian women and to assert superiority over her that she has no business with sleeping around while they do. Bad habits they won't try with women outside Nigeria.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Samuelkirk(m): 3:49pm On Jul 23, 2020
ubunja:
hie Samuel I'm writing but currently not posting anywhere because I'm thinking of putting out books.
Get in touch through my whatsapp although it's been days since I was last there. I update everyone who hollas there.
ok can I get your number if you don't mind
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Originalsly: 4:04pm On Jul 23, 2020
@..OP......just curious.......how old.was.your mom when she got.married?
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by pansophist(m): 4:19pm On Jul 23, 2020
Athemisia:
Virginity is a state of mind.... there is no big deal there
Are you high? shocked
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ubunja(m): 4:24pm On Jul 23, 2020
Samuelkirk:
ok can I get your number if you don't mind
dude you're literally looking at it.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Nobody: 4:36pm On Jul 23, 2020
ibkonekt:
exactly so if women are free to wh0re around when they want...high value men are wising up to not marry the sluts again....women caused the redpill to flourish by their actions. despite the bible telling us to marry only virgins, men did not think well then...but now...we are breaking the matrix and cleansing the ignorance...i feel sorry for wh0res in the near future.
A guy opened a thread one day and the topic was
LADIES HOW MANY GUYS HAVE YOU SLEPT WITH come and see insult abusive words different types of curse so at a point I told myself yes this people are guilty what if your husband to be ask you this same question that was what I told one girl abusing that OP
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Nobody: 4:44pm On Jul 23, 2020
ibkonekt:
Are you saying the alpha male should have married the sluts he was bedding in the usa rather than a virgin. It makes no sense there is more value in a virgin body wise.
You may want to claim that he should seek companionship and connection etc….and I would say such can be gotten in a young virgin as well….so which narrows down your narrative of a man being with an unbearable woman to just the man choosing poorly. Behavoiur is not unique to virginity, HOWEVER if a man is to choose then the best option is virgin and well behaved.
Besides the scenario you painted (about 97%) is much more prevalent with old wh0re. this is usually a wh0re trait
You're right bro grin cause how will you feel when your new wedded wife has been pound not one man not two not three someone will feel somehow
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Omar09(m): 4:46pm On Jul 23, 2020
ubunja:
you can say that again. Anger is very districtive for the one entertaining it. Kudos for the self awareness. The worst thing about anger is the regret of doing things you never meant to do.
I didn't realize I had so much work to do on myself until June last year I stumbled on your work.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by pansophist(m):
davien:
Nobody is describing the situation of the op right. Even the op.

You see those young women who aren't serious?

They are the ones who turn into the serious ones after age, family pressure and losing their friends to marriage.

Women know they will always be catered for, they've been given this idea since birth and society mostly supports them.

Since women can now control their own pregnancy which is new to the past 3 generations, we are seeing more and more women opening their legs to more and more men.

Sex is something women don't put much emphasis on because they can have it anytime they want, and now that they don't usually get pregnant following sex, they now start to choose, exchange, double date, party, one night stand anybody they want who fits and can push their emotional buttons.

Now mother nature gave women enticing assets at young ages so she can attract the closest mate possible and bond with him forever(or at least till he died) through the estrogen they release after sex(google female pair bonding).

But because women today monkey-branch from one relationship to the other looking for the perfect 6 feet, handsome, bearded, tall, charming, rich, charismatic, athletic, doesn't watch football and is loyal they sleep with more and more men thinking they can hook the top men eventually with Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, michat lewd pics in a known process called hypergamy(a female trait).

And since social media has created a broader world of men for them who senselessly love and like all their pictures and sponsor any of their stupid, childish or rude request those women have become extremely entitled and now rate themselves higher than they normally would without social media(this is why back in the day a gorgeous woman was also smart and had virtue while being with a hardworking not so goodlooking man as they had little awareness of men outside their vicinity).

Combine with the low quality of life in Nigeria and women who know and have all these suck many men dry and keep multiple men around them(even if it's not for sex), just so they can keep the sense that they are high value and all men must want them.

This constant chasing for higher men crashes at age 26 above when they stop getting as much attention from all of these men and/or realise that these men just want to have sex with them only, the pair bonding ability in them that was supposed to make them follow the only guy having sex with them is also out the window as multiple sex partners makes it hard for females to stick to one partner and hypergamy(the feeling females have to explore) at this stage keeps pushing them to find the best man.

Finally after they've seen "life" and aren't a "small girl" anymore they go to the closest church, give their life to Christ and "change" into a "mature woman" looking for a "God fearing man" that will house them, raise their kids and take care of them. They settle for such men who are yesmen since they couldn't get the "best man"(which is almost impossible by the way statistically speaking, all women can't marry dangote).

Being "serious" with any woman is a risk you're better off not taking as they don't take themselves serious till they're all used up then start pressuring you into being a loyal husband/father with sex, compliments, and before they get married. After that, they gain weight, become entitled yet again as they've known you're stuck with them and then start comparing you with other men.

Not all women are guilty of this, but the traits are universal to those who know them.. I don't know any girl that doesn't want a guy that's equal or more than them in anything. Women date up and will throway your feelings once she feels you aren't up to her.

So now you can marry a used 30 year old who doesn't know how to pair bond anymore and is overly entitled by telling you to be a "man" or you can enjoy a woman who knows herself enough to let you train her into a woman you'd have kids with(with high chance she'll want to "explore"wink )

All in all, life is short and a womans satisfaction shouldn't be in your mind unless she's earned it.
Correct, your head is well-oiled, clap for ya self cheesy

In addition to what you wrote, most women are "alpha-widows", for those who do not know the meaning of that term, google it. I do not know of any man that want to be a harbour for returnee women that have sojourn to ride the c.ock carousel, while silmeoutenously gambling to attain the best man she can get, and finish off her career on as a retired olosho, and live happily and lavishly ever after. Dont be that guy.

Society may encourage them to slut around, masked under "sexual liberation", independence of whatever fancy words, but men should be stern, respect themselves and not house these women. Afterall, during their prime, they wont even look at most men twice. If you're too hot for him in your prime, then you surely do not deserve him in your decline.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Nobody: 4:59pm On Jul 23, 2020
Omar09:
I didn't realize I had so much work to do on myself until June last year I stumbled on your work.
When you're rich you won't get angry again
Person wey no get money Na small things dey vex am grin
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by pansophist(m): 5:40pm On Jul 23, 2020
RealEzee:
but if all guys were virgins, we for also see more virgins na, abi na lie? My guy if we try look things from the other side of the coin we too as guys at times put ourselves in situations that's not favorable all because we won straff(short term goal) whereas when it's time to marry(long term goal) our short term exploits complicates our long term venture.
Society looks at women past, and men future. Furthermore, it is the responsibility of the possessor of value (virginity) to secure it. You don't blame a criminal for stealing your cash if you put it in the street, it's on you to save it well.

Yes, there may not be virgin male, but women gatekeep sex, not men.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by pansophist(m): 5:55pm On Jul 23, 2020
angelfallz:
This exact thing you said here is exactly what Rollo Tomassi spoke about in his book, The Rational Male; Positive Masculinity.
Where he spoke about how the BETA male would willingly accept a woman that has prostituted herself during her peak Sexual Market Value years; early to mid 20s. Believing that the said woman has finally learnt her lessons and now accepts him as the good man that has been there for her all along.

WOW!! ROLLO TOMASSI WHEREVER YOU ARE, YOU'RE AN ORACLE!!
If there is no consequence of "the wall" women will sleep around until their las day. It is the consequence of loss of attraction that keeps most in check, not maturity. Rollo Tomassi is right.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m): 6:38pm On Jul 23, 2020
ZINIBANKS:
A guy opened a thread one day and the topic was
LADIES HOW MANY GUYS HAVE YOU SLEPT WITH come and see insult abusive words different types of curse so at a point I told myself yes this people are guilty what if your husband to be ask you this same question that was what I told one girl abusing that OP
women will never tell the true number of guys that have run through them....no matter what...even on their death bed...they would guard the actual number ...even a prostitute lowers her actual number to her boyfriend... women will use insults and emotional abuse to try to derail the topic or mask the shame...eitherway they wont answer the question or lie about the answer. lol
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m):
Ifeoluwav:
So men are free to sleep around, but women aren't free? hun. Women keep learning that kind of lifestyle from such men, so if men don't want whores as wives they should stop sleeping with every lady they see because they are encouraging a sluty lifestyle in women. If you can't hold yourselves don't expect women to hold themselves.
like i said to someone here it is easy for women to sleep around, while it is very hard for men to sleep around(regular girls not street whores)...this is fact...a man that beds many women is a stud...a woman that sleeps around is a wh0re.
a woman that sees a high value man sleeping around and decides to emulate that is a fool because she doesn't know her value...for example wizkid is successful and has bedded multiple girls and celebrities but even mothers would give their virgin daughters to him, even virgins would give themselves to him...WHY, because he is high value in the society...that is all that matters to women. the only time a woman cares about a man sleeping around is if he is low value or her equal.
as for women no matter your fame,fortune, intellect, beauty....no high value man will take a Wh0re....no way...it is almost universal. this is reality
once a man becomes high value aka rich, famous, tall, houses, cars and all those vanity stuffs that women get wet for then if he sleeps around women will not care and still desire him all the more....this is no excuse this is the truth of the world that we live in.
look at it this way a woman can be dead broke and still get a man to marry her....while a man must be financially capable to support her and hers. this is the equality that you are searching for.
i say again women are to hold themself because that is their core value they present to a man...other attributes have been promoted by society as far more important e.g number of degree, diploma, certificate, accent and all other unneccessary attributes...while these things are good in a woman...they are not core...purity is the single most important factor for a woman anywhere in this earth and while resources is for men....hence why successful men can sleep around and women cannot.....but the balance is this women can lounge all day and expect a man to work for her and bring goodies home while she does nothing...this is the balance
women should hold themselves if they want to demand the best of the best men in the market...and men should make money if they want to demand the best of the best.....all other categories aka low value men and female wh0res should settle for eachother
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m): 6:54pm On Jul 23, 2020
SweetCunt97:
Alas Jesus fell in love with a LovePeddler... Stay there and b deceiving yourself.
drop the bible quote and verse that infers this.....i am waiting..
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Savagethe21st(m): 6:55pm On Jul 23, 2020
ibkonekt:
let me ask you if a woman tells her people that she has a man that wants to marry her...the first question they will ask is "WHAT DOES HE DO" aka how much does he have...can he provide for you and protect you...these are the things men are valued for....nobody will ever ask if he is a virgin....these questions dont even come up when a virgin girl wants to marry a man.
now for a man to say he wants to marry a woman the first question is "HOW DOES SHE LOOK" aka is she young, is she fertile, is her vagina top quality...women are always valued for their beauty and fertility first and foremost. other attributes are secondary.
in essence a man that is able to bed many girls (not street wh0res) is wanted by many women because of herd mentality, women think if genevieve wants him then he must be a catch...you get the idea....but a woman that has slept around will never ever be wanted by any man no matter the amount of money that she has. that is why she will never tell you the true number of men that she has slept with in her lifetime
this is the reality of life. a man is a hunter and he will attempt to bed as many women as he can, it is the woman's job to tell him that the only way he can get sex is to marry and protect her.
women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gate keepers of marriage and commitment. we each set the standards here.
boss u dey too wise. Chai
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ayesco202(m): 7:00pm On Jul 23, 2020
I wish I can copy this to my timeline. Unfortunately, I'm gonna lose alot of friends.
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by Airforce1(m): 7:08pm On Jul 23, 2020
Lol grin
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m): 7:12pm On Jul 23, 2020
ZINIBANKS:
When you're rich you won't get angry again
Person wey no get money Na small things dey vex am grin
yes ooo
Re: Advive To Males Trying To Settle Down by ibkonekt(m): 7:13pm On Jul 23, 2020
ayesco202:
I wish I can copy this to my timeline. Unfortunately, I'm gonna lose alot of friends.
price for dropping truth bomb is triggering a lot of people
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