Its immaturity. He is not necessarily wicked, because a lot of immature behaviour may be tagged as wickedness, he immature.

If the girl is a wife material as he says, then leaving her for someone else is cowardice. Firstly, it takes time to meet another person, and luck behold him if she is wife material like the present one.

Also, feelings fade between couples and they become bonded by forces more entrenched, deep and solid, that divorcing becomes alien to them. Marriage is about partnership, not romantic love, though, romantic love is a topping.

rawpadgin:
Okay, was having a drink with a friend of mine last night & he told me he no longer find his fiancée attractive. They got engaged a year ago & the babe is already pregnant for him. He is however still planning to wife her because the girl is a wife material & he will grow further financially with her by his side but believes he might be cheating on her after marriage.

According to him, the said girl has done a lot for him mostly during the pandemic period but believes he shouldn't be getting married to a girl simply because she has assisted him on many occasions. All my effort to convince him that the feelings will come after marriage proved abortive.

U don’t want to marry a gal bt u gave her the impression, she was helpful to u, got her pregnant, engaged her and then say ure not attracted to her again

He must be wicked being if he leaves that gal. People shud take responsibility for their actions. If the pregnancy was a mistake and she was just a fling I will understand.

rawpadgin:
Okay, was having a drink with a friend of mine last night & he told me he no longer find his fiancée attractive. They got engaged a year ago & the babe is already pregnant for him. He is however still planning to wife her because the girl is a wife material & he will grow further financially with her by his side but believes he might be cheating on her after marriage.

According to him, the said girl has done a lot for him mostly during the pandemic period but believes he shouldn't be getting married to a girl simply because she has assisted him on many occasions. All my effort to convince him that the feelings will come after marriage proved abortive.

One thing is certain, God will punish that your 'friend'.

Shugavee:
ehnnnn , that’s why I will never help any man ,, come to me when u hv enough money. Cause u lots ain’t worth it

If I have money, why should I come to you?
What do you have to offer that other women can't.?

fykes:

Lol I am a last born.
But it's not who u find, it's who u become.
When we become the best we can, we attract the best we want.
Be the best of whatever u desire ur spouse to become!

It's a sad thing to know you're last born. Wish you had a bro younger Anyways, keep being you and ignore anyone that'd want to make fun of you for taking the best decision ever. You won't regret this. At bolded, I'm being the best version of me, hope to meet someone like you someday.

DSHADOWWALKER:



So all the people having sex in this world are in love??

Are supposed to be , before guys started fucking any skirt

luminouz:

Lmaoooo
This one wants to cry over fake story...

Too many fake stories on nairaland these days.
I wonder why people can't decipher them.

I pray he finds wat he his looking for...that why I keep say stop dating a boy,...date a man that is matured ooo

Ugo4hotish:


My mother is a kobo kobo harlot

No wonder. Sighs

Sons of Adam.... Trust them at your peril. Confused descendants of the fallen angels.

pretydiva:
When he dived in raw, he was attracted abi. All of a sudden the attraction has disappeared into thin air. She's a wife material, but he still feels he will cheat on her when they eventually get married

Now I ask, what do most guys really want, cos I can't seem to fathom it

Honestly I will like you to put your self in her shoe! How are you going to feel?? With the pregnancy and also engagement ring I think your friend don't know what he wants. Indecision

rawpadgin:
u are a very wise man

He has always dated classy & beautiful chicks but discovered that they are almost unmarriageable so he decided to look beyond physical appearance. Now he's got the not beautiful but marriageable type, he now finding her unattractive

Everyone is beautiful! Ur guy (u sure say no be u sef?) just needs a little bit of maturity to overcome his gamophobia.



Las Las na people like dis dey troway diamond cos it's in the rough only to pick up pebbles. Bon çhance.

The attraction is lost because he has seen the lady finish.

She is not that attractive, so her selling point is her wife material character and her vagina which she must have been giving the guy in surplus amount even without being married, especially during this lockdown period.

Sex and other wifely duties after marriage doesn't always work, but it would have been best thing in this case.


He has milked the cow for free and no longer likes the taste.

sonofElElyon:
that's one of the reasons why the Bible said don't have sex before marriage... but people won't listen.. unfortunately the woman is usually the one who bears the brunt in such situations. they both need to really really pray for a happy, love filled home and lasting marriage....

Them no go hear. Him don chop finish, now is planning to frustrate the poor lady once they get married.
I prefer God's way.

fykes:

Its actually an honor to be a practicing Christian and the joke is on you.

You will be shocked on the last day, keep it up

Parisian:
Sons of Adam.... Trust them at your peril. Confused descendants of the fallen angels.

Does this thing you posted make any sense to you? So only MEN are the descendants of the so called fallen angels?

Nairalanders never seize to amaze me sha

You and your friend are insane

Chii59:

Them no go hear. Him don chop finish, now is planning to frustrate the poor lady once they get married.
I prefer God's way.

It doesn't always work.

But in this case, sex before marriage was the problem.

She has given the guy every thing she has to offer.

Love is a verb and not a noun. Tell your friend that his head is not correct

rawpadgin:
u are a very wise man

He has always dated classy & beautiful chicks but discovered that they are almost unmarriageable so he decided to look beyond physical appearance. Now he's got the not beautiful but marriageable type, he now finding her unattractive

Let him continue. It will end in premium tears for him.

Ozmar:
It's a sad thing to know you're last born. Wish you had a bro younger Anyways, keep being you and ignore anyone that'd want to make fun of you for taking the best decision ever. You won't regret this. At bolded, I'm being the best version of me, hope to meet someone like you someday.

Don't let fake prophets to impregnated you, they have filled the world now with their sweet words, especially on the Internet, they can attest to have dined with the Lord and even brag to be the light you seek, but only God sees the deepest of the secrets of men.


Don't let people's words move you to make hasty decisions, many are talkers but never doers, be wise so they won't finish your biscuit with lies of righteousness, the Lord hate prideful people who call themselves righteous, I know I am a big sinner and lord will have mercy on me

The moment a man starts having sex with a woman,the attraction reduces.
Worsens when she is pregnant.

rawpadgin:
Okay, was having a drink with a friend of mine last night & he told me he no longer find his fiancée attractive. They got engaged a year ago & the babe is already pregnant for him. He is however still planning to wife her because the girl is a wife material & he will grow further financially with her by his side but believes he might be cheating on her after marriage.

According to him, the said girl has done a lot for him mostly during the pandemic period but believes he shouldn't be getting married to a girl simply because she has assisted him on many occasions. All my effort to convince him that the feelings will come after marriage proved abortive.

for me he should just light back the fire of love what makes him attracted to her in the first place though am having such issue because I really want a wife but i find it hard to love someone

fykes:

U see ur opening statement, it's a huge lie. Infact u should have a degree in lying.
I dated my wife for 3 years and have married her for 5years and not only do I find her attractive and sexy, I will never cheat on her. And while u think its something huge it's not. Many men are doing it. Before I married, I worked in a multi national, I played the field and there's really nothing a woman can throw at me now in d way of physical attraction or seduction.
Cheating isn't only greed and selfishness, it's disregard for God and marital vows and I won't be found with such deadly sins ever.

Nice one guy!

May the Lord help you keep to your vows because temptations abound everywhere!

Ladies, there are some men that must not see the color of your pant until after marriage.

If you make the mistake of allowing them bed you before marriage , they will leave you.

It is how they are.

UDUJ:
This goes to both genders - never marry out of sympathy

I feel sorry for the lady already because even if they eventually get married she will be unhappy because she wouldn't feel loved.

It's better your friend comes clean and end it. Let the girl go, I strongly believe she will see someone else that will love and cherish her genuinely. Own up and take full responsibility for the child when he or she comes. The dude doesn't look like someone ready for marriage. His eyes are still outside. The thing is immature guys will always see a prettier lady outside, it takes maturity to make up your mind to stick with one lady. And you can't get all your needed qualities in one woman, the same goes for men too. We all have our own flaws.

Speaking from a guy's perspective I can see the guy doesn't love her anymore. Let's not deceive ourselves.

Sadly the lady is already pregnant for him. What an entanglement

He never loved her. You just don't fall out of love for fickle reasons.

UDUJ:


Does this thing you posted make any sense to you? So only MEN are the descendants of the so called fallen angels?

Nairalanders never seize to amaze me sha

*cease

pocohantas:
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Another nonsense post.

Naija girl fcks Naija man = “she is loose“

Foreign girl fcks Naija man= “Team foreign girls. Foreign girls are real. I must marry foreign girl”

Nonsense cows!!

Lol. Don't mind the nauseating double standards.

spiceadole:
The moment a man starts having sex with a woman,the attraction reduces.
Worsens when she is pregnant.

Ahhhhhhhhh, this is very contrary to what we hear from our 9ja brothers oooo. . They are always like:

"If you love me, you will give me your body, soul and spirit."

"come, let's cement our love"

"If we do it, we will become stronger"

"Sex makes us one"

Some will even say, "I want to feel you inside me, I need your all". Having sex with you is tying my being to you".


What do we believe now, I tire oooo.

Now we need to get one thing straight here; attraction and love are not the same. If he still loves her but doesn't find her attractive in recent times, he should still go ahead to marry her, more so when he says she's got great character. The beauty of a woman is in her character not the attractiveness that fades away with time. Once he makes up his mind to make her his wife forsaking every other ladies out there, the coming together of their minds will reveal the true everlasting attractions.

I totally agree with you. Am a man, but in a situation like this, that act is inhuman after enjoying and drilling, it is now he knows she is not attractive again. Some men are just evil. The word better and for worst on wedding day is just mere say, when the worst comes, any of the partner will run away. My sister was a victim. Some men no go enter heaven.

I just said the same thing. Scrolled up and read your comment. My heart just broke reading this story. How evil humans can be. Honestly for me a marriage will be transaction. I just feel I’m at a point I don’t believe in a thing called love. Only God can love. [/quote]