rawpadgin:
u are a very wise man

He has always dated classy & beautiful chicks but discovered that they are almost unmarriageable so he decided to look beyond physical appearance. Now he's got the not beautiful but marriageable type, he now finding her unattractive

Ishilove:

They say it is the plain women that understand the meaning of love; the beautiful ones are too busy being fascinating.

Chii59:

So she deserves to be cheated on once he's put the ring on it?

Ugo4hotish:


LOL,
You'll get pregnant and he'll leave you.... If you like, don't listen to your Bible. CHRISTIANS INDEED

Kazim88:


Marriage is not mostly about love, it's more about sacrifice, consistency and good leadership from the husband..

Most plain ladies are good followers, easy to lead but the beautiful ones requires extra energy, while the sophisticated ones requires that you are a maestro, with multiple years of leadership experience.

And most Single men by default and are not even leaders, talkless of being bad or good at it because leadership is not natural, it is learnt.

Kazim88:



A useless man is a useless man irrespective of what you offer him, he would still have excuses.... A useless woman is useless woman, even with big bumbum and big brea$t.

Ngozi Okonjo Iweala, you think it's her bumbum that made her a super role model and inspiration to millions of ladies and young girls allover the world.

Even Kim Kardeshan, you think it's her plastic body.... ? If only you know the number of ladies that goes through the knife daily, you would be shocked.

fykes:

U see ur opening statement, it's a huge lie. Infact u should have a degree in lying.
I dated my wife for 3 years and have married her for 5years and not only do I find her attractive and sexy, I will never cheat on her. And while u think its something huge it's not. Many men are doing it. Before I married, I worked in a multi national, I played the field and there's really nothing a woman can throw at me now in d way of physical attraction or seduction.
Cheating isn't only greed and selfishness, it's disregard for God and marital vows and I won't be found with such deadly sins ever.

LagBae:


Read what I typed again, this time slowly and notice the part I where I said they want a wife material. Or don't you want a wife material?

And even if she does well to preserve her assets,

desgiezd:


Rather than settle with someone who will give him peace of mind, he wants to go after classy babes, I pray he doesn't experience the bitterness associated with his desire!

jornwhite:





Men are different just as much as what we seek, from the lil story Op friend is @ the stage of settling down hence why chose attributes over classy & appearance, the gospel truth is as we grow older as men we realize our taste in women get revised .. their is what we consider 4 lust and what we categorise as wife material, is not easy to transit bside pregnant make most women less attractive .. all he needs is more commitment n the passion will come back.
Never make d miatake of choosing physicality over attributes, beauty go fade, breast go sagg, even that big ass go tired you.(see finish) marriage na long journey

sylvalord:
Your friend is wicked and he does not deserve that woman at all. I pray God saves her from that weakling of a man

lefulefu:
its good to be attractive but a lady shouldnt just solely depend on her physical body.i have seen ladies who are beautiful and have good figures and are intelligent as well .its only on nairaland that there is the assumption that its only unattractive ladies who are intelligent but its not like that in the real wolrd.Okonjo iweala is not even ugly.she is physically beautiful.even at the age she is she even looks more attractive than some ladies in their early 20s and mid 20s.i wonder how she would look wen she was a young girl .

mimimile93:
Stop convincing a man to acquire a liability

pocohantas:


I will train the baby na. No be my pikin?



Nah, just being mischievous. Doesn’t change the fact that the friend is callous. The lady is you people’s “wife material“ standard. Yet look what a member of your brotherhood is doing to her. Men are ....

rawpadgin:
Okay, was having a drink with a friend of mine last night & he told me he no longer find his fiancée attractive. They got engaged a year ago & the babe is already pregnant for him. He is however still planning to wife her because the girl is a wife material & he will grow further financially with her by his side but believes he might be cheating on her after marriage.

According to him, the said girl has done a lot for him mostly during the pandemic period but believes he shouldn't be getting married to a girl simply because she has assisted him on many occasions. All my effort to convince him that the feelings will come after marriage proved abortive.

Kazim88:


Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder...

After 2 years of marriage, seeing her day by day, see her give birth... You won't see any beauty again... Ironically, others would be seeing it and complimenting her, but you? You see nothing.

Marriage is not about beauty, it's not about pleasure... Life is dangerous journey, with so many uncertainty, you would need a support, a team mate, a good wife/husband to improve your chances of not being enslaved by circumstances.

I see many complain and groan helplessly about the situation of this country... They are trapped, ensnared by life.... Don't be like them.
Be free, so no matter who the "15 million" would vote next election, you are 100% ok... That's why you need a team mate, a wife.

fykes:
This is more of a lesson for ladies... Because someone says they love u don't mean they do.
Time tests everything. U get pregnant, love dies and he's looking for someone to cheat.. Not every body with a penis is man and marriage isn't for kids

rawpadgin:
Okay, was having a drink with a friend of mine last night & he told me he no longer find his fiancée attractive. They got engaged a year ago & the babe is already pregnant for him. He is however still planning to wife her because the girl is a wife material & he will grow further financially with her by his side but believes he might be cheating on her after marriage.

According to him, the said girl has done a lot for him mostly during the pandemic period but believes he shouldn't be getting married to a girl simply because she has assisted him on many occasions. All my effort to convince him that the feelings will come after marriage proved abortive.

jornwhite:





Men are different just as much as what we seek, from the lil story Op friend is @ the stage of settling down hence why chose attributes over classy & appearance, the gospel truth is as we grow older as men we realize our taste in women get revised .. their is what we consider 4 lust and what we categorise as wife material, is not easy to transit bside pregnant make most women less attractive .. all he needs is more commitment n the passion will come back.
Never make d miatake of choosing physicality over attributes, beauty go fade, breast go sagg, even that big ass go tired you.(see finish) marriage na long journey

rawpadgin:
Okay, was having a drink with a friend of mine last night & he told me he no longer find his fiancée attractive. They got engaged a year ago & the babe is already pregnant for him. He is however still planning to wife her because the girl is a wife material & he will grow further financially with her by his side but believes he might be cheating on her after marriage.

According to him, the said girl has done a lot for him mostly during the pandemic period but believes he shouldn't be getting married to a girl simply because she has assisted him on many occasions. All my effort to convince him that the feelings will come after marriage proved abortive.

lefulefu:
beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder i agree and thats why u should go for the one that pleases ur eye instead of going for the one that ppl tell u to go for.And also if marriage to you is a noble cause which u must fulfil then dont cheat on your wife
be faithful to her and treat her with respect
I see all the time some guys saying this exact statement about marriage being a divine duty and how they will sacrifice their time to make it work but yet such men still go behind their wives to cheat on them and ignore their duty as a husband.U cant talk about marriage being a divine duty and still be cheating on ur wife and having one side chick here and dere.It does not work that way.

Kazim88:


We are both agreeing that cheating is not good but the cause of cheating is not lack of beautiful or attraction... It is deeper

An average black man, both rich and poor live for pleasure... The believe that the altimate aim of life is to enjoy... Infact, they work, marry, risk in other to enjoy..
With this mindset, restlessness, dissatisfaction and cheating is inevitable, let the lady even be a sexy goddess.

But men that their, ultimate aim is Power, clean power, ability to control their destiny, sacrifice pleasure day in day out.... The control what they eat, they work harder, they build labourously, they learn daily, the live in toosh area like island... Organized can't stoop low and cheat on their wife, it is below their dignity, it has potential diminish their power to almost zero.

Like I use to say .. they are basically only two kind of men in this world... Those that live for pleasure and those that live for power... Those that sacrifice power for quick pleasure and those that sacrifice pleasure for power.

The pleasure seeker will and must cheat.

Michelle55:
Nairaland and sensational stories eh... But why is it you guys always come with Its my friend or my friend is passing through some shits. Stop hiding under the umbrella of friends edakun

I won't condemn the real men out there just because your so-called friend chooses to be an animal. To the real men out there, continue doing You! Y'all will prosper in all ramifications!

lefulefu:
wich kain mindset be dis biko
bro are u a virgin too?
kinder unfair to call a girl loose if she had sex with a guy she loved

Chii59:

No wonder. Sighs

pocohantas:


I will train the baby na. No be my pikin?



Nah, just being mischievous. Doesn’t change the fact that the friend is callous. The lady is you people’s “wife material“ standard. Yet look what a member of your brotherhood is doing to her. Men are ....

Ugo4hotish:


Bro I am not saying that the guy did right. But many stupid people here are calling on God to punish the guy.... But thee girl didn't heed to God's instructions. So no cause will work in the guy in the name of God

lefulefu:
im don give the girl belle and he don already promise to marry her.Condom no too expensive nau.Some guys really need to be firm.u cant say u dont want a girl and then still be doing skin to skin with her.

Chii59:

Gbam.
Team "build your man" by the time you're done, suddenly you're too old and wrinkled for his taste.

Palema007:
You make Sense. Lots of it!
However there's a difference between illusion and reality. While people admonish one another to look beyond physical attributes while choosing the question remains, why to the loyal, submissive, patient, supportive, brilliant, intelligent,rich, beautiful,sexy,handsome, homely ones still get cheated on? Lemme cut it short? Why does housewife material Mope gets dump for dumb sexy Amaka? Lol. It is matter of preference. While some have lived to know that life is more than beauty, some live for it, some think they can have both, some do not even see life that way. We all should realize that there is no manual to this thing. What works for A might not work for B.

Stop propagating that beauty fades thingy, because it doesn't work always and those who chose beauty over other attributes shouldn't be looked down on for it.The irony is those who preach it only do so to avoid being superficial, else why do slay queens and side chicks exist? Lol.

Reality no matter how full a mouth is with words of wisdom, the moment it has odour it has lose its savor. You will wake up to face first before brain,if you can't live with an ugly face, don't bother to toy with it. Op's friend was being logical in his choice, however he is yet to achieve such emotional intelligence, now that has got him hooked. How many more cases do we have to witness before we can tell ourselves some truth?.