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| I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by owo8184: 10:58pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos. I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family. Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos. Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy. Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage. Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused. 145 Likes 18 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by DonBenny77(m): 11:06pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Chai, sorry man. To marry no hungry me again sef..... 948 Likes 60 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by annex1: 11:06pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Dont confront her. Just focus on yourself and children please. And till you suspect otherwise, use protection during intercourse. 527 Likes 20 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by KristaPretty(f): 11:09pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Find a way to catch her red handed, let her know that she has been caught in the act. Secondly this needs a deep conversation between you both. During your discussion questions like what you are not doing right should be asked from you to her or what you are lacking that she needs you to work on in order to be better. Remember women are easily fooled by words they are told, try to complement her often give her enough nacks that she will be cripple. In general just converse with her heart to heart when there is a good mood in the house or at night. Finally, please use magun on her so that she and any man she straffs will gum together  This is not a joking matter and infidelity should never be tolerated in Marriage. This is to save you from unnecessary heartaches and diseases! If she is tired it's better for her to leave so she can do whatever ahe wants without hiding or giving you emotional torture. she cannot eat her cake and have it! I gave you options, chose one. Option 3 is fastest.  no time.You better act fast before she is brainwashed like baby fish and conive with her lover to kill you or take your money and render you useless. 415 Likes 20 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Prof0fficial: 11:14pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
what do you expect when you marry a pretty woman. I can't see myself getting jealous for my woman when I'm 100% more cute.. modified: honestly do I even care if she cheats? as long as I get more attention... if I ever decide to react... then she get demoted to 5th wife*** cos my house will be renewed with fresh set of virgins! 83 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by owo8184: 11:18pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
KristaPretty: I think the first option is what I will choose. I don't think she can even listen. Magun is a no no. I am not that desperate. . Thanks all the same143 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Mariangeles(f): 11:20pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Most couples these days are more like flat mates who can do as they please. No respect for marriage again.  Social media has made everything worse. Cheating nowadays is just a click away. Hmmm 522 Likes 29 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by KristaPretty(f): 11:21pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
owo8184: Okay o. 7 Likes |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by owo8184: 11:21pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Prof0fficial: If I consider beauty, she's the least I would choose for marriage. She was a friend, a Coursemate. I needed more than beauty when I married her. Maybe I chose wrongly  160 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by flyingpig: 11:22pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
annex1:Just imagine, you're very wicked. So he should be sharing his wife with a man from her past? You're very wicked. 331 Likes 16 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Danielomisco(m): 11:22pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
DonBenny77:men i weak 53 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by MummyIMadeIt: 11:23pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
owo8184: Op please use the third option, so we can see if it works... Meanwhile cant wait for your expose 39 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by flyingpig: 11:23pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Mariangeles:I swear 33 Likes |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Nobody: 11:39pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
the fact that you have kids is the only thing there if not ... I for advice you to free her ..so I would say focus on your kids and also remember NO HUMAN BEING is worth your happiness! also without knowing you I can guess you are a predictable guy ... daddy daddy good guy guy ....women hate that shit... become unpredictable for a change .. women are fixers they love to fix things ... give her something to fix... start having female friends ... don't cheat but hang with em ... come home and leave unexpectedly with a " I am coming " cruise and even if she asks where you dey go just keep saying the same shit haha .. it starts to mess with her mind and she go dey try figure you out .. you son give am work be that ...... kai this ogogoro strong oooo 43 % when where was I ... my brother the lord is your strong. 284 Likes 15 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Nobody: 11:39pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Your foundation was faulty. While dating/courting she got intimate with a guy, you guys settled and got married. Did you make sure she cut off the guy before marrying her? See, while I try as much as possible to be forgiving, two things I don't take is betrayal and cheating. While I may let go of the former with precautions i cant the latter. Cheats don't change! Let no one tell you otherwise, except the person gives his or her life to Christ sha.  167 Likes 13 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by nero2face: 11:40pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
see as I just dey fear, Man ur story is so touching...I can't bear that oh, 15 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by owo8184: 11:47pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
BakedCake: You have analysed me perfectly bro. I think I am too weak a man. She can easily predict me. She noticed my countenance tonight and started trying to play around me. I have decided I am going back to my work station this weekend without informing her. My present financial situation also doesn't help.  135 Likes 9 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by owo8184: 11:50pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Palema007: Thanks but if you asked me before now, I will tell you she's not a cheat. We dated 6yrs before marriage. I took her virginity at the age of 27. I think she's been influenced by social media. 107 Likes |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Nobody: 11:56pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
owo8184:bros don't let it bother you much ... your kids are the main thing ...focus on them ...be a dad ! leave monitoring of woman what you will find you might not be able to stomach ... honey = money.. also stop talking bout no ex no more ... you should know that nah wetin dem tell us not to do nah him dey hungry person pass ... the more you fight her the more it becomes super interesting to run circles around you .. I am no counselor but eyes don see and ear done hear 77 Likes |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by JerryLekki: 11:59pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Uncle sir, You are in an open marriage. There is nothing wrong with it. Except your notion that you must not accept it. Probably programmed into you. Oya, come and swear that since you married, you have not had something with another person. Especially in that university environment that you claim to hustle. Bros, come off it. There are things bigger than your ego 23 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by shortgun(m): 12:02am On Sep 04, 2020 |
I don't know how u guys manage to live with a cheating wife...ur life is always at risk if u live with a woman that can give herself to another man without blinking. I feel like to beat the hell out of you from here Be a man and take charge of ur home....seize her phone and get the password, use force if necessary. 149 Likes 12 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by obiekunie2: 12:12am On Sep 04, 2020 |
owo8184: what do you mean by this statement? by "made out together" are you saying you knew your wife bleeped the guy? and you are so cool about it? SO WHATS YOUR STRESS NOW? SINCE YOU KNOW YOUR WIFE HAS TWO HUSBANDS - ONE A SIMP DADDY THAT SHARES A HOME WITH HER AND THE OTHER A PH BASED ALPHA THAT REMOTE CONTROLS HER. Oga abeg just free us no time for all this simp guys stories - fuel price is now 162 per litre and nepa don increase nepa bill by x10 so we have too much issues on our hand now tht there is no time to console simp niggars. 119 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Nobody: 12:20am On Sep 04, 2020 |
Don't confront her without evidence, she will either deny and turn the table against you (you don't trust me bla bla bla) or you'll just be accusing an innocent woman. 47 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Nobody: 12:25am On Sep 04, 2020 |
obiekunie2:Read again. The made out was before the marriage. There is no need for simp and alpha male here yet. 48 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Ningen(m): 12:27am On Sep 04, 2020 |
I can smell the strong stench of infidelity. Stop playing detective and confront her asap. She has to clear your suspicion beyond ALL reasonable doubt. If she fails, you know what to do. Your sanity and peace of mind is important. Life is too short to tolerate nonsense. 29 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Nobody: 1:09am On Sep 04, 2020 |
With all these evidence you're still there asking what to do? Ok. Keep watching her until she infects you with the dreaded. I keep quoting one of my pastors who said, eros love (infatuation) flies away after 5 yrs of marriage. Which is true from findings. And the only thing that can keep the marriage going is agape love which many marriages lack today. Reason it is better to marry in the lord and build your marriage on Gods kind of love which helps you stick to your partner good or bad, feelings or no feelings (sacrifice). Op, call and tell her ( not ask) that you know what she's been up to and any more suspicious moves, you'll call a family meeting and take a decision before she infects you with a disease. Be blunt and stop shaking like a jelly fish. 189 Likes 10 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Chydo63(m): 1:13am On Sep 04, 2020 |
KristaPretty:good advice. But to me option 1 & 3 seem related. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Chydo63(m): 1:27am On Sep 04, 2020 |
shortgun:my brother leave story, most women will be loyal and faithful if you're loaded. There is very little you can do if she's sharing the bills with you. The rate of infidelity today amongst married women is alarming. I spoke to some & they all told me they can't forgo their rich exes, because they help them financially whenever oga is broke. And all know the economy of Naija today so, tell me...! 58 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by owo8184: 1:36am On Sep 04, 2020 |
[quote author=obiekunie2 post=93548375] what do you mean by this statement? by "made out together" are you saying you knew your wife bleeped the guy? and you are so cool about it? SO WHATS YOUR STRESS NOW? SINCE YOU KNOW YOUR WIFE HAS TWO HUSBANDS - ONE A SIMP DADDY THAT SHARES A HOME WITH HER AND THE OTHER A PH BASED ALPHA THAT REMOTE CONTROLS HER. Oga abeg just free us no time for all this simp guys stories - fuel price is now 162 per litre and nepa don increase nepa bill by x10 so we have too much issues on our hand now tht there is no time to console simp niggars.[/quote You may need to read my post again. While courting, we had a misunderstanding and separated. That was when she met the guy. 13 Likes |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Chydo63(m): 1:41am On Sep 04, 2020 |
Op, i understand what you're passing through especially, because kids are involved. You're considering what would happen to the kids incase of a divorce and she's feeling she can get away with all the atrocities but, you need to do what'd restore your Sanity even if it means kicking her out. I know You're hampered because of finances, work and pray to be up again and then do the needful. Truth is more women are adulterous now because of bad economy and social media. 39 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Ulunne777(f): 1:51am On Sep 04, 2020 |
Woh! You can watch warroom. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by lilyheaven: 2:08am On Sep 04, 2020 |
If you trust her, you shouldn’t be scared of who she wants to meet at any given time. Until you have an evidence, relax o before you develop unnecessary hypertension 10 Likes 2 Shares |
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