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Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by Jerkbaba: 6:48pm On Sep 10, 2020
Mumu dey think of girls for these kind problems wey dey so. Ok now.

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Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by Phoenix999: 6:56pm On Sep 10, 2020
Bro, the way out of your predicament is to understand 2 things and apply both in your pursuit of the female folks:

1. You must not always get a yes/ some will say no, others will say yes... Read no meanings to the No.
2. The fact that the one u admire refuses u, does not mean u won't get another that is better than her.

Take it from someone that was also shy with women, now I am a lady's killer with unrivalled confidence.
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by smelling5shit: 7:10pm On Sep 10, 2020
Jfix:
Please nairalanders
I'm 23, turning 24 next Month October and I have never asked a girl out. The truth is that I have been scared, literally afraid of talking to them, I do have female friends But Occasionally when it comes to asking any girl I liked out, I just go off not being able even communicate my feeling to them.

I do see teenagers of 16 and 17 years claiming to be in a relationship and I wonder how is that possible.

This is irritating because I hang of with guys and we all try to boost of being smart and sharp guys but deep down I know that I'm just blabbing cause when the opportunity comes I just find a way to avoid it.

I'm i a simp or do everyone goes through the same thing and I might overcome it later please let me know cause it really embarrassing to know a problem and still act like everything is okay.
Go straight to the one you like and say this : I WAN F**K YOU.
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by drealcivilceno(m): 7:21pm On Sep 10, 2020
bjprodint:
pls study hard,clean up,make money,they will ask u out




am not responsible for what i just typed,my fingers are!


modified
wow,another ftc on front page

i want to dedicate this great achievement to my late mum,i promised to make her proud,and am doing it.

i dedicate this to my c.r.k teacher in secondary school,aunty vicky thanks for making me believe in myself.

my jealous neighbours ,its unfortunate that you cant see this achievement but hey,we go party with enough cabin biscuit this weekend.

thank you nairaland for making me happy today because am really down.

SCAMU!
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by lukency(m): 7:36pm On Sep 10, 2020
go and wash your head in a flowing river.
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by Drizzy5001(m): 7:46pm On Sep 10, 2020
There is nothing difficult in it
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by Minemrys: 7:47pm On Sep 10, 2020
Jfix:
Please nairalanders
I'm 23, turning 24 next Month October and I have never asked a girl out. The truth is that I have been scared, literally afraid of talking to them, I do have female friends But Occasionally when it comes to asking any girl I liked out, I just go off not being able even communicate my feeling to them.

I do see teenagers of 16 and 17 years claiming to be in a relationship and I wonder how is that possible.

This is irritating because I hang of with guys and we all try to boost of being smart and sharp guys but deep down I know that I'm just blabbing cause when the opportunity comes I just find a way to avoid it.

I'm i a simp or do everyone goes through the same thing and I might overcome it later please let me know cause it really embarrassing to know a problem and still act like everything is okay.
you are okay, bro. N0thing do you. You d0n't force things like this. U aren't ready. When u are, you'd make it work. U are just t0o overwhelmed. Keep calm, slow down, breathe. Have a nice chat with a girl you have chemistry with, and ask to do s0mething fun together. During the course of it, talk to her about relati0nships and if she'll be okay to being in one with you. She'd play mind games or reject u. It's n0t the end of the world. People die of cancer, hunger, poverty or s0me other ailments everyday, bro, s0me girl rejecting or u being afraid of s0me girl is n0t a problem to worry over. It's never easy talking to girls if u put it in mind they are s0mething extra ordinary or s0mething to impress. The worst that can happen is u embarassing yourself, she'd laugh at u or gossip u. But she'd appreciate u tried. D0n't be ashamed of urxelf if u embarass urself in fr0nt of her. Make fun of yourself and walk away. Again, people die of things so imp0rtant everyday, d0n't worry urxelf over girls. 23 going to 24 without a girl, is n0thing to be ashamed of. U are just a late bl0omer. N0thing wr0ng with that. Ur time would c0me.

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Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by kennethfranc(m): 7:56pm On Sep 10, 2020
Clears throat hmhmhmm
Oga personally I understand how u feel esp amongst ur fellow guys while gisting u go just talk join for the ministry to continue moving.
Am 19 I just broke that chain in August this year. Mine was after church I bought new cloth ooo so the morale was very high so after church I just said in Igbo 'NNE X up' at that point people where still pumping out of the church ooo
So she replied am cool
Me: which side do u stay?
She: a street
Me: wow mine nah the next ooo
She:but I don't know the place neither do I know the name
Me: one of this days u will know nah
At this point nepa took light so I requested for number (when I don't have my phone with me) she agreed then I form say I no know say I no carry phone and gave her mine
And she called b4 I reached home
Nah so e take start.. Now e be like say nah dem dey rush us.....

Few tips:
1. Accept yourself the way you are if not, try and upgrade
2. Practice with those ur close female friends (that day the girl see was shy of looking at me face to face

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Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by Ryocaj(m): 8:30pm On Sep 10, 2020
U should be concentrating on building a career path at that age.. not worried abt b*tches..
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by Myer(m): 8:32pm On Sep 10, 2020
Jfix:
Please nairalanders
I'm 23, turning 24 next Month October and I have never asked a girl out. The truth is that I have been scared, literally afraid of talking to them, I do have female friends But Occasionally when it comes to asking any girl I liked out, I just go off not being able even communicate my feeling to them.

I do see teenagers of 16 and 17 years claiming to be in a relationship and I wonder how is that possible.

This is irritating because I hang of with guys and we all try to boost of being smart and sharp guys but deep down I know that I'm just blabbing cause when the opportunity comes I just find a way to avoid it.

I'm i a simp or do everyone goes through the same thing and I might overcome it later please let me know cause it really embarrassing to know a problem and still act like everything is okay.

Just do it like Nike.
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by emapraiz(m): 8:52pm On Sep 10, 2020
GindoX:


Ema will you keep quiet! You virgin? Mbanu... grin


Yes sir
I'm still a virgin
E shock u abi
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by Dreadlock69(m): 8:56pm On Sep 10, 2020
Watch : After
Vampire diaries (Damon part)
Don't watch Titanic or Romeo and Juliet nah scam
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by Oluwauchebest(m): 9:27pm On Sep 10, 2020
Just make money Bro and your money will ask him out
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by gregyboy(m): 9:28pm On Sep 10, 2020
Jfix:
Please nairalanders
I'm 23, turning 24 next Month October and I have never asked a girl out. The truth is that I have been scared, literally afraid of talking to them, I do have female friends But Occasionally when it comes to asking any girl I liked out, I just go off not being able even communicate my feeling to them.

I do see teenagers of 16 and 17 years claiming to be in a relationship and I wonder how is that possible.

This is irritating because I hang of with guys and we all try to boost of being smart and sharp guys but deep down I know that I'm just blabbing cause when the opportunity comes I just find a way to avoid it.

I'm i a simp or do everyone goes through the same thing and I might overcome it later please let me know cause it really embarrassing to know a problem and still act like everything is okay.


See my style.... Most times i meet a lady i really dont have anything to say so i just walk up to her and say anything mostly rubbish that has no meaning, the lady self go smile.... Bcus she understands, then you go ask her why is she smiling, she go say nothing, discussion don start
Wala


Or when they are in pairs then you have to comfort yourself plan your game, proper try to signal d lady u wanna go and meet with eye contact..... While preparing what to say, just try to listen to their discussion, from there you can enter...

The main necessity in all this is liver, boldness just have little youre good to go....

Rejection is inevitable even to the alpha males

The rejection wen i don get for mylife for this women folk suppose make me gay... For life but even d best of bests still get rejected
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by Nobody: 9:31pm On Sep 10, 2020
bjprodint:
pls study hard,clean up,make money,they will ask u out




am not responsible for what i just typed,my fingers are!


modified
wow,another ftc on front page

i want to dedicate this great achievement to my late mum,i promised to make her proud,and am doing it.

i dedicate this to my c.r.k teacher in secondary school,aunty vicky thanks for making me believe in myself.

my jealous neighbours ,its unfortunate that you cant see this achievement but hey,we go party with enough cabin biscuit this weekend.

thank you nairaland for making me happy today because am really down.
We welcome u
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by Nobody: 9:33pm On Sep 10, 2020
gregyboy:



See my style.... Most times i meet a lady i really dont have anything to say so i just walk up to her and say anything mostly rubbish that has no meaning, the lady self go smile.... Bcus she understands, then you go ask her why is she smiling, she go say nothing, discussion don start
Wala


Or when they are in pairs then you have to comfort yourself plan your game, proper try to signal d lady u wanna go and meet with eye contact..... While preparing what to say, just try to listen to their discussion, from there you can enter...

The main necessity in all this is liver, boldness just have little youre good to go....

Rejection is inevitable even to the alpha males

The rejection wen i don get for mylife for this women folk suppose make me gay... For life but even d best of bests still get rejected
Do you ask them out ni or why would they reject u
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by JIMMY1393: 9:54pm On Sep 10, 2020
gunners160:
That is why whites will be whites and black will be blacks. A young man who is old enough to date came online to share his problems and how he can be helped and the so called adults (agbaya) all what they have to say is derogatory words that will even kill the little self esteem this guy has. Do you knw what it means to be cyber bullied and not having courage to go for some one u really liked?
Shmm, even most of them here typing rubbish can't stand up to a bae

I tell you oh...I visit a lot of foreign posts/forum too and Everytime they ask for help you'll always see people being supportive in the comments and actually giving reasonable advice
..but here on nairaland if it's not the redpill association it's the "make money 1st" crew or the "love is fake" gang or the "focus on your studies" group....Nigerians in general are just not helpful...abuse and complaining is all they know

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Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by gregyboy(m): 9:57pm On Sep 10, 2020
slimkhalifa:

Do you ask them out ni or why would they reject u


Wen you ask a lady out and then you get rejected
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by Nobody: 10:17pm On Sep 10, 2020
gregyboy:



Wen you ask a lady out and then you get rejected
Lol.cool
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by Chrisnrld: 10:22pm On Sep 10, 2020
afraid of asking a lady out or u wan Bleep.
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by themaestro08(m): 10:25pm On Sep 10, 2020
melodyogonna:

The difference between r/sex and r/socialskills on Reddit and this romance section on Nairaland be like trekking to heaven from Nigeria grin grin


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Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by Palehair: 10:25pm On Sep 10, 2020
gregyboy:



See my style.... Most times i meet a lady i really dont have anything to say so i just walk up to her and say anything mostly rubbish that has no meaning, the lady self go smile.... Bcus she understands, then you go ask her why is she smiling, she go say nothing, discussion don start
Wala


Or when they are in pairs then you have to comfort yourself plan your game, proper try to signal d lady u wanna go and meet with eye contact..... While preparing what to say, just try to listen to their discussion, from there you can enter...

The main necessity in all this is liver, boldness just have little youre good to go....

Rejection is inevitable even to the alpha males

The rejection wen i don get for mylife for this women folk suppose make me gay... For life but even d best of bests still get rejected
Lol... Don't get it twisted. Gays are the worst. They just don't reject you, they add insults to the injury. You think women rejects more, gays rejects the most
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by Vysend: 10:47pm On Sep 10, 2020
Lol
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by Tonytonero1: 11:16pm On Sep 10, 2020
Chai. See my 'same sake'. I don't even know if mine is fear or something else
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by davidinchrist(m): 11:28pm On Sep 10, 2020
Jfix:
Please nairalanders
I'm 23, turning 24 next Month October and I have never asked a girl out. The truth is that I have been scared, literally afraid of talking to them, I do have female friends But Occasionally when it comes to asking any girl I liked out, I just go off not being able even communicate my feeling to them.

I do see teenagers of 16 and 17 years claiming to be in a relationship and I wonder how is that possible.

This is irritating because I hang of with guys and we all try to boost of being smart and sharp guys but deep down I know that I'm just blabbing cause when the opportunity comes I just find a way to avoid it.

I'm i a simp or do everyone goes through the same thing and I might overcome it later please let me know cause it really embarrassing to know a problem and still act like everything is okay.

Friend, it's really sad to be like that if you're ready for marriage. But if not, you might as well forget it. It's a blessing in disguise; cos even many are fooled in disguise thinking bondage is great. Being too free with women will only make you feel great or powerful superficially. The thing is, it doesn't satisfy no matter how you try, and makes one a progressive slave of it. And far too many of us have been fooled by it for years.

Self control is 'strength'; not the lack of it.

Please, ignore this if it doesn't sound too nice to you.

Peace.
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by Nobody: 4:16am On Sep 11, 2020
heykims:
Don't be in a haste hurry, the time will come when it comes.
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by themaestro08(m): 7:57am On Sep 11, 2020
phreddie:
Just do it bro.

When you see a girl you fancy, walk up and say hi and follow up from there

It's perfectly normal to feel nervous at first, you just have to push past that impulse and walk up to her.

Most girls are attracted to confidence so it's not really about what you say but your body language.

Communicate confidence by subtle things, like walking up to her immediately you make eye contact, looking straight at her when you talk (with a smile o), keeping hands in pocket can work too.

Also, don't be bothered by what to say, just say whatever come to your mind.

The worst case scenario is that she will say No, and that's okay cause not every girl would want you (which is normal)

In the end you'd be happy with yourself, that you overcame your weakness regardless of the outcome.

Bro I think after saying like hello/hi, next thing is to tell why you approached her, this I think saves one the stress as ultimately it's a matter of acceptance or rejection.

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Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by denvers: 9:49am On Sep 11, 2020
A lot of fake people in nairaland, instead of advice na go and make money,
At op try and start small small, forget about rejection, that's what girls are trained to do.
Just try your luck.
Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by proclinician: 10:04am On Sep 11, 2020
At 24 I was already marking the date I will receive the payment that will make me worth 2m and how much I will be worth by the time I'm 30. May you find what you seek oo. May God bless you with many "buy for me na", " I never chop", "I need money to make my hair".

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Re: At Age 23 Still Scared Of Asking A Girl Out by UYEMDO35(m): 10:22am On Sep 11, 2020
Same here also.
Am also scared of asking a girl out.
But I have numerous on social media but when it comes to physical discussion, I always find it hard to approach a girl a for relationship.

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