lograr:
Take a very cold water and calm your nerves. Pretend like you never told her you like her. If you keep crushing on her, she will start using you. Go for another girl

Thanks bro for replying. Normally I know that is the right thing to do but I never thought I will like a girl this much. I can't get her off my mind

Otisker:

Thanks bro for replying. Normally I know that is the right thing to do but I never thought I will like a girl this much. I can't get her off my mind

Nowadays guys don't ask girls out to prevent what you are going through. They either manipulate the girl to make her want them or they start treating the girl as their gf. You need to tune down your feelings for that girl for own good. She is either not wanting to agree immediately or she is planning to take advantage of you at the long run
Its normal for girls to do the former when you ask them out but beware of girls that do the latter.

I made the mistake of wooing the girls i truly had feelings for in the past while i didn't woo nor care so much for the girls I didn't have much feelings for . Do you know the ones i didn't woo were much easier for me to get than the ones i wooed and cared so much for. I will advise you to stop telling a girl you like/love them. They know when you do.

Like i said before just let her be for the now and go for other girls. it will speed up her reaction if she start seeing you with other girls.

What i normally do is after getting a girl contact, chat/call her for sometime , go out with then invite her over. Or no outing before inviting her over. "You know the rest"
They will the one to start addressing me as their guy. Go back to first page and read everything. Its worth it.

lograr:

Nowadays guys don't ask girls out to prevent what you are going through. They either manipulate the girl to make her want them or they start treating the girl as their gf. You need to tune down your feelings for that girl for own good. She is either not wanting to agree immediately or she is planning to take advantage of you at the long run
Its normal for girls to do the former when you ask them out but beware of girls that do the latter.

I made the mistake of wooing the girls i truly had feelings for in the past while i didn't woo nor care so much for the girls I didn't have much feelings for . Do you know the ones i didn't woo were much easier for me to get than the ones i wooed and cared so much for. I will advise you to stop telling a girl you like/love them. They know when you do.

Like i said before just let her be for the now and go for other girls. it will speed up her reaction if she start seeing you with other girls.

What i normally do is after getting a girl contact, chat/call her for sometime , go out with then invite her over. Or no outing before inviting her over. "You know the rest"
They will the one to start addressing me as their guy. Go back to first page and read everything. Its worth it.

thanks

I learnt alot. I need to up my game.

Holumhidey:
Pls there is this girl i like, i wanna go meet her and have a conversation with her but she's so pretty and looks like those girls that can fool or look down on a guy without much effort. We are going to see again on tuesday and i wanna talk to her; i dont know where to start from or what to say

it is not the boisterous waters around the ship that sinks it, rather it is the one that gets in.

What you are afraid of is actually afraid of you.

Fear is false evidence appearing real and thanks to its mind maiming grip, the graveyard holds the title of the richest place on earth.

If I may burst your bubbles, the very pretty ones are the most lonely ones. They could make do with a lil fun away from the usual, everyday boring norms of average guys.

However, from your write-up, I can tell that you lack self confidence. You should work on that first. Because a confident soul rarely gets stunned by beauty, he knows that HE is the most beaYOUtiful and the best thing to happen to anyone he meets.

Visit our blog(to work on your confidence) and read this thread to have a bird's eye view on what to say and how to say it to magnitize attention.


NB: a guy like me is ignoring her calls and messages and treating her like trash somewhere.
Don't get it twisted.

Thazard:


Actually I have read from page 1-9 and Harddon said telling a girl you love her would get you in friend zone and now he's saying we should make fun of them before professing road side love.

I'm really confused!

You got it wrong bro.

The road side talk was a sarcastic one.

it means you should NEVER try that. Reading the thread, ofcourse , would put that into perspective as you did descover.

biko... who can help me wit the link to the blog Hardon talked abut..

olufemidavid17:
biko... who can help me wit the link to the blog Hardon talked abut..

Check his signature

HARDDON:


You got it wrong bro.

The road side talk was a sarcastic one.

it means you should NEVER try that. Reading the thread, ofcourse , would put that into perspective as you did descover.

boss harddon, i have one gal. I really liked so much. We were talking normal, she is an introvert and but anytime we meet, we talk for long and we shared each other secrets.
We could spend a day without seeing each other, gisting and laughing but when i told her my feelings dat i liked her, she told she will think about it, after that day, she changed. She started ignoring me and answering direct one word answer.
She later bought a phone and i asked for her number but she insisted by asking for my number dat she will call me. That day like since 3 months ago, she havent called my number.
But after dat.day, i stumbled on this your thread and i discovered that i was playing the game the wrong way( Mr nice guy) so i grew sense and i took your sense pills.
But i have also started ignoring her and she noticing it.
Bro should i still continue advancing myself to her or i should move on? And it has 3 months, we havent talked to each other.

A message for you today.


https://www.nairaland.com/2705292/seeing-demons-angels-fallen-angels

Telegram234:

boss harddon, i have one gal. I really liked so much. We were talking normal, she is an introvert and but anytime we meet, we talk for long and we shared each other secrets.
We could spend a day without seeing each other, gisting and laughing but when i told her my feelings dat i liked her, she told she will think about it, after that day, she changed. She started ignoring me and answering direct one word answer.
She later bought a phone and i asked for her number but she insisted by asking for my number dat she will call me. That day like since 3 months ago, she havent called my number.
But after dat.day, i stumbled on this your thread and i discovered that i was playing the game the wrong way( Mr nice guy) so i grew sense and i took your sense pills.
But i have also started ignoring her and she noticing it.
Bro should i still continue advancing myself to her or i should move on? And it has 3 months, we havent talked to each other.

Take it up a notch.

LeiderJa:


Take it up a notch. Go after other girls and you'll see this one is not all that special.


When you see her, tease her without mercy. Let her laugh and when she's enjoying you the most, you cut and bounce.

Next, you should have fun with other girls and rub it in her face. You should know that rolling with girls finer and more finessed than her will give you higher social proof and she'll be more attracted to you.

thanks gee. I think u r right, i could also make flirty calls near her sef.
Abi boss Harddon, what do u think?

Boss HARDDON I think there sgould be an article on the Art of Deep Diving as I feel this is where you get your web wrapped around them ladies hearts.

They would go on and on talking about their passion and that which troubles them emotionally and ending up thinking you've known too much about them than anyone else, thus increasing the golden chain(The underlining purpose of this is to build stronger bond). This doesn't does apply to just relationships, it also applies to longterm friendship y'all gotta be vulnerable and share experiences.

If anyone has articles or suggestions that can help, kindly quote this post

Good day guys.
I'm 22 years old, i'm tall and good looking. I have a strong Christian background and it has hindered my rapport with the opposite sex. Ladies have asked me out a few times in the past, but I declined, stating I was not ready to be in a relationship.

There is this girl in my office where I work that was all over me, she's 18 years old and yet to be admitted into the university. To be honest, I liked her, but I suppressed my feelings for her. I occasionally tell her that she's more like a younger sister to me. We got close and I became fond of her, she confided in me with all her secrets and tell me about guys toasting her. I started entertaining thoughts of asking her out, until one day, she was going through my phone and saw a picture my friend who is short, dark and handsome, she asked for his number and requested I sent him her pictures, they exchanged numbers and started chatting. He comes to visit her in the office at times and me being a nice guy usually give them some space to interact. I started losing interest in her as a result, but she kept assuring me that she takes him just as a friend. She later asked me out on WhatsApp, but I declined, owing to the fact that she still retains close friendship with my friend. After that, She started getting more closer to my friend, changed her phone's password cos she told me the previous one. She started making flirty calls and calling other guys and my guy honey, baby, I love you in my presence. She started ignoring my chats and calls. Each time my friend comes visiting, she laughs as loud as possible when they are discussing. Our vibes died off, but I'm the one suffering it as I frequently get jealous and heartbroken each time I see her making calls and communicating with guys on longer hours, especially with my friend.
I have tried to patch things up with her, but she keeps getting me jealous and hurt. This said girl is very beautiful, a virgin who has been in only one relationship and a devoted Christian. I have tried to forget her and move on, but I just can't. I keep feeling depressed and hurt whenever I see her and my friend online simultaneously. Please how can I move on? Do I still stand a chance with her? was I wrong to turn her down? Please I need your advice.

anonymous7433:
Good day guys.
I'm 22 years old, i'm tall and good looking. I have a strong Christian background and it has hindered my rapport with the opposite sex. Ladies have asked me out a few times in the past, but I declined, stating I was not ready to be in a relationship.

There is this girl in my office where I work that was all over me, she's 18 years old and yet to be admitted into the university. To be honest, I liked her, but I suppressed my feelings for her. I occasionally tell her that she's more like a younger sister to me. We got close and I became fond of her, she confided in me with all her secrets and tell me about guys toasting her. I started entertaining thoughts of asking her out, until one day, she was going through my phone and saw a picture my friend who is short, dark and handsome, she asked for his number and requested I sent him her pictures, they exchanged numbers and started chatting. He comes to visit her in the office at times and me being a nice guy usually give them some space to interact. I started losing interest in her as a result, but she kept assuring me that she takes him just as a friend. She later asked me out on WhatsApp, but I declined, owing to the fact that she still retains close friendship with my friend. After that, She started getting more closer to my friend, changed her phone's password cos she told me the previous one. She started making flirty calls and calling other guys and my guy honey, baby, I love you in my presence. She started ignoring my chats and calls. Each time my friend comes visiting, she laughs as loud as possible when they are discussing. Our vibes died off, but I'm the one suffering it as I frequently get jealous and heartbroken each time I see her making calls and communicating with guys on longer hours, especially with my friend.
I have tried to patch things up with her, but she keeps getting me jealous and hurt. This said girl is very beautiful, a virgin who has been in only one relationship and a devoted Christian. I have tried to forget her and move on, but I just can't. I keep feeling depressed and hurt whenever I see her and my friend online simultaneously. Please how can I move on? Do I still stand a chance with her? was I wrong to turn her down? Please I need your advice.

She asked u and u said u don't want to date her....

Bro forget her or if u like her go for her now that the relationship is not far

Uzomacharles:


She asked u and u said u don't want to date her....

Bro forget her or if u like her go for her now that the relationship is not far

I still love her, but I have lost the confidence to talk to her because it looks as if she send-less now. As I'm typing this now, she's just laughing uncontrollably with my guy at the office. I believe our rapport has been broken.

anonymous7433:

I still love her, but I have lost the confidence to talk to her because it looks as if she send-less now. As I'm typing this now, she's just laughing uncontrollably with my guy at the office. I believe our rapport has been broken.

Just forget her cos she don lose interest I think or maybe she has plan with your friend to make u feel for her...

Start getting close to her if u need her...

Read this thread from beginning

Uzomacharles:


Just forget her cos she don lose interest I think or maybe she has plan with your friend to make u feel for her...

Start getting close to her if u need her...

Read this thread from beginning

I would have preferred to move on, but it's hard cos I see her everyday at work.. I just hope to move on with time..
Thanks for your advice.

anonymous7433:

I would have preferred to move on, but it's hard cos I see her everyday at work.. I just hope to move on with time..
Thanks for your advice.

If I tell u my story eeeh...

Thank God for stanliwise...

Bro
Girls Plenty

Uzomacharles:


If I tell u my story eeeh...

Thank God for stanliwise...

Bro
Girls Plenty

Bro, u too much, I gat to work on my game, and start attracting the girls of my choice..
for the time being, I go try to move on from this babe quickly....

anonymous7433:

Bro, u too much, I gat to work on my game, and start attracting the girls of my choice..
for the time being, I go try to move on from this babe quickly....

sure bro

anonymous7433:
Good day guys.
I'm 22 years old, i'm tall and good looking. I have a strong Christian background and it has hindered my rapport with the opposite sex. Ladies have asked me out a few times in the past, but I declined, stating I was not ready to be in a relationship.

There is this girl in my office where I work that was all over me, she's 18 years old and yet to be admitted into the university. To be honest, I liked her, but I suppressed my feelings for her. I occasionally tell her that she's more like a younger sister to me. We got close and I became fond of her, she confided in me with all her secrets and tell me about guys toasting her. I started entertaining thoughts of asking her out, until one day, she was going through my phone and saw a picture my friend who is short, dark and handsome, she asked for his number and requested I sent him her pictures, they exchanged numbers and started chatting. He comes to visit her in the office at times and me being a nice guy usually give them some space to interact. I started losing interest in her as a result, but she kept assuring me that she takes him just as a friend. She later asked me out on WhatsApp, but I declined, owing to the fact that she still retains close friendship with my friend. After that, She started getting more closer to my friend, changed her phone's password cos she told me the previous one. She started making flirty calls and calling other guys and my guy honey, baby, I love you in my presence. She started ignoring my chats and calls. Each time my friend comes visiting, she laughs as loud as possible when they are discussing. Our vibes died off, but I'm the one suffering it as I frequently get jealous and heartbroken each time I see her making calls and communicating with guys on longer hours, especially with my friend.
I have tried to patch things up with her, but she keeps getting me jealous and hurt. This said girl is very beautiful, a virgin who has been in only one relationship and a devoted Christian. I have tried to forget her and move on, but I just can't. I keep feeling depressed and hurt whenever I see her and my friend online simultaneously. Please how can I move on? Do I still stand a chance with her? was I wrong to turn her down? Please I need your advice.

We never know of how precious things are until we loose them. You have a chance and you blew it. It seem you don’t understand your feelings anymore and you don’t know when someone is amazing for you and when someone is not.

No time for long story. You need to find distance, if you keep communicating with her and thinking of her then this will only make situations worse. Off sight off mind. I actually don’t know if you like this girl from the way things has happened but how you can know is to heal first then you speak well

Moreso stop the apology already, apology is a thing you do few times and then you give space for people to heal. If you think this girl will come back to you then fate is your best chance. Flow with the time, time needs patience. While you wait take time out to explore other things and read book to better yourself.

Right now start learning how to live with the wobbly feeling, it is part of being a man, don’t let this guilt make other beautiful soul pass you by. Don’t let us shrink your social life and fun moment.

The best way to equal what has happened to you is to master the feelings and learn how to live with it. And eventually becoming greater than it.

stanliwise:

We never know of how precious things are until we loose them. You have a chance and you blew it. It seem you don’t understand your feelings anymore and you don’t know when someone is amazing for you and when someone is not.

No time for long story. You need to find distance, if you keep communicating with her and thinking of her then this will only make situations worse. Off sight off mind. I actually don’t know if you like this girl from the way things has happened but how you can know is to heal first then you speak well

Moreso stop the apology already, apology is a thing you do few times and then you give space for people to heal. If you think this girl will come back to you then fate is your best chance. Flow with the time, time needs patience. While you wait take time out to explore other things and read book to better yourself.

Right now start learning how to live with the wobbly feeling, it is part of being a man, don’t let this guilt make other beautiful soul pass you by. Don’t let us shrink your social life and fun moment.

The best way to equal what has happened to you is to master the feelings and learn how to live with it. And eventually becoming greater than it.

You are so full of wisdom sir. This lovely piece you wrote has lifted my mood. Thanks a bunch sir, I really do appreciate.

anonymous7433:

I still love her, but I have lost the confidence to talk to her because it looks as if she send-less now. As I'm typing this now, she's just laughing uncontrollably with my guy at the office. I believe our rapport has been broken.

.....
You want to get her ? Get another girl
and arrange a double date with your male friend
This is where Jealousy does all the work

anonymous7433:

You are so full of wisdom sir. This lovely piece you wrote has lifted my mood. Thanks a bunch sir, I really do appreciate.

you are welcome.
Sorry to ask, but how well do you know this girl?

Remmedy:

.....
You want to get her ? Get another girl
and arrange a double date with your male friend
This is where Jealousy does all the work

Nice suggestion... Thanks bro.

stanliwise:
you are welcome.
Sorry to ask, but how well do you know this girl?

I only got to know her in the office oh! I've not been to her house to know how she behaves at home. From what she has told me and what I have seen, she seem churchy, she's even a deeper life member. She's hyper extrovert, and from my observations, she likes boys a lot, especially cute ones.

anonymous7433:

I only got to know her in the office oh! I've not been to her house to know how she behaves at home. From what she has told me and what I have seen, she seem churchy, she's even a deeper life member. She's hyper extrovert, and from my observations, she likes boys a lot, especially cute ones.

Before I go on, do you really like this girl? Like do you actually want anything romantic with her? Or you just crave for attention? Or you are in for FWB?
This questions are fundamental, if this feeling is because of loss of the spotlight then you let it go and work on yourself. If you want FWB then you were taking a wrong path.

stanliwise:

Before I go on, do you really like this girl? Like do you actually want anything romantic with her? Or you just crave for attention? Or you are in for FWB?
This questions are fundamental, if this feeling is because of loss of the spotlight then you let it go and work on yourself. If you want FWB then you were taking a wrong path.

I really do like her. But I'm prepared to move on if our rapport can't be salvaged.

anonymous7433:
I really do like her. But I'm prepared to move on if our rapport can't be salvaged.

Then fate is your best chance. For the main time you need space. The space will help clear your thought. Moreso avoid doing date to get her jealous. Master the feeling until you get so comfortable with it. It will help you in your other or next heartbreak .
Cold mind is part of the game. Ladies are terrified when they can’t shake your emotions easily.
You only date other girls When you find them attractive

stanliwise:
Then fate is your best chance. For the main time you need space. The space will help clear your thought. Moreso avoid doing date to get her jealous. Master the feeling until you get so comfortable with it. It will help you in your other or next heartbreak .
Cold mind is part of the game. Ladies are terrified when they can’t shake your emotions easily.
You only date other girls When you find them attractive

Thanks so much sir, this will go a long way...........

Hi guys this is my first time of posting here,I have been following this thread for a very long time now and I really need you guys advice now....I am 25 years now and I am currently dating this girl who is 19 but she is very matured...so we started dating and at some point I tried to sex her and she said no that we can only romance that no sex so I was curious and I asked her if she was a virgin she told me she is not sure which I really didn’t believe so we had a disagreement one day I had to pressure She told me she is not a virgin and came up with this story that while she was playing some where at the age of 5 that she just saw blood coming out of her private part so since then she is not really sure if she is a virgin....so I was like no problem kept it going and later I heard it from someone that she is still with her ex and I asked her one day that has her ex ever sex her she said no that they just kissed and nothing more...this a girl I spend for and try to give her the little I could give her when she needs help...this night I had to tell her I am not doing any Romance anymore because it just like me torturing my self and I will never touch her anymore and she said no problem and this a girl I am planning to give money for her birthday coming next month....I am thinking of breaking up with her after her birthday and never have anything to do with her....I am just having feeling the ex might be fucking her very well forming saint for me.....you guys should just advise me because I can’t continue with this no sex.....no bashing please