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Muftimenk:
this your last speech weak me ooo
Lol naso guyz go dey mumuing ur sister too

This life ehn......

mariahAngel:
Hahahahahahahahahahahaha

Truthspoon1:
you sound emotionally broken.

Skmoda360:
she is married now but she is looking for my trouble now by contacting me ...she wanna open old wound....

I blocked her straight up....

mariahAngel:
Make una two dey deceive unaself una hear?

Carchoice:
Nothing can be done bro.

She took your senses with her. You can’t forget about her. I’m sorry.

Bernice4ozodo:
or she misses the D ....joking

akinloye19995:
Don't worry, you will. I can't imagine you pining over her lard, saggy boobs 40 decades from now. Like the memoir says 'the beauty those are not yet born.'

Alexgman1:
Its up to two years since i broke up with my ex (ALEX MARVEY). But uptil now I haven't gotten over her. She has moved on & deeply in love with someone new who she profess to be engaged to.
She has blocked me on every social media platforms but yet i still find a way to stalk her. Following her updates & uploads using a different and fake id.

Whenever we cross paths on the road she ignores me like we never knew before.
Despite the fact that it was her that messed up and did all the lies & cheating, yet i still forgave her for everything she did.

How can i move on and let go of her totally & for good because anytime i and my new girl are eating, walking, bathing & romancing i do imagine my ex.

Omowunmikay:
I had this same feeling for years after I and my Ex broke up..but then we are back together, just pray for healing,and then its possible she feels the same way too whether she is engaged or not..really,what will be will be

Omowunmikay:
I had this same feeling for years after I and my Ex broke up..but then we are back together, just pray for healing,and then its possible she feels the same way too whether she is engaged or not..really,what will be will be

Damalex4luv:
Same thing happened to me like 3 months ago and up till now I haven't gotten over her. I so much love the girl. But my observation about girls is you should never tell them the truth. All they want is lies and immediately you start telling them the truth they'll start to look elsewhere. After this girl broke up with me I have met several other girls within that space of 3 months but none can be compared to her. Up till now I can't still get over her

tobechi74:
Simp


When Nollywood actor Pet Edochie fumed at the young men kneeling before a woman, he was backlashed. Pet was comparing happenings in his youthful age against  the youth in this generation. The traditional Igbo man is highly placed in the society. During traditional wedding,the woman kneels down to propose to the man.The one who kneels begs the other for a favor.A typical Igbo man hardly kneels for his fellow man talkless of a woman . He only kneels for the gods who he recognizes as more powerful than he is.

Pet is  not alone. Many men have noticed a decline in the masculinity of men. The Alpha male movement and redpill movement are attempt to correct this imbalance.When did thngs change? When did man begin to loose his ego to stoop so low to kneel before a less powerful being. Was the change sudden or gradual?

Women were seen as irrational and emotional.Men were the rational and strong willed. Men were taught to act like men They had to suppress their emotion close to their heart. Men should never cry in public.  Expression of vulnerability  is a sign of a weak man.  Men are closed minded, rigid and structured. He should not seek fun .Men. Should always be in power, strive for control, compete.They lack empathy necessary for effective communication and connection.

In early days, male children joined their fathers in the river fishing or the forest haunting. Female spent their time with the mothers cooking. Each gender know his role. You hardly see a man in the kitchen or a girl hunting. Men learnt to act like men and women learnt to act like women.Then came the industrial era. Lands meant for farming and hunting was taking over by the government to build factory. The owners of the land were jobless.To offer compensation, the men were integrated as workers in this factory. Their male children were not allowed to follow dad to work.son stays at home with the mum while Dad went to work. Father leaves home as early as eight and comes home by six. He is exhausted, he sleeps to get strength for the next day. Fathers became absent in their son’s life. The role of dad in son life began to reduce while the role of mum in son life began to rise. Mummy passes over her feminine qualities to growing son.

Then came education. Female involvement in  education at an early age especially science and  law improve her reasoning abilities (masculinity) . Female take part in competitive games like the male counterpart. This improves their aggression.These women ended up as heads of organization.They took  decision and gave instructions . These women began to have a thirst of power . Their masculine qualities were awoken.

Girls  who enjoy highly competitive games with a desire to win also increases their aggression (masculinity). We tag such women names like Tomboy. They are ladies with highly developed masculine side and poorly developed feminine side.. Such masculine girls are attracted to  the beta guys. If a man is more masculine in nature,he will be attracted to a very feminine woman who will compliment his energy. Balance men prefer neutral women.. Masculine girls at attracted to a feminine guy or sisi or beta guy . Such guys are few as society teaches guys to wear the Alpha mask. She can only find solace among her fellow feminine women. This is the origin of homosexuality- . Heterosexual are no different from homosexual as both seek balance .

Society has widened this energy balance over the years. Civilisation is bring closing the gap. Homosexual are closer to achieving balance compared to heterosexual. Yet, Homosexuals feel guilty for not complying with society expectation. . There is nothing wrong with homosexuality, for it IS what is. However, we need to bear in mind that society at this time is traumatized due to so many centurie conditioned to comply with that. DO we want to fit in? Until WHEN? We need to learn to Love who we are, while allowing others to be what they want to be. Acceptance is the way of Life.

We should understand that each individual hold masculine and feminine qualities within us. When both qualities are not well alligned, the person is out of balance. The traditional gender roles over the years has created highly masculine males on one hand and highly feminine female on the other side.  we are drawn to certain individual that help us correct these imbalance. These highly masculine males become attracted to highly feminine female.

https://tobechispeaks./2020/09/23/sexual-imbalance/

FeloniousFelon:
The sooner you realize that women are not capable of love like the way men are they better off you will be.

God did not create them like us.

They have been programmed to fall in and out of love with ease.

Their love is very superficial and the only time you really get a woman to truly love you, know that God has blessed you.

Nothing you do or say can get her back.

The more you hold on to hope of getting her back the worse you will be.

Free yourself from that woman.

Carchoice:
Nothing can be done bro.


She took your senses with her. You can’t forget about her. I’m sorry.

Alexgman1:
Its up to two years since i broke up with my ex (ALEX MARVEY). But uptil now I haven't gotten over her. She has moved on & deeply in love with someone new who she profess to be engaged to.
She has blocked me on every social media platforms but yet i still find a way to stalk her. Following her updates & uploads using a different and fake id.

Whenever we cross paths on the road she ignores me like we never knew before.
Despite the fact that it was her that messed up and did all the lies & cheating, yet i still forgave her for everything she did.

How can i move on and let go of her totally & for good because anytime i and my new girl are eating, walking, bathing & romancing i do imagine my ex.

Makanaki127:
Not emotionally broken am financially broken waytin concern me concern emotion, na money wen no day na make some kind rubbish day happen

apparentlylaw:
Get busy making money and trust me, you no go reason her matter at all ....

I no get money so right now I have fallen in love with money and I would see to it that I get money to fall in love with me back ...

Please where can I find money
Where Is my Monica ?

ikswiss:
Took out time to read the whole tread and is bitter to see how other people talk down on someone emotions.

I’m going through the same thing right now and I know how hard it hurts,most especially mentally.

I was so madly in love with her that I was gonna move to her. How do I know I was in love? Well she was all I could think of, I cut off other girls I was dealing with and while in club with the lads I was so sad that she wasn’t with me and easily irritated when other girls makes advances.


After much discussion we decided that it would be better for me to move to her due to her work, mind you we both are independent and was about getting a mortgage together. I’m Nigerian raised in Sweden while she is from Cameroon but raised in Canada both met in New York.

As the matter don rich, applied for my visa and paid 15k dollars for my visa application (student visa for masters) things got soured.

I was packing for vacation with my friends to santorini in August when she called me crying and telling me she didn’t want to do this anymore. At that moment I thought she didn’t mean it and my anxiety level elevated to the ceiling not knowing she was down serious. Finally landed to santorini called and she literally told me she made up her mind, and when I asked her why she wanted to path ways now that I made huge sacrifice for us both and all she could say is that we argued and I said mean stuffs to her which I apologize and moved passed

Honestly I have been trying to get through this and it doesn’t make sense, she told me she was happy in our relationship and no we didn’t argued all the time. But arguments was undeniably forthcoming provided that we both lived in different countries and coronavirus didn’t help as well,but she said boldly she made up her mind and I should give her some space.

Mehn that was the hardest of it especially breaking up from a distance and not able to reach her due to the pandemic �
I couldn’t stop messaging her, in fact it felt like my thought was constantly going from one moment we both shared together to another,I was thinking what could I have done better. I kept texting and we could talk for hours and at one moment I asked her if it was just the arguments and she said yeah.

So this is the thing with her, she hardly speak or talk about her she felt about something. Prior to this breakup I always asked her if something was bothering her she says no she is fine and each time we have misunderstandings we apologize, not knowing she had grudges towards me and me on the other hand was forging ahead trying to build a future with this lady.

My friends all gave me different advices towards the situation. Some said maybe she met someone over there which she said no she didn’t. While some of my friends said she got cold feet, some said distance in this pandemic is never gonna work, while some said maybe her family which I met probably told her to move on and not be with me,while some said she didn’t love me the way I did. I settled for the last cos if she loved me she would have told me how she felt and we would have worked it through.

I got so confused thinking where I did wrong or what could I have done better �

Well last last she blocked me on her snap,WhatsApp and took me off her Facebook and insta,And the reason is that I couldn’t stop messaging her.

So am bound to move to Canada sometime next year hopefully soon when the pandemic is over and hopefully I might bump into her while in Canada.

To the guy that made this post, bro am in the same shoes as you. It’s so hard for a man to fall in love but the minute we do, we make it count and give all we can. I’m still trying to get over mine and the early morning anxiety is the worst of it all. Hope you read this and understand you not alone going through this.


P.S: the pic was earlier this year when traveling to Toronto to visit her.

Shortyy:
Wow. Thank God I'm not alone. Everyone keeps saying I have a problem, that I should let go. But they don't know how hard and difficult it is. Mine blocked me everywhere too because I kept calling and messaging him. My mind has wandered so many places thinking of what I could have done to deserve this. Even when we were together, I'll always ask if there's something I'm doing wrong, or if there's any particular way he'd want me to act, he always replied "no, you are OK, you don't need to change anything" then i was baffled when he just ended things abruptly. It hurts on God. I still cry over him, I lost my job because of this, lost everything. Now I'm just trying to get back on my feet, and it's not easy at all. People think I'm overacting, but they don't know how I feel.
I'm just glad I'm not alone. We will get through it.

ikswiss:
Honestly we are the strong ones here and don’t forget that.

Love should be consistency, perseverance, communication, patience and endurance. If your significant other don’t understand this then they not the right ones for you.

I see mine as karma for real. I have dealt with girls in my lifetime and I understand now how they felt when I don’t give them the attention they deserve and needed from me. I believe this is the way the universe paid me back and I have learnt from my mistake.

Moving on is likely easy for the one who broke up than the other and most of my past entanglement was me breaking up and I know how it feels now from this experience. Keep taking everyday step by step we all will go through this stage.