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Vanzetti:
You've said so much without saying anything.
Life is more than what you think man. Decisions are being made.
If I don't feel a thing about her or don't give a Bleep. I can use the exit button.

Foolishness you may say... It is wise for one to think rationally and someone to provide rational advice.

It would only be easier for a man to have done that which you said without thinking if there id no iota of love existed in the first place.

The human mind is more wired than just being redpill... You feel anyone is a LovePeddler. You can get married tomorrow and your LovePeddler Wifey still brings a child for you to father.

Vanzetti:
OK let me understand you. My gf knows already, her dad I'm planning on telling him but I would do that very soon.
The babes ( gf and her daughter)I like her so much after spending time with them all these years.
I just want to key the man know, maybe it won't be as if he is doing me a favor.
Pregnancy or not, I could have still been with her.

I'm just trying to weigh the options in my life. I dont even know how my mom would feel about it. Already my sis is cool ( I explained to someone already).

I am thinking man. But j would certainly tell the father.

Vanzetti:
The last paragraph you quote 'I had already packed to resume work this month' clearly States I had packed my things waiting yo resume before the result showed up.

That's why I'm thinking of backing out or not.

GLYCOLYSISS:
One thing I'm very certain of, is that if you knew half of the redpill teachings ,you will definitely not be in the mess you find yourself, and should you happen to be in there,you know the right thing to do.

Vanzetti:
I would make this short as possible .I met my girlfriend when I was in my 300 level. I am her first. I met her when she was 18 years old, seeking admission. She is young and beautiful no doubt one of the reasons I'm attracted to her.

She gained admission in unilag because the school I studied in didn't offer the course she wanted. She gained admission that year I met her I had known her for about 8 months already. I was already in my 400 level as she resumed 100 level. We had asexual relationship also ( I deflowered her tho..)

She got pregnant for me when I was in my in my final year in school. It happened as she came back from school, she decided to drop at my place to spend the night. I never knew she was going to that and I was not prepared, if not I could have used protection that night.She called me after like 1 month to tell me she was pregnant. I love this girl so much.
She came to my place begging me not to deny her saying her elder sister also got pregnant for someone but was denied this made her parents mad. Her father had threatened that she must provide who was responsible. I later agreed and I followed her. The father (he is very rich' a senior oil worker) had promised to deal with me if I end up leaving his daughter after my schooling.

He had informed my parents and traveled down tho.. Arrangements were made that I would wife his daughter.
I had doubts that I was the father all those while but I couldn't voice out. On several occasions when I was on my IT in Lagos, this girl would deny me visit after work but prefers to visit me at her own time. My work was not far from yaba o, either she visits me at home or I only come at night claiming she is busy.

Even when I was in school I dont do night calls. Even decline video calls. As per guy wey I be, I sabi say bodi no be firewood cos I was also doing some outings on my own end.
I stay in Lagos too so I understand the rush in unilag especially for year 1 considering her beauty and nice body.

FFWD she gave birth to a girl tho. I just had to accept it but still had my doubts. I could not even tell my mom because she knew of our relationship and might tag me stupid. I had made it in mind after my schooling I would do a DNA test.

I saved some money after service and I could have gotten married this year. I took my daughter which I had already lived secretly to the hospital when I was sick claiming that I wanted her to accompany me. My daughter is already 4 years.
The result came out and she is not mine. I ran the test in another hospital same result. I confronted her and she was in tears, she told me that she was confused and didn't know who the father was, that I was the better option. She had a boyfriend in Unilag who was about 18 years and the sane level with her. She had sex with him before coming back and landed in my place and also had with me. She was ignorant.
Her father threatened her that she most provide the person and there us no where for her to go because I was close by. And she thought u should be the one..she wasn't sure.

The bone of contention here is I already like my daughter and my girlfriend though I'm still very bad. But i have been with her after most if the times after she had given birth. She is in her fathers house.
The father has plans already and I to start work at Mobil in Eket. Following arrangements to marry his daughter he has only two girls and doesn't want them to carry children both without fathers .
I still dont know what to do, should I cancel everything and tell the father? considering the trauma I faced as a students and inconveniences I had while in school.
Will she be a faithful person in future? Will she use it against me?
Do I get her pregnant and speed up with the marriage procedures?
I dont want to regret at the end. My mother won't like it if she knows that the girl is not mine and won't consider her as her grandchild.

Modified: I appreciate your contributions as I am beginning to analyze a lot.

Some friends here and outside has adviced me that I should make it open to the family. If I want to marry her because she left school after pregnancy then I can go ahead and get married to her as someone who gets married to someone with a child already.

She has been on my neck since... She says shee was young and naive that she loves me more. I had been with her all this while. She told me tgat we can have other children also.
I have asked her of the father, she says she doesn't know of his whereabouts anymore. That she never even knew the paternity and thought I'm the one.

My daughter on the other hand loves me so much and my mother likes her a lot.
I still love her tho.. Even tho I had my doubts.
I had already packed to resume work this month.

I'm still confused.

Vanzetti:
I have decided to make it known to the father. I still dont know what to do. Let it be that I refuse to tell them because if my selfish interest, which is not so.

Vanzetti:
Thanks so much. That's my plan. I still love her having stayed all this years.
I will let them know. I will take it as a marriage to a single mom. She claims she loves me too.
I spoke to my sister who is only aware and she told me that I have gone too far to back out.
Tomorrow I would battle on moving on and trying to patch up. The other guy or anyone can come up who didn't even face as much as I have.. If I claim to love her. I should do so.
My sister opined so above.

Vanzetti:
You've said so much without saying anything.
Life is more than what you think man. Decisions are being made.
If I don't feel a thing about her or don't give a Bleep. I can use the exit button.

Foolishness you may say... It is wise for one to think rationally and someone to provide rational advice.

It would only be easier for a man to have done that which you said without thinking if there id no iota of love existed in the first place.

The human mind is more wired than just being redpill... You feel anyone is a LovePeddler. You can get married tomorrow and your LovePeddler Wifey still brings a child for you to father.

LedRock:
Words from a simp! Go ahead and marry her, it will end in tears.

Vanzetti:
You just opened your mouth waaaa!!! Without understanding anything.

egopersonified:
Better tell your mum and dad(or uncle) all these before you tell her dad. You are behaving like someone that fell from the sky without family. How does she treat your friends and strangers? Does she easily look down at people or mock other's misfortune?For your info, love is not enough to sustain any long time relationship. Be careful not to become a boy boy to her and her father. Be very careful.

LedRock:
What is there to understand from a man that can't survive without his babymama's family, you a disgrace simp.

luscioustrish:
Let her parents and your mum know the truth with the evidence you already have.
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Let's see if her dad will still follow through with the plan, this is marriage and not a relationship...be wise, place all your cards on the table and let no one bully you ontop audio promises.

GLYCOLYSISS:
One thing I'm very certain of, is that if you knew half of the redpill teachings ,you will definitely not be in the mess you find yourself, and should you happen to be in there,you know the right thing to do.

LedRock:
What is there to understand from a man that can't survive without his babymama's family, you a disgrace simp.

Vanzcharles:
O men you dey f up upon all your red pills you no sharp.
U wan make this guy leave everything e dn invest for since how many years. All embarrassment ni..
If he walks out, he is going to lose because he is already losing. The babe stands nothing to lose. They are million of guys ready to grab such opportunity.

You dey talk the fada of the babe, nobody dey drag am.. Make the guy jejely go wife am up. Born pikin if the paoa wan come later carry her e dey free...
Shuuu!!!! To waka e think say e easy. Assuming day the babe na poor omo... Make she disembark. He no go train but money dey.
I dn talk am most niggarz dey wife up old women because of moni. If e slip dey for redpill hardguy,

E go lose like pharaoh. No guaranteed future out there bro. He gars smart up for the marriage. They gada wealth come im name. Na oil worker he go be.. Excess bar go fall in, free accomo, wife dey get excess, just get your own children thru am.

GLYCOLYSISS:
Good night bro and have a wonderful day!

flyingpig:
He's right. When that father comes for his child, he will take all the claims. And when your father in law dare finds out you were not the real father yet enjoyed all the benefits and worse off, knew before you got the job, he's gonna hate you.

I don't know why people like to get themselves into complicated things instead of just walking away.

Goodluck to you. Don't say you were not warned to walk away.

Freelane33:
Meh , this is two way street , double lanes not freelane . If this happen to me as a person , this is what I’m gonna do ... I’ll still act normal and do as I Dey do before ,I won’t change nothing nor expose her . I’ll get married to her and take the job at mobil Eket but “I’ll never mistakenly impregnate her “ I’ll let her know that I want our first born to be around 8-9 before having another baby , so that I can have enough time to save some money and make a brilliant move (greener pasture )that will put her one leg alive and one leg in grave . That’s just how to payback people who do you things that hurt .she is a wicked fellow and she deserve long term punishment ...

Freelane33:
Meh , this is two way street , double lanes not freelane . If this happen to me as a person , this is what I’m gonna do ... I’ll still act normal and do as I Dey do before ,I won’t change nothing nor expose her . I’ll get married to her and take the job at mobil Eket but “I’ll never mistakenly impregnate her “ I’ll let her know that I want our first born to be around 8-9 before having another baby , so that I can have enough time to save some money and make a brilliant move (greener pasture )that will put her one leg alive and one leg in grave . That’s just how to payback people who do you things that hurt .she is a wicked fellow and she deserve long term punishment ...

Vanzetti:
I would make this short as possible .I met my girlfriend when I was in my 300 level. I am her first. I met her when she was 18 years old, seeking admission. She is young and beautiful no doubt one of the reasons I'm attracted to her.

She gained admission in unilag because the school I studied in didn't offer the course she wanted. She gained admission that year I met her I had known her for about 8 months already. I was already in my 400 level as she resumed 100 level. We had asexual relationship also ( I deflowered her tho..)

She got pregnant for me when I was in my in my final year in school. It happened as she came back from school, she decided to drop at my place to spend the night. I never knew she was going to that and I was not prepared, if not I could have used protection that night.She called me after like 1 month to tell me she was pregnant. I love this girl so much.
She came to my place begging me not to deny her saying her elder sister also got pregnant for someone but was denied this made her parents mad. Her father had threatened that she must provide who was responsible. I later agreed and I followed her. The father (he is very rich' a senior oil worker) had promised to deal with me if I end up leaving his daughter after my schooling.

He had informed my parents and traveled down tho.. Arrangements were made that I would wife his daughter.
I had doubts that I was the father all those while but I couldn't voice out. On several occasions when I was on my IT in Lagos, this girl would deny me visit after work but prefers to visit me at her own time. My work was not far from yaba o, either she visits me at home or I only come at night claiming she is busy.

Even when I was in school I dont do night calls. Even decline video calls. As per guy wey I be, I sabi say bodi no be firewood cos I was also doing some outings on my own end.
I stay in Lagos too so I understand the rush in unilag especially for year 1 considering her beauty and nice body.

FFWD she gave birth to a girl tho. I just had to accept it but still had my doubts. I could not even tell my mom because she knew of our relationship and might tag me stupid. I had made it in mind after my schooling I would do a DNA test.

I saved some money after service and I could have gotten married this year. I took my daughter which I had already lived secretly to the hospital when I was sick claiming that I wanted her to accompany me. My daughter is already 4 years.
The result came out and she is not mine. I ran the test in another hospital same result. I confronted her and she was in tears, she told me that she was confused and didn't know who the father was, that I was the better option. She had a boyfriend in Unilag who was about 18 years and the sane level with her. She had sex with him before coming back and landed in my place and also had with me. She was ignorant.
Her father threatened her that she most provide the person and there us no where for her to go because I was close by. And she thought u should be the one..she wasn't sure.

The bone of contention here is I already like my daughter and my girlfriend though I'm still very bad. But i have been with her after most if the times after she had given birth. She is in her fathers house.
The father has plans already and I to start work at Mobil in Eket. Following arrangements to marry his daughter he has only two girls and doesn't want them to carry children both without fathers .
I still dont know what to do, should I cancel everything and tell the father? considering the trauma I faced as a students and inconveniences I had while in school.
Will she be a faithful person in future? Will she use it against me?
Do I get her pregnant and speed up with the marriage procedures?
I dont want to regret at the end. My mother won't like it if she knows that the girl is not mine and won't consider her as her grandchild.

Modified: I appreciate your contributions as I am beginning to analyze a lot.

Some friends here and outside has adviced me that I should make it open to the family. If I want to marry her because she left school after pregnancy then I can go ahead and get married to her as someone who gets married to someone with a child already.

She has been on my neck since... She says shee was young and naive that she loves me more. I had been with her all this while. She told me tgat we can have other children also.
I have asked her of the father, she says she doesn't know of his whereabouts anymore. That she never even knew the paternity and thought I'm the one.

My daughter on the other hand loves me so much and my mother likes her a lot.
I still love her tho.. Even tho I had my doubts.
I had already packed to resume work this month.

I'm still confused.

baralatie:
I dey laf you!

you want to come out after 12 years to say to the world you are not the father!
both your family and your in laws will murder in plain sight for being selfish

Vanzetti:
That is what I am planning on doing.
As for the marriage I have not even decided about that.

After so much time dedication and emotional attachment, its not easy to use the exit button.

I am seeing better advice. I dont even know the next woman I might meet. They are better ones out there too.

This was a life I had already picked up to believe for over 4 years. The love I have had grown.
We are humans.. I need to think about.

Firstly, everyone must know about it.
Next I evaluate my self.
Thanks to your contributions and other reasonable contributions.