JIMMY1393:


He is 11yrs older

bunnae:

Babe be careful, that guy fit nor legit. I know those signs. You are still very young. Don't trap yourself.

iRepNaija1:


First, you need to stop pushing the narrative that women are some time table. They're not. The OP is 22 so calm down.

Second, although I agree that any relationship, platonic or romantic takes work, it should not be at the expense of someone's well-being, mentally and emotionally. This man the OP is describing is already insulting her and they are not in a relationship at all. Hmm. Why is that? The man has already set the bar so low and you're asking OP to settle because time's not on her side and successful relationships take work? Really?

Third, the OP is lucky because the man showed exactly who he is. She can walk away knowing she dodged a bullet and spend her time and energy elsewhere, hopefully focusing herself and accomplishing her goals in life. OP, you have not lost anything. You have gained insight early without having to invest yourself emotionally. I cannot articulate how valuable this is.

OP, if you're still around and reading these responses, please don't listen to this poster. There are so many people in life who will make you feel like you're under some deadline or have to accept any man who does the bare minimum. You are not. Do not settle. Always know your worth.

Uniquekriss:
#SMH in the voice of comedienne RealWarriPikin. My dear u can ask her to move, buh I bet you, d next could be worse and the next and the next. Remember we don't know D exact words this young man used. One thing is that you can never dodge being offended, it's natural, d earlier u realized that u have to learn to accommodate certain sh*ts the better for you cos even u aren't perfect...I still maintain my grounds that if d guy has certain qualities that makes him likeable, she could give it a try, then dialogue on his weaknesses tru effective
Communication.

yemmit90:


Must you insult others before giving out your opinion?

Well, didnt expects less from someone who cannot comprehend a simple logical sentence.

Uniquekriss:
#SMH in the voice of comedienne RealWarriPikin. My dear u can ask her to move, buh I bet you, d next could be worse and the next and the next. Remember we don't know D exact words this young man used. One thing is that you can never dodge being offended, it's natural, d earlier u realized that u have to learn to accommodate certain sh*ts the better for you cos even u aren't perfect...I still maintain my grounds that if d guy has certain qualities that makes him likeable, she could give it a try, then dialogue on his weaknesses tru effective
Communication.

ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.

I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. So few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.

Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. I replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.

For the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...

I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.

He argues over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

ladywealth:

Give a chance when he replied me with ' you are silly' because I said ' I don't care'. called me dunce and all sort of names... gets angry because I refuse to visit him. argue over little things... like you read my message, you didn't reply on time. as in really annoying... I've moved on. thanks for your advice

iCode2:
Hi bunnae.. Did your formal moniker start with 'toh'?

bunnae:

Hello dear,
No it didnt.
How are you na? It's been a while.

9jaRealist:

























Haba! Even some of the so-called “Hoodlums” took time off burning and looting to watch UEFA Champions’ League...

It’s almost as if you folks did not see, read or understand the thread title before clicking on...smh
The intolerance, abusiveness and fascism of many Nigerians reminds one that often the difference with SARS is a uniform.

Here’s simple advice, scroll past the topics that do not interest you...
There are a few hundred #EndSars posts on NL, why bother to click on this particular one?

May the unfortunate souls of those murdered rest in peace. #ENDSARS
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alexisbaby:
He is a bully and rude, because of your age he thinks he can coerce you to come to his house obviously to have sex.

A man that has genuine interest will first meet in a public place and get to know you much more and work on first earning your trust.. Don't feel pressured into going to a man's house, he will obviously demand sex. He is verbally abusive is because he is not getting his way as quickly as he wants.

Stop thinking about him and break all contacts, a verbally abusive man has no respect or regard for you.

He is only looking for sex.

Move on, you are still a very young woman.

FanOfMyself:

At the bolded, most women who are in their late thirties without a man were once considered young.
"Dem no dey telli person"

alexisbaby:

So you advice she should go to his house and have sex with him.

He will have his way with her two, three or ten times and move on.
She should stop wasting her time with him, he is a verbally abusive man and his anger is just based on the fact she has refused to go to his house, please are you saying his behaviour should be tolerated?.
I get your point, but I am just letting you know that time flies. Especially for women when it comes to settling down

He has no respect or regard for her, okay I wish you what you wish her, getting involved with a verbally abusive woman.

A better man will come her way.

Lexusgs430:



Nah nite school I go, lecturer.......

JIMMY1393:


Next time go day school professor

ladywealth:

you are mad. do you know me? you better stop talking nonsense.

Dre183:


Common go and face ur book

ladywealth:

naso so different people dey comment ooo. even you.. shey you fit face me for real life dey yearn trash. learn how to talk ok.

Ardar:
Is his name Obinna bright?
With a burnt black complexion? Did he try to kiss you on the day you guys exchanged numbers?

If he's the one pls run far away.

Olakunleyakub:
Dont date him

He will not value you cos the age difference is alitle big much that is why he always abusing u verbally cos he actually takes you as sum1 he can be controlling anyhow.

Differently,
Does that mean you did not come across a guy of 25 to 29yearz that has the same qualities in him to date or u are just greedy about his money?

ladywealth:

he apologizes after letting his anger get the best of him. he gets angry over little things

Dybala11:

The ability to apologize to your partner when you're wrong is a good quality, but getting angry always is an undesirable attribute. His choice of words too is very important, same as yours. For someone like me, you can do more damage to me through your choice of words than physical abuse I believe, so once I detect that you're a physically aggressive individual or that you have a vulgar choice of words, I'll just put an end to our friendship. I have friends that use offensive language when they're joking though, but it ends at that, cos I know it's only a joke and nothing more. But using offensive language on your partner in serious situations is not quite good.