Fitz22:



That's the brief story

How about we want the suitcase story

this babe I broke up with 4 months ago is still disturbing my life

Fountainofyouth:



Calls 11 times in a day

Always interested in what I do or where I am every minute

Comes to my workplace at lunch break so we could have lunch together everyday,

Insists on spending the whole weekend together, I never had a me time,

Says things like "it's me n you forever", "you have no choice" " there is no way you'll ever leave me" "I can kill for you" "if I'm dying, you're dying too"

A friend received threats cos of frequent talks with me

Doesn't want me to have any friends, even females, he feels they'd take me from him or introduce me to another man

He cries anytime I miss his calls

A sex freak

Sends 5 love sms to me everyday

Changed his church to mine just to always be with me, if we are sitting apart, it's either he comes sit with me or drags me to wherever he's sitting,

He drives me everywhere I want to go,

Etc.

So guys like this exist?

descarado:

He must have had a troubled past when growing up.
Look at how his family ordered him to come and he obeyed.
Sometimes, we have to look beyond what these people are doing and see if we can help them.

Codependent

Fountainofyouth:



Calls 11 times in a day

Always interested in what I do or where I am every minute

Comes to my workplace at lunch break so we could have lunch together everyday,

Insists on spending the whole weekend together, I never had a me time,

Says things like "it's me n you forever", "you have no choice" " there is no way you'll ever leave me" "I can kill for you" "if I'm dying, you're dying too"

A friend received threats cos of frequent talks with me

Doesn't want me to have any friends, even females, he feels they'd take me from him or introduce me to another man

He cries anytime I miss his calls

A sex freak

Sends 5 love sms to me everyday

Changed his church to mine just to always be with me, if we are sitting apart, it's either he comes sit with me or drags me to wherever he's sitting,

He drives me everywhere I want to go,

Etc.

Do we really have people like this? This obsession is too much, it can kill

Mine was twice with different ladies. Both threatened me with suicide! The last one was even practically displaying the suicidal, like she'd faints suddenly while we were having such discussion. Later on, I gotta know she's marine spirited. Fear grips me. I confronted her, she admitted and explained her mum told her when I enquired further that she is indeed. I had to start praying fervently for God to deliver me from her. How we separated was still mysterious to me till date. She just stop calling and seeing me. Since then, I knew God love me!

Stephen2324:
Ever tried breaking up with someone and the person refused?
How did it go?

my brother if you ask me na who i will ask

Fountainofyouth:



Calls 11 times in a day

Always interested in what I do or where I am every minute

Comes to my workplace at lunch break so we could have lunch together everyday,

Insists on spending the whole weekend together, I never had a me time,

Says things like "it's me n you forever", "you have no choice" " there is no way you'll ever leave me" "I can kill for you" "if I'm dying, you're dying too"

A friend received threats cos of frequent talks with me

Doesn't want me to have any friends, even females, he feels they'd take me from him or introduce me to another man

He cries anytime I miss his calls

A sex freak

Sends 5 love sms to me everyday

Changed his church to mine just to always be with me, if we are sitting apart, it's either he comes sit with me or drags me to wherever he's sitting,

He drives me everywhere I want to go,

Etc.

I hardly mention anyone
But I'll tell you that you loosed a genuine soul , all you had to do was prove to him that you're not promiscuous and you should never give him a benefit of doubt that's all
Finding someone to love you that much is rare
Such a man can give you the world
From a psychologist

IamGreen1:


Some people won't just take those reasons as an excuse. Just pray you don't come across a that's partner is obsess or having my mental issues. Obsession is a very bad behavior

True, such people are either not mentally stable or are possessed/obsessed.

Sawzer:


How about we want the suitcase story

What about Luggage?

pocohantas:


Thanks for being sincere, unlike some people calling it love.

You said you have been there, what changed?

Yeah, I was kinda too attached and the reason is that I was new to dating. I think romantic movies had an effect on me , I was inexperienced.

though my love was genuine but I later realised that in the real world, that is not how it is done.

I had to change after series of trials and it took me a while to understand ladies to a comfortable degree because I didn't start relationships game early enough like my peers...

The first heart break was hugely painful and drove me to hating women for long

Ishilove:

So it even has a dictionary meaning. I thought it was one of these woke, New Age slangs that seem to be springing up every day. Thanks love.


My brain zoomed out after skipping unsuccessfully and tumbling haphazardly over several words. I mean, what the fvck??

Yes it is. I was surprised when you asked sef, say this woman done carry come o. Lmao, sorry nne, the torture!!

Loveknitting:



Whaaaaat?

You read it right.

WoundedLamb:
Lol... how can the person refuse? It takes two to tango. Once one person is done, there's no relationship anymore.

is possible

biafra and Nigeria

Fountainofyouth:



Calls 11 times in a day

Always interested in what I do or where I am every minute

Comes to my workplace at lunch break so we could have lunch together everyday,

Insists on spending the whole weekend together, I never had a me time,

Says things like "it's me n you forever", "you have no choice" " there is no way you'll ever leave me" "I can kill for you" "if I'm dying, you're dying too"

A friend received threats cos of frequent talks with me

Doesn't want me to have any friends, even females, he feels they'd take me from him or introduce me to another man

He cries anytime I miss his calls

A sex freak

Sends 5 love sms to me everyday

Changed his church to mine just to always be with me, if we are sitting apart, it's either he comes sit with me or drags me to wherever he's sitting,

He drives me everywhere I want to go,

Etc.

***sighs***a hearty and big congrats... I must say

Dreyton36:


I hardly mention anyone
But I'll tell you that you loosed a genuine soul , all you had to do was prove to him that you're not promiscuous and you should never give him a benefit of doubt that's all
Finding someone to love you that much is rare
Such a man can give you the world
From a psychologist

you missed the point that he is likely violent too? Please let's not allow emotions to becloud us when making comments...

Things like these scares almost all women...

Fitz22:


What about Luggage?

Chai! Why na?

paulolee:
yeah....back then when I visited my uncle in p.h...she say she be virg n am her first BT it didn't seem so to me because she also brought up dier normal rape lamba as her first....
she was soo into me n just CNT free me even after seeing me flirting with other girls openly to make her forget me
she Do say she normally dream abt d both of us getting married and cnt wait to leave her dreams, I jus bear her madness n craze till I leave pH BT also enjoyed her nice care n swet love but it all got boring at some point bcoz she was restricting oda girls n even fighting with them bcoz of me..
d Bea was d main reason why I left pH soo early, mk obsession no go mk Bea read my chats n stab me for night... after all even my mama no fit carry me for head like dt..
and now am dead single for years...maybe na karma...

You don chook eye carry mammy water for PH!... She don marry you for dream...

Karma

Go do deliverance

Dreyton36:


I hardly mention anyone
But I'll tell you that you loosed a genuine soul , all you had to do was prove to him that you're not promiscuous and you should never give him a benefit of doubt that's all
Finding someone to love you that much is rare
Such a man can give you the world
From a psychologist

Dreyton Dreyton the Ojota guy wey dey meet rich or lemme say big ladies. Money wey you promised 30 people for Man United vs Leipzig thread yesterday, you no pay them o

Dreyton36:


I hardly mention anyone
But I'll tell you that you loosed a genuine soul , all you had to do was prove to him that you're not promiscuous and you should never give him a benefit of doubt that's all
Finding someone to love you that much is rare
Such a man can give you the world
From a psychologist

Huh!!! Did you really read my first two comments with an open mind Did you see the threats before breaking up with him? Did you see the "no breathing space" "no me time"? Do you know if I've complained several times to the extent that, one time, he almost turned violent

Eva165:
I have had such an experience....that particular day, I told babe am done, although our relationship was 2 years nd. After I quit taking her calls I was like finally am out oo. The next 3 days i received a call from one man who referred himself as a doctor. He said a lady is dieing in my hospital now, her BP is 180 high,we have been trying to save her life but no changes. Imidietly another call came in,it was her father.This man beged me to forgive her duather that she is about to die.Although I refused to listen to any of them. In one hour latta the doctor called again that if I can see her through video calls,then I will understand why they all calling me.I accepted for the video calls, Everything about her changed both her color and she became so thin.She said that she will never accept the breakup and even the doctor and her parents was beging me to forgive her if ever she did anything wrong. Finally we are getting married very soon.

Seems like you have been emotionally manipulated.

It will end in tears. I don't know whose, but I sense tears in the horizon.

pocohantas:


Yes it is. I was surprised when you asked sef, say this woman done carry come o. Lmao, sorry nne, the torture!!

The actual torture!

Fountainofyouth:



Huh!!! Did you really read my first two comments with an open mind Did you see the threats before breaking up with him? Did you see the "no breathing space" "no me time"? Do you know if I've complained several times to the extent that, one time, he almost turned violent

You don't owe anyone any explanation. You wore the shoes and you know where it pinched.

NiceMen:


Yeah, I was kinda too attached and the reason is that I was new to dating. I think romantic movies had an effect on me , I was inexperienced.

though my love was genuine but I later realised that in the real world, that is not how it is done.

I had to change after series of trials and it took me a while to understand ladies to a comfortable degree because I didn't start relationships game early enough like my peers...

The first heart break was hugely painful and drove me to hating women for long

Lol, it was sure a learning curve for you. Na why only you come be Nice “MEN”. Plural o!

It is usually genuine, but it is unhealthy. The latter is the problem and should never be trivialized. People think it is bliss, not until they are beneficiaries of such love. Good you have learned.

She had ulcer and refused to eat, she later fainted and I had to take her to the hospital. Another was when I dropped her food and wanted leaving her place because of her rude behaviour, she knelt down and was dragging my feet.. funny enough and as obsessed as she was she was cheating on me with her ex. Later got to know through both her friends and her phone that even tho the ex sex game was wack he was her first. She just had poor impulse control.

Ishilove:

You don't owe anyone any explanation. You wore the shoes and you know where it pinched.

Thanks.

pocohantas:


Lol, it was sure a learning curve for you. Na why only you come be Nice “MEN”. Plural o!

It is usually genuine, but it is unhealthy. The latter is the problem and should never be trivialized. People think it is bliss, not until they are beneficiaries of such love. Good you have learned.

True... I had a girl do that with me and I wasn't comfortable as I didn't want to make an impression that we will end up together wherein I just wanted to to enjoy the moment.

It was same way I used to think women are inconsiderate and unappreciative of gestures from men which I interpreted as "shakara" until changed my Facebook DP to my sister's (fair pretty iyanriya ) pic and dudes started bugging me inbox...

I did same on Instagram and tlwith exactly same result and it drove me to be sympathetic to ladies as I realised that it was not easy being a woman to know who to say yes or no to... I couldn't last one week under that mask before I jumped out of the ship

Fountainofyouth:



Calls 11 times in a day

Always interested in what I do or where I am every minute

Comes to my workplace at lunch break so we could have lunch together everyday,

Insists on spending the whole weekend together, I never had a me time,

Says things like "it's me n you forever", "you have no choice" " there is no way you'll ever leave me" "I can kill for you" "if I'm dying, you're dying too"

A friend received threats cos of frequent talks with me

Doesn't want me to have any friends, even females, he feels they'd take me from him or introduce me to another man

He cries anytime I miss his calls

A sex freak

Sends 5 love sms to me everyday

Changed his church to mine just to always be with me, if we are sitting apart, it's either he comes sit with me or drags me to wherever he's sitting,

He drives me everywhere I want to go,

Etc.

Hmmmm

uckennety:



rubbish

obviously the ìdiot loved her but she didn't love him!

Obsession is not love. He's sick in the head!

No lady likes being monitored (caged) by a man who can't even stand female friends. You can't even talk with male colleagues?

The worst is those evil threats of maiming or killing her! Haba!

mormoney85:
is possible

biafra and Nigeria

That one is more like marriage. In marriage, papers are signed and two parties must agree before divorce is approved.

uchenageme:


Oga, they are advising you now but you dont want to understand. Let me break it down for you.
1. She broke up with you because she found another guy who she believed was richer or better than you in bed.
2. They had a sexual relationship for the 8 months period she was out of your life.
3. The guy, probably a playboy, got tired of her and moved on with another lady.
4. She is presently feeling sad about loosing the guy but needs someone to fall back on, and she remembered you.
5. She can never stay permanently with you because you do not meet everything she needs in a man. So if another man with better qualities comes around, you are toast again.

Now put all of this in your mind, if you want to continue with your ex.

Hmm now i understand fully, thanks for the breakdown fam, most ladies are just unstable beings