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Momoreoluwa90:
The country where Donald Trump is president.

Sorry, but do you grow up there?.. because I saw you answering lot of questions a average Nigeria lady with throw tantrum for

Rockyfancino:
This girl is like a NEPA switch. She's selfish and doesn't reason with ration. Can you imagine, you will be talking to someone and she will be happy, the next minute you call her, she's her mood has become low and it now looks as if you're forcing her.

I would call her for at least 30 mins trying to cheer her up and I will be met with disdain. If small thing should happen, her mood will just change, no joke can take it out.... The next day, she's still like that.

Sometimes, she'll reply me like I'm her worst enemy. To make it worse, she'll say she has nothing to say after I might have talked and talked.

It sounds like nothing, but this has been going on for a very long time, as if someone is forcing her in the relationship. To make it worse, she'll sometimes act like she's madly in love.

I keep telling her mood is like weather and she should please try and just reduce it. I later stopped calling her like before because, I don't know they what mood I'll meet if I called.

So many times, I'll talk to her for like one hour about the things she's doing that's bad. I keep telling her the same thing for a very long time now, thinking communication is key.

Something happened yesternight, she ended the call. I called her back trying to tease her back into the mood. For like 30 seconds, I was doing hello, hello, I almost thought it was the network when I was about hanging up she said she can hear me.... Okay, fine. She later then told me there's nothing to say again... Damn, she keeps saying this many times and it has started to make my head spark.

I was angry all through yesterday for personal reasons, but people can never know because I don't show it and I talk normally. Despite my state yesterday, I kept my cool after she said there's nothing to say and just told her good night but I was angry deep down.

I called her this morning (yesterday morning, it's 1:16AM currently), she didn't pick. But I didn't call a second time, because my head was just ringing 'I have nothing to say.' I don't want to be a fool again to call her and I'll be taking to empty space. So I lefty phone in my room and stayed in the sitting room all day and she already left 2 missed later.

I came back this night, called her severally and it was just doing busy. I messaged her online (luckily she was online) about the matter and immediately I tried again and it went through. Thinking now, it may be that she blocked me.

Anyways in short, she was mute at first again when she picked. Later the matter escalated and she was saying that I didn't call back. I was trying to explain why I didn't call but she was not listening... I later waited till she calmed down.

I was telling her I didn't call because I didn't want embarrassment whereby I'll be talking to her and she'll just be mute as if I'm talking to the wind. I told her I knew not calling her was wrong but she didn't listen, I told her this about 4 times.

As she was later calm, I saw it as an opportunity to explain to her that what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I was telling her that I don't do 1/3 of what she does and I don't often turn things against her. In the beginning of the relationship, she used to be unhappy and complain a lot when the chance comes of how I don't listen or pay attention to her I'm summary.

Now, she's got attention and she acts so bad sometimes that I wonder if any man will actually stand that. She's done so many terrible things that I cannot even mention it here but I am a forgiving type.

So, this night will I was later telling her everything about herself again that is not good for us, I talked for over 1 hour and I actually thought maybe for the first time I was really getting to her. I was even happy that maybe she'll realize that she herself cannot stand what she does to me if it's done back to her in return. I also told her that I should have called her earlier in the day.

You won't believe this girl made me realize I was wasting my saliva and she just kept quiet on purpose, and that the only thing I was doing was turning the matter on her head, and that she was going to sleep. I couldn't believe my life at first, it really pained me deeply. She was even even telling me how I can keep on blabbing if I want. I told her to get out of my phone and I hung up. I didn't even know I could become so angry and hang up a phone on someone, it just happened spontaneously. Immediately, she blocked me on WhatsApp... She had even been saying it during the course of her ranting that she'll block me.

She used to say, she's stubborn and stuff. The funny thing is she'd say that's the way she is and I should accept her that way.

Like, she can't take what she's doing to me if it's served back to her. And how she doesn't even feel guilty of what she does is what baffles me.

Very selfish human being. Another annoying thing is her Motigbo and Ok when she's chatting. This girl will say anything she likes (not that she uses insultive words tho) and I'll just keep my cool and let it slide, I will even call her the next day.

Damn... I didn't know I can be this patient in my life. Although, I guess the reason I stayed this long in it is because she's a really good person who I believe if she can just eliminate that aspect of her, she'd be very okay.

i logged in to reply you...you are forcing yourself on her she dosnt love you...u probably begged her into the relationship...



Imagine a girl have the gut to talk to you anyhow over and over again and you still wanna keep her shaME ON YOU.

bigcee:
Oga o, she is very toxic and manipulative. She is using the tactics of trauma bomding, gaslighting, projection, control and cognitive disonance. Bro, protect ur sanity and run away from her. A good person, someone who loves you wont treat you that way. She crave for attention and adulation. The issue be say e dey hard to dey advice pple like you. You're too nice, selfless, codependent, forgiving, low self esteem, inferiority complex, you please pple alot. You're not assertive and have no healthy boundaries. You better quit that relationship for the sake of ur mental health. PTSD is real o.

Lol. I'm not anything you described up there. It's just that it was my first relationship and considering that I bleeped up a lot initially, because I really made her unhappy at the start of everything. I decided to try and make up for all my wrongs, but I just can't take nonsense anymore, even if it's from her. I'm a no nonsense person.

marttol:
i logged in to reply you...you are forcing yourself on her she dosnt love you...u probably begged her into the relationship...

you are a SIMP...

Imagine a girl have the gut to talk to you anyhow over and over again and you still wanna keep her shaME ON YOU.

I don't show her attention initially. I somehow became a simp later when I was trying to correct my mistakes... Unknowingly that she'd not reason correctly. Everyone knows me for not taking nonsense. She is the only one I took nonsense from and it has stopped since. And I actually did beg her at some point back into the relationship because I felt I needed to correct the errors of the past, I regret that a lot.

luminouz:
See your life
So call card can overcome mood swing?

I Lauf you,making her call will making him look less needy and demanding seem he is the talking type, always dancing along with her mood swing, the problem is not her, get this once and for all, she knowns she has his attention good and fine.

Focus on yourself: what makes him happy, complains wouldn't, looking @ her face (moody) definately will not.
nothing will change if continues this way
she see him as
1)talkative
2)over sensitive
3)emotional dependent
4)predictable
etc all point at nagative index.
He is only seeing reflexation of himself in her,which he has learnt to suck up to be true, if she choice to be moody then he becomes moody and complain and wine.

Take these tips from me
When you want people around you to be happy than you have to make yourselve happy.It n't about them it is you, you are best biggest thing ever.Your are the boss, take charge.the price,
you led she flw

Rockyfancino:
Lol. I'm not anything you described up there. It's just that it was my first relationship and considering that I bleeped up a lot initially, because I really made her unhappy at the start of everything. I decided to try and make up for all my wrongs, but I just can't take nonsense anymore, even if it's from her. I'm a no nonsense person.

Bro, you're walking on egg shell. See as you dey make excuses for her bad behaviour. Bruv, you did nothing wrong. Let her know who is in charge, let her know you're not a doormat. She dominating and in control of the relationship. Oga, let that change ok.

true2god:
I dated a girl who has these same characteristics you listed. We will have sex today and fight tomorrow, and unknown to me the girl was a nymphomaniac who was only in relationship for the sex and my money. The relationship was so toxic that I have to start watching YouTube video to know more about her. The videos I was able to get described her personality 99%. I have to free her and made her understand that she is a prostitute on corporate gown.

After I freed her she called him during the COVID-19 lockdown apologizing for all her evil and asked me to reverse any curse I placed on her as her life had been going from bad to worse after our break-up. I told her to ask God for forgiveness because it is possible God is angry with her.

Some women are just plain evil and heartless, especially when they believe they are still young and attractive.

This one is not really nympho. This girl feared me before but that moment when I said okay, lemme love too, everything just scatter. I didn't even know how I lost my self-respect and self-esteem. Damn... I get infuriated at myself sometimes.

SmellingAnus:
I use 2 be a fool like you...

Hahahaha... Mind talking about it a little?

foleskay:
Shey Omo ijebu nie ni

hahahahahahahahah.

omooba969:
Hahahaha

Bro she be something else....how person like her wey like fvck pass anything go turn church girl overnight?

Kyngfarabale1:
I can't trade my family for any woman..... so I totally agree with him....

Lol....good for you

fatymore:
hahahahahahahahah.

Mo guess right

mariahAngel:
You have been emotionally manipulated and drained!!!

Stop making excuses and leave before you make the biggest mistake of your life.

Yeah I know and it has been done. Tell me more about the biggest mistake part tho, really interested in that.

ZIINI:
How I wish the op read this

folake4u:
Why are you asking?

08061637389 wazap pls

foleskay:
Mo guess right

Mine is even combo.

Two most controversial state.

Ijebuode/Ibadan.


People from the guy side are always scared of their ladies

Won nipe wonwa submissive and doesn't welcome the husband family

Rockyfancino:
I don't show her attention initially. I somehow became a simp later when I was trying to correct my mistakes... Unknowingly that she'd not reason correctly. Everyone knows me for not taking nonsense. She is the only one I took nonsense from and it has stopped since. And I actually did beg her at some point back into the relationship because I felt I needed to correct the errors of the past, I regret that a lot.

better u stand you ground and reduce the attention drastically...


show i dont care attitude,if she no retrace let her go...see the truth is a guy more matured mentally than you is probably treating her like a child somewhere...no dey let woman manipulate you...she go dey shock if you start showing i dont care attitude ,she go wan form back but dont back down...better you let her go by reducing the way you call her...he go pain am,she might not show it but will pain her...those girls too like attention...

Ezi1993:
If she's a very good person,,why then did u put up all this complain about her?

I'm projecting the initial her I knew. I wondered if it was because of some complicated issues in the past... There's no excuse for anything jare.

warlord24:
You need serious flog for dating such a girl.. like me want to flog hell comot your body.. u well so?

Na by force.. oya let me hit you..

Bro, you are not the freaking main BF...

You guys need to get me. She was not like that from the onset. She was a loving person and stuff. But I couldn't give her back the love she was giving me at that time and I many times do not show her attention. Everything got scattered and I had to try to make up for everything while freeing myself to love. That was when everything started and I felt maybe I could revert it but it's impossible. I vetted her very well to check if she had someone else but I don't think so.

tfash96:

These bitches don't worth our stress bro

ZIINI:
These bitches don't worth our stress bro

Olorun gbo.. They're meant to be banged and be left...No time

fatymore:
Mine is even combo.

Two most controversial state.

Ijebuode/Ibadan.


People from the guy side are always scared of their ladies

Won nipe wonwa submissive and doesn't welcome the husband family

Lmaoo .. Beenio oo. Girls from those axis get Sharp razor mouth for abuses. Won le bu oko ko dide. They're too mouthful

Rockyfancino:
I'm projecting the initial her I knew. I wondered if it was because of some complicated issues in the past... There's no excuse for anything jare.

Complicated issues in the past like?

marttol:
better u stand you ground and reduce the attention drastically...


show i dont care attitude,if she no retrace let her go...see the truth is a guy more matured mentally than you is probably treating her like a child somewhere...no dey let woman manipulate you...she go dey shock if you start showing i dont care attitude ,she go wan form back but dont back down...better you let her go by reducing the way you call her...he go pain am,she might not show it but will pain her...those girls too like attention...

Lol... I've been dishing her I don't care attitude and silent treatment. The thing wan make her mad. She even talk am recently say I get I don't care attitude. Omo, I had to purge myself of that simping pit that I manage to put myself in o. It was not easy. After she blocked me on WhatsApp yesterday, which I guess she would also have blocked my number... I'm sure she will expect me to call her.

She knows me well that I don't take nonsense from anyone. But I don't understand how someone will get that privilege that you weren't even shown before and still take it for granted.

I can proudly say it that she'll hardly ever find someone like me.

foleskay:
Lmaoo .. Beenio oo. Girls from those axis get Sharp razor mouth for abuses. Won le bu oko ko dide. They're too mouthful

Lol...We thank God for life

Momoreoluwa90:
1. The day I found out he had multiple social media accounts, email addresses and names.
2. The day I found out he was dating his so-called school daughter but lied to me the whole time.
3. The day I heard him deny me on the phone to his family members.
4. The day I realized I could not cope with the fact that he would squander his money without any savings and wants to spend mine with me even when he earned much higher.
5. The day I realized I could not cope with cleaning after a grown ass man as a neat freak.
6. The day I realized I valued him more than he did me. Spoke his love languages but he never spoke mine.
7. The day I realized I was only his ticket out of Nigeria and as soon as he arrived abroad, he started to manifest his true colors.
8. The day he became 'sneaky' and started acting suspicious.

Wonder why it took me so long to end things but I finally gained the courage to. And I've been at peace ever since and waiting on God's best

Sorry ó, pls all these highlights, is it just on a person or several relationships? This is bizarre

bigcee:
Bro, you're walking on egg shell. See as you dey make excuses for her bad behaviour. Bruv, you did nothing wrong. Let her know who is in charge, let her know you're not a doormat. She dominating and in control of the relationship. Oga, let that change ok.

I really did Bleep up in the beginning because I treated her like she was not my girlfriend at all. I didn't understand emotions at all then, in fact I didn't have it.

And all was caused from lack of experience and I was actually kinda depressed at that time. But as long as I didn't do that on purpose and she knows, then I really don't feel like I did anything bad. Before, I used to think that was why she started acting funny.

Ezi1993:
Complicated issues in the past like?

Read my last posts in the thread. Tho, everything happened due to lack of experience from my part and I was really depressed then. But it is no justification for her behaviours, because a person who really loves you should be happy that you're back on your feet and happy with my display of affection.

Rockyfancino:
This girl is like a NEPA switch. She's selfish and doesn't reason with ration. Can you imagine, you will be talking to someone and she will be happy, the next minute you call her, she's her mood has become low and it now looks as if you're forcing her.

I would call her for at least 30 mins trying to cheer her up and I will be met with disdain. If small thing should happen, her mood will just change, no joke can take it out.... The next day, she's still like that.

Sometimes, she'll reply me like I'm her worst enemy. To make it worse, she'll say she has nothing to say after I might have talked and talked.

It sounds like nothing, but this has been going on for a very long time, as if someone is forcing her in the relationship. To make it worse, she'll sometimes act like she's madly in love.

I keep telling her mood is like weather and she should please try and just reduce it. I later stopped calling her like before because, I don't know they what mood I'll meet if I called.

So many times, I'll talk to her for like one hour about the things she's doing that's bad. I keep telling her the same thing for a very long time now, thinking communication is key.

Something happened yesternight, she ended the call. I called her back trying to tease her back into the mood. For like 30 seconds, I was doing hello, hello, I almost thought it was the network when I was about hanging up she said she can hear me.... Okay, fine. She later then told me there's nothing to say again... Damn, she keeps saying this many times and it has started to make my head spark.

I was angry all through yesterday for personal reasons, but people can never know because I don't show it and I talk normally. Despite my state yesterday, I kept my cool after she said there's nothing to say and just told her good night but I was angry deep down.

I called her this morning (yesterday morning, it's 1:16AM currently), she didn't pick. But I didn't call a second time, because my head was just ringing 'I have nothing to say.' I don't want to be a fool again to call her and I'll be taking to empty space. So I lefty phone in my room and stayed in the sitting room all day and she already left 2 missed later.

I came back this night, called her severally and it was just doing busy. I messaged her online (luckily she was online) about the matter and immediately I tried again and it went through. Thinking now, it may be that she blocked me.

Anyways in short, she was mute at first again when she picked. Later the matter escalated and she was saying that I didn't call back. I was trying to explain why I didn't call but she was not listening... I later waited till she calmed down.

I was telling her I didn't call because I didn't want embarrassment whereby I'll be talking to her and she'll just be mute as if I'm talking to the wind. I told her I knew not calling her was wrong but she didn't listen, I told her this about 4 times.

As she was later calm, I saw it as an opportunity to explain to her that what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I was telling her that I don't do 1/3 of what she does and I don't often turn things against her. In the beginning of the relationship, she used to be unhappy and complain a lot when the chance comes of how I don't listen or pay attention to her I'm summary.

Now, she's got attention and she acts so bad sometimes that I wonder if any man will actually stand that. She's done so many terrible things that I cannot even mention it here but I am a forgiving type.

So, this night will I was later telling her everything about herself again that is not good for us, I talked for over 1 hour and I actually thought maybe for the first time I was really getting to her. I was even happy that maybe she'll realize that she herself cannot stand what she does to me if it's done back to her in return. I also told her that I should have called her earlier in the day.

You won't believe this girl made me realize I was wasting my saliva and she just kept quiet on purpose, and that the only thing I was doing was turning the matter on her head, and that she was going to sleep. I couldn't believe my life at first, it really pained me deeply. She was even even telling me how I can keep on blabbing if I want. I told her to get out of my phone and I hung up. I didn't even know I could become so angry and hang up a phone on someone, it just happened spontaneously. Immediately, she blocked me on WhatsApp... She had even been saying it during the course of her ranting that she'll block me.

She used to say, she's stubborn and stuff. The funny thing is she'd say that's the way she is and I should accept her that way.

Like, she can't take what she's doing to me if it's served back to her. And how she doesn't even feel guilty of what she does is what baffles me.

Very selfish human being. Another annoying thing is her Motigbo and Ok when she's chatting. This girl will say anything she likes (not that she uses insultive words tho) and I'll just keep my cool and let it slide, I will even call her the next day.

Damn... I didn't know I can be this patient in my life. Although, I guess the reason I stayed this long in it is because she's a really good person who I believe if she can just eliminate that aspect of her, she'd be very okay.

Man, u just explained d exact thing that happened to me years back. Infact na like say someone just copied my story here. See im going to advise u and i use God beg u take this advise ..im hundred percent sure it will work for u. The bitter truth is ure too much in love with dis girl and that's a turn off. The bitter truth is d girl is not peaceful she may not be a type that shout but we have some gentle unpeaceful girls. She is scanning for alternatives, im damn sure she is just from an average background (not rich background) .This is what i did that solved my problem d grl then.. I told her myself with d way things is going i see no future in d relationship cos it seems d feelings is not mutual and i couldn't get any peace from d relationship. I told her she need her peace and i need mine.that we should just give each other a break. She agreed. Note not dat it was easy for me but i realized there is no point in loving someone when u don't get it back. I knew i deserve peace more than love. So i moved on.. She called like 12times after 6 days.. I didn't pick..i was so gentle and cool like u then so she thought i wd come back. Not until she started trolling me on watsap nd facebook.After 3 months cos i was busy with learning new things that eventually changed my life. I could see peace is more valuable than love. She texted and chat to check on me. But guy don move patapata.. she went ahead to download my pic and upload.. still money and peace keeps me going.. until i later realized she is not as beautiful as i thought.. love dey blind person eye ND i later realized i was too weak for her shortcomings. Plz just zero ur mind about her no matter how painful it is..I swear u wont regret it.. forget about she doesn't cheat, forget about she is a good girl. The only thing u should ask yourself, do u get peace being in a relationship with her,do u feel loved? Move on and see how nature handles d rest.She will value u when u leave than stay . Cheers

I don't date

Kiddogarcia:
Mine was the day she told me she give no hoot about the happenings in the society during the endsars protest,as long as she and her family was safe,others were not part of her business. I knew we had to end whatever we thought we had,how can someone I call my girl, could be that insensitive towards the cause of humanity

U did de bravest thing on Earth. I like dat. Dat kind woman go hate ur family die. If na Igbo woman u are gone, de mama go finish u during omugo

Rockyfancino:
Lol... I've been dishing her I don't care attitude and silent treatment. The thing wan make her mad. She even talk am recently say I get I don't care attitude. Omo, I had to purge myself of that simping pit that I manage to put myself in o. It was not easy. After she blocked me on WhatsApp yesterday, which I guess she would also have blocked my number... I'm sure she will expect me to call her.

She knows me well that I don't take nonsense from anyone. But I don't understand how someone will get that privilege that you weren't even shown before and still take it for granted.

I can proudly say it that she'll hardly ever find someone like me.

lol ,is that what you are using to console yourself ?...bro those wey go simp pass you plenty for outside,...abeg talk something else,no dey carry girl matter for head...