Haven't really found a decent lady with at least, 70% plain heart.

Two paramount things you need before relationship:
1. Sort out your financial issues. It doesn't matter how old you are. Before you think of relationship especially for men, make sure your finances are loyal to you unless you want to live a short life.

2. Sort out your emotional issues. Remove insecurities. No human being, not your prospective wife, is a saint. You can't be fvckin for the Past ten years and expect to marry a virgin

blinking001:
As for me I really dont intend to close any circle. The times have changed and men got to change their sexual strategy too. A millennial woman doesnt deserve to be wifed up. Make them your baby mama for your own peace of mind and sanity.
Men being the romantics have always had the wealth and yet the world still remained a better place but immediately the female folks became emancipated they changed everything into this Amoral society we find ourselves today.
Women cannot handle wealth and power so it's better you let them burn into ashes or you save them with the baby mama strategy.

thing of beauty.


This is art.

Looking for a girl that ticks the right boxes in the midst of the hyenas and jackals we have today

I am single because marriage these days is synonymous to emotional slavery and bondage! Women are the ones who benefit more in that institution than the men and the men are more disadvantaged than the women.

What ever goes wrong in your marriage, you are most likely to be blamed as the man and the woman seen as the victim!

I have shagged some men's wives and still do so tell me what is spicy about marriage today?

Marry at your peril as a man!

M

See ehn some are single cause the one they love is not ready
While the one they love is not ready cause of instability and confusion
While others are thinking about the possibilities of not making mistakes in poverty
Let's just leave it there
Single hood should rather be embraced
This matter can so break and shatter the heart
Thanks once again to our Darling Country
Forever finding its way into every bad situation

If you are not careful these days you are going to marry a retired or even an active olosho.... The rate at which young innocent ladies end up in the middle of oloshoism these days is just too rampant.. one has to take his time.

none of the above

Many are just scared of it.

owobokiri:
If you are not careful these days you are going to marry a retired or even an active olosho these days... The rate at which young innocent ladies end up in the middle of oloshoism these days is just too rampant.. one has to take his time.

Forget about Olosho or non olosho
Decent people are getting single cause of stringent options and situations
Leave olosho talk alone jare

ILoveDemMANNA:
Decent people are not that good at manipulation .
They live in their world of old , full of ideals.
The field of approaching the opposite sex and pursuing through a fresh relationship is too much for them .
So they lag behind others in this race and obviously stay single .
They readily accept the offers they get in the hope of settling down with someone as and when it happens- they do not have the skills to push through their choices - because they never feel that skill is important in the first place.
This is because they believe in sustainable and enduring relationships , not based on physical attraction or manipulation , but based on genuine affection and understanding.

The decent people are getting disillusioned with the pattern and kind of relationships , that is true.
It does not mean as a general rule that they stay single - they just wait for the right person ( being old school ) , instead of chasing someone and pursuing for victory -which in any case is short lived for relationships based on external factors.

Nice concept of ideal man

I'll have to create a thread to explain my reasons

people who are single are people who dont understand the game attached to relationships....all they see is the drama in it and not the fun game attached to it...

Lucrativress:

Forget about Olosho or non olosho
Decent people are getting single cause of stringent options and situations
Leave olosho talk alone jare

I'm genuinely bothered by that, .. can't you calm a brother down rather than dismissing his worries do easily?

Haven't found the right person. Ebony, tall, slim, and above all, intelligent!

ILoveDemMANNA:
Decent people are not that good at manipulation .
They live in their world of old , full of ideals.
The field of approaching the opposite sex and pursuing through a fresh relationship is too much for them .
So they lag behind others in this race and obviously stay single .
They readily accept the offers they get in the hope of settling down with someone as and when it happens- they do not have the skills to push through their choices - because they never feel that skill is important in the first place.
This is because they believe in sustainable and enduring relationships , not based on physical attraction or manipulation , but based on genuine affection and understanding.

I think I agree with most of what you wrote here.

sirjamesjnr:
So I have this conversation with some group of like minds and these are what I could get from our discussion:
On the negative side;
1.Abuse and manipulation
2.Disrespect and devaluation
3.Constant complaints and criticism
4.Feelings of perpetual inadequacy and failure to meet unrealistic expectations (I deal with that enough at work; I don’t want it at home)
5.Being ignored
6.Being cheated on
7.Being lied to about her level of sexual involvement with others (not in the sense of cheating, but potential exposure to STDs)
8.Being unloved, uncared about, and taken for granted
9.Not being allowed to make mistakes
10.Not being allowed to have my hobbies
11. Being treated like a piece of meat
12. Being expected to put up with his/her endless bullshit (which is usually deal-breaker stuff) while simultaneously not being allowed to be human myself
13. Being subjected to skewed perceptions of reality and overreacting to stupid shit
14.constantly wondering when he/she’s going to dump me for reasons that are unknown to me
15. Trying to change or “fix” me
On the positive side:
1.Career- To achieve stability most people opt for an academic path with lasts till the mid-20s sometimes even till the late 20s. Post that, once they get that lucrative job/onsite opportunity they aspired for, they delay marriage. Marriage is considered a potential hindrance to professional success by many people.
2.Space- Everyone seeks independence, especially millennials. Long term relationship requires sharing of this space which people don't like
People are warier and warier of :

3.Compromises- Marriage, by definition, is living with another person. This is bound to require adjustment which isn't easy

4.Commitment - This freaks youngsters today. When you're dating in college, commitment comes easy. But marriage brings along a different set of responsibilities which need a commitment of the highest order

5.The process of arranged marriage- This is a makes to the list purely because it shrouds the sanctity of marriage. Girls seeking millionaires and guys seeking miss universes just disturbs the definition and sanctity of the institution

6.With the advent of feminism, women are more self-reliant than they have ever been. Therefore they too don't seek a partner for financial independence and postpone relationships.

Mine: Career and schooling. My girl still has her masters to deal with.
So ladies and gentlemen, why you are single?
How can we close the circle?

What's the definition of decency? And who told you wayward people are getting married more than decent people? Una no go kill person with all these una false narratives wey una dey push.

All I can say is that if I knew what I now know I wouldn't have married. I would have stayed single or wait a bit longer before taking that plunge.

The plenty pains, stress, depression, hurts, burdens, bitterness, disappointments, insults, physical and psychological abuse and many more negatives far far outweigh the very little joy and pleasure in marriage.

Now I must say this may not be the experience of all but it is the experience of many, myself inclusive.

If you really can find a good partner and you are absolutely sure of it, then please go ahead and marry. If you have the slightest doubt, fear, apprehension, or negative intuition about the person, please stay away. You are better off single than experiencing hell here on Earth in a bad marriage. Trust me. You don't want it

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ILoveDemMANNA:
Decent people are not that good at manipulation .
They live in their world of old , full of ideals.
The field of approaching the opposite sex and pursuing through a fresh relationship is too much for them .
So they lag behind others in this race and obviously stay single .
They readily accept the offers they get in the hope of settling down with someone as and when it happens- they do not have the skills to push through their choices - because they never feel that skill is important in the first place.
This is because they believe in sustainable and enduring relationships , not based on physical attraction or manipulation , but based on genuine affection and understanding.

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NONSENSE

The rise of yahoo girls everywhere and the difficulty in differntiating

NoFucksToGive:
Simple

Most ladies out there are damaged goods

Over used , emotionally battered , low self-esteem, mentally poor, no ambition, addicted to instagram relationship coaches.

These set of over aged used up females are saddits, wake up singing gospel songs but yet she can nag to high heaven .

They accuse me of being lazy because I don't want to date a lady struggling financially just because I too don't struggle financially so I want a balance then they call me lazy for wanting this ?

All the 30 plus ladies are lying they are 24 years old .

They never look like the picture on their WhatsApp profile, when you see them in real life they look like the mother of the lady in the picture with too much make up

They speak good English but are dumb , the smart ones look like my uncle

When the smart ones are fine they have aggressive tendencies

Most Nigerian ladies sound like a confused mess of past opinions of their Exs

It's so much simpler not to deal with their shît and be single

Nigerian ladies are just tummy driven over arbortionized sperm waste bins

U just dey write NONSENSE

Some of you will realize your mistakes when it's too late.

Nobody has it all

Marriage isn't meant for everyone

Everyday on NL, you people are analyzing why people are single and men are not getting married. Yet I saw 3 pre-wedding pictures in just 2 days here. One na even wheelbarrow pusher. I didn’t count the ones in my immediate circle o. Stay here dey mumu.

ILoveDemMANNA:
Decent people are not that good at manipulation .
They live in their world of old , full of ideals.
The field of approaching the opposite sex and pursuing through a fresh relationship is too much for them .
So they lag behind others in this race and obviously stay single .
They readily accept the offers they get in the hope of settling down with someone as and when it happens- they do not have the skills to push through their choices - because they never feel that skill is important in the first place.
This is because they believe in sustainable and enduring relationships , not based on physical attraction or manipulation , but based on genuine affection and understanding.

Spot on

pocohantas:
Everyday on NL, you people are analyzing why people are single and men are not getting married. Yet I saw 3 pre-wedding pictures in the just 2 days here. One na even wheelbarrow pusher. I didn’t count the ones in my immediate circle o. Stay here dey mumu.

True talk.
people see only what they want to see in life

As calabar boy wey i be... Mr man i dont av fucking time for all the shit you wrote above, Bleep luv if you care Bleep you too.

owobokiri:
If you are not careful these days you are going to marry a retired or even an active olosho these days... The rate at which young innocent ladies end up in the middle of oloshoism these days is just too rampant.. one has to take his time.

Every single girl whose hymen has been broken is a potential prostitute

It's one of the ills of the 21st century

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SmartPolician:


U just dey write NONSENSE

Some of you realize your mistakes when it's too late.

Nobody has it all

Marriage isn't meant for everyone

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Oga sharap

Because you married one sister in church from avery poor home who had no choice because she has never seen anything better than the mediocre life you gave her doesn't make you an expert

Lucrativress:

Forget about Olosho or non olosho
Decent people are getting single cause of stringent options and situations
Leave olosho talk alone jare

Care to explain stringent options and situations?

@sirjamesjnr, isn't it obvious?
The truth is a societal evolution took place towards indecency and the loss of virtuous standards at a very rapid rate that left the decent ones behind.
Now the decent ones are scarce in the midst of so many indecent ones. So the decent ones are many times single as they search through the dire landscape for decent partners


#Unemotional, purely Mental from the unapologetic SpeciMen#