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My dear, I'm as calm as it gets. This case isn't just about that.

The OP has admitted to being affected by his childhood upbringing to the point he equates violence to love.

Sarita01:
There are many men like you but I don't think you'll find anyone to admit it on nairaland cos they don't wanna look less macho. But it's still kinda hot to see calm males

nwaezeemmanuel:
I think his case is more than just 'tough love'.

He claims his childhood with his sisters affected him, and believes his sisters showed love to him by inflicting pain.

With his explanation on his love life and workplace, i think that trait of violence in women is already a developed high.

He's a submissive by nature. But then, I think he needs some kind of therapy or something cos he seems vulnerable to be used abused and even damaged by the kind of women he seeks, just the way his sisters damaged his psyche.

davillian:
Go and carry Tonto na
Or toyin lawani

OR cc: poccohantas

Dude sounds like some of this Blokes that have mental disorder.whats appealing about a crazy woman?any1 pls

SweetHearted:
I am from a family whose first born is a female. She is followed by 3 other females. I am the 5th child and the last born is also male.

When we were younger,my sisters use to beat us because they were older and stronger than us. The eldest sister will beat the 2nd child to the last child.The same with the 2nd child. She beat the 3rd to the last child.

So I was brought up under authoritative females.

This has affected me because I find it hard to accept a gentle lady.

I only feel attracted to authoritative and violent ladies.

I find such ladies so attractive that I have never and can never date a girl unless she is authoritative, stronger and more assertive than me.

I always want to be close to women that behave like my sisters when we were younger. My sisters loved me but they showed the love through inflicting of pains.

So I tend to associate a woman's violent behavior to love. I seem to have compassion on women who behave violently and authoritatively.

I only find it easy to be working under a woman. I can't lead but I want to be led by woman. I can only work in a place if the head is a woman.

The last place I worked as a teacher, the head of our department was a woman. She complained that I was so obedient and submissive to her that I never even try to challenge her in any of her decisions unlike other teachers. She doesn't like such men, according to her.

Please I want to know if there is any man that is like me out there.

If so, what do you make of it.

This is just like the parental/childhood training theory that brings about betamales...

Femdon

Oyindaberry:
Wahala! Wahala be like bicycle, e no dey hard to start. God help you o

I have a personal question for you

udoakwa:
Violent lady ye find, violent lady you shall see, shout a very big thunderous Amen...

Hahahahahahaha!

Insinuating you are weakling

Lol. You are not alone bro.

Save for the violent aspects, I love women who are authoritative, team leads, assertive yet understand that there is only one man at home.

I like my woman to be really really aspirational yet submissive. I will back her in it all, but this doesn't mean I won't be covering from my own end, I will take care of my family of course just that I don't mind if she becomes very much successful than I am.

Consider it like Ngozi Okonjo Iweala and her husband kinda relationship, or the Late Professor Dora kind of husband.

All the support she needs to make it to that place she will get it. And I have just one term: create that line between your business and aspirations and our home. Not necessary subservient, but respectful.

SweetHearted:
I am from a family whose first born is a female. She is followed by 3 other females. I am the 5th child and the last born is also male.

When we were younger,my sisters use to beat us because they were older and stronger than us. The eldest sister will beat the 2nd child to the last child.The same with the 2nd child. She beat the 3rd to the last child.

So I was brought up under authoritative females.

This has affected me because I find it hard to accept a gentle lady.

I only feel attracted to authoritative and violent ladies.

I find such ladies so attractive that I have never and can never date a girl unless she is authoritative, stronger and more assertive than me.

I always want to be close to women that behave like my sisters when we were younger. My sisters loved me but they showed the love through inflicting of pains.

So I tend to associate a woman's violent behavior to love. I seem to have compassion on women who behave violently and authoritatively.

I only find it easy to be working under a woman. I can't lead but I want to be led by woman. I can only work in a place if the head is a woman.

The last place I worked as a teacher, the head of our department was a woman. She complained that I was so obedient and submissive to her that I never even try to challenge her in any of her decisions unlike other teachers. She doesn't like such men, according to her.

Please I want to know if there is any man that is like me out there.

If so, what do you make of it.

Yes! I believe there are times we can be submissive. Not just between couples, in workplaces someone is a subordinate to another person.

The OP seems submissive to a fault already. His story reminds me of the novel, Fifty Shades Of Grey. He is very vulnerable and i hope he gets proper therapy.

Chii59:
He's a submissive by nature. But then, I think he needs some kind of therapy or something cos he seems vulnerable to be used abused and even damaged by the kind of women he seeks, just the way his sisters damaged his psyche.

Sarita01:
You suppose Don find her na cos almost all women have sharp mouth,so you no get problem

abi

Yours is a very different story. I am also drawn to women that can stand their ground and be very ambitious.

This is why i admire women like Chimamanda Adichie. But the OP's story is deeper than that, accompanied by childhood experiences he himself admits to have been affected by.

KristenT:
Lol. You are not alone bro.

Save for the violent aspects, I love women who are authoritative, team leads, assertive yet understand that there is only one man at home.

I like my woman to be really really aspirational yet submissive. I will back her in it all, but this doesn't mean I won't be covering from my own end, I will take care of my family of course just that I don't mind if she becomes very much successful than I am.

Consider it like Ngozi Okonjo Iweala and her husband kinda relationship, or the Late Professor Dora kind of husband.

All the support she needs to make it to that place she will get it. And I have just one term: create that line between your business and aspirations and our home. Not necessary subservient, but respectful.

Callie:
My brother, its not deliverance you need.
Its obvious you never had a strong male figure while growing up. Physically, you are a male, but you really don't know how to be a man.
The foundation of the family is the man and not the woman, please don't go into the family front with this type of mindset, cause your children will grow to have twisted mindsets too. Your daughters will think it's okay to dominate a man and your sons will think a woman ought to lead him.

A man learn better from other men. Get a male mentor. Surround yourself with good and focused male friends. People who know what they want from life and how to get it.
You don't need deliverance, cause I don't think you are possessed, your only problem is twisted mindset, which through great association can be untwisted.

But guy!, Where is your father for goodness sake?

You made a good calling here, he grew up without a male influence. the guy just wan give himself to person wey wan kill am

Truvel:
I'm A Gentle Guy & An Introvert Too. I Want A Lady Dat Her Mouth Is Sharp Well, Well To Balance Things.

Come warri come look for authoritative and violent women. By the time den burst your head for you, ur mind go dey...

SweetHearted:
So I tend to associate a woman's violent behavior to love. I seem to have compassion on women who behave violently and authoritatively.

I only find it easy to be working under a woman. I can't lead but I want to be led by woman. I can only work in a place if the head is a woman.

The last place I worked as a teacher, the head of our department was a woman. She complained that I was so obedient and submissive to her that I never even try to challenge her in any of her decisions unlike other teachers. She doesn't like such men, according to her.

Please I want to know if there is any man that is like me out there.

If so, what do you make of it.

Do what makes you happy, bro. I'm concerned about the violence part though. There's nothing wrong with being a follower, I just hope you don't end with someone toxic as per the violence part.
Good luck.

Yeah kinda different but not far in between.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Yours is a very different story.

maybe when your head is involved that’s when you know that violent women are no go area, shebi you have not been reading on media how they kill their lover or husband during arguments

SILENTandSMART2:
How does this concern us bayi o ?



Even if you found werey attractive , nah your problem be dat,



We're not ready to answer any werey questions,



Misplaced priority everywhere


You go dey alright lasss lasss

Wahala dey o

nwaezeemmanuel:
Yes! I believe there are times we can be submissive. Not just between couples, in workplaces someone is a subordinate to another person.

The OP seems submissive to a fault already. His story reminds me of the novel, Fifty Shades Of Grey. He is very vulnerable and i hope he gets proper therapy.

Yeah, he reminds me of a male submissive in erotica (I read quite a lot then). Op, right now, you DON'T need an authoritative woman you need therapy. Your sisters "broke" you, hence your way of reasoning. I'm not just saying this because you're a man but because as a human being if you've got no backbone, people will take undue advantage of you over and over again. There's a striking difference between being phlegmatic and being a weak man. And right now, the latter is who you are. Get help before some authoritative lady destroys what's left of your life.

SweetHearted:
I am from a family whose first born is a female. She is followed by 3 other females. I am the 5th child and the last born is also male.

When we were younger,my sisters use to beat us because they were older and stronger than us. The eldest sister will beat the 2nd child to the last child.The same with the 2nd child. She beat the 3rd to the last child.

So I was brought up under authoritative females.

This has affected me because I find it hard to accept a gentle lady.

I only feel attracted to authoritative and violent ladies.

I find such ladies so attractive that I have never and can never date a girl unless she is authoritative, stronger and more assertive than me.

I always want to be close to women that behave like my sisters when we were younger. My sisters loved me but they showed the love through inflicting of pains.

So I tend to associate a woman's violent behavior to love. I seem to have compassion on women who behave violently and authoritatively.

I only find it easy to be working under a woman. I can't lead but I want to be led by woman. I can only work in a place if the head is a woman.

The last place I worked as a teacher, the head of our department was a woman. She complained that I was so obedient and submissive to her that I never even try to challenge her in any of her decisions unlike other teachers. She doesn't like such men, according to her.

Please I want to know if there is any man that is like me out there.

If so, what do you make of it.

Hmm that's good
Let's wait till you get married, I am sure then that your sisters and your wife will try to show eachother who has more authority, only then will you know the meaning of the idiom" iron sharpeneth iron"

SweetHearted:
I am from a family whose first born is a female. She is followed by 3 other females. I am the 5th child and the last born is also male.

When we were younger,my sisters use to beat us because they were older and stronger than us. The eldest sister will beat the 2nd child to the last child.The same with the 2nd child. She beat the 3rd to the last child.

So I was brought up under authoritative females.

This has affected me because I find it hard to accept a gentle lady.

I only feel attracted to authoritative and violent ladies.

I find such ladies so attractive that I have never and can never date a girl unless she is authoritative, stronger and more assertive than me.

I always want to be close to women that behave like my sisters when we were younger. My sisters loved me but they showed the love through inflicting of pains.

So I tend to associate a woman's violent behavior to love. I seem to have compassion on women who behave violently and authoritatively.

I only find it easy to be working under a woman. I can't lead but I want to be led by woman. I can only work in a place if the head is a woman.

The last place I worked as a teacher, the head of our department was a woman. She complained that I was so obedient and submissive to her that I never even try to challenge her in any of her decisions unlike other teachers. She doesn't like such men, according to her.

Please I want to know if there is any man that is like me out there.

If so, what do you make of it.

This is the most disgusting thing I've ever read online so far

naijaclass:
maybe when your head is involved that’s when you know that violent women are no go area, shebi you have not been reading on media how they kill their lover or husband during arguments

This mam funny aswear

Are you referring to me or op ?

Shit..well...
All you will get is Erica and Tacha with the stupidity of Tiwa savage and Bobrisky plus the madness of Tonto dike..
Inside one woman....
Needless to say...
You will die before your time

This is a mental condition, it does not affect only males but females too. You need to see a psychologist, or a psychiatrist, for proper management before is too late.

Callie:
My brother, its not deliverance you need.
Its obvious you never had a strong male figure while growing up. Physically, you are a male, but you really don't know how to be a man.
The foundation of the family is the man and not the woman, please don't go into the family front with this type of mindset, cause your children will grow to have twisted mindsets too. Your daughters will think it's okay to dominate a man and your sons will think a woman ought to lead him.

A man learn better from other men. Get a male mentor. Surround yourself with good and focused male friends. People who know what they want from life and how to get it.
You don't need deliverance, cause I don't think you are possessed, your only problem is twisted mindset, which through great association can be untwisted.

But guy!, Where is your father for goodness sake?

@bold: Fantastic question.

Martinez39s:
Your case seems irredeemable.

The dude is a low-key masochist influenced by his nurture. It can't easily be cured like a sexual fetish.

You'll be amazed at the tons of guys who have this fetish but hide it.

They seek authoritative and dominating women in relationship and sex.

Me too

SweetHearted:
I am from a family whose first born is a female. She is followed by 3 other females. I am the 5th child and the last born is also male.

When we were younger,my sisters use to beat us because they were older and stronger than us. The eldest sister will beat the 2nd child to the last child.The same with the 2nd child. She beat the 3rd to the last child.

So I was brought up under authoritative females.

This has affected me because I find it hard to accept a gentle lady.

I only feel attracted to authoritative and violent ladies.

I find such ladies so attractive that I have never and can never date a girl unless she is authoritative, stronger and more assertive than me.

I always want to be close to women that behave like my sisters when we were younger. My sisters loved me but they showed the love through inflicting of pains.

So I tend to associate a woman's violent behavior to love. I seem to have compassion on women who behave violently and authoritatively.

I only find it easy to be working under a woman. I can't lead but I want to be led by woman. I can only work in a place if the head is a woman.

The last place I worked as a teacher, the head of our department was a woman. She complained that I was so obedient and submissive to her that I never even try to challenge her in any of her decisions unlike other teachers. She doesn't like such men, according to her.

Please I want to know if there is any man that is like me out there.

If so, what do you make of it.

No offense bro but you need help o. I don't think that's right.