WrittyWritter:
D babe dey disguise..she may have a good reason wen she said 'village people'..she probably did not mean her town people but some people dat must not see her there with a guy..it can be her bf..customers ..or family members or friends..

All in all, wahala for who carry her come

czarr:
OGA it depends on what you are looking for, are you looking for a wife or you want to release tension in your balls? if it's that latter then it shouldn't bother you if she has skeletons in her cupboard. change venue and continue parole.

But if you are already Catching Feelings and you want something serious with her then stop and reconsider because from her actions you can tell she is not only from the street, she is from the Galactic highway.

The bolded, it is. And I'm done

baralatie:
Summary

You are chasing the wrong woman

And you are using the wrong protocol

Mad oh

Mcslize:


I had same experience with a girl sometime ago. But mine I invited her straight to my house. I no longer take girls to fast food. So she asked for my place and immediately I told her she said she won't come again. I was surprised.

So I started asking her what the issue was. Why she suddenly changed her mind? But she was just beating around the bush how boys in my areas are play boys so and so and that.

I simply told her, that can't be the reason why she changed her mind. I started pressing forward trying to know why. After so much back and forth talk, she finally opened up to me that she has an ex in my area.

So I asked if she was still seeing the guy so she said no. I tried making her comfortable by convincing her that she shouldn't see that as an issue.

When a girl refuses to come over to a place you suggested, there is 100% possibility that she has someone in that area or she has some skeletons she is trying to hide away from in that area of which she doesn't want anyone that knows her in the area to see her.

Well said. Immediately, she made frantic moves to make me change my mind, I knew that this girl dey game . For her eye, I resemble John .

Anyways we move. She likes me sha. I know when a girl likes me.

To be Frank with you, you are over reacting . And all those yeye advice "like let her be" she has a skeleton in her cupboard etc are what I call children advice. Wait, if she has a bf, is it a crime? Do you expect a grown up lady not to have a bf b4? Habi who goes to. buy clothes in d market naked? Date is an avenue were two adults get to know each other and if you Carr about her, get to knw her beta and ask questions. The answers to those questions is what will decide if she is worth it is not. Tell her you are disappointed in what she did but she should choose the next venue. Shallom

Samakus:


Well said. Immediately, she made frantic moves to make me change my mind, I knew that this girl dey game . For her eye, I resemble John .

Anyways we move. She likes me sha. I know when a girl likes me.

If she likes you don't just bother taking her out. Just invite her straight to your grib. She will definitely come.

Once a girl likes you, it makes things easy. You won't do much.

Op to catch monkey...behave like monkey...atleast compromise before u lick plate...it's just a date...she might have some guys f*cking her there too sha...

Eh change the venue na,Las Las na u go still fu*k am no b us

Samakus:
Hey guys.

I will be brief. So, I met a girl in church and one thing led to another and we exchanged contacts. We been chatting and talking ever since. I can tell she likes me a lot as she's always calling me on WhatsApp call and video calls.

So, we fixed our first date to be today. Told her I will call her by 4pm to give her the venue. I decided for us to hang out in a popular eatery close to my area. The place is quite busy on Sundays with lots of guys and babes coming around for dates and to chill. They usually have live band too with good meals and all other things.

Called babe by 4pm as I promised and gave her the location and she refused coming there. I even offered to pay for tfare even though I knew that that's not the reason but she wasn't having any of it. Initially, she said that she hasn't gone there before but wouldn't want to go there either. Pressing forward, babe gave a new funny excuse that her village people usually come to that venue . Like WTF . Granted, she's from the town but how will someone know that her village peeps goes to a place if you haven't been there before. Ofcourse i stood my ground and the date had to be cancelled. She's been chatting me and I haven't replied yet.

To the question, does it make sense for a lady to choose for a guy where to take her especially on a first date? Who wouldn't want to hangout in a popular relaxation spot if he/she doesn't have anything to hide? Anyways, I had to take two plates of goat peppersoup from my budget and a chilled Heineken beer to watch my Arsenal team mumu themselves, by the way. I can't come and kill myself on top my own money too

Lol
Funny

I guess she's not alone then,though I'm not that holy than thou type,I really do hate it when men invite me to a hotel,popular restruant or what have you for a date.
Strolling or making use of a not too popular place will be much appreciated.



In her case,

1) She might be an introvert,
(I remember when I went swimming at a popular cool spot then,came out and all I could hear was okpor okpor from those around. Didn't actually know the meaning. More like an embarrassing day of my life).
She might just be the shy type and definitely wouldn't want to be seen by familiar eyes or mingle with the crowd.



2)She is a popular aunty there. honestly, she might be well known around that area. Probably trying to not display herself to the other guys she have chopped on a chopping board.



3) She thinks you are after something else entirely. Why invite me to a rowdy place on a first date??
Doesn't make sense



4) She doesn't like the place.
Come on,kill the pride and give her that benefit of doubt.
Not everyone has the same taste or choice as you. It's your money fine,actually makes me think you might be way too controlling and proud.



All ain't the same, try to see others from their own point of view. I personally, won't mind taken a glass of water so long you take me to a place I'm overtly comfortable.


If you think she's hiding some other things,there's absolutely no harm in asking.

You think she's into you.
Why not ask her why she's afraid to come to the so called popular bar?

An elder who knows what to do,won't go about seeking advice from people that will give him/her same opinion.

No cast her for that area. She's most likely running things in that area

StacyO:


Lol
Funny

I guess she's not alone then,though I'm not that holy than thou type,I really do hate it when men invite me to a hotel,popular restruant or what have you for a date.
Strolling or making use of a not too popular place will be much appreciated.



In her case,

1) She might be an introvert,
(I remember when I went swimming at a popular cool spot then,came out and all I could hear was okpor okpor from those around. Didn't actually know the meaning. More like an embarrassing day of my life).
She might just be the shy type and definitely wouldn't want to be seen by familiar eyes or mingle with the crowd.



2)She is a popular aunty there. honestly, she might be well known around that area. Probably trying to not display herself to the other guys she have chopped on a chopping board.



3) She thinks you are after something else entirely. Why invite me to a rowdy place on a first date??
Doesn't make sense



4) She doesn't like the place.
Come on,kill the pride and give her that benefit of doubt.
Not everyone has the same taste or choice as you. It's your money fine,actually makes me think you might be way too controlling and proud.



All ain't the same, try to see others from their own point of view. I personally, won't mind taken a glass of water so long you take me to a place I'm overtly comfortable.


If you think she's hiding some other things,there's absolutely no harm in asking.

You think she's into you.
Why not ask her why she's afraid to come to the so called popular bar?

An elder who knows what to do,won't go about seeking advice from people that will give him/her same opinion.

The bolded though. Got me kikikiki Whatever that means

Anyways, fair points. Worth considering.



Way too controlling and proud? I don't think I am. Apologies if I sounded like that but my insistence and suspicion heightened when her excuses stopped adding up. More like, it became clear she's running away from something.

Mcslize:


If she likes you don't just bother taking her out. Just invite her straight to your grib. She will definitely come.

Once a girl likes you, it makes things easy. You won't do much.

This doesn't work for every girl especially ones you don't just only want to 'chop and run'

EmmySparky:
Op to catch monkey...behave like monkey...atleast compromise before u lick plate...it's just a date...she might have some guys f*cking her there too sha...

What if op doesn't just want to lick plate? What if there was a genuine interest in her?

gunners160:
To be Frank with you, you are over reacting . And all those yeye advice "like let her be" she has a skeleton in her cupboard etc are what I call children advice. Wait, if she has a bf, is it a crime? Do you expect a grown up lady not to have a bf b4? Habi who goes to. buy clothes in d market naked? Date is an avenue were two adults get to know each other and if you Carr about her, get to knw her beta and ask questions. The answers to those questions is what will decide if she is worth it is not. Tell her you are disappointed in what she did but she should choose the next venue. Shallom

Fair points. Of course I wasn't expecting a boyfriendless girl. Her relationship status matters not to me. I was expecting a little sincerity by the way.

We spoke at length about it and the initial excuses turned to lies. So what sayest though?

Samakus:
Hey guys.

I will be brief. So, I met a girl in church and one thing led to another and we exchanged contacts. We been chatting and talking ever since. I can tell she likes me a lot as she's always calling me on WhatsApp call and video calls.

So, we fixed our first date to be today. Told her I will call her by 4pm to give her the venue. I decided for us to hang out in a popular eatery close to my area. The place is quite busy on Sundays with lots of guys and babes coming around for dates and to chill. They usually have live band too with good meals and all other things.

Called babe by 4pm as I promised and gave her the location and she refused coming there. I even offered to pay for tfare even though I knew that that's not the reason but she wasn't having any of it. Initially, she said that she hasn't gone there before but wouldn't want to go there either. Pressing forward, babe gave a new funny excuse that her village people usually come to that venue . Like WTF . Granted, she's from the town but how will someone know that her village peeps goes to a place if you haven't been there before. Ofcourse i stood my ground and the date had to be cancelled. She's been chatting me and I haven't replied yet.

To the question, does it make sense for a lady to choose for a guy where to take her especially on a first date? Who wouldn't want to hangout in a popular relaxation spot if he/she doesn't have anything to hide? Anyways, I had to take two plates of goat peppersoup from my budget and a chilled Heineken beer to watch my Arsenal team mumu themselves, by the way. I can't come and kill myself on top my own money too

Her ex or bf lives around that area. You don't understand her parables

Samakus:


Fair points. Of course I wasn't expecting a boyfriendless girl. Her relationship status matters not to me. I was expecting a little sincerity by the way.

We spoke at length about it and the initial excuses turned to lies. So what sayest though?

She likes you but scared of ur reaction. Its normal to feel insecure and hide certain things because not all men are matured. Some men blow out of proportion. For now, avoid the date so u won't waste money on what you are not sure of. visit her at her place or she visits u at ur place. Joke about the disappointment in d date and how you wish to date her but scared she might not come out plain with you . Attack her conscience..... That all.
I am also planned a date with a Lady, the first time I invited her, she was acting funny. I Snubbed the date idea and start talking on something else, now she is d one begging for the date but I am also using the opportunity to set my own rules. She likes you do be the one to set the rule..

[quote author=gunners160 post=96342263] She likes you but scared of ur reaction. Its normal to feel insecure and hide certain things because not all men are matured. Some men blow out of proportion. For now, avoid the date so u won't waste money

Samakus:


What if op doesn't just want to lick plate? What if there was a genuine interest in her?

He still has to be ca and observant and not just jump into conclusion

gunners160:
She likes you but scared of ur reaction. Its normal to feel insecure and hide certain things because not all men are matured. Some men blow out of proportion. For now, avoid the date so u won't waste money on what you are not sure of. visit her at her place or she visits u at ur place. Joke about the disappointment in d date and how you wish to date her but scared she might not come out plain with you . Attack her conscience..... That all.
I am also planned a date with a Lady, the first time I invited her, she was acting funny. I Snubbed the date idea and start talking on something else, now she is d one begging for the date but I am also using the opportunity to set my own rules. She likes you do be the one to set the rule..

That's experience talking. Thank you bro

Ok

Huh? Why would you suggest the venue and expect her to show up? In this time and age of increasing rituals and kiddnaping? She's smart for turning you down.

On a norms, it is the girl that suggest the venue on the your first meeting because its much safer that way.

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Samakus:
Hey guys.

I will be brief. So, I met a girl in church and one thing led to another and we exchanged contacts. We been chatting and talking ever since. I can tell she likes me a lot as she's always calling me on WhatsApp call and video calls.

So, we fixed our first date to be today. Told her I will call her by 4pm to give her the venue. I decided for us to hang out in a popular eatery close to my area. The place is quite busy on Sundays with lots of guys and babes coming around for dates and to chill. They usually have live band too with good meals and all other things.

Called babe by 4pm as I promised and gave her the location and she refused coming there. I even offered to pay for tfare even though I knew that that's not the reason but she wasn't having any of it. Initially, she said that she hasn't gone there before but wouldn't want to go there either. Pressing forward, babe gave a new funny excuse that her village people usually come to that venue . Like WTF . Granted, she's from the town but how will someone know that her village peeps goes to a place if you haven't been there before. Ofcourse i stood my ground and the date had to be cancelled. She's been chatting me and I haven't replied yet.

To the question, does it make sense for a lady to choose for a guy where to take her especially on a first date? Who wouldn't want to hangout in a popular relaxation spot if he/she doesn't have anything to hide? Anyways, I had to take two plates of goat peppersoup from my budget and a chilled Heineken beer to watch my Arsenal team mumu themselves, by the way. I can't come and kill myself on top my own money too

OP u can't kii yourself.. U finished your 2plate in peace.
Maybe she's home yawning.

But my opinion is u could have seek asked for her place of choice since its a first date and no hidden motive.

Cutehector:
She Don cast for that area. Use your head bro, she is not who you think she is.

Guy, you literally took the words out of my mouth.


OP, use your head.

BestAccessories:


Oga, stop being a child. For first date, ask her to suggest a venue and location.

It's takes two to tangle, if she doesn't like the place you suggested, you should have asked her where is comfortable and convenient for her.

Up your game.

if foolishness could be measured you would be used as its SI unit

Cutehector:
She Don cast for that area. Use your head bro, she is not who you think she is.

chai you be confirm guy man biko comma train me �

Cutehector:
She Don cast for that area. Use your head bro, she is not who you think she is.

Keep quiet.! Cast kor, crew ni... Someone is trying to be careful and all you could say is this??. How can you possibly tell?
What of the OP that suggested the place? Is he not a regular there?

You guys tend to think you're smart. I Like how she stood the OP up.

Go and make money

Meanwhile

Preshmane:
you should have let her decide the venue as it's the first date ...

Will she also pay the bills? Oga no allow girls use u drink garri.

I echo what most people have said. BTW I am new so first post