Samakus:
Hey guys.

I will be brief. So, I met a girl in church and one thing led to another and we exchanged contacts. We been chatting and talking ever since. I can tell she likes me a lot as she's always calling me on WhatsApp call and video calls.

So, we fixed our first date to be today. Told her I will call her by 4pm to give her the venue. I decided for us to hang out in a popular eatery close to my area. The place is quite busy on Sundays with lots of guys and babes coming around for dates and to chill. They usually have live band too with good meals and all other things.

Called babe by 4pm as I promised and gave her the location and she refused coming there. I even offered to pay for tfare even though I knew that that's not the reason but she wasn't having any of it. Initially, she said that she hasn't gone there before but wouldn't want to go there either. Pressing forward, babe gave a new funny excuse that her village people usually come to that venue . Like WTF . Granted, she's from the town but how will someone know that her village peeps goes to a place if you haven't been there before. Ofcourse i stood my ground and the date had to be cancelled. She's been chatting me and I haven't replied yet.

To the question, does it make sense for a lady to choose for a guy where to take her especially on a first date? Who wouldn't want to hangout in a popular relaxation spot if he/she doesn't have anything to hide? Anyways, I had to take two plates of goat peppersoup from my budget and a chilled Heineken beer to watch my Arsenal team mumu themselves, by the way. I can't come and kill myself on top my own money too

My friend experience such in Sagamu close to 15yrs now,

We visited this his bae...so when we were going back, she was reluctant accompanying us back to park..

I observed that when we got to a particular street close to Isale oko, she was walking faster leaving us behind... until some boiz started chanting her name imagine...

We were later accousted by a guy begging us to leave the babe for her cos he had spent hell on her. Women eeehh

Samakus:
Hey guys.

I will be brief. So, I met a girl in church and one thing led to another and we exchanged contacts. We been chatting and talking ever since. I can tell she likes me a lot as she's always calling me on WhatsApp call and video calls.

So, we fixed our first date to be today. Told her I will call her by 4pm to give her the venue. I decided for us to hang out in a popular eatery close to my area. The place is quite busy on Sundays with lots of guys and babes coming around for dates and to chill. They usually have live band too with good meals and all other things.

Called babe by 4pm as I promised and gave her the location and she refused coming there. I even offered to pay for tfare even though I knew that that's not the reason but she wasn't having any of it. Initially, she said that she hasn't gone there before but wouldn't want to go there either. Pressing forward, babe gave a new funny excuse that her village people usually come to that venue . Like WTF . Granted, she's from the town but how will someone know that her village peeps goes to a place if you haven't been there before. Ofcourse i stood my ground and the date had to be cancelled. She's been chatting me and I haven't replied yet.

To the question, does it make sense for a lady to choose for a guy where to take her especially on a first date? Who wouldn't want to hangout in a popular relaxation spot if he/she doesn't have anything to hide? Anyways, I had to take two plates of goat peppersoup from my budget and a chilled Heineken beer to watch my Arsenal team mumu themselves, by the way. I can't come and kill myself on top my own money too

She is a shy type or not matured enough simple. That excuse is just to find something to say.

WoundedLamb:


Relationship? Is that what y'all call first date in Nigeria? Why do you let ego come in the way of logic? You walked up to a girl and convinced her to go out with you and then you turn around to start dictating where the meeting must be? The girl hasn't even accepted to be your girl and you're already fighting for who's in charge? Wow...

Im judging based on the present situation sir....

For your info,I don't convince any hoe to be with me...

Population of lads plenty pass gents

texazzpete:
Only on Nairaland would a lack of class be heralded as ‘being a man’ and ‘oga in charge’.
You want to take a girl you met in church to a beer parlor and match viewing center to sit in between ogogoro drinkers and street urchins to watch match?

Finally someone has said it.

Popular and crowded is off for someone like me, Its better we kuku stroll around the streets sipping fanyogo.

Attention: any lady who's financially stable and needs a man for marriage should quote me so i drop my number,we could start somewhere fr

U be guyman Use ur head No run into some conclusions... Try observe wella

Simple...Nigerians make their lives more difficult unnecessarily.... u havent even started dating her... u re alredi inviting 3rd party... shame on d op

BestAccessories:


Oga, stop being a child. For first date, ask her to suggest a venue and location.

It's takes two to tangle, if she doesn't like the place you suggested, you should have asked her where is comfortable and convenient for her.

Up your game.

Exactly!!!

NoToPile:



Finally someone has said it.

Popular and crowded is off for someone like me, Its better we kuku stroll around the streets sipping fanyogo.

Cutehector:
She Don cast for that area. Use your head bro, she is not who you think she is.

Damn.... From which part of thinking out of the box did you drop from?

You effing blew my mind

On a first date u r already imposing on her then wat will happen if u eventually marry

@BestAccessories your comments

Cutehector:
She Don cast for that area. Use your head bro, she is not who you think she is.

u've said it all bro...exactly what i had in mind...

NoToPile:



Finally someone has said it.

Popular and crowded is off for someone like me, Its better we kuku stroll around the streets sipping fanyogo.

one olosho sighted...

She is dating the bar man of that place

Temigirl95:
Simple...Nigerians make their lives more difficult unnecessarily.... u havent even started dating her... u re alredi inviting 3rd party... shame on d op

OP is just seeking advice. Although he messed up been too authoritative.

Beside, is that the real you on your profile, if Yes, abeg come and take me on a date jarey.

We can discuss when and where privately via DM or WhatsApp

Fountainofyouth:
@BestAccessories your comments

Thanks

Regex:


For your mind, Up your game... who is going to spend that the other should suggest a place? If you be guy, you suppose don deh ostracized from anything that involves men. You should be amongst women for having a pussy for a ball!

If you be woman, no wahala. Nansense and up your game.

I no get strength to argue or educate you early this morning.

Please go focus on selling your crap you called ebook, BEST OF LUCK, MEN Relationship Expert

Wise231:
next time allow d ladies to make dia choice �%

She already made a choice by agreeing to go/hang out with him, but he messed it up by been too rigid on a venue.

What a wasted opportunity for him.

Regex:


Doing the what you posted, makes a man come off as needy. The minute that girl tells her her girls that you suggested a place and she down played it to be another place, she'd be given an advice that will ruin you. You might think you are finding the comfortable place for you both but not knowing you are eliminating your comfort in the equation. These people are selfish. You tell her your meeting point, she doesn't like it, she bounces. It's not a force. Also you as a man bounces too. There's no [middle ground in this one.

Oga sir, take time to read and understand all my comments on this thread, maybe you will learn a thing or two to upgrade your ebook.

NEEDY NKO, BEGGER NI

luminouz:
Stacy, why are you lying@number 1 point.
You no 'por' anything naaaaa

What's the meaning?

Regex:


Op and the girl haven't entered any relationship yet. What is hard to comprehend in it? Abi any girl that chats and call always son enter relationship with you?

So because I said "Relationship is about what and what you're ready to compromise on and when." makes you assumed that I am saying they are in a relationship already.

PLEASE WHY ARE YOU SO CLUELESS AND DUMB.

When he approach the girl what was his mission?

When he approach her in church, He make contact,

When he collect her mobile number, He his creating a connection.

Then, he invited her to spend time with him, He want to established/cement the connection.

In case you don't know, Relationship is the way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected.

BestAccessories:


Oga, stop being a child. For first date, ask her to suggest a venue and location.

It's takes two to tangle, if she doesn't like the place you suggested, you should have asked her where is comfortable and convenient for her.

Up your game.

Hope you read what the OP said,...how can a girl that have not visited such place ànd assumed or said her village people always visiting that place ?

WoundedLamb:
The way you described the place, it seems like somewhere men normally take their catches to before devouring them later at night. If that is the case, her concerns might be genuine cause any girl seen entering such places with a man is already considered a LovePeddler. Like some already said it's also possible she's well known there and therefore is trying not to give out her history.

But wait, you asked her out and she agreed and you want to dictate the location? Lol

And what's wrong in person paying to dictate the location. She can fix her own date and dictate the location if she's paying.

Preshmane:
you should have let her decide the venue as it's the first date ...

Are u for real

But why you no invite her come church as the venue now the alter expecially as your location

Christian07:



Am not ganna lie to you bro the truth of the matter is the place you say to take her to doesn’t seems friendly it sound like a place you take a girl to and end up at your house you should have considered other places like kfc, dominos to lick ice cream or mega chicken etc beside it’s ur first date and for er ppl not to see er is a place Nt meant for everyone


Are you suppose to be drinking beer on ur first date am confuse

The bolded. What tha hell?

I honestly believe I can't find anything more childish on the internet today. On a first date and you are already talking about "standing your ground?" Young man, the civil thing to do is to ask her for a place she will be convenient to hang out. Not you giving her an impression like you are inviting her to a slaughter lab. FIRST DATE oooooooo!

StacyO:



What's the meaning?

Your yansh is big

christinme224:

Hope you read what the OP said,...how can a girl that has not visited such a place ànd assumed or said her village people always visiting that place ?

Is it not clear to you that the young lady had to say something to perhaps convince him to change his mind? The bottom line is that she is not cool with that place and I don't understand why that is such a difficult thing to understand. For the record, allowing her to choose a place she feels safe at on a first date does not in any way affect your MALE EGO...

Antoeni:
Come visit me sounds like sex to women, but send me your account number sounds like prophetic breakthrough

Hmmm, na u know oo