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Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by hashtagged(m): 10:47pm On Nov 23, 2020

SweetCunt97:
Stay there and allow guys who never see girl pant talk less of girl liking them fool you into believing nonsense. Don't be too quick to judge a person's character. Besides you ought to ask her if she's OK with d venue if not you change it. Simple. What she was before she met you shouldn't b ur concern but what she decides to be knowing u.

Don't be too quick to judge a person? Am surprised hearing this from someone who is quick to label all men scum.
Although I see a point to this, the venue should be agreed by both parties before a date, first dates shouldn't be a surprise venue.
I love that last point, what a person was before meeting you should not be part of how you view a person,

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Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by OgeFather(m): 10:47pm On Nov 23, 2020

BestAccessories:

Oga, stop being a child. For first date, ask her to suggest a venue and location.

It's takes two to tangle, if she doesn't like the place you suggested, you should have asked her where is comfortable and convenient for her.

Up your game.

The way guys are becoming soft and pathetic all the name of being romantic these days is so annoying. You met a girl and asked her out and she agreed but refused to come to your chosen location, wont that raise enough suspicions to stand your ground and know what is going on

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Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Ffolksy: 10:47pm On Nov 23, 2020

StacyO:

Lol
Funny

I guess she's not alone then,though I'm not that holy than thou type,I really do hate it when men invite me to a hotel,popular restruant or what have you for a date.
Strolling or making use of a not too popular place will be much appreciated.

In her case,

1) She might be an introvert,
(I remember when I went swimming at a popular cool spot then,came out and all I could hear was okpor okpor from those around. Didn't actually know the meaning. More like an embarrassing day of my life).
She might just be the shy type and definitely wouldn't want to be seen by familiar eyes or mingle with the crowd.

2)She is a popular aunty there. honestly, she might be well known around that area. Probably trying to not display herself to the other guys she have chopped on a chopping board.

3) She thinks you are after something else entirely. Why invite me to a rowdy place on a first date??
Doesn't make sense

4) She doesn't like the place.
Come on,kill the pride and give her that benefit of doubt.
Not everyone has the same taste or choice as you. It's your money fine,actually makes me think you might be way too controlling and proud.

All ain't the same, try to see others from their own point of view. I personally, won't mind taken a glass of water so long you take me to a place I'm overtly comfortable.

If you think she's hiding some other things,there's absolutely no harm in asking.

You think she's into you.
Why not ask her why she's afraid to come to the so called popular bar?

An elder who knows what to do,won't go about seeking advice from people that will give him/her same opinion.

Hi Stacy0, would you fancy a date with me? I'll let you decide the venue

Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Badonasty(m): 10:48pm On Nov 23, 2020

lol...she be regular customer for there....just save your money bros

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Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Ofemmanu1: 10:51pm On Nov 23, 2020

Cutehector:
She Don cast for that area. Use your head bro, she is not who you think she is.

Naso my friend come introduce him babe to me this evening, babe wey be say na my neighbor dey nack am.

She don cast.

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Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by berryPee(m): 10:53pm On Nov 23, 2020

why be say Arsenal fans no dey get luck ?

Samakus:
Hey guys.

I will be brief. So, I met a girl in church and one thing led to another and we exchanged contacts. We been chatting and talking ever since. I can tell she likes me a lot as she's always calling me on WhatsApp call and video calls.

So, we fixed our first date to be today. Told her I will call her by 4pm to give her the venue. I decided for us to hang out in a popular eatery close to my area. The place is quite busy on Sundays with lots of guys and babes coming around for dates and to chill. They usually have live band too with good meals and all other things.

Called babe by 4pm as I promised and gave her the location and she refused coming there. I even offered to pay for tfare even though I knew that that's not the reason but she wasn't having any of it. Initially, she said that she hasn't gone there before but wouldn't want to go there either. Pressing forward, babe gave a new funny excuse that her village people usually come to that venue . Like WTF . Granted, she's from the town but how will someone know that her village peeps goes to a place if you haven't been there before. Ofcourse i stood my ground and the date had to be cancelled. She's been chatting me and I haven't replied yet.

To the question, does it make sense for a lady to choose for a guy where to take her especially on a first date? Who wouldn't want to hangout in a popular relaxation spot if he/she doesn't have anything to hide? Anyways, I had to take two plates of goat peppersoup from my budget and a chilled Heineken beer to watch my Arsenal team mumu themselves, by the way. I can't come and kill myself on top my own money too

Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Wickedfact: 10:55pm On Nov 23, 2020

czarr:
OGA it depends on what you are looking for, are you looking for a wife or you want to release tension in your balls? if it's that latter then it shouldn't bother you if she has skeletons in her cupboard. change venue and continue parole.

But if you are already Catching Feelings and you want something serious with her then stop and reconsider because from her actions you can tell she is not only from the street, she is from the Galactic highway.

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Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Nobody: 10:55pm On Nov 23, 2020

ume1000:
if foolishness could be measured you would be used as its SI unit

I normally ignore comments like this, but I am making an exception for you. Not because you deserve it but you need to be educated and learn how to approach people.

Guy, our level of income differs and our disposable income varies.

Also we date different classes of ladies, so our approach will differ.

First date venue doesn't have a one answer fit all purpose.

I am yet to go on a date with a girl that brings anyone along with her without my express permission.

Also, the approach of asking a lady to suggest a venue is used for basically any girl I meet online, because I want her to be free, safe, comfortable and convenient.

I also want the same thing, to be free, safe, comfortable and convenient at the suggested place, so suggestions are open for deliberation before we agree to meet anywhere.

So if you still collect feeding allowance at home or you don't have a disposable income you can't use this approach or date girls in the category.

So guy, level pass level.

Ciao

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Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Yokgenero: 10:57pm On Nov 23, 2020

Mcslize:

If she likes you don't just bother taking her out. Just invite her straight to your grib. She will definitely come.

Once a girl likes you, it makes things easy. You won't do much.

If you are for the game then fix the 1st date in your house. She won't reject that... Use brain, something tells me that's the option she wanted.

Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by IamPlato(m): 10:58pm On Nov 23, 2020

Samakus:

The bolded has been activated already. Thanks for your advice all the same

mumu boy, if you know you will jump into conclusion quickly then why ask for advice.

did you bother to know why she didnt want there? no. you just accepted what the first commenter said. may god give you wisdom

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Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by ume1000: 11:01pm On Nov 23, 2020

BestAccessories:

I normally ignore comments like this, but I am making an exception for you. Not because you deserve it but you need to be educated and learn how to approach people.

Guy, our level of income differs and our disposable income varies.

Also we date different classes of ladies, so our approach will differ.

First date venue doesn't have a one answer fit all purpose.

I am yet to go on a date with a girl that brings anyone along with her without my express permission.

Also, the approach of asking a lady to suggest a venue is used for basically any girl I meet online, because I want her to be free, safe, comfortable and convenient.

I also want the same thing, to be free, safe, comfortable and convenient at the suggested place, so suggestions are open for deliberation before we agree to meet anywhere.

So if you still collect feeding allowance at home or you don't have a disposable income you can't use this approach or date girls in the category.

So guy, level pass level.

Ciao

Only FRAUDSTERS respond this way

Are you a FRAUDSTER

Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Juniorangel(m): 11:01pm On Nov 23, 2020

Guy up ur game, like someone said let her choose where she will be comfortable.

Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Nobody: 11:02pm On Nov 23, 2020

OgeFather:

The way guys are becoming soft and pathetic all the name of being romantic these days is so annoying. You met a girl and asked her out and she agreed but refused to come to your chosen location, wont that raise enough suspicions to stand your ground and know what is going on

Brother, I don't drink or smoke, so if a girl suggest we meet for the first time in a bar or lounge, I am not going.

I have blantly refused to go on a date with 2 different babes who suggested a bar/lounge for our first meeting.

A bar or lounge isn't an ideal place for me to meet you for the first time. It's a personal choice.

We can go or hangout at bars or lounge later with friends after knowing each other better but not the first date/encounter for me.

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Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by melodyblog: 11:02pm On Nov 23, 2020

Eyaaaaaaaa

Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by elbulk(m): 11:04pm On Nov 23, 2020

Samakus:
Hey guys.

I will be brief. So, I met a girl in church and one thing led to another and we exchanged contacts. We been chatting and talking ever since. I can tell she likes me a lot as she's always calling me on WhatsApp call and video calls.

So, we fixed our first date to be today. Told her I will call her by 4pm to give her the venue. I decided for us to hang out in a popular eatery close to my area. The place is quite busy on Sundays with lots of guys and babes coming around for dates and to chill. They usually have live band too with good meals and all other things.

Called babe by 4pm as I promised and gave her the location and she refused coming there. I even offered to pay for tfare even though I knew that that's not the reason but she wasn't having any of it. Initially, she said that she hasn't gone there before but wouldn't want to go there either. Pressing forward, babe gave a new funny excuse that her village people usually come to that venue . Like WTF . Granted, she's from the town but how will someone know that her village peeps goes to a place if you haven't been there before. Ofcourse i stood my ground and the date had to be cancelled. She's been chatting me and I haven't replied yet.

To the question, does it make sense for a lady to choose for a guy where to take her especially on a first date? Who wouldn't want to hangout in a popular relaxation spot if he/she doesn't have anything to hide? Anyways, I had to take two plates of goat peppersoup from my budget and a chilled Heineken beer to watch my Arsenal team mumu themselves, by the way. I can't come and kill myself on top my own money too

Becuase yu like a place doesn't meqn its a place she'll like to go. You chose where you lije without even finding out what kind of place she likes.

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Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Nobody: 11:05pm On Nov 23, 2020

ume1000:

Only FRAUDSTERS respond this way

Are you a FRAUDSTER

You have a long way to go, if after reading what I wrote you refer to me as a fraudster.

Maybe when you come of age and start working and making a living through legitimate means, you will understand what I just told you.

Ciao

Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by kevotek1000(m): 11:05pm On Nov 23, 2020

Personally I think this shouldn't have been an issue... Just respect her decision, girls love guys who don't force things... Your preferred meeting place is your choice not hers. One should learn to compromise on matters like this, after all, "man wey dey look 4 something na e hand dey long pass"... You fuccck up real time. Go and beg her na u get fault.... Leave E.G.O na wey tin kill 2020 be this.

Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by sherifjoo(m): 11:06pm On Nov 23, 2020

Bros no dull urself ,the lady na well known figure that place,that s why she refuses to honor the invitation n nothing more

Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by tunize(m): 11:07pm On Nov 23, 2020

Chai i can imagine the number of relationship that might have been destroyed due to some funny advice gotten from here. The funny aspect of it is that most peeps out here that gives out these advice do not practise it. O.p so you think is everybody that likes noisy or trending places to chill? Her reason might not add up, but don't be quick to jump into conclusion i don talk my own.

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Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by dFroshie(m): 11:07pm On Nov 23, 2020

ONLY MONEY IS THE RIGHT ONE

Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by alizma: 11:08pm On Nov 23, 2020

Samakus:
Hey guys.

I will be brief. So, I met a girl in church and one thing led to another and we exchanged contacts. We been chatting and talking ever since. I can tell she likes me a lot as she's always calling me on WhatsApp call and video calls.

So, we fixed our first date to be today. Told her I will call her by 4pm to give her the venue. I decided for us to hang out in a popular eatery close to my area. The place is quite busy on Sundays with lots of guys and babes coming around for dates and to chill. They usually have live band too with good meals and all other things.

Called babe by 4pm as I promised and gave her the location and she refused coming there. I even offered to pay for tfare even though I knew that that's not the reason but she wasn't having any of it. Initially, she said that she hasn't gone there before but wouldn't want to go there either. Pressing forward, babe gave a new funny excuse that her village people usually come to that venue . Like WTF . Granted, she's from the town but how will someone know that her village peeps goes to a place if you haven't been there before. Ofcourse i stood my ground and the date had to be cancelled. She's been chatting me and I haven't replied yet.

To the question, does it make sense for a lady to choose for a guy where to take her especially on a first date? Who wouldn't want to hangout in a popular relaxation spot if he/she doesn't have anything to hide? Anyways, I had to take two plates of goat peppersoup from my budget and a chilled Heineken beer to watch my Arsenal team mumu themselves, by the way. I can't come and kill myself on top my own money too

The first mistake of many guys in a relationship is having the thought that their new catch should be a woman clean of any form of relationship. Guy grow up. It is not up to you to choose location for your date, especially first date, when I want a girl, I conclude in my mind that someone maybe their before me but I believe I can make her forget the other person then I go in to give my luck a try. It is only a girl with conscience that feel like someone knows her in a particular that is why nothing concern ashawo, as you dey walk out, she dey call another customer, so you can approach any ashawo and I can assure you that you will be free to take her anywhere without any form of objection.

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Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Nobody: 11:09pm On Nov 23, 2020

Samakus:

I won't do that, sorry. I would rather 'down' my game. Now, run along sir

She don distribute oja for dere, fear church girls, she go choose when no b say na she wan sponsor

Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by ume1000: 11:09pm On Nov 23, 2020

BestAccessories:

You have a long way to go, if after reading what I wrote you refer to me as a fraudster.

Maybe when you come of age and start working and making a living through legitimate means, you will understand what I just told you.

Ciao

First you talk of class

Then your clique

My apologies

But you did sound like a fraudster (a yahoo boy to be precise)

Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Nobody: 11:11pm On Nov 23, 2020

Pharaoh4rin:

After all, two can play the game

Exactly, it takes 2 to tangle.

If she doesn't like the place you suggested, you either ask for counter-suggestion or end the chase.

It is also important to have a choice/spec that aligns with you before approaching a girl.

You meet a girl at a church and you are inviting her for first date at a bar/lounge.

Totally different environments and mindset.

If na chop and clean mouth you wan do, go straight don't go waste your money going on dates abeg.

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Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Nobody: 11:14pm On Nov 23, 2020

Cutehector:
She Don cast for that area. Use your head bro, she is not who you think she is.

gbam

Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Paulianfa(m): 11:15pm On Nov 23, 2020

May be she doesn't want a social gathering or a popular place like that, born again child of God don't o to such place! The excuse is just to cover up things and may be she doesn't want to stress u.
But I prefer u allow her to choose the location since it was a ist date.

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Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Alexaonfleek: 11:16pm On Nov 23, 2020

WoundedLamb:

Relationship? Is that what y'all call first date in Nigeria? Why do you let ego come in the way of logic? You walked up to a girl and convinced her to go out with you and then you turn around to start dictating where the meeting must be? The girl hasn't even accepted to be your girl and you're already fighting for who's in charge? Wow...

They have labeled her a prostitute already.

Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Nobody: 11:17pm On Nov 23, 2020

juneman:
Confirmed Guy! Guy you sabi. Person wey u neva marry... U don dey control

Control is needed though. But don't be authoritative about first date venue.

The Baba is a bit childish jarey, he just wan use and dump the girl. Or maybe want to get her drunk and have his way with her

You meet a girl in church and want to do first date at a bar/lounge.

Who does that.

Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Starzo: 11:19pm On Nov 23, 2020

pozehnani:

Keep quiet.! Cast kor, crew ni... Someone is trying to be careful and all you could say is this??. How can you possibly tell?
What if OP who suggested the place? Is he not a regular there?

You guys tend to think you're smart. I Like how she stood the OP up.

I guess he should have asked her to come to his house then, since having a date in a popular place/public meant he was trying to be mischievous.
Some of una go just open una mouth waaahhh and start vomiting rubbish

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Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by Christian07(m): 11:20pm On Nov 23, 2020

Am not ganna lie to you bro the truth of the matter is the place you say to take her to doesn’t seems friendly it sound like a place you take a girl to and end up at your house you should have considered other places like kfc, dominos to lick ice cream or mega chicken etc beside it’s ur first date and for er ppl not to see er is a place Nt meant for everyone

Are you suppose to be drinking beer on ur first date am confuse

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Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by spiralwedge(m): 11:21pm On Nov 23, 2020

Samakus:
Hey guys.

I will be brief. So, I met a girl in church and one thing led to another and we exchanged contacts. We been chatting and talking ever since. I can tell she likes me a lot as she's always calling me on WhatsApp call and video calls.

So, we fixed our first date to be today. Told her I will call her by 4pm to give her the venue. I decided for us to hang out in a popular eatery close to my area. The place is quite busy on Sundays with lots of guys and babes coming around for dates and to chill. They usually have live band too with good meals and all other things.

Called babe by 4pm as I promised and gave her the location and she refused coming there. I even offered to pay for tfare even though I knew that that's not the reason but she wasn't having any of it. Initially, she said that she hasn't gone there before but wouldn't want to go there either. Pressing forward, babe gave a new funny excuse that her village people usually come to that venue . Like WTF . Granted, she's from the town but how will someone know that her village peeps goes to a place if you haven't been there before. Ofcourse i stood my ground and the date had to be cancelled. She's been chatting me and I haven't replied yet.

To the question, does it make sense for a lady to choose for a guy where to take her especially on a first date? Who wouldn't want to hangout in a popular relaxation spot if he/she doesn't have anything to hide? Anyways, I had to take two plates of goat peppersoup from my budget and a chilled Heineken beer to watch my Arsenal team mumu themselves, by the way. I can't come and kill myself on top my own money too

your suspicion is correct.
she's popular at that spot for dates or known with someone there already.
she's either a public dog or simply cant move on in the same area where she had once dated someone.
if it's the latter, then understand her and move the venue elsewhere. if unsure, go to that spot with her pictue, you will get all your facts there.

Re: First Date And She Refused To Come To A Cool Place I Suggested by FashionCookie(f): 11:21pm On Nov 23, 2020

Woman no good, woman no good. You guys will not still allow them rest. Alpha male don come here now dey wail. Ogbeni let's hear word. Shior!

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