U nailed it

Thattallgirl:
Lol pele... mostly it happens when the lady isn't just interested in you or she's not interested in having a conversation with you. And sometimes, that's how some ladies are like. They're not just big on conversations... some guys are like that too. One time, I was chatting with a guy, I was mostly the one asking questions. He even gave me topics to discuss, topics to ask him. Lol I just had to ignore him.

thunderfirebubu:
stale.. U sef follow girls dey talk dis rubbish? Oga 80% of naija girls chat like that. How about girlfriends/wives that chat that way, they are not into the guys/husbands I guess?

Or does it mean low quality girls can't learn? If they can't learn at the low is it when they get to high quality they will learn?

U guys should stop defending rubbish it's too annoying.
Tell it to them they way it is that's only when they will change.

You attract your type.

Personally the girls I hang out with do not use monosyllables when chatting

The conversation probably isn't interesting enough or you're trying so hard.

And it might not be anyone's fault, some people prefer speaking face-to-face and may appear very numb on social media.

Either way, don't beat yourself up about it.

nurain150:
I respect their privacy that why I won't post our whatsapp message.I have this sister more of a sister all she keeps saying is lol,smile I be like wtf.The other ones are just boring.

jelel6:


I get your point. I really do. And I usually don't take extreme positions on a given issue so I'm not in support of the majority of the guy's popular notion on this.

However, do you realize that someone - like me - may interpret your submission as you suggesting that the fruitfulness or lack thereof, of a Discuss, Chat, Meeting, Brainstorming, etc, between a Guy and a Lady LARGELY DEPENDS ON THE CONVERSATIONAL SKILLs of The GUY?

If yes, why so?

I'm really looking forward to your response to this.

Well, I never said the outcome of a conversation depends solely on the guy. I'm sure my previous post isn't close to that by any tinge. If you read what I wrote, I blamed the both parties; the guys and girls. The outcome of a conversation depends on both individuals trying to communicate; communication shouldn't be one sided. Both have to be willing to talk and exchange idea between each other. It is not the sole responsibility of the guy to stir a conversation, although guys tend to take the lead, while the girl might sit, relax and the guy tries to impress. If you like talk and garnish you words like Shakespeare, if the girl isn't feeling you or you notice those short replies, just forget it and move ahead.

Kobicove:


You attract your type.

Personally the girls I hang out with do not use monosyllables when chatting

explain to me why married women chat that way to their husbands.
Like I said earlier stop defending rubbish, rebuke any bad you discover in someone that's the only way to help a person to change.

Buzx:


I'll love to have that conversation with you

Lol...clever guy. Keep it up.

Ikillbrokehoes:
Fvck off!

That isn't an insultive sentence.
Why not answer my question?

Thattallgirl:
Lol pele... mostly it happens when the lady isn't just interested in you or she's not interested in having a conversation with you. And sometimes, that's how some ladies are like. They're not just big on conversations... some guys are like that too. One time, I was chatting with a guy, I was mostly the one asking questions. He even gave me topics to discuss, topics to ask him. Lol I just had to ignore him.

na so una dey always talk, the girl is interested in him, that's why . so when will girls be interested and also interesting?,. girls are always confused, I ghost and friendzone them easily,. they so daft and boring.

Brownpeanut:


Well, I never said the outcome of a conversation depends solely on the guy. I'm sure my previous post isn't close to that by any tinge. If you read what I wrote, I blamed the both parties; the guys and girls. The outcome of a conversation depends on both individuals trying to communicate; communication shouldn't be one sided. Both have to be willing to talk and exchange idea between each other. It is not the sole responsibility of the guy to stir a conversation, although guys tend to take the lead, while the girl might sit, relax and the guy tries to impress. If you like talk and garnish you words like Shakespeare, if the girl isn't feeling you or you notice those short replies, just forget it and move ahead.

I said LARGELY, not SOLELY as you countered.

This your response painted two pictures:

In the first few paragraphs, you've attempted to define what the IDEAL conversation between two people (Guy and Lady in this case ) should look or feel like.

And in the latter part, you are vividly discribing the REALITY OF MOST CONVERSATIONS. The one which guys tend to, or have to take the initiative of striking, and keeping up the mood of the conversation with ladies.

Now, this is what I find interesting:

You've used words and phrases like I've highlighted above...

Now, why do I have to accomplish any of the above before I can strike or enjoy a fruitful conversation with a woman who's not my wife or girlfriend? - like a classmate, a neighbor, a coworker, or a stranger who may turn out a prospective friend?

I mean, we should be able to talk about our mutual interests even though we only met a minute ago on a bus. As long as both parties feel respected while on it.

Heck, I don't think I've had to impressed you or you necessarily liked me for us to have this 'Conversation', or did I?

anthonyuncle:
1. because most of them are olodos

2. because most of them have that believe that anytime a guy initiates a conversation with them, he is aiming for their pussy

na wetin simps cause na...

khiaa:

Aww!! What happened? You use to be so in love with her.

Now, now, now girl don't make pull off an intercontinental spanking stunt. It can be stressful for you

KimberlyWest:


Thank you for this response. That's just it.

I also see some guys complaining about "walking through fire" to get a girl's number, then in the end she starts replying with "k" "lol" and "lmao"

The babe is not just into you, bro. Don't be surprised that there's a guy who she legit replies to with a whole page of textbook.

Nobody is boring. It's either they're not interested in your kind of conversations, or they don't want to talk with you.

Saying nobody is boring to me is absurd, even if they're into you they just can't hold meaningful conversation. Had an experience from my ex, I know she loves me from her actions. But our conversation was only one sided, cause I initiate all the conversation from inception and all she does is reply. Told her why she said that's how she is. There are girls(guys)who can't hold conversation even if they are into you and vice versa

tobenuel:
na so una dey always talk, the girl is interested in him, that's why . so when will girls be interested and also interesting?,. girls are always confused, I ghost and friendzone them easily,. they so daft and boring.

If you say so

Says who?

Na you never meet pussy we dey enlighten

Most babes I come across

Dey converse wella

Unless dem no wan follow you talk, or dem like you or dem no get sense.

Most girls we dey call olosho, na fire brain, but we don use money cover their sense of reasoning. Na I'm make dem dey do like say dem dey dumb.


FATALE

nurain150:
I respect their privacy that why I won't post our whatsapp message.I have this sister more of a sister all she keeps saying is lol,smile I be like wtf.The other ones are just boring.

Perhaps she finds you boring? If you don't share similar interests then she will also find you uninteresting.

Ishilove:

Perhaps she finds you boring? If you don't share similar interests then she will also find you uninteresting.

maybe

Fatale:
Says who?

Na you never meet pussy we dey enlighten

Most babes I come across

Dey converse wella

Unless dem no wan follow you talk, or dem like you or dem no get sense.

Most girls we dey call olosho, na fire brain, but we don use money cover their sense of reasoning. Na I'm make dem dey do like say dem dey dumb.


FATALE

this one no be relationship matter at all.im talking on a neutral level

jelel6:


I said LARGELY, not SOLELY as you countered.

This your response painted two pictures:

In the first few paragraphs, you've attempted to define what the IDEAL conversation between two people (Guy and Lady in this case ) should look or feel like.

And in the latter part, you are vividly discribing the REALITY OF MOST CONVERSATIONS. The one which guys tend to, or have to take the initiative of striking, and keeping up the mood of the conversation with ladies.

Now, this is what I find interesting:

You've used words and phrases like I've highlighted above...

Now, why do I have to accomplish any of the above before I can strike or enjoy a fruitful conversation with a woman who's not my wife or girlfriend? - like a classmate, a neighbor, a coworker, or a stranger who may turn out a prospective friend?

[b]I mean, we should be able to talk about our mutual interests even though we only met a minute ago on a bus. [/b]As long as both parties feel respected while on it.

Heck, I don't think I've had to impressed you or you necessarily liked me for us to have this 'Conversation', or did I?

Absolutely, you can chit-chat with your coworkers, neighbours, strangers on the bus etc. It's normal. And that's a different scenario. Don't you do that without them having to process if they like you or not? But the moment they sense you're trying to get them or impressive them, it will be a different thing, you know? On the long run, if you're trying to impress a lady, her response boils down to if she likes you or not. And you know, people can be different when actually talking to each other physically vs via social media. I understand you. But we talking about conversation via social media. Like I said, people interact different according to the medium. "Why people behave the way they do during a conversation" is a deep question and they're a lot of factors contributing to this.

Most gals want u to do d chasing and not dem.. DAT y dy form..

Blame that on our environment,mind you alot of folks ain't really living life,trying to survive is the situation they go through on a daily.

Now a settin like this won't encourage individuals with tangible things to talk about,take for instance.

1.The environment ain't enabling

2.The system is messed up

It might take a long time for intelligent people to walk the street of Nigeria.

How can you have a hearty or thrilling conversation with someone who doesn't know now to express herself in words?

Most Nigerian girls don't even know how to articulate a sentence. If they dare, you'll be left confused.

To avoid embarrassing themselves, they reply with one or two words.

Call the same boring girl on phone and you'll see that she's a talkative.

anthonyuncle:
1. because most of them are olodos

2. because most of them have that believe that anytime a guy initiates a conversation with them, he is aiming for their pussy

Is he not aiming for their pvssy?

Don't mind those people saying she's not into you that's why. Nigerian girls are just boring!! Must a girl be into you before she can have a good conversation with you? If she's not in the mood for chatting why not just tell you straight up?

Thattallgirl:
Lol pele... mostly it happens when the lady isn't just interested in you or she's not interested in having a conversation with you. And sometimes, that's how some ladies are like. They're not just big on conversations... some guys are like that too. One time, I was chatting with a guy, I was mostly the one asking questions. He even gave me topics to discuss, topics to ask him. Lol I just had to ignore him.

Can you discuss international politics with me? The truth is that its only fewest % of naija girls that can go on all round conversation.

Mostly they grounded on relationship or schooling (not education) conversations.

Draught:
Honestly I swear.. It's so bad sometimes in the evenings I have to send her a whatsapp saying I would have to call her very late that she shouldn't wait up.. Imagine am even avoiding calling her!

It's mentally draining..
For example we took pics on a certain day, I asked talked to me.. She said nothing!!!! Ordinary those pics we took you can make a comment or even talk something bout it...

I consistently always bring up new topics or convo, all she does is follow my lead and I just told her.. Am not the harbourer of knowledge, you have to share also with me..

I have so much to say on this topic but let me not derail..

she don't love you bro

Collegelove:
Lol...clever guy. Keep it up.

Lol, the girl go Sabi chat.

Brownpeanut:
Well, not all girls. You have to understand that we have our attention divided and we can't please everyone, most especially if the lady is not feeling you. There's always a special somebody, or special set of people. But the truth be told, the way some ladies chat will bore most guys. Some guys too don't know how to chat. Ask open ended questions that will require her to express herself. Not yes and no questions. Some guys will also bore you to death. But if you're the kind of guy that knows the art of communication and know how to pull the strings, you're going to intrigue most intelligent ladies. And always know when to end the conversation; don't drag a dying conversation for too long.

Madam, high % of naija girls are only grounded on relationship / romance stuff, even on relationship u still need to subject them to interview

Sixfeetbelle:


Is he not aiming for their pvssy?

u can't tell

which kind name be brown peanut ? nothing person no go see for nairaland

Thattallgirl:
Lol pele... mostly it happens when the lady isn't just interested in you or she's not interested in having a conversation with you. And sometimes, that's how some ladies are like. They're not just big on conversations... some guys are like that too. One time, I was chatting with a guy, I was mostly the one asking questions. He even gave me topics to discuss, topics to ask him. Lol I just had to ignore him.

madam forget am most Nigerian girls have nothing in their skull except brain and it empty brain

Brownpeanut:


Absolutely, you can chit-chat with your coworkers, neighbours, strangers on the bus etc. It's normal. And that's a different scenario. Don't you do that without them having to process if they like you or not? But the moment they sense you're trying to get them or impressive them, it will be a different thing, you know? On the long run, if you're trying to impress a lady, her response boils down to if she likes you or not. And you know, people can be different when actually talking to each other physically vs via social media. I understand you. But we talking about conversation via social media. Like I said, people interact different according to the medium. "Why people behave the way they do during a conversation" is a deep question and they're a lot of factors contributing to this.

I agree with a lot of what you've said earlier and relate with the majority of them. As for the bolded, I agree completely.

However, maybe it's not a question of behaviour but ability. For guys, we can mostly tell which it is. I'm not so sure for girls.

Fussion1000:



Can you discuss international politics with me? The truth is that its only fewest % of naija girls that can go on all round conversation.

Mostly they grounded on relationship or schooling (not education) conversations.

I try to know bits of everything and any topic I don't understand or know, I ask u to explain to me while I learn instead of looking dumb like I don't care. At least that makes the conversation flow as I'll be asking more and more questions. We can't know everything. Same with guys. You're saying it as if majority of guys have a knowledge box in their heads where they know every topics in the world. We learn everyday. Some girls may be like this too.