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lekki1444:
brother, women are punishment for men. once you understnd that you will stop looking for a good woman but will start to make your way good and righteous with God, then God will tame your woman and will let her be at peace with you. but to think there is a peaceful woman out there is foolishness. they are luna beings aka lunatic. only God can tame your woman for you and that is incumbent on you taming yourself first

A bolded deep word!!!

sammirano:


Tales by moonlight. In you own best interest forget about that woman. If someone can leave you at any point due to one thing or the other, then they will leave you when such happens in future its all about time.

The problem is men love easily but to find a woman that loves you is hard. That's why I said men should try and marry the person they don't love.

Noted. Thanks

BusinessCity:



My brother God Don pick your call abeg. God bless you for this testimony. Keep an open mind, you may meet good women from different nationality all the way

Best of luck

Thank you

olujastro:

You see trouble and wan carry yourself enter by yourself. Tomorrow you will come back to this same Nairaland to cry about women.
You see a girl who is clearly an opportunist and you are writing long story about love which is supposed to be unconditional.
Better move on and face your life in Canada, otherwise divorce awaits you here when things are not going well for you.
Living abroad requires that you have to be more careful in choosing your life partner because the environment here is naturally friendly for divorce.
A word is enough for the wise!

No mind am he no wan learn

thunderfirebubu:
Wetin concern me with naija girls.

Best comment of the day!!!!!!

lordally:


Bro let me tell you the truth and nothing but the absolute truth!!! Any girl that leaves you for another man when it becomes bad...and comes back when it's good , will definitely leave you for someone else you know why because it can never always be good all the time!!! Look at USA which is the world power they face Recession once in a while self....bro please I beg you in the name of God!!! Don't shoot yourself in the foot by bringing her back!!! For Christ sake!!! Haven't you seen it clearly that she doesn't love you enough to ride with you even during rainy days God!!!! Please be wise!!! See I finished school in 2016 met my girlfriend that same year ...I had extra year self she was there and always supported...2017 was hell for me and she was still there...when her room mate goes out with guys and they buy things for them....my girl would come visit me and when she's going home she would get herself things and tell them I bought for her!!! .... As in she never left me!!! God did it and my name came out for NYSC in 2018 she came to spend some time with me in the place I served ...I passed out in 2019, October 30 and she came to rejoice with me...and currently I still don't have a job cos I'm currently undergoing a training...and sha still supportive no money nothing nothing she still dey here!!! I was denied US Visa last year and she has always known I would love to relocate abroad and guess what recently she's working towards Securing a loan of 1 Millionaire for me ...and this girl is just 22 waiting for service...I try my best as a man and she sees it and that's all she needs.....now when things becomes well for me tomorrow do you think I will forget her? Never!!!! I'm making plans to Relocate to POLAND and what's holding me back is Finance ...shs working on it likewise me too...more like its a joint Goal!!! .....my brother don't go back to that girl!!! If not you are likely to live the rest of your life in regret!!! I'm telling you that there are good girls who are ready to stand by you tru the sun , Rain and Storm!!! .... I would advice you stay single until you move to Canada the you get a white girl abeg!!! ....let this your EX who dumped you the time you needed her the most see you find true love again and loving a good life!!! That's the best Revenge ever!!!! ONE LOVE BRO!!

True sometimes ladies get impatient especially ladies less than 25, you think in many different directions, you want many things at a time, intentionally or unintentionally, our wants and needs make us narrow minded and we get to make avoidable mistakes, does that make us terrible, is it so unforgivable? What if she is truly sorry and has learnt and matured with time. What makes you think that you are not also in your relationship for one selfish reason or the other, the thing is we all get selfish at some point in our lives, this lady you speak so highly of what is the assurance that you won't dumb her when things get green for you then she suddenly becomes annoying, fat or unattractive or some flimsy excuse arises. Don't always use ones story or act to judge another, as it is not always the case.

All those girls you normally crush find one and marry oga and stop deceiving yourself.

studentofTruth:


It's nearly impossible to find an intelligent and beautiful woman who is without a man in her life. Some of us don't believe in woman snatching! That's where they difficulty lies

I think you're right!

Good women for marriage are hard to find, most are selfish, boring, too materialistic and self centered. Don't be desperate about it, there are still many women out there, you just have to be on the look out while you go about your daily life. Mingle, socialize, go to gatherings, church, beach, hang out, dress cool, be attractive and neat, be conversational, be relaxed and not be desperate, you would end up having up to nothing less than ten girls numbers, then screening starts like who's entering university. Be friends with all of them to see truly, who fits in to be your ideal woman, remember no one is perfect.

Lets b frnds and start from somwhere

Try harder

Yes, it's harder than passing through the eye of the needle.

Especially when you're in Nigeria, and you're trapped to chose from Nigerian girls.

cococandy:
I wish someone would advice this 22yr old girl to focus on herself rather than working on you and securing loans for you with hopes that your magnanimity will be what her future needs. In 10yrs time when you probably have something worthwhile going for yourself, she will become ‘too fat’ ‘too old’ ‘too opinionated’ etc for you.

Hello thanks for the mention and the comment...you spoke well and I get your point...Now lemme just address your well concerned points you said she's focusing on me no not at all she's not my dream has always been to leave NIGERIA and she's supportive that's all...she is such a person that feels bad when people say things about her...I had to work on that I tried in bringing out the best in her Academically Emotionally Financially and other wise.... She goes to Aba to buy shoes and sells I linked her up with a friend to teach her how to make the shoes herself and sell it so she could make more gain and guess what, I Paid for the training....secondly she was done with school and had issues....you know all these mising script stuff and cases where you worte well and something else would be given to you she needed money for it and I gave her money for it...I also linked her up with an academic staff who was a former course mate to make sure her Academic issues are resolved legally I swear it wasn't easy but I had to push it with all I had cos I know my girl ,that school issue could drive her into depression and that's what I made sure I avoided Thank God it's all been fixed and she appreciates my effort...last year she was Kidnapped and wasn't seen for 3 or 2 days and with my street smartness I was able to trace her phone then DSS was involved I was able to get the details of the person who kidnapped her including his name and bank details I was ready to borrow money to pursue the case cos DSS had to collect money for the case to progress but her parents dropped the case after she was found I still went forward but She begged me to let it die cos she was trying to forget the whole saga cos of her sanity I swear thank God I listened to her cos I was ready to spill blood to get to Bastards!! And I was running all this thing while I was serving her family where shocked about how I showed concern even more than most of their immediate family members self ....when she was fine I had to go see her in Abia state I took her on one week get away all fully paid my me. I just don't wanna say much abi na the phones wey I don buy for am or the gift I give her on each Valentine and birthday The list goes on and on

On the Loan Aspect it's this Federal Govt Covid Survival Funds...her sister has a friend or so who helps to get it so she told the sister and the sis asked for my details so I'm expecting it hopefully December or January... My BVN and other details via attached so I'll still pay she's gotten hers too for her own business so it's a win win!! We both win


You said 10yrs from now I'll have things going on for me and she'll be too old for me... Well I definitely understand why you say this cos honestly guys have left such girls who has been with them which is not fair at all...well for me 10yrs is too much co by God's grace , I've gotten a Job offer in POLAND which by God's grace I would be leaving next year so 10yrs is far... For us Marriage isn't the issue...cos she's not ready yet she's working on setting up her Poultry business in the east but this ASUU Strike is just putting things on hold cos without ASUU she wouldn't be mobilized to serve.....I've offered to go see her Dad but she's not ready yet I don't really wanna go into details cos this is a Public forum so I wanna keep things private dear...see there are still good guys and girls out there!!! I'm I'm one of them....

I and my Girl don't wanna have a suffering future we wanna have a stable financial future where we can travel the world and give our kids good life!!! That's why we are outing so many things on hold ...So my dear it's not all about me or all about her....it's all about US!!

MAY God help us to achieve our goals coupled with meeting the right people who would Compliment our peace of mind. Thanks Cococandy

madridsta007:


You need to carry on with life NOT looking for a lady to get married to, primarily. In that way you would build friendships with ladies for being ladies and not with ladies for being marriage material.
You'll get to know them well.
Slowly, you will mentally develop a list and you will find yourself gravitating to one or two.
Of course you should pray along the way and be led by logic and rational and please NOT by emotions or love. Because that fine face, big front, big back will disappear. You will be faced with the real person.

Yah I get the gist.. I'm takin my time bro

Truvel:
Op, It's Hard. It's Like Looking 4 An Original Phone Battery To Buy. And U Know What? If U Are Not Careful & Smart, U Will Buy D Fake Thinking It's Original.

My brother, quit patronising those Computer Village phone accessory sellers! Try 3C Hub and Slot, you will surely get original phone batteries.

I am simply saying "You Guys" should quit searching at the wrong places!

My dear trying to find a good guy sef is not easy, but remember to always pray about it, if it's sent by God then it will be perfect for you.

Berryli:

True sometimes ladies get impatient especially ladies less than 25, you think in many different directions, you want many things at a time, intentionally or unintentionally, our wants and needs make us narrow minded and we get to make avoidable mistakes, does that make us terrible, is it so unforgivable? What if she is truly sorry and has learnt and matured with time. What makes you think that you are not also in your relationship for one selfish reason or the other, the thing is we all get selfish at some point in our lives, this lady you speak so highly of what is the assurance that you won't dumb her when things get green for you then she suddenly becomes annoying, fat or unattractive or some flimsy excuse arises. Don't always use ones story or act to judge another, as it is not always the case.

You spoke well bro!! And you spoke wisely bro!! I respect you for that...the thing is based on my experience any girl who leaves you due to your present situation even after she sees how you're trying so hard to progress in life doesn't deserve you...that's just what I think... And as regards my girl, I don't think I can leave her you know why See I grew up in a lovely home where I saw the love between my dad and my mum and I was proud the love was so cool it rubbed on I and my bro then tragedy struck and she died of cancer now after some time, my dad remarried and that was the worst mistake he made in his life the woman he married doesn't give him peace of mind!! So as a guy who has experienced these 2 type of scenario and I've gotten enough Tutoring about marriage from my dad for years...when I spotted her I knew she was the one. The only person holding us from settling down is her...cos she's not ready yet...she wants to serve and set up her own business or starts working before marriage and I respect that...

Respect bro!!

It's not so hard. Most of " " are home, nursing heartbreak and dedicating time to other things. Most of the time, it seems they're also not meeting guys that are responsible. Just the way good guys aren't seeing "the one", so also are good ladies not also seeing "the one".

O boy , if u wan get correct person na prayer u go pray o

Funkyswagzz:
This is roughly a year and four months I have decided to find someone to marry. It's been so dramatic all along and I'm getting tried already. I want a woman who I am compatible with. I don't need anyone that is hot tempered or stubborn. I want a woman that is hard workin who loves me the way i am. Is it so difficult to find? I came out from a crazy relationship and I don't want to experience something like that anymore. I don't want issues all the time.

The funny thing happening at the moment is that am "tryin to"(still at the process) date my ex's high school mate. The way our part crossed again was just ironic. Sometimes I feel stupid for tryin to date her tho she's not the reason why we broke up. Salute to those that got married. Abeg how una take do am..

with prayers it will b eazy nd don't rush things

BusinessCity:



Okay. Greet broda for us

Lol okay sir

@op very difficult that is the truth some hoe around just sit an spit rubbish. Beds of the same feather flock together. See many women you see today just want to bear mrs an be in the league of marriage even when ur character is nothing to write home about. No love, just after material gain see na waiting woman wan gain from her man she they find even when the love is not there that is why you see most of them are olosho even the ones that claim to be married are hoes. It is just by God grace. Who quote me for saying the truth should hug transformer.

Donspicey:



Go out,,Mingle and make friends with ladies?


Bro i hv done dat bfr bt it usually doesnt end up well......

Wen i need true love,dey will be after d money.....


Wen i need sexmate,dey will be talking abt WE settling down wen its obvious she is a love peddler.....



Way forward.......

hmmmmmm....d love peddlers always talk about settling down

Really! See the irony of life.
And I'm surrounded with good ladies looking for good men to marry. Unfortunately, there are few good men there. Most just want sex

anonymous1759:


I understand your frustration @op the truth is that you can't get a perfect Lady find the one you can cope with her flaws.
With all due respect to the southern ladies their eyes are too open and majorly of them are rude, impulsive , materialistic and stubborn.

I'm wondering how these Norhern men Manage more than one wife without billions or millions and still earn respect from their wives .The money you used to do sureness for one southern girl is enough to marry from the North and yet our ladies here don't appreciate it.

I'm changing route to the North . Whether Hausa or Fulani relegion don't matter . Northern brothers what's the secret of your ladies being submissive regardless of the financial status of the man.

Very true

placeofallure:
Many women these days are after money, whatever they can gain. Even men too are looking for women they can milk dry all in the name of relationship. When I was still in the dating game, I don't know how to ask for money or any help at all, it makes me feel lowly kind of. My self esteem wouldn't let me. But girls these days no send you o.

It's what humanity has become. No consideration for you fellow human being. Why do it if it will hurt the person next to you? People care about themselves alone - me, myself and I. That mentality extends to relationships. I don't know why both parties can't love selflessly.

Shows you're knowledgeable. I think the problem is selfishness and lack of empathy. If we are groomed with being selfless and can project others in our shoes, life would be easy, and I think relationships would mostly work out. I know selflessness and empathy breeds other qualities essential for a man and a woman to stick together and love through all seasons. Unfortunately, the opposite is what humanity has become.
Thanks for sharing your thought.

cococandy:
I wish someone would advice this 22yr old girl to focus on herself rather than working on you and securing loans for you with hopes that your magnanimity will be what her future needs. In 10yrs time when you probably have something worthwhile going for yourself, she will become ‘too fat’ ‘too old’ ‘too opinionated’ etc for you.

I think it is hard to tell how it will turn out. I think success does actually happen where we think failure is inevitable. What if this guy is true to his words and commit to this girl and they both make it? Remember, in every 1000 love/relationship story you read, there's always 5-10 unique ones that baffle our assumptions/perspective about things? Remember that there are still young men and women who found true love, whose souls glue and transcends every form of abnormalities we see in our society today?

I think it is too early to judge him, to say that this girl would not have a place in his life in the next 10 years. Actually, what if she turns out to be his support, inspiration, an example of ideal woman, etc? Darling, true love happens, and I want to say I am proud that the lady is there and continue to be there for him. I will only pray: May God keeps these two together, and may the lordally never get full of himself that he forgets the woman that stays by his side during his dark days. I hope they marry and tell their children and the world their beautiful story. AMEN!

yes, very difficult just like finding a compatible girlfriend or finding anything good about Nigeria

fairheart:

I think it is hard to tell how it will turn out. I think success does actually happen where we think failure is inevitable. What if this guy is true to his words and commit to this girl and they both make it? Remember, in every 1000 love/relationship story you read, there's always 5-10 unique ones that baffle our assumptions/perspective about things? Remember that there are still young men and women who found true love, whose souls glue and transcends every form of abnormalities we see in our society today?

I think it is too early to judge him, to say that this girl would not have a place in his life in the next 10 years. Actually, what if she turns out to be his support, inspiration, an example of ideal woman, etc? Darling, true love happens, and I want to say I am proud that the lady is there and continue to be there for him. I will only pray: May God keeps these two together, and may the lordally never get full of himself that he forgets the woman that stays by his side during his dark days. I hope they marry and tell their children and the world their beautiful story. AMEN!

Amen ooo...Thanks so much God bless you!!! Peace of Mind won't Seize from your house

studentofTruth:


You pray all the prayers and know the qualities you are looking for, but the problem is that all the women that tick those boxes you meet are either married or in serious relationships. What do you do?

What's yours will find u