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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by eazyjay4(m): 9:41am On Dec 08, 2020
What's your location? I can book you for a free counseling session if we are in the same location so we talk.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Nobody: 9:42am On Dec 08, 2020
PapaNwaeje:
sad angry


Women are wicked!


I have someone who could help monitor her calls and WhatsApp chats..

Hit me up for their contact
Dami.ojo@yahoo.com
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Nobody: 9:42am On Dec 08, 2020
BlessedNuel:


Yes sure...but they are just few.

It's very hard for them to be contented......their inferiority complex is on a top notch

Women are very easy to bend and control, that's how God designed them, provided you are man enough, very surprising how some guys are complaining as if women are beasts. Even beasts are still controllable by men.

Before you married, make sure you subject the girl you intended to marry to competency test of what you want in marriage, you too you must leave and do duty of s man in the house.

Surely intruders (infidelity, peer pressure, family pressure) will try to strike the marriage, as a man you must ready anytime & any day to attack them vehemently,

(Not to defend ur marriage o, but attack the intruders)

If intruders and wife known the stuff you are made of. They will sit back and allow you to enjoy ur marriage
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by imoni1010: 9:43am On Dec 08, 2020
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

I go advice you make u kill urself but before u do that, u for show me the woman
Mtcheew
I swear any man wey e die because of woman
Men dey wey go wear that woman well and u go regret to ever die, have u thought of who will take care of ur child after u have gone, suicide is double punishment God and humanity will never ever forgive u
I refuse to die for woman wahala
When I was in such situation I had to let her go after given birth to one child, nothing is more important to me than my life
I love my life
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by mabea: 9:43am On Dec 08, 2020
CAPSLOCKED:



MOST MARRIED PEOPLE LIVE LIKE THIS AND IT'S STARTING TO FEEL LIKE MARRIAGE HAS OUTLIVED ITS USEFULNESS.

I'VE FIGURED MANY PEOPLE (WOMEN ESPECIALLY) GET MARRIED BECAUSE OF THE "WEDDING". YES. FOR THEM IT'S THE WEDDING PARTY, FANCY DRESSES AND PICTURES, AND ATTENTION THAT MATTERS. WHAT HAPPENS AFTER THAT DAY IS HARDLY GIVEN A THOUGHT AS LONG AS THE WEDDING DAY IS REMARKABLE AND MASSIVE.
MANY MEN ENTER INTO MARRIAGE TO SATISFY THEIR FAMILY AND RELATIONSHIP PARTNERS. THERE'S HARDLY ANY FAMILY TODAY THAT CAN SAY THEY'RE 100% HAPPY WITH EACH OTHER. IT'S LIKE THE REGRET SETS IN 30 MINUTES AFTER THE WEDDINGS AND EVERYBODY WISHES THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE DONE THIS.

WHAT FOLLOWS ARE SILLY EXCUSES, THAT "NO MARRIAGE IS PERFECT". THE TRUTH IS THAT MOST MARRIAGES SHOULD NEVER HAVE HAPPENED, AND THE VERY FEW MARRIAGES THAT EXISTS WITHOUT REGRETS ARE THE PERFECT ONES THAT MOST LOSERS PRETEND DOESN'T EXIST.
I quite agree with you. I wish those anti marriage agents here should read this post.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by owunabastard: 9:43am On Dec 08, 2020
You spoke with wisdom, I wish all men should read this
BlessedNuel:


Bro...I no go lie give you.

If I eventually get married...I will never checkmate my wife.

I don't care.....once I notice a slight change in her behaviour.....I will refrain from going raw with her... probably we will have to go for a snappy test once more before I continue..

Na just 4 kids wey I want and once I don get em..no shaking.... I will surely go for a DNA test with all of my kids....once positive...No wahala.

She can go ahead to do whatever she wants.... Personally,I was advised by my grandfather never to dey chook eye inside woman matter.

No matter what you do...you can never satisfy them....He told me that If I want to live long...I should bother less about women

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Nobody: 9:44am On Dec 08, 2020
dealhunter:
You have not tell us what ur wife did!....from her chat,shee the guy still dey Bleep ur wife nii?...abi wetin you see from her chatting?


I have someone who could help monitor her calls and WhatsApp chats..

Hit me up for their contact
Dami.ojo@yahoo.com
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by MyVILLAGEpeople(m): 9:44am On Dec 08, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

I will advice you immediately carry paternity test on those kids you call yours. It's obvious your wife has been hoeing around.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Tajbol4splend(m): 9:45am On Dec 08, 2020
You will set up some women a good business, they will wake up to the business at 12 pm and close by 5pm, this life no balance gaskiya
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by CzarChris(m): 9:45am On Dec 08, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.
And people keep asking me why I'm still not married at my age. There's only so much a man can take. I know myself, she'd prefer death to living with me if I finally cut rope. i won't beat her o. I don't beat women, but I'll deal with her so much she'll prefer being dead.

Guy all i can tell you is this, "man the fucck up and quit being a punnany".
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by flamingREED(m): 9:46am On Dec 08, 2020
Wait.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by EJNM: 9:47am On Dec 08, 2020
I really feel your pains because I nearly died during my own encounter with my ex-wife. But thank God for His mercy upon my life.
My brother, killing yourself in order to solve marriage problem will creat more compound problems both your children, relatives and you in hell fire. So, remove suicide among the lists of your options.
During the time I had similar situation like yours, I ran to God. I declared forty days of fasting and prayers asking God for directions. My Bible was my best friend then.
Mine was so terrible because she has son already. But, God in His infinite wisdom handled the situation miraculously.
The best thing you can do in this situation now is to seek the face of God through prayers, and not to think of suicide. Because God your father is also feeling your pains. Call upon Him in the time if trouble and He will answer you.
Jesus loves you! He will help you out of this mess and you will testify at the end!

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by smokey12345: 9:47am On Dec 08, 2020
I checked your profile and i saw what you posted earlier before this very post tagged "God Is So Amazing"
Id like to ask Is that God not amazing again?
Is he not faithful again?

I would also like to ask, have you really confirmed that she is commiting the stuffs you have concluded in your mind?
Have you sat her down and ask her questions, Have you asked her again how she really feel about you?

Suicide is never an option sir, Your Children want to have you sit on their wedding day, Your female children want Dad to walk them to the Aisle, Its when something good is waiting for you at the corner thats when thoughts like this come. one thing we dont remember is that ..

1. YOu can never understand the creature that was make while you are asleep. women are not meant to be understood, Just love them.
2. Even the Eve God gave to Adam cheated with the Snake talkless of the one we found ourselves.

My conclusion is Love can Tame the Wildest Animal.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by petitejolie(f): 9:47am On Dec 08, 2020
This marriage wahala sef. If u no give ur husband wahala, husband go give u wahala and vice versa. Na wa o

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Johnsown1(m): 9:47am On Dec 08, 2020
Taking your own life won't solve the problem sir rather it will worsen it. Immediately they hear that your dead, they will become a good family friend,Bleep your wife officially and makes sure that she lack nothing then your kids and your siblings will be the hotest gist in town. So think twice before you act.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by godliman: 9:47am On Dec 08, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:


You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.
pardon his harshness but get the point, don't commit suicide! If you do you will join Judas, Hitler and Ahitophel in hell. Pls we don't know you but nonetheless we love you, Care for you and feel your pain. There are enough troubles aready on earth dont add another. Save us the pain and tears pls. It is better your children live with another man than you burn in hell. Besides don't you attend Church with your wife? This is why we have Church and spiritual leaders. Seek counselling fast and if all fail which I hope they don't, get good evidence of infidelity and file for a divorce. If she refuses to change and accepts the divorce, let her go i guarantee you she will regret for the rest of her life when God would have healed your wounds and granted you happiness. An adulterous woman is a potential murderer. They are the most deadliest species on earth. That is why we warn youths about premarital sex. When you have played the fool with many partners, settling down with one becomes difficult especially when he or she is not as good in bed as your numerous ex(es) and the ex(es) are within reach. Premaritally sex today will lead to extramarital sex tomorrow. Feel free to contact me if you want I am a pastor.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Donspicey: 9:47am On Dec 08, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:


You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by bakol: 9:48am On Dec 08, 2020
"if you die because of a woman, 1000 men will sleep with the same woman on your burial ground"- Says a popular Yoruba Adag
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by grandlexuz(m): 9:48am On Dec 08, 2020
Ikem11:


Your case is different brother don't encourage men to act weak like a woman. Is he sick? Read this guy write-up it full of errors. First he complained the wife cheats but never admitted he caught her cheating

Secondly he jumped to the fact the wife love money

Then to the part the wife don't like him spending on him self

...again, she don't have time for her family.

All this she been doing to you for 7years. Then you as a man what you been doing ?

Believe me this guy is the problem of him self not the wife. Had it been he caught his wife cheating that's a different story

Lol. We can all never have thesame composure because we are men. Afterall no two pennis have same colour, girth and length..Lol

That said I understand the shortcomings of the OP. Despite being badly treated by my woman I never contemplated suicide for once. I love my kids so much to see them grow up without the stigma of a father who left by suicide. Besides I love living, one of the reasons I beat the odds during a time of severe hardship.

Still I dont expect the OP to have my resolve. Though he didnt throw much information if the text messages were explicit enough to show sexual content, I suspect that was the case. There is that much you can't throw online.

I think it's wrong of him to contemplate suicide but depression has varying effects and consequences for different people. That he is still alive is reason enough that he is holding strong despite the odds. I will like to have a more personal chat with him to encourage, and know the depths of his problems. We can and should always be our brothers keeper.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by flamingREED(m): 9:48am On Dec 08, 2020
Bigggloadofcum:
Hmm!

This matter carry weight o. As proper and justifiable as it is to check the phones of our spouses, the discovery might turn out to be SUICIDAL.

First, you are within ur marital right to check on ur wife's phone even though a few persons might disagree with that.

From your writeup I could deduce u are broke even though you try ur best to provide for ur family. The woman you married doesn't feel the need to respect someone who she feels she's better than financially.

This is a real story. When I was 9 my dad was going through serious financial challenges and even though my mum was totally supportive, he felt incomplete. One evening I saw my dad with a rope.

He didn't say a word to me... He went out. Late at night he didn't come home and we started looking for him but he was no where to be found. There was no phones like there is now.

Late on oga came back looking frail and disconnected from this earth. We welcomed him as usual. Next day he called me and told me that he had hung the rope to a tree and was about tying it round his neck but he thought about my siblings and I.

Few years down, thinks turned around tremendously. He became happy, our family became happy.

Now b4 you take that suicidal step, think of your children, double ur hustle but if that woman is cheating on you, kick her ass out. You deserve better.

A woman shouldn't be the end of you. There is always light at the end of the tunnel.

Can I share some of these on FB?

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Burgerlomo: 9:48am On Dec 08, 2020
That is why I always tell people not to trust their partners 100% just to avoid this type of things because if you don't trust him or her 100% and something like this happens, your mind is already prepared for it, but wetin you sef find go her fone grin and also no matter what happens killing yourself is not the answer or solutions.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by harizonal123(m): 9:49am On Dec 08, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

The only area I'm interested is the content of the chat with those guys. You couldn't prove that she is cheating on you which u try to establish. All beautiful married women have toasters it all boils on how she deals with the situation that shows her commitment to their marriage

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by seasy: 9:49am On Dec 08, 2020
CzarChris:
And people keep asking me why I'm still not married at my age. There's only so much a man can take. I know myself, she'd prefer death to living with me if I finally cut rope. i won't beat her o. I don't beat women, but I'll deal with her so much she'll prefer being dead.

Guy all i can tell you is this, "man the fucck up and quit being a punnany".

Hmmm
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by harizonal123(m): 9:49am On Dec 08, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

The only area I'm interested is the content of the chats with those guys. You couldn't prove that she is cheating on you which u try to establish. All beautiful married women have toasters it all boils on how she deals with the situation that shows her commitment to their marriage

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Funkyswagzz(m): 9:49am On Dec 08, 2020
lekki1444:
you have to ask yourself, why is your woman heartless ? this universe operates on the principle of equilibrium and will send you a woman who matches your wickedness. you may say but i am kind to women, but have forgotten the 10 people you 419 out of their money, so you are confused as to why a man who treats his woman nice has been sent a wicked woman ? life is funny but it is balanced. dont believe all these people who say THIS LIFE NOR BALANCE grin grin grin grin grin E BALANCE WELL WELL

My dear count urself lucky.. u haven't met a woman that is manipulative. If u do u will know wat I'm talkin about. Even if u are filthy rich she go still cheat on u. I thank God for everything cos I found someone who is willing to love me the way I am.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by k4all(m): 9:50am On Dec 08, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

Talk to someone @sobcaonline on Facebook, Twitter or IG they respond fast and Free Services are available for you. Please suicide is a No No.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by bnovative(m): 9:50am On Dec 08, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:


7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.
first I strongly advise don't try suicide, it's a no alternative solution to the issue you raised.
Also, you didn't tell us what you saw in her phone or how you caught her in bed. You suspect and draw conclusions.
second, I deduce you're angry she doesn't make any contribution to the material upkeep of the family; and you never asked her to assist. you had given her the picture of a superman who wouldn't need her assistant.
You booked a hotel for a quiet time as a married man and you feel given the state of things in your home, she shouldn't suspect you? would you be fine if she does same?
You are just paranoid.
Try to communicate more and stop expecting your wife to know what's in your mind.
Stop bottling up emotions; treat issues as they come and give directions.
Be sensitive to her feelings and make known your displeasure when ever there's one.
Yes you feel hurt but this is a single story told by you. until I hear your wife's story, I pass no judgement.
Be determined to make your family work. it's up-to you.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Tunde835(m): 9:50am On Dec 08, 2020
Yamiriflathead:
Hahaha...
Nor marry una nor dey hear word.
Later una go dey disturb those of us wey dey leave peaceful single lives with una headache.
OP never see anything, as you nor get sense go baby mama mode, kill yourself
Damn, dat was hilarious especially wen dat MGTOW guy was just chilling wit a beer at d back while d SIMP was being strangled

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Nobody: 9:51am On Dec 08, 2020
BlessedNuel:


I don't understand what you just said...be more explicit


In ur last post you said, provided ur wife doesn't bring someone pregnancy for you, she is free to do whatever she wants, even when she is under ur roof, because that was wise counsel you inherited from your grandfather.

U even said if you mistakenly catch her, you don't have problem with that, that you will not go raw again but wearing ur condom.

So my submission, any man that can go low to this extent to me, he is woman rapper, in fact such (man)no woman needs deliverance.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by flamingREED(m): 9:51am On Dec 08, 2020
khingTony:
The Hoes are never loyal

Know this and know peace smiley

Your wife is probably cheating on you, it's evident, but it's so sad that after Buhari cheats you, your governor cheats you, your senators cheat you, your wife will still come and cheat on you. The Hoes are heartless

Know this and know peace smiley

You should not kill yourself because of a woman that was never yours, you will just succeed in cheating yourself

Know this and know peace smiley




The marriages that work out are a negligible number, so if you're getting married as a guy, be prepared to be pushed to the wall. Marriage for guys is not a profitable venture.


Know this and know peace smiley



Peace smiley

Dash me this piece, please.
I wanna know all the peace.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Muffy2912: 9:52am On Dec 08, 2020
I have had this experience before and I tell you the only way out is an abrupt or sudden blessing from God in terms of wealth to her amazement or you just walk out.In my own case I chose the last option and very happy now.Its very terrible when you don't have peace within you.Its is a gradual suicide when there is no peace in your life.So I advice you to choose this last option and move on.SUICIDE is NOT an optional at all.Its COWARDICE!!!!!!!!!!!!
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Gyong(m): 9:53am On Dec 08, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:


You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.

Dude if you commit suicide she ll go ahead and marry one of the guys at whose loss? Yours. If you commit suicide who ll face the judgement? You. If you commit suicide who ll bear the brunt? The children you cherish so much. Guy take the bold step of confronting her to settle the ish if you still love her and hope to trust her again but if no, show her the exit and live your life peacefully. Better days and things lies ahead bro.

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