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MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

sorry to say, you are not emotionally matured enough for marriage.

Me I always tell myself this would happen oo..so now I am not even planning to get married.. I sat my baby mama down and we talked..I told her she is only 30yo and I am 24yo..that is it possible I would be the only guy she sleeps with in the remaining part of her life same with me if she would be the only woman I sleep with...there was silence...we have 2 kids...I opened a business for her..sometimes she makes 100k a day from her business..as of now she is the one handling and funding the house but me I don't allow all that to enter my head..I done tell her..look you can leave anytime you want..me I am here for you for life..I gave her a car..her mom usually comes to our house to stay for weeks and sometimes months..I just tell her say babe..marriage is like a bondage..we really don't need to get married..at least not yet...I don't want to hold her down and I don't want her you hold me down..my mind is already fixed.. I still go out and have my fun..she confessed to me how she did hers but said since she had our first child she has not done anything with anyone..me I don't believe or trust anyone but I just took it as she said it..I wasn't pained because I already prepared my mind that I can't be the only one she would fancy before she dies...she be human being too...I told her that she can do her thing oo..but just respect me and take care of the kids..hence I gave her a life..I trained her in school and changed her life...she said she's not leaving me ever..again I don't believe and would not because of today go and marry...we would stay like this for a while when we done old small we go marry..and one thing I learnt...never ever displease yourself because of your family..be it your wife or your kids..do whatever you want..if you are a womanizer keep at it..just use your head..if you sleep out keep at it..if you drink and smoke keep at it...because the moment you let them(family) change or try to change you ..you would have some hatred towards them for limiting your fun and trying to ruin your life..trust me I have been there.. i am young oo but I have seen things in this life..don't change your ways..because las las same people you try to change and live a good life for and sacrifice all you have just to make them happy can still come around and hurt you saying you did nothing for them and you are a bad husband or father...all your effort wasted..na that one go pain you pass...so me I still do my thing..I only respect my girl and let her know she is my Queen for life as long as she wants..she's always going to be my number one and the mother of my kids..but marriage for now is no no...I don't want to limit any of us down Just because of marriage..so bros..don't really expect too much and don't really do too much..you be man..have a side chick..get angry and just sleep out most times..there was a day my girls mother came around with her other son..them just full my house but I nor mind because they are fun...my girl made me angry and I yelled at her..even at her mother join...I go work for money and still come home then she would ask me what I want to eat..that question really irritates me..do I ask you when you need money before I provide??...I told her that if putting and making food available before my coming is difficult I would get a new girl for that..her mama start to cry o..she too start to cry...I went inside my room and smoked my weed..I never apologized to her mom..just my girl..but the apology wasn't really good..guess what..all of them woke up since then..this happened last year oo..but now anytime I enter my kitchen there is always food..her mom go clean everywhere..carry food come give me like king..I never marry her pikin oo..we all are happy now..life nor really hard..just make yourself happy because the moment you try to change for someone or something and then they betray you..life would be nothing to you anymore..you go feel like loser..

Go on knees and cry bitterly to God for him to give you PEACE and COURAGE!

Let your children remember you for this act of kindness in survival, when you have the courage from God, speak to her softly and let God judge her.

Righteousness89:
You shall Know the truth and the truth will set u Free..

The First truth you should know is that if you kill yourself in any way or Form, you will open your Eyes Live in Hell Fire! And it's forever and Ever.

Secondly, this is the reason I am an advocate that young men and Women seek the Face of God before saying I do. And until you are sure GOD has showed you your Spouse, do not Marry! Marriage is a life time Commitment. Going your way might look sweet at the start but it will always end in Pains!

Thirdly, you Have Married! You Have Married! You are her Husband and she is your wife.
There could be Solutions but you need to approach the originator of the institution of Marriage and take Matters to HIM on the basis of His Mercy.

As you Pray you reach out to Elders you know she could listen to.


For those who are about to Enter, Ensure you Hear Clearly about your Spouse. If you didn't Hear! Pls no matter how juicy its looks, do not Enter!

Do not Marry because of He/she has Cash
Do not Marry because she has Big behind/Big Before or because He has 12 packs
Do not Marry because He/ She is this or that!
Do not Marry for Sympathy or Pity!

The Only Reason to Marry Him/ Her should be Because you Have Sort the Face of GOD and HE has given you the Go ahead!

It is Better to Be Single than to Marry who is not the will of GOD for you!

It will always End in Tears!

They that Have Ears to Hear! Let them Hear!

oil dey your head

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

Take heart and brace up like a man. To overlook would be difficult now. Don't do anything funny. Give it time.

MeeztaFabulouz:
I have never looked forward to her assisting me financially and I am not accusing her of extramarital affairs. I feel bad being so disrespectful and not being caring for our home. There are many things I am unable to write because its like writing a book. Maybe if you think of how it feels when you dedicate yourself to someone then do everything to make that person happy and that person does not care and is only self centred then you will understand how painful it feels.
Seven years I have done all a man needs to do to try and build a peaceful and decent home, there are good times when we just overlook things and be happy and then that attitude just comes alive again from no where and all I get is trouble upon trouble again. Some days I can hardly even eat at home and in seven years, I can only remember hearing "am sorry" just twice apart from when I try to just ignore certain things and she just give me all those sober reactions.
I really don't know how to explain but I believe some married men here will understand better because its like most comments I see are from people that are not married and don't understand what dedicating your life to someone you once loved so much means.

Take your time to go through this thread, You're trying too hard to make your woman happy when it should be the other way round

https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

Abeg disclose wetin you see for her chat and let's know how we give advice.

Don't commit suicide, better stop that her business if she continues flirting divorce her

BrokeNhustling:
Me I always tell myself this would happen oo..so now I am not even planning to get married.. I sat my baby mama down and we talked..I told her she is only 30yo and I am 24yo..that is it possible I would be the only guy she sleeps with in the remaining part of her life same with me if she would be the only woman I sleep with...there was silence...we have 2 kids...I opened a business for her..sometimes she makes 100k a day from her business..as of now she is the one handling and funding the house but me I don't allow all that to enter my head..I done tell her..look you can leave anytime you want..me I am here for you for life..I gave her a car..her mom usually comes to our house to stay for weeks and sometimes months..I just tell her say babe..marriage is like a bondage..we really don't need to get married..at least not yet...I don't want to hold her down and I don't want her you hold me down..my mind is already fixed.. I still go out and have my fun..she confessed to me how she did hers but said since she had our first child she has not done anything with anyone..me I don't believe or trust anyone but I just took it as she said it..I wasn't pained because I already prepared my mind that I can't be the only one she would fancy before she dies...she be human being too...I told her that she can do her thing oo..but just respect me and take care of the kids..hence I gave her a life..I trained her in school and changed her life...she said she's not leaving me ever..again I don't believe and would not because of today go and marry...we would stay like this for a while when we done old small we go marry..and one thing I learnt...never ever displease yourself because of your family..be it your wife or your kids..do whatever you want..if you are a womanizer keep at it..just use your head..if you sleep out keep at it..if you drink and smoke keep at it...because the moment you let them(family) change or try to change you ..you would have some hatred towards them for limiting your fun and trying to ruin your life..trust me I have been there.. i am young oo but I have seen things in this life..don't change your ways..because las las same people you try to change and live a good life for and sacrifice all you have just to make them happy can still come around and hurt you saying you did nothing for them and you are a bad husband or father...all your effort wasted..na that one go pain you pass...so me I still do my thing..I only respect my girl and let her know she is my Queen for life as long as she wants..she's always going to be my number one and the mother of my kids..but marriage for now is no no...I don't want to limit any of us down Just because of marriage..so bros..don't really expect too much and don't really do too much..you be man..have a side chick..get angry and just sleep out most times..there was a day my girls mother came around with her other son..them just full my house but I nor mind because they are fun...my girl made me angry and I yelled at her..even at her mother join...I go work for money and still come home then she would ask me what I want to eat..that question really irritates me..do I ask you when you need money before I provide??...I told her that if putting and making food available before my coming is difficult I would get a new girl for that..her mama start to cry o..she too start to cry...I went inside my room and smoked my weed..I never apologized to her mom..just my girl..but the apology wasn't really good..guess what..all of them woke up since then..this happened last year oo..but now anytime I enter my kitchen there is always food..her mom go clean everywhere..carry food come give me like king..I never marry her pikin oo..we all are happy now..life nor really hard..just make yourself happy because the moment you try to change for someone or something and then they betray you..life would be nothing to you anymore..you go feel like loser..

What are you saying?

Marriage is not meant to last. Ugly fucking truth

Hmmmm. I have carefully read you well. Pls banish every suicidal thought from your mind. It even a no no area. Basically your home is under attack. You need to speak to sane and clearminded Elderly Pastors or a respected Elder(stay away from all the empty Pastors who lack wisdom but only blow grammer on the pulpit)
Be calm. Life experiences has thought me not to hear one side of the story. How I wish I can hear your wife's version. Anti-marriage forces are frustrating your marriage.
By the way, is your wife's parents still alive and happily married? Do you come from a lineage of divorced parents.? So many questions to ask.
Don't lose hope yet my brother. Be calm.
Just keep praying. How can I reach you pls?

cescky:
Very concise, mature and wise points..

Hes just wallowing in self pity.. Thats his problem.. He can't live that pit of self pity and no ome can assist him, if he doesn't of himself become stronger.. Snd it's dangerous place to be in because his thoughts and actions are no longer his..

He's just creating problems where there's none

VivaNG:
What are you saying?

in general don't try to make your family happy at your expense...do things for yourself and what makes you happy.. the society or even your family would not like it..but trust me your peace and happiness is greater.. and don't rush to get married.

cescky:
Very foooolish thinking...

As fooolish as the idea of the op committing suicide.. Low esteem people, trash

King Solomon!

Hope youre not one of those kids on nairaland!

Never call ones opinion foolish because you disagree with it. Learn that today and NOTE your TEACHER!

Invading or snooping in your partners phone can hurt your relationship.

This is different from open relationships where both parties leave their phones unlocked or share their passwords.

Marriage the days na scam.

OP stop sounding like a weakling and man up. Worst things have happened to men in this Nigeria and they moved on to better lives/women. What about wives who have conceived children for other men and the husband got to find out later They didn't kill themselves they just moved on
How can u even be contemplating,committing Suicide because of issues in your marriage that can be remedied cos from your write up its not like she has committed adultery yet.
Oga if u kill yourself your wife will sharply move on to one of those guys she's chatting with and probably even have another child for them while u roast in hell.
Your purpose and destiny in this life is far beyond your marriage and kids, even though they are a part of it. If u kill yourself u have failed your children, your purpose in life, your destiny and your maker.
Be wise and think deeply.
What u need now is to give yourself a break.
U can take a week from home so as to restore your sanity. MAN UP & OVERCOME THE STORM.

Angelfrost:
She is not far from the truth... It is a very well known, observed and researched fact that most nice guys get the short end of the relationship stick. Matter of fact, it is often said that "Nice guys always finish last"!

It is a terrible thing that people don't value what is good, both guys and ladies.... That's why you see ladies cheating on good guys, and guys cheating on good ladies.

Mr. Op needs to lick his wounds, pick up what's left of his dignity and do the needful... The wife needs to be talked to by an elder. They should call for a family meeting if possible... She needs to repent and choose between her marriage and the "good life".

If she is done with the marriage, she should speak up, let them go their separate ways. That's what civilized people do, not cheating.

Some people in marriages are merely suppressing their true desires and pursuits. This is how fraudulent the institution has become. Making hypocrites of people... I keep saying it: Stop pressuring people to become your spouse, and don't get pressured to marry someone even if you are pregnant for the person or the person is pregnant for you.

Oga, try to go to ur dictionary and study not read, these three words
1. Kind
2. Nice
3. Weak

U can now relate it with, kind husband, nice husband and weak husband.

MeeztaFabulouz:
I have never looked forward to her assisting me financially and I am not accusing her of extramarital affairs. I feel bad being so disrespectful and not being caring for our home. There are many things I am unable to write because its like writing a book. Maybe if you think of how it feels when you dedicate yourself to someone then do everything to make that person happy and that person does not care and is only self centred then you will understand how painful it feels.
Seven years I have done all a man needs to do to try and build a peaceful and decent home, there are good times when we just overlook things and be happy and then that attitude just comes alive again from no where and all I get is trouble upon trouble again. Some days I can hardly even eat at home and in seven years, I can only remember hearing "am sorry" just twice apart from when I try to just ignore certain things and she just give me all those sober reactions.
I really don't know how to explain but I believe some married men here will understand better because its like most comments I see are from people that are not married and don't understand what dedicating your life to someone you once loved so much means.

Please PM me if you can, I have important personal suggestion for you.

Thanks.

Young man .... you see this statement. " sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do'' dont ever repeat it here ok... if u wish to be the only one doing it all na ur choice. Please what did you find on her phone. Have they started knccking her already? If yes, is that ur y u want to kill urself? Lol .. I pity u.

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

bnovative:
Guy why are like this?
you cracked me up and you will not make heaven.

GUY WHAT DO YOU DO IN AN IRREDEEMABLE SITUATION IF NOT TO GIVE UP. I GIVE UP ON THE GUY. HIM OWN MUMURISM KNOWS NO BOUND.


BECUASE OF A WOMAN SOMEONE IS SAYING HE WANTS TO COMIT SUICIDE INSTEAD OF THANKING GOD FOR REVEALING THE DEVIL HE HAS BEEN LIVING WITH.

There is something better ahead. I salute your courage to speak out.
Suicide is the suggestion from the devil. Don't yield to that appeal. It is not the way out of the problem at all.
Some people have experienced worse situations in their marriages and were able to pull through without killing themselves.

The fastest way out is to draw closer to God. Learn to pray, read the bible, and worship with a bible believing church. Seek counsel from Men of God.
God will surely help you come out of depression and give you the wisdom to deal with this situation.

Cheer up. Your marriage/family shall be happy again.

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

you are in very dangerous state I understand your broken, we need to talk give me ur number if you wish, I would guide you out of your suicidal thoughts or depression, life ain’t easy, it part Hell part heaven

Divorce her, smoke some weed and drink you will be ok.

Kee urself u lose. I hav an Aunt and Uncl that do away match always and the knw yet the live together under one roof. Wt 3kids.

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

The best piece of advice i can give to you right now is suicide not the best option think about the life your kids will live after you pass on instead summon courage and move on with life..if am in your shoes that wife should be on her way back to her fathers house by now this days if you die because a woman cheated on you then you be complete mugu..

forget about the wasted 7years that is life think about how you can orientate your kids as they grow older bullshit her you can even tell her to give you a break out of the house and see her reaction...
once again mark this my word your wife will come back one day begging that is women they will surely one day regretting why??

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Go do DNA test o

kellybently:
U never see loyal wife that respect you and u trust her, but she sleeping with other men.

So remove the word loyalty from ur statement.

Where can I get the red pill and the other one you mentioned. Love to read too.

grim33:
My guy don’t kill


yourself.

You’ll gain nothing from that.

Here’s something you’ll gain from.
Read about “ redpill “ and “Mgtow “.

You’re only suffering because you’re not informed about the true nature of a woman.

Do yourself a favor and google the two key words I mentioned above ....

Thank me later.

MeeztaFabulouz:
You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.

lol this is so funny..
Why did we have same story and going through same thing?
Chech
Perfectsouth on nairaland, that's my alternate moniker and read my own story...

MeeztaFabulouz:
You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.

Don't ever commit suicide because you will be condeming an innocent person to death, YOU.

noisy45:
Divorce her, smoke some weed and drink you will be ok.

Only failures advice married people to divorce.

uuzba:
Only failures advice married people to divorce.

You be mumu