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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Salt06(m): 3:23pm On Dec 18, 2020
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months, almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me, or he'll leave me to do it all.

I don't demand anything from him, he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat. He knows this but he didn't do anything to help, that's how I've been living like I'm single. I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy.

Do you think it's okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future?
Its either he doesn't have or he is insensitive/ selfish.
While the former can be understood, the latter is something you shouldn't take lightly if you intend to build a future together.
I pray you find someone who'd truly love and cherish you.

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Koncept(m): 3:24pm On Dec 18, 2020
He's supposed to give her money for the sex they have?

duduade:
But when he wants to chop you his role in your life is active abi


Abeg break up with him

Let both parties move on individually

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by DrayZee: 3:24pm On Dec 18, 2020
Shortyy:


Look at them and their double standards crawling out. Assuming the guy was the person that lost all, and the lady is still financially okay, the gospel would've been to help him, build with him, suffer with him and all the nonsense y'all say.

Ndi ala
The same way women would advise the lady to leave the guy who lost everything and find a better guy, that she shouldn’t “settle”. But you don’t want us to do the same now that it’s a woman.

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by pickatyouu: 3:24pm On Dec 18, 2020
delishpot:


Forget that talk. Whether GF ó, Friend ó, Neighbour ó, Mother ó, Just passerby I if you have a normal head and you find someone in distress esp someone you spend so much time with, logic dictates that you share their worries with them and ask how you may help them withing your means. So far as I see she did not say he was broke or that he can't afford to help. So until we know for sure we can't say she is a leach. If someone you are dating is in position to help you in time of distress and refuses to do so claiming she isn't your father or financier I am sure you will find it strange.

Abeg take the back seat. If na like this your logic dey work no one would be broke cos We all have that one rich friend, support must not always be material, but u as a female won't understand that.
In life learn to be independent, if he wasn't there will she not find a way to pick herself up.
It okay to seek for help or want help but to bring an entitlement mentality into it, is the lowest you can go but as a naija girl na, relationship is about who fit fund ur next meal ticket and lavish life style.

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Snaagg(m): 3:25pm On Dec 18, 2020
LoudLord:
I don't know what guys/men gain in relationship sef....
As for me,I go for ladies that comes in two whenever I want to vibe and buzz
Kilo mi pelu relationship
Moya fell in love pelu LOUD

Me sef I wonder.
Relationships are now poverty-alleviation schemes for ladies undecided

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Alimat40: 3:25pm On Dec 18, 2020
But have you solicited for help from him, and he turned you down? You have not us told that. So you are lopsided until I hear contrary I am not competent to make any judgement.
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Daewhome(m): 3:26pm On Dec 18, 2020
Typical woman one sided narration...
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months, almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me, or he'll leave me to do it all.

I don't demand anything from him, he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat. He knows this but he didn't do anything to help, that's how I've been living like I'm single. I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy.

Do you think it's okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future?

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Pauladex(m): 3:26pm On Dec 18, 2020
Lilgabby:
Rubbish comments above... See their mouth "yivam" yen yen.... Aunty, bill the idiot. Shebi u date to benefit from each other. I'm sure the idiot also bleeps you. U dey fuckup. Bill am! If e do anyhow.... No japa oh! Just do like say e no exist at all. No even let am near ur punny again make e no spoil am before ur real husband come.

Ds one too strong. I can't stop laughing! You don't ask her if the guy dey enjoy am or stingy man just dey manage her palliatives

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Snaagg(m): 3:28pm On Dec 18, 2020
igbosoupkitchen:


Sis, dont make someone a priority in your life when you are just an option in his!!

A man that truly cares and loves bothers about your needs whether you have or not, whether he has or not, if cannot bother about your needs now he will never, moreso, he will be taking care of other people's need even wen u are down because he belives u alwats have and should be the onw bringing

Dont let no man tie you down , please take a break and find yourself one who will treat you like a lady...

What nonsense.
This isn't the 90s ma.
Women are now equal to men and as thus should work for their own money.
She should carry her own cross just as he is carrying his!

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by maxist2020(m): 3:29pm On Dec 18, 2020
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months, almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me, or he'll leave me to do it all.

I don't demand anything from him, he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat. He knows this but he didn't do anything to help, that's how I've been living like I'm single. I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy.

Do you think it's okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future?
One thing I believe in relationship and given is that it is not about the size of an individuals pocket but the willingness to share no matter how little he/she has.
He may also be broke according to you, but out of the little he has he should also remember you, like if he has 4k there is nothing wrong in him given you 1k.
My advice is that you confront him by telling him what he is not doing right and watch if he will change and he doesn't then let him go

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by ngwaba(m): 3:29pm On Dec 18, 2020
shagasha:
Sis no one can answer this question for you o

You know what to do but u just want to tell ur self that others helped u make the decision
You dey mind am

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Solatium(m): 3:30pm On Dec 18, 2020
Do you know what he also passes through?
the fact he has not been telling you his own challenges doesn't mean all is well with him too.
Get a job and live on your wages, everyone have issues they are dealing with,so far he's not asking you for financial help you are good to go,but if your mission in life is to date and live practically on those you date you are free to move on to a well paying dude.
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Snaagg(m): 3:30pm On Dec 18, 2020
Seyzcham91:
you right and you smart like me

despite her trying to prove all independent lady, her parasitic nature as so for all women parasitic nature still dominating and revealing itself

see the way she saying it as if its not proper or right to take care of herself and her own need undecided

must a man, boyfriend or partner help you? undecided don't judge your man or other person if you don't really know what they going through

as you might never know he might really wish to be supportive and since he no get the power or might, baba can't kill himsef

the way you were born is how he was also born! everyone struggling now okay, nobody come to this world to struggle and be taking care of other person, we all trying to survive

so you doing yourself a great favor by taking good care or yourself, upgrade yourself by finding another job but what i believe you were asking validation about don't think it.

if i'm right your purpose of this thread is to justify your leaving a struggling man that's trying to survive and going after some yahoo boy that will be lavishing money on you not knowing the outcome on you later.

afterall we all have one or two problems dealing with so this is still your problem keep on racking your brain on solving it. as far as i'm concern na your own side of the story be this i wish hear hin own side before anything cuz you females(vagina people) can't be trusted for anything.

always looking for reason to go Bleep a better person with money in the name of my boyfriend not helping

shiiorr undecided

Nigerian girls are shameless parasites.
So shameless I tell you.

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by HelpYourself(m): 3:30pm On Dec 18, 2020
delishpot:


Wow, is that all you can come up with?

Come on you can insult better than that na...... Go for it, fire your deadliest shot and it just might hit deeper grin

Are you done ?
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by francisbarrack(m): 3:31pm On Dec 18, 2020
Nonexistent1:
You said he is not financially stable but here you are doubting his role in your life because he didn't give you money. You see why I call Nigerian girls parasites. The bobo is probably drinking garri and struggling but you are here saying nonsense. I pity men that fall in nonsense love these days.

Thumb up... Love doesnt exist. Make ur money n u gonna c them begging to b with U.

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by lathrowinger: 3:32pm On Dec 18, 2020
[quote author=Danyyyyyyyyyyy post=97180591]So we've been together for some months, almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me, or he'll leave me to do it all.

I don't demand anything from him, he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat. He knows this but he didn't do anything to help, that's how I've been living like I'm single. I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy.

Do you think it's okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future?

Did you found out that he has or not
Does he care about you...
U should know more of his nature.
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by CVhurb: 3:32pm On Dec 18, 2020
Ask him 4 help first and see how it goes...or call him down and discuss the whole issue with him.

People are different, some need communication, no matter how u try they may not understand body language. Talk to him and start demanding wen u need help, he's used to u not asking him for help. If he doesn't change however, u know what to do.

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by delishpot: 3:33pm On Dec 18, 2020
pickatyouu:


Abeg take the back seat. If na like this your logic dey work no one would be broke cos We all have that one rich friend, support must not always be material, but u as a female won't understand that.
In life learn to be independent, if he wasn't there will she not find a way to pick herself up.
It okay to seek for help or want help but to bring an entitlement mentality into it, is the lowest you can go but as a naija girl na, relationship is about who fit fund ur next meal ticket and lavish life style.

I don't believe a woman should date a man for what material benefits she might get. She was prolly reffering to expectations many ladies have vs how she takes things in hers. I did not say in life people follow nature's law I mean we are busy killing and maiming each other in naija so it's understandable that we can't expect people who claim to be friends, parents, lovers etc to have our backs in times of distress. All I am saying is if she has been with him all these months and never asked(forget her reason for not asking) and then she hit hard times, a bf should be among the first to reach out. Unless he is in it to just catch cruise and nothing else. Then it is understandable same way a babe will dump a guy she is just catching cruise with when he goes broke. Yes, by nature those around us who are up should try to uplift those who are down. The only time I will be angry at the person being helped is if he looks down on the efforts of his helper ie not appreciating their support, feeling like you deserve more than they gave etc. Then I will have a problem but till then, do the little or much you can do for a friend or even stranger that is down. It won't hurt you.

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by luminouz(m): 3:33pm On Dec 18, 2020
This babe again?? undecided undecided undecided
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Freelane33(m): 3:33pm On Dec 18, 2020
No body owes anybody anything . Simple as ABC
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by chinchonglee(m): 3:33pm On Dec 18, 2020
cooooooks:
You got involved in a scam and want to use the results of your decision to scapegoat your supposed boo.

These streets are crazy.

Study well and read your books, let someone not greedily lose money to a scam and write epistle o.
Exactly!!
This has been my thoughts since i read the topic.
because she lost money to scammer, the innocent boyfriend will now suffer
Men dey suffer.
Women will lose money and leave their boyfriends
Men will lose money their girlfriends will leave them.
Nature is so unfair to men

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by LoudLord(m): 3:35pm On Dec 18, 2020
Snaagg:

Me sef I wonder. Relationships are now poverty-alleviation schemes for ladies undecided
I swear Naija ladies don cast

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Tonyspecial(m): 3:36pm On Dec 18, 2020
Yeye dey smell, parasite

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by delishpot: 3:36pm On Dec 18, 2020
GofuckYourself:


Are you done ?


Toor!

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by yesloaded: 3:37pm On Dec 18, 2020
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months, almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me, or he'll leave me to do it all.

I don't demand anything from him, he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat. He knows this but he didn't do anything to help, that's how I've been living like I'm single. I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy.

Do you think it's okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future?

My Bible tells me 'ask & ye shall received'

Ask him first before you conclude

Also, you stated it that he's not financially stable so we can't blame him

Above all, some gals don show men pepper so don't quickly judge your man wrongly
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by shimmer19(f): 3:40pm On Dec 18, 2020
Babe, advising you from experience, my ex does the same to me, i practically does everything myself and sometimes i do things for the both of us with my money. I wouldn't get a thank you, rather what dude was doing is to test my patience and strength.

I wasn't bothered initially because i was comfortable with what i earn. But at a time i got concern just like you are now, because he buys luxury things for himself, gift people money in my presence. last month i got the shocking news of my life, uncle got a girl pregnant and was going to pay the bride price on the 28th. I got to know through the nephew when i came visiting a week before the function. i died and wake, i confronted him, he said its a mistake i should understand he is a man. A man that loves you will be eager to put a smile on your face.

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by LadyTianna(f): 3:40pm On Dec 18, 2020
Lol see how triggered the boys here are hahaha
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Mryacks: 3:43pm On Dec 18, 2020
Sometimes you are permitted to take a break, focus on you, recharge your batteries and then make a discerning decision. Dont choke yourself!

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by chinchonglee(m): 3:47pm On Dec 18, 2020
Nnemuka:
If he cannot be of help to you, pls leave him.
Menopause will do u something las las

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by shadeyinka(m): 3:48pm On Dec 18, 2020
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months, almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me, or he'll leave me to do it all.

I don't demand anything from him, he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat. He knows this but he didn't do anything to help, that's how I've been living like I'm single. I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy.

Do you think it's okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future?
He knows you can hardly feed yourself, and he didn't divide his remaining gari into two halves: one for you and the other for himself.

ANd you are still hoping that someone will help you decide?
If you marry him and become sick, wouldn't this one ignore you?

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by freeborn02: 3:50pm On Dec 18, 2020
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:

For your information I contribute more to my relationship than my partner , I said I want to work on myself ciz I'm not yet stable , is that what you call poverty mentality? So its wrong that my partner lends a hand when I fall , do you really have to expose yourself ?

Haney, the guy doesn't owe you anything.

What's even this idea of seeing relationship as poverty alleviation programme? This is stupid

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Emuf: 3:50pm On Dec 18, 2020
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:


I do have feelings for him, but sometimes you feel its one sided, I'll talk to him and find out if he's sincere about everything, if he is I don't mind staying and working together

I can I advise you? the prove of love is giving. Any man who can't give you, does not love and cherish you. No matter how little it is. Don't force it!

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