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justosee:
There is no money to take care of them according to the man. all you need to do is help him with money to solve the problem.

Nah. That's not the scenario. If it is. Make e drop him account. I'm sure five persons seeing this won't mind sending 1k each. To get Xmas rice. Me being the first

phorget:
Even when someone is already in debt?
I think people should understand the situation first before demanding for anything. It might look simple to you though but do you know that some people do struggle to feed an extra mouth let alone that number of uncalled visitors.
Are they Jesus Christ? Is it their birthday? So why are they asking for Christmas something?
If someone is rich will he be staying in a room and parlor?

What the wife did was wrong, before inviting her entire family she ought to have discussed it with the husband. If it's just one of her siblings now then I'm not sure the op will complain this much but four!

Small rice moni won't aggravate debts. Those are distractions to attract pity.


Trust me.

RedPanthar:
Lol. You fell for it. It's just trapping to make the wife look like a villain. It's just some days. It's just rice here and there and they are gone.


You should encourage him to be loving and more accommodating and that it won't last beyond a few days.


Those other side attractions are mere trappings.

Just for some "days" when someone is already lamenting of not been able to feed those multitude for just one day. Do you expect him to become Jesus Christ overnight after Jesus Christ feed 5000 people in a single day.

I hate it when people don't always seems to understand, some wives are always in the habit of pushing their husband into their early grave just to make him feel like a man, after the husbands death then you'll see the wife enjoying the children.

phorget:
Just for some "days" when someone is already lamenting of not been able to feed those multitude for just one day. Do you expect him to become Jesus Christ overnight after Jesus Christ feed 5000 people in a single day.

I hate it when people don't always seems to understand, some wives are always in the habit of pushing their husband into their early grave just to make him feel like a man, after the husbands death then you'll see the wife enjoying the children.

That's how you people die before women. Mental and psychological stress. Why won't men die before women. You carry everything to the heart. While the women leave it to God.

I repeat it's not about finances. There are men that hate thier wives around their family or friends or anyone not him and his blood and that's the situationship. I maintain my stance.

T817:
I returned home from my shop only to find my wife 4 siblings in my house I wasn’t happy because she didn’t informed me they were coming over and in this economy when the country is hard why would they come all four of them at the same time. my mother in law came for omugwo she stayed for 5 weeks she left 3 weeks ago I had given my wife 30k the money I borrowed from a good friend of mine to get her some few things to take home then 3 weeks after her 4 siblings are here too, they are 6 the last born who is 10 have been staying with us for 2 years now , I take care of her my wife doesn’t work and I am only managing I don’t know why her people want to
drain me.
Can you imagine as soon as I entered the house her sisters were asking me about their Christmas gifts , brother where is our gift as if I am their ATM . I just ignored them because I was already angry seeing them in my house without my permission but keeping calm was the best thing to do . what shocked me was the fact her brother was comfortably sleeping in my bed next to my 2 months old baby , my wife didn’t see it as anything bad she said he is her brother and wouldn’t harm his own niece but my point was not about him doing something wrong with her but the fact that he doesn’t have any respect for my bed that what really got me angry which led to my wife and I to quarrelled not in their presence but in our room but since it’s only parlour and room self con I believe they must have heard everything but I don’t care . My Wife thinks I am overreacting and I don’t like her siblings and she said she will tell her parents everything I said to her in anger which I didn’t meant to but nobody in my position will be happy if he happened to be in my shoe . How do I handle this problem
With my wife without causing any further problems between us and her parents because I don’t have money to feed 4 more mouths for 2 weeks because they are not leaving any time soon not until the 3rd or 4th of January and before her siblings came she complained about her Christmas clothes and hair I told her I will only do Christmas for the kids because I don’t have money she frowned her face and started giving me attitudes and on top of that she has invited her 4 siblings when I don’t have a kobo to feed all of them. Even the food we have in the house won’t even last until January because I bought enough for 5 people but now with 9 of us it won’t last and her siblings are expecting me to do Christmas for them too , I don’t blame them because they are small children 20,18,15,12 who thinks that I have a skeleton in my cupboard where I get free money lol . What should I do right now ? I am not happy Your advice is needed please

That's good for you, shebi you said you like your wife to be full house wife ni, just because of your useless ego. Your wife doesn't even know how you earn, your monthly income because you think husband should not inform their wives, now she thinks you are a millionaire.
Sorry, I don't have any good thing to say to you, you are the architect of your problem

My man the wife is not helping issues at home, she got no job and she understands the situation at home yet she went ahead and brought in her younger siblings to rubbish this man, are you gonna call this love? Even the Bible described a wife as a helper but this one is a bunch of burden. I refuse to marry this of wife if you're not the last born you should be be the only child I don't want your siblings to be disturbing our peace showing up as an unwanted visitor.

RedPanthar:
Lol. You fell for it. It's just trapping to make the wife look like a villain. It's just some days. It's just rice here and there and they are gone.


You should encourage him to be loving and more accommodating and that it won't last beyond a few days.


Those other side attractions are mere trappings.

phorget:
Me I've been wise from day one, if I haven't made enough cash then nothing will make me marry the first born of a struggling family.

even if I make enough cash.... bro I can't marry from poor struggling family!

RedPanthar:
Nah. That's not the scenario. If it is. Make e drop him account. I'm sure five persons seeing this won't mind sending 1k each. To get Xmas rice. Me being the first

Ask him for the account and I don't think 1k is enough

OB7Foreva:
My man the wife is not helping issues at home, she got no job and she understands the situation at home yet she went ahead and brought in her younger siblings to rubbish this man, are you gonna call this love? Even the Bible described a wife as a helper but this one is a bunch of burden. I refuse to marry this of wife if you're not the last born you should be be the only child I don't want your siblings to be disturbing our peace showing up as an unwanted visitor.

Lets say they didn't notify her too they were coming until the day before and it was too late to turn them down. And it was at their parents request, what should she do? Throw them away?

justosee:
Ask him for the account and I don't think 1k is enough

I won't be the one to ask o


I will only tell him to be more endearing and he should see the occasion as an opportunity. And have a word with his wife against future occurrence to always notify him before coming as they know his finances. This can be passed to their family and her.

How can a wife not understand her husband's financial strength?
Tell her to send them back, give them transport money.
No need going to borrow to feed them, next time she will repeat same.

You took time to type this senseless posts?
Gosh! The wife knows the husbands capacity and the wife knows he doesn't have enough and the reason she has been portraying a certain attitude and the wife knows they were to visit and the wife did not tell the husband. Yes! She might not have told him because he will not agree but if the pressure is much to visit you discuss with him that they can manage for a few days and go back. Common sense ain't common by the way.

RedPanthar:
Continue deceiving yourself. You can deceive gullible people but not me.


You're the breed of men that are so overly possessive you don't want your wife to be around anyone of influence especially her family besides you.


YOU COVERTLY HATE YOUR WIVE'S FAMILY AND SADLY YOU'RE NOT DISCREET ENOUGH TO HIDE THE DUSGUST. YOU CAN'T STAND THEM TO TOLERATE THEM LET ALONE TO EMBRACE THEM AS YOUR OWN.

I PRAY YOU KNOW THE FUTURE AND CAN SEE IF YOUR KIDS WILL NEVER NEED THEIR HELP FOREVER THAT WAY I CAN ASSURE YOU TO CONTINUE WITH YOUR ANTICS. UNTIL THEN, TRED SOFTLY.

There are a specie of men that hate it when a woman's family or friends is around her. And use all sorts of antics to act victimised.

Only God will deliver you from you and teach you different ways of doing things. Your children would grow up too and become adults, should brothers not visit sisters and vice versa. When it's time to shine with opportunity some men act coy.


7k will enough rice and small meat to entertain your guests for the short duration they will be around.


Be Christ-like, Christ-mas is about sharing not only about eating rice.


Stop deceiving people in the time being. You know it's hatred you have for her being around her family and not about money




Should anything happen to you tomorrow, those are the ones that would stand for her, your kids and even you. And it's how you draw them close with what you have now that will make them endear to you should the chips fall down on your end however plenty your tiny peanuts maybe as of the moment.


You will know them ladies. They are the kinds that assume thier wives fell from heaven. Once they get married to them they don't want their wives to be around anybody, friends or family.



There's also female versions. These women marry them give them the entire world. They will never be with you or love you atall and will only stick around cause of favors they get in the marriage. They won't give happiness and after a few years leave you down the line.


It's a personality-complex. Open your eyes to find these kinds out to do the needful.

I can 100% say you don't love your wife and you have been angry with her silently before this scenario popped up.

Your excuse is just a lame cover up.

Mind you, I have been a victim before and I know what it is.

Tell the world the truth!

piippa:
You took time to type this senseless posts?
Gosh! The wife knows the husbands capacity and the wife knows he doesn't have enough and the reason she has been portraying a certain attitude and the wife knows they were to visit and the wife did not tell the husband. Yes! She might not have told him because he will not agree but if the pressure is much to visit you discuss with him that they can manage for a few days and go back. Common sense ain't common by the way.

Work Mode.


Decieve yourself

piippa:
You took time to type this senseless posts?
Gosh! The wife knows the husbands capacity and the wife knows he doesn't have enough and the reason she has been portraying a certain attitude and the wife knows they were to visit and the wife did not tell the husband. Yes! She might not have told him because he will not agree but if the pressure is much to visit you discuss with him that they can manage for a few days and go back. Common sense ain't common by the way.

Bro, the truth is there is no love in that OP's house.

Nothing else.

There's no way they are going to show up in their sisters doorstep without informing her consent and if she's not aware that they are coming she should have explained to her husband. She's know that they'd come that's why she's worked up with her husband for saying that they can't stay

RedPanthar:
Lets say they didn't notify her too they were coming until the day before and it was too late to turn them down. And it was at their parents request, what should she do? Throw them away?

phorget:
See as you take compose full statement yet you didn't bother to ask for the OP's account number so you can transfer small change in solidarity to your the epistle you wrote up there.

Niggar avoid that plague of a guy, he must be a doormat in whatsoever situationship he is right now,
Right from the paragraph he said that the op can solve the impending hardship with 7k that I knew that he is a minor and still feeding fat on his custodians,
He is trying to impress girls hence his senseless assertion.

Don't mind him jare. He is deluded...

Nicklaus619:
How old are you

You obviously still in your parents basement typing shit, when you come to the real world when u finally grow up, u will know things works differently,
Here is my little advice, listen to you elders and learn u will need it, stop being ignorant, h have a lot of growing up to do..

Chai kids everywhere in this platform these days

RedPanthar:
Continue deceiving yourself. You can deceive gullible people but not me.


You're the breed of men that are so overly possessive you don't want your wife to be around anyone of influence especially her family besides you.


YOU COVERTLY HATE YOUR WIVE'S FAMILY AND SADLY YOU'RE NOT DISCREET ENOUGH TO HIDE THE DUSGUST. YOU CAN'T STAND THEM TO TOLERATE THEM LET ALONE TO EMBRACE THEM AS YOUR OWN.

I PRAY YOU KNOW THE FUTURE AND CAN SEE IF YOUR KIDS WILL NEVER NEED THEIR HELP FOREVER THAT WAY I CAN ASSURE YOU TO CONTINUE WITH YOUR ANTICS. UNTIL THEN, TRED SOFTLY.

There are a specie of men that hate it when a woman's family or friends is around her. And use all sorts of antics to act victimised.

Only God will deliver you from you and teach you different ways of doing things. Your children would grow up too and become adults, should brothers not visit sisters and vice versa. When it's time to shine with opportunity some men act coy.


7k will enough rice and small meat to entertain your guests for the short duration they will be around.


Be Christ-like, Christ-mas is about sharing not only about eating rice.


Stop deceiving people in the time being. You know it's hatred you have for her being around her family and not about money




Should anything happen to you tomorrow, those are the ones that would stand for her, your kids and even you. And it's how you draw them close with what you have now that will make them endear to you should the chips fall down on your end however plenty your tiny peanuts maybe as of the moment.


You will know them ladies. They are the kinds that assume thier wives fell from heaven. Once they get married to them they don't want their wives to be around anybody, friends or family.



There's also female versions. These women marry them give them the entire world. They will never be with you or love you atall and will only stick around cause of favors they get in the marriage. They won't give happiness and after a few years leave you down the line.


It's a personality-complex. Open your eyes to find these kinds out to do the needful.

someone is telling u what is bothering him, u r telling him all these moral stories. Sick people everywhere

T817 listen to this very carefully,
Don't ever in your life again express your dissatisfaction towards a woman with words because it will makes you a weak and a nagging husband especially if talking things out had failed in subsequent approach.
Just be yourself guy,
Don't increase your budget beyond what you had planned to spend during this Yuletide,
Allow your wife to feel the scourge of her insensitivity,
Leave the house and go to your work so that you won't see the anguish on their faces.
Since she is trying to make you uncomfortable kindly turn the table against her without any harsh argument,
Action speaks loud.
Your happiness should be Paramount because life is to short to waste and not even your wife should treat your life carelessly.

RedPanthar:
Continue deceiving yourself. You can deceive gullible people but not me.


You're the breed of men that are so overly possessive you don't want your wife to be around anyone of influence especially her family besides you.


YOU COVERTLY HATE YOUR WIVE'S FAMILY AND SADLY YOU'RE NOT DISCREET ENOUGH TO HIDE THE DUSGUST. YOU CAN'T STAND THEM TO TOLERATE THEM LET ALONE TO EMBRACE THEM AS YOUR OWN.

I PRAY YOU KNOW THE FUTURE AND CAN SEE IF YOUR KIDS WILL NEVER NEED THEIR HELP FOREVER THAT WAY I CAN ASSURE YOU TO CONTINUE WITH YOUR ANTICS. UNTIL THEN, TRED SOFTLY.

There are a specie of men that hate it when a woman's family or friends is around her. And use all sorts of antics to act victimised.

Only God will deliver you from you and teach you different ways of doing things. Your children would grow up too and become adults, should brothers not visit sisters and vice versa. When it's time to shine with opportunity some men act coy.


7k will enough rice and small meat to entertain your guests for the short duration they will be around.


Be Christ-like, Christ-mas is about sharing not only about eating rice.


Stop deceiving people in the time being. You know it's hatred you have for her being around her family and not about money




Should anything happen to you tomorrow, those are the ones that would stand for her, your kids and even you. And it's how you draw them close with what you have now that will make them endear to you should the chips fall down on your end however plenty your tiny peanuts maybe as of the moment.


You will know them ladies. They are the kinds that assume thier wives fell from heaven. Once they get married to them they don't want their wives to be around anybody, friends or family.



There's also female versions. These women marry them give them the entire world. They will never be with you or love you atall and will only stick around cause of favors they get in the marriage. They won't give happiness and after a few years leave you down the line.


It's a personality-complex. Open your eyes to find these kinds out to do the needful.

Mad people full here o...nsogbu dikwa

T817:
I returned home from my shop only to find my wife 4 siblings in my house I wasn’t happy because she didn’t informed me they were coming over and in this economy when the country is hard why would they come all four of them at the same time. my mother in law came for omugwo she stayed for 5 weeks she left 3 weeks ago I had given my wife 30k the money I borrowed from a good friend of mine to get her some few things to take home then 3 weeks after her 4 siblings are here too, they are 6 the last born who is 10 have been staying with us for 2 years now , I take care of her my wife doesn’t work and I am only managing I don’t know why her people want to
drain me.
Can you imagine as soon as I entered the house her sisters were asking me about their Christmas gifts , brother where is our gift as if I am their ATM . I just ignored them because I was already angry seeing them in my house without my permission but keeping calm was the best thing to do . what shocked me was the fact her brother was comfortably sleeping in my bed next to my 2 months old baby , my wife didn’t see it as anything bad she said he is her brother and wouldn’t harm his own niece but my point was not about him doing something wrong with her but the fact that he doesn’t have any respect for my bed that what really got me angry which led to my wife and I to quarrelled not in their presence but in our room but since it’s only parlour and room self con I believe they must have heard everything but I don’t care . My Wife thinks I am overreacting and I don’t like her siblings and she said she will tell her parents everything I said to her in anger which I didn’t meant to but nobody in my position will be happy if he happened to be in my shoe . How do I handle this problem
With my wife without causing any further problems between us and her parents because I don’t have money to feed 4 more mouths for 2 weeks because they are not leaving any time soon not until the 3rd or 4th of January and before her siblings came she complained about her Christmas clothes and hair I told her I will only do Christmas for the kids because I don’t have money she frowned her face and started giving me attitudes and on top of that she has invited her 4 siblings when I don’t have a kobo to feed all of them. Even the food we have in the house won’t even last until January because I bought enough for 5 people but now with 9 of us it won’t last and her siblings are expecting me to do Christmas for them too , I don’t blame them because they are small children 20,18,15,12 who thinks that I have a skeleton in my cupboard where I get free money lol . What should I do right now ? I am not happy Your advice is needed please

It is perfectly normal for you to be angry even if they are not her siblings and you have unexpected guest and limited budget you would feel the stress and the pain. I think your wife should have informed you but she might have the impression you have a lot because we men do cover up a lot when we go through stuffs we just patch it here and there and make it look like all his well. Unfortunately the economy is hiting hard I am sure this might be the first time all four are in your house you really can't blame them considering the timing by your actions they are now first time Uncles and Auntys this is more priceless to them than your matrimonial bed because you now become their official in-law.
I don't know how you would do it o, but try and improvise to make Christmas merry. Udo o

That your wife deserves some strokes of cane for allowing them to come. She should have just told them, ground no level o and promise to host them at a better time in the future instead of agreeing to have them come around.


I think you should call her and tell her to send her siblings back immediately after Christmas (like on the 26th).. In the process, remind her of how you couldn't do Christmas for her because youre not financially bouyant and having these people on your neck will further cripple you financially. Tell her.

I cant imagine feeding 9 mouths in this period. Hian!

God will provide for you and the extra mouths in Jesus name.
He would increase your capacity.
You will feed hundreds in Jesus name.

RedPanthar:
Continue deceiving yourself. You can deceive gullible people but not me.


You're the breed of men that are so overly possessive you don't want your wife to be around anyone of influence especially her family besides you.


YOU COVERTLY HATE YOUR WIVE'S FAMILY AND SADLY YOU'RE NOT DISCREET ENOUGH TO HIDE THE DUSGUST. YOU CAN'T STAND THEM TO TOLERATE THEM LET ALONE TO EMBRACE THEM AS YOUR OWN.

I PRAY YOU KNOW THE FUTURE AND CAN SEE IF YOUR KIDS WILL NEVER NEED THEIR HELP FOREVER THAT WAY I CAN ASSURE YOU TO CONTINUE WITH YOUR ANTICS. UNTIL THEN, TRED SOFTLY.

There are a specie of men that hate it when a woman's family or friends is around her. And use all sorts of antics to act victimised.

Only God will deliver you from you and teach you different ways of doing things. Your children would grow up too and become adults, should brothers not visit sisters and vice versa. When it's time to shine with opportunity some men act coy.


7k will enough rice and small meat to entertain your guests for the short duration they will be around.


Be Christ-like, Christ-mas is about sharing not only about eating rice.


Stop deceiving people in the time being. You know it's hatred you have for her being around her family and not about money




Should anything happen to you tomorrow, those are the ones that would stand for her, your kids and even you. And it's how you draw them close with what you have now that will make them endear to you should the chips fall down on your end however plenty your tiny peanuts maybe as of the moment.


You will know them ladies. They are the kinds that assume thier wives fell from heaven. Once they get married to them they don't want their wives to be around anybody, friends or family.



There's also female versions. These women marry them give them the entire world. They will never be with you or love you atall and will only stick around cause of favors they get in the marriage. They won't give happiness and after a few years leave you down the line.


It's a personality-complex. Open your eyes to find these kinds out to do the needful.

You typed an enormous epistle without making an atom of sense.

I should blame ASUU, not you, cause it's obvious they didn't teach you comprehension in school.

I don't even know who has more fish brain, you or the idiotic wife that have no understanding of her husband's financial capabilities.

Op, I think you married the wrong woman. An understanding woman is supposed to know the capabilities of her husband, and seek ways to make the load easier.

No matter how much she love her siblings, she should have turned down the request, especially since you're broke to the point of borrowing.

That's why they are called HELPER. If your wife is not helping you, please divorce.

But if you wish, you can continue wallowing in bitterness and anger till you die.

As for the siblings, do not blame them. As far as they know, they came to spend xmas with their sister.

Your wife, on the other hand, is trying to claim big woman that she isn't.

I'm sure if more of her village people apply to come, she will even give them assurance that food is in excess.

Women!

Drop your account, let's see how nairalanders would respond.
Don't worry, we asked for it

T817:
I returned home from my shop only to find my wife 4 siblings in my house I wasn’t happy because she didn’t informed me they were coming over and in this economy when the country is hard why would they come all four of them at the same time. my mother in law came for omugwo she stayed for 5 weeks she left 3 weeks ago I had given my wife 30k the money I borrowed from a good friend of mine to get her some few things to take home then 3 weeks after her 4 siblings are here too, they are 6 the last born who is 10 have been staying with us for 2 years now , I take care of her my wife doesn’t work and I am only managing I don’t know why her people want to
drain me.
Can you imagine as soon as I entered the house her sisters were asking me about their Christmas gifts , brother where is our gift as if I am their ATM . I just ignored them because I was already angry seeing them in my house without my permission but keeping calm was the best thing to do . what shocked me was the fact her brother was comfortably sleeping in my bed next to my 2 months old baby , my wife didn’t see it as anything bad she said he is her brother and wouldn’t harm his own niece but my point was not about him doing something wrong with her but the fact that he doesn’t have any respect for my bed that what really got me angry which led to my wife and I to quarrelled not in their presence but in our room but since it’s only parlour and room self con I believe they must have heard everything but I don’t care . My Wife thinks I am overreacting and I don’t like her siblings and she said she will tell her parents everything I said to her in anger which I didn’t meant to but nobody in my position will be happy if he happened to be in my shoe . How do I handle this problem
With my wife without causing any further problems between us and her parents because I don’t have money to feed 4 more mouths for 2 weeks because they are not leaving any time soon not until the 3rd or 4th of January and before her siblings came she complained about her Christmas clothes and hair I told her I will only do Christmas for the kids because I don’t have money she frowned her face and started giving me attitudes and on top of that she has invited her 4 siblings when I don’t have a kobo to feed all of them. Even the food we have in the house won’t even last until January because I bought enough for 5 people but now with 9 of us it won’t last and her siblings are expecting me to do Christmas for them too , I don’t blame them because they are small children 20,18,15,12 who thinks that I have a skeleton in my cupboard where I get free money lol . What should I do right now ? I am not happy Your advice is needed please

RedPanthar:
Continue deceiving yourself. You can deceive gullible people but not me.


You're the breed of men that are so overly possessive you don't want your wife to be around anyone of influence especially her family besides you.


YOU COVERTLY HATE YOUR WIVE'S FAMILY AND SADLY YOU'RE NOT DISCREET ENOUGH TO HIDE THE DUSGUST. YOU CAN'T STAND THEM TO TOLERATE THEM LET ALONE TO EMBRACE THEM AS YOUR OWN.

I PRAY YOU KNOW THE FUTURE AND CAN SEE IF YOUR KIDS WILL NEVER NEED THEIR HELP FOREVER THAT WAY I CAN ASSURE YOU TO CONTINUE WITH YOUR ANTICS. UNTIL THEN, TRED SOFTLY.

There are a specie of men that hate it when a woman's family or friends is around her. And use all sorts of antics to act victimised.

Only God will deliver you from you and teach you different ways of doing things. Your children would grow up too and become adults, should brothers not visit sisters and vice versa. When it's time to shine with opportunity some men act coy.


7k will enough rice and small meat to entertain your guests for the short duration they will be around.


Be Christ-like, Christ-mas is about sharing not only about eating rice.


Stop deceiving people in the time being. You know it's hatred you have for her being around her family and not about money




Should anything happen to you tomorrow, those are the ones that would stand for her, your kids and even you. And it's how you draw them close with what you have now that will make them endear to you should the chips fall down on your end however plenty your tiny peanuts maybe as of the moment.


You will know them ladies. They are the kinds that assume thier wives fell from heaven. Once they get married to them they don't want their wives to be around anybody, friends or family.



There's also female versions. These women marry them give them the entire world. They will never be with you or love you atall and will only stick around cause of favors they get in the marriage. They won't give happiness and after a few years leave you down the line.


It's a personality-complex. Open your eyes to find these kinds out to do the needful.

ON GOD

Who ever liked your post is very foolish...just see what a human being with blood in his veins wrote

People dey ..ooh... somebody should quote me and write poeple dey ooh

T817:
I returned home from my shop only to find my wife 4 siblings in my house I wasn’t happy because she didn’t informed me they were coming over and in this economy when the country is hard why would they come all four of them at the same time. my mother in law came for omugwo she stayed for 5 weeks she left 3 weeks ago I had given my wife 30k the money I borrowed from a good friend of mine to get her some few things to take home then 3 weeks after her 4 siblings are here too, they are 6 the last born who is 10 have been staying with us for 2 years now , I take care of her my wife doesn’t work and I am only managing I don’t know why her people want to
drain me.
Can you imagine as soon as I entered the house her sisters were asking me about their Christmas gifts , brother where is our gift as if I am their ATM . I just ignored them because I was already angry seeing them in my house without my permission but keeping calm was the best thing to do . what shocked me was the fact her brother was comfortably sleeping in my bed next to my 2 months old baby , my wife didn’t see it as anything bad she said he is her brother and wouldn’t harm his own niece but my point was not about him doing something wrong with her but the fact that he doesn’t have any respect for my bed that what really got me angry which led to my wife and I to quarrelled not in their presence but in our room but since it’s only parlour and room self con I believe they must have heard everything but I don’t care . My Wife thinks I am overreacting and I don’t like her siblings and she said she will tell her parents everything I said to her in anger which I didn’t meant to but nobody in my position will be happy if he happened to be in my shoe . How do I handle this problem
With my wife without causing any further problems between us and her parents because I don’t have money to feed 4 more mouths for 2 weeks because they are not leaving any time soon not until the 3rd or 4th of January and before her siblings came she complained about her Christmas clothes and hair I told her I will only do Christmas for the kids because I don’t have money she frowned her face and started giving me attitudes and on top of that she has invited her 4 siblings when I don’t have a kobo to feed all of them. Even the food we have in the house won’t even last until January because I bought enough for 5 people but now with 9 of us it won’t last and her siblings are expecting me to do Christmas for them too , I don’t blame them because they are small children 20,18,15,12 who thinks that I have a skeleton in my cupboard where I get free money lol . What should I do right now ? I am not happy Your advice is needed please

Don't say anything, don't react to anything, just chill.

When the food for 5 people is consumed earlier than usual just watch your wife's reaction. If she is wise enough, she will ask her sibs to not flood your house next time.

Just treat this as a learning curve, marriage na school.


By the way, if it were one of the sisters sleeping on your bed, will you be angry? I think you were just biased because it was her brother.


May God give you wisdom and resources to head your home.

Merry Christmas

T817:
I returned home from my shop only to find my wife 4 siblings in my house I wasn’t happy because she didn’t informed me they were coming over and in this economy when the country is hard why would they come all four of them at the same time. my mother in law came for omugwo she stayed for 5 weeks she left 3 weeks ago I had given my wife 30k the money I borrowed from a good friend of mine to get her some few things to take home then 3 weeks after her 4 siblings are here too, they are 6 the last born who is 10 have been staying with us for 2 years now , I take care of her my wife doesn’t work and I am only managing I don’t know why her people want to
drain me.
Can you imagine as soon as I entered the house her sisters were asking me about their Christmas gifts , brother where is our gift as if I am their ATM . I just ignored them because I was already angry seeing them in my house without my permission but keeping calm was the best thing to do . what shocked me was the fact her brother was comfortably sleeping in my bed next to my 2 months old baby , my wife didn’t see it as anything bad she said he is her brother and wouldn’t harm his own niece but my point was not about him doing something wrong with her but the fact that he doesn’t have any respect for my bed that what really got me angry which led to my wife and I to quarrelled not in their presence but in our room but since it’s only parlour and room self con I believe they must have heard everything but I don’t care . My Wife thinks I am overreacting and I don’t like her siblings and she said she will tell her parents everything I said to her in anger which I didn’t meant to but nobody in my position will be happy if he happened to be in my shoe . How do I handle this problem
With my wife without causing any further problems between us and her parents because I don’t have money to feed 4 more mouths for 2 weeks because they are not leaving any time soon not until the 3rd or 4th of January and before her siblings came she complained about her Christmas clothes and hair I told her I will only do Christmas for the kids because I don’t have money she frowned her face and started giving me attitudes and on top of that she has invited her 4 siblings when I don’t have a kobo to feed all of them. Even the food we have in the house won’t even last until January because I bought enough for 5 people but now with 9 of us it won’t last and her siblings are expecting me to do Christmas for them too , I don’t blame them because they are small children 20,18,15,12 who thinks that I have a skeleton in my cupboard where I get free money lol . What should I do right now ? I am not happy Your advice is needed please

your wife is from imo abi that their way

Men don't marry idle women any longer. Unless you have cash in excess.

Money seems easy to come by for someone who is not earning.

Imagine one room and one parlor and 5 people, now she without sense adds another 4 people. And you borrowed N30k to make her mother feel good.

She won't understand your plight because she doesn't EARN. No privacy.

Please accept my condolences