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RedPanthar:
Lets say they didn't notify her too they were coming until the day before and it was too late to turn them down. And it was at their parents request, what should she do? Throw them away?

RedPanthar:
Nah. That's not the scenario. If it is. Make e drop him account. I'm sure five persons seeing this won't mind sending 1k each. To get Xmas rice. Me being the first

DukeJoe17:
T817 listen to this very carefully,
Don't ever in your life again express your dissatisfaction towards a woman with words because it will makes you a weak and a nagging husband especially if talking things out had failed in subsequent approach.
Just be yourself guy,
Don't increase your budget beyond what you had planned to spend during this Yuletide,
Allow your wife to feel the scourge of her insensitivity,
Leave the house and go to your work so that you won't see the anguish on their faces.
Since she is trying to make you uncomfortable kindly turn the table against her without any harsh argument,
Action speaks loud.
Your happiness should be Paramount because life is to short to waste and not even your wife should treat your life carelessly.

RedPanthar:
Continue deceiving yourself. You can deceive gullible people but not me.


You're the breed of men that are so overly possessive you don't want your wife to be around anyone of influence especially her family besides you.


YOU COVERTLY HATE YOUR WIVE'S FAMILY AND SADLY YOU'RE NOT DISCREET ENOUGH TO HIDE THE DUSGUST. YOU CAN'T STAND THEM TO TOLERATE THEM LET ALONE TO EMBRACE THEM AS YOUR OWN.

I PRAY YOU KNOW THE FUTURE AND CAN SEE IF YOUR KIDS WILL NEVER NEED THEIR HELP FOREVER THAT WAY I CAN ASSURE YOU TO CONTINUE WITH YOUR ANTICS. UNTIL THEN, TRED SOFTLY.

There are a specie of men that hate it when a woman's family or friends is around her. And use all sorts of antics to act victimised.

Only God will deliver you from you and teach you different ways of doing things. Your children would grow up too and become adults, should brothers not visit sisters and vice versa. When it's time to shine with opportunity some men act coy.


7k will enough rice and small meat to entertain your guests for the short duration they will be around.


Be Christ-like, Christ-mas is about sharing not only about eating rice.


Stop deceiving people in the time being. You know it's hatred you have for her being around her family and not about money




Should anything happen to you tomorrow, those are the ones that would stand for her, your kids and even you. And it's how you draw them close with what you have now that will make them endear to you should the chips fall down on your end however plenty your tiny peanuts maybe as of the moment.


You will know them ladies. They are the kinds that assume thier wives fell from heaven. Once they get married to them they don't want their wives to be around anybody, friends or family.



There's also female versions. These women marry them give them the entire world. They will never be with you or love you atall and will only stick around cause of favors they get in the marriage. They won't give happiness and after a few years leave you down the line.


It's a personality-complex. Open your eyes to find these kinds out to do the needful.

RedPanthar:
Continue deceiving yourself. You can deceive gullible people but not me.


You're the breed of men that are so overly possessive you don't want your wife to be around anyone of influence especially her family besides you.


YOU COVERTLY HATE YOUR WIVE'S FAMILY AND SADLY YOU'RE NOT DISCREET ENOUGH TO HIDE THE DUSGUST. YOU CAN'T STAND THEM TO TOLERATE THEM LET ALONE TO EMBRACE THEM AS YOUR OWN.

I PRAY YOU KNOW THE FUTURE AND CAN SEE IF YOUR KIDS WILL NEVER NEED THEIR HELP FOREVER THAT WAY I CAN ASSURE YOU TO CONTINUE WITH YOUR ANTICS. UNTIL THEN, TRED SOFTLY.

There are a specie of men that hate it when a woman's family or friends is around her. And use all sorts of antics to act victimised.

Only God will deliver you from you and teach you different ways of doing things. Your children would grow up too and become adults, should brothers not visit sisters and vice versa. When it's time to shine with opportunity some men act coy.


7k will enough rice and small meat to entertain your guests for the short duration they will be around.


Be Christ-like, Christ-mas is about sharing not only about eating rice.


Stop deceiving people in the time being. You know it's hatred you have for her being around her family and not about money




Should anything happen to you tomorrow, those are the ones that would stand for her, your kids and even you. And it's how you draw them close with what you have now that will make them endear to you should the chips fall down on your end however plenty your tiny peanuts maybe as of the moment.


You will know them ladies. They are the kinds that assume thier wives fell from heaven. Once they get married to them they don't want their wives to be around anybody, friends or family.



There's also female versions. These women marry them give them the entire world. They will never be with you or love you atall and will only stick around cause of favors they get in the marriage. They won't give happiness and after a few years leave you down the line.


It's a personality-complex. Open your eyes to find these kinds out to do the needful.

T817:
I returned home from my shop only to find my wife 4 siblings in my house I wasn’t happy because she didn’t informed me they were coming over and in this economy when the country is hard why would they come all four of them at the same time. my mother in law came for omugwo she stayed for 5 weeks she left 3 weeks ago I had given my wife 30k the money I borrowed from a good friend of mine to get her some few things to take home then 3 weeks after her 4 siblings are here too, they are 6 the last born who is 10 have been staying with us for 2 years now , I take care of her my wife doesn’t work and I am only managing I don’t know why her people want to
drain me.
Can you imagine as soon as I entered the house her sisters were asking me about their Christmas gifts , brother where is our gift as if I am their ATM . I just ignored them because I was already angry seeing them in my house without my permission but keeping calm was the best thing to do . what shocked me was the fact her brother was comfortably sleeping in my bed next to my 2 months old baby , my wife didn’t see it as anything bad she said he is her brother and wouldn’t harm his own niece but my point was not about him doing something wrong with her but the fact that he doesn’t have any respect for my bed that what really got me angry which led to my wife and I to quarrelled not in their presence but in our room but since it’s only parlour and room self con I believe they must have heard everything but I don’t care . My Wife thinks I am overreacting and I don’t like her siblings and she said she will tell her parents everything I said to her in anger which I didn’t meant to but nobody in my position will be happy if he happened to be in my shoe . How do I handle this problem
With my wife without causing any further problems between us and her parents because I don’t have money to feed 4 more mouths for 2 weeks because they are not leaving any time soon not until the 3rd or 4th of January and before her siblings came she complained about her Christmas clothes and hair I told her I will only do Christmas for the kids because I don’t have money she frowned her face and started giving me attitudes and on top of that she has invited her 4 siblings when I don’t have a kobo to feed all of them. Even the food we have in the house won’t even last until January because I bought enough for 5 people but now with 9 of us it won’t last and her siblings are expecting me to do Christmas for them too , I don’t blame them because they are small children 20,18,15,12 who thinks that I have a skeleton in my cupboard where I get free money lol . What should I do right now ? I am not happy Your advice is needed please

T817:
I returned home from my shop only to find my wife 4 siblings in my house I wasn’t happy because she didn’t informed me they were coming over and in this economy when the country is hard why would they come all four of them at the same time. my mother in law came for omugwo she stayed for 5 weeks she left 3 weeks ago I had given my wife 30k the money I borrowed from a good friend of mine to get her some few things to take home then 3 weeks after her 4 siblings are here too, they are 6 the last born who is 10 have been staying with us for 2 years now , I take care of her my wife doesn’t work and I am only managing I don’t know why her people want to
drain me.
Can you imagine as soon as I entered the house her sisters were asking me about their Christmas gifts , brother where is our gift as if I am their ATM . I just ignored them because I was already angry seeing them in my house without my permission but keeping calm was the best thing to do . what shocked me was the fact her brother was comfortably sleeping in my bed next to my 2 months old baby , my wife didn’t see it as anything bad she said he is her brother and wouldn’t harm his own niece but my point was not about him doing something wrong with her but the fact that he doesn’t have any respect for my bed that what really got me angry which led to my wife and I to quarrelled not in their presence but in our room but since it’s only parlour and room self con I believe they must have heard everything but I don’t care . My Wife thinks I am overreacting and I don’t like her siblings and she said she will tell her parents everything I said to her in anger which I didn’t meant to but nobody in my position will be happy if he happened to be in my shoe . How do I handle this problem
With my wife without causing any further problems between us and her parents because I don’t have money to feed 4 more mouths for 2 weeks because they are not leaving any time soon not until the 3rd or 4th of January and before her siblings came she complained about her Christmas clothes and hair I told her I will only do Christmas for the kids because I don’t have money she frowned her face and started giving me attitudes and on top of that she has invited her 4 siblings when I don’t have a kobo to feed all of them. Even the food we have in the house won’t even last until January because I bought enough for 5 people but now with 9 of us it won’t last and her siblings are expecting me to do Christmas for them too , I don’t blame them because they are small children 20,18,15,12 who thinks that I have a skeleton in my cupboard where I get free money lol . What should I do right now ? I am not happy Your advice is needed please

RedPanthar:
Na so. Young ones who ASSUME. When it comes to real talk, boys should step outside for real men to talk. Step aside

debbydee:
Allow your wife to work. It's because she is not working that's why she is demanding everything from you. Even if na to follow you go shop. She will understand better.


Some women Sha.

SmellingAnus:
Please accept my condolences

Klass99:
You don't even need to be in a relationship or married to realize how wrong the OP's wife is, on so many levels.

The situation is so wrong in every way, I was shocked and awed at how anyone (wifey in this case) can be this clueless and insensitive.

I am too shocked I can't even articulate the thoughts running through my head right now. Like seriously, who does this?

It feels very disrespectful to me especially the part where she let the brother sleep in their bed, like common now!!! How old is this woman abeg?

@ OP/T817, let me tell you a true life story about my friend Alex (not real name). Alex travelled home to marry, when it was over and done with, him and his wife were to return together to his base.

On the day of their departure at the motor park, his wife's people bundled a relative of theirs to join them on the trip to their new home WITHOUT asking Alex if it was okay or informing him either.

It was at the park Alex first became aware of their plans, he firmly put his foot down and told his wife's elder sister and other relatives present (who accompanied them to the park) that there's no way that's going to happen.

There was a bit of drama where his in-laws started pleading with him and pressuring him to take that relative along. The wife was almost in tears as well because she could see Alex was not in a good mood about it.

The drama attracted other passengers who were paying attention to the exchange, but Alex was firm and refused to be coerced into what he didn't plan for.

This is the most important part of the story so pay attention - an elderly passenger in their vehicle (can't remember again if it was a man or woman) said to Alex, what you did was solid and completely right, because how you start your marriage and handle your in-laws, plus situations like these will set the tone for the remainder of your married life.

You have started on a good note by not bowing to their very inappropriate plans and pressure, don't feel bad about it because now they know that, any plans they hatch without your knowledge or acceptance will not see the light of day.

It is not too late to readjust if you started on the wrong foot, if I were you two things will happen;

1. I will promptly inform my wife this is not a good time for me as money is tight, allow the in-laws stay till boxing day and dispatch them ASAP on the 27th. They don't need to be there till January

2. Let your wife know that this sort of thing should never happen again, without your endorsement. Are you not the one paying the bills in that house and the one who knows where it hurts?

RedPanthar:
Continue deceiving yourself. You can deceive gullible people but not me.


You're the breed of men that are so overly possessive you don't want your wife to be around anyone of influence especially her family besides you.


YOU COVERTLY HATE YOUR WIVE'S FAMILY AND SADLY YOU'RE NOT DISCREET ENOUGH TO HIDE THE DUSGUST. YOU CAN'T STAND THEM TO TOLERATE THEM LET ALONE TO EMBRACE THEM AS YOUR OWN.

I PRAY YOU KNOW THE FUTURE AND CAN SEE IF YOUR KIDS WILL NEVER NEED THEIR HELP FOREVER THAT WAY I CAN ASSURE YOU TO CONTINUE WITH YOUR ANTICS. UNTIL THEN, TRED SOFTLY.

There are a specie of men that hate it when a woman's family or friends is around her. And use all sorts of antics to act victimised.

Only God will deliver you from you and teach you different ways of doing things. Your children would grow up too and become adults, should brothers not visit sisters and vice versa. When it's time to shine with opportunity some men act coy.


7k will enough rice and small meat to entertain your guests for the short duration they will be around.


Be Christ-like, Christ-mas is about sharing not only about eating rice.


Stop deceiving people in the time being. You know it's hatred you have for her being around her family and not about money




Should anything happen to you tomorrow, those are the ones that would stand for her, your kids and even you. And it's how you draw them close with what you have now that will make them endear to you should the chips fall down on your end however plenty your tiny peanuts maybe as of the moment.


You will know them ladies. They are the kinds that assume thier wives fell from heaven. Once they get married to them they don't want their wives to be around anybody, friends or family.



There's also female versions. These women marry them give them the entire world. They will never be with you or love you atall and will only stick around cause of favors they get in the marriage. They won't give happiness and after a few years leave you down the line.


It's a personality-complex. Open your eyes to find these kinds out to do the needful.

RedPanthar:
Keep deceiving yourself.

It's ladies who cross paths with such men I pity.

RedPanthar:
You lots should keep deceiving yourself.


The wife also got the treatment, love and care she has to reciprocate as a kid. She didn't drop from the sky.


Marriage is for men, not boys.

Get lost

galadima77:
This is it...

phorget:
Even when someone is already in debt?
I think people should understand the situation first before demanding for anything. It might look simple to you though but do you know that some people do struggle to feed an extra mouth let alone that number of uncalled visitors.
Are they Jesus Christ? Is it their birthday? So why are they asking for Christmas something?
If someone is rich will he be staying in a room and parlor?

What the wife did was wrong, before inviting her entire family she ought to have discussed it with the husband. If it's just one of her siblings now then I'm not sure the ohp will complain this much but four!

Klass99:
You don't even need to be in a relationship or married to realize how wrong the OP's wife is, on so many levels.

The situation is so wrong in every way, I was shocked and awed at how anyone (wifey in this case) can be this clueless and insensitive.

I am too shocked I can't even articulate the thoughts running through my head right now. Like seriously, who does this?

It feels very disrespectful to me especially the part where she let the brother sleep in their bed, like common now!!! How old is this woman abeg?

@ OP/T817, let me tell you a true life story about my friend Alex (not real name). Alex travelled home to marry, when it was over and done with, him and his wife were to return together to his base.

On the day of their departure at the motor park, his wife's people bundled a relative of theirs to join them on the trip to their new home WITHOUT asking Alex if it was okay or informing him either.

It was at the park Alex first became aware of their plans, he firmly put his foot down and told his wife's elder sister and other relatives present (who accompanied them to the park) that there's no way that's going to happen.

There was a bit of drama where his in-laws started pleading with him and pressuring him to take that relative along. The wife was almost in tears as well because she could see Alex was not in a good mood about it.

The drama attracted other passengers who were paying attention to the exchange, but Alex was firm and refused to be coerced into what he didn't plan for.

This is the most important part of the story so pay attention - an elderly passenger in their vehicle (can't remember again if it was a man or woman) said to Alex, what you did was solid and completely right, because how you start your marriage and handle your in-laws, plus situations like these will set the tone for the remainder of your married life.

You have started on a good note by not bowing to their very inappropriate plans and pressure, don't feel bad about it because now they know that, any plans they hatch without your knowledge or acceptance will not see the light of day.

It is not too late to readjust if you started on the wrong foot, if I were you two things will happen;

1. I will promptly inform my wife this is not a good time for me as money is tight, allow the in-laws stay till boxing day and dispatch them ASAP on the 27th. They don't need to be there till January

2. Let your wife know that this sort of thing should never happen again, without your endorsement. Are you not the one paying the bills in that house and the one who knows where it hurts?

EVILFOREST:
Do MEN still marry Jobless Ladies...?

debbydee:
Allow your wife to work. It's because she is not working that's why she is demanding everything from you. Even if na to follow you go shop. She will understand better.


Some women Sha.

T817:
I returned home from my shop only to find my wife 4 siblings in my house I wasn’t happy because she didn’t informed me they were coming over and in this economy when the country is hard why would they come all four of them at the same time. my mother in law came for omugwo she stayed for 5 weeks she left 3 weeks ago I had given my wife 30k the money I borrowed from a good friend of mine to get her some few things to take home then 3 weeks after her 4 siblings are here too, they are 6 the last born who is 10 have been staying with us for 2 years now , I take care of her my wife doesn’t work and I am only managing I don’t know why her people want to
drain me.
Can you imagine as soon as I entered the house her sisters were asking me about their Christmas gifts , brother where is our gift as if I am their ATM . I just ignored them because I was already angry seeing them in my house without my permission but keeping calm was the best thing to do . what shocked me was the fact her brother was comfortably sleeping in my bed next to my 2 months old baby , my wife didn’t see it as anything bad she said he is her brother and wouldn’t harm his own niece but my point was not about him doing something wrong with her but the fact that he doesn’t have any respect for my bed that what really got me angry which led to my wife and I to quarrelled not in their presence but in our room but since it’s only parlour and room self con I believe they must have heard everything but I don’t care . My Wife thinks I am overreacting and I don’t like her siblings and she said she will tell her parents everything I said to her in anger which I didn’t meant to but nobody in my position will be happy if he happened to be in my shoe . How do I handle this problem
With my wife without causing any further problems between us and her parents because I don’t have money to feed 4 more mouths for 2 weeks because they are not leaving any time soon not until the 3rd or 4th of January and before her siblings came she complained about her Christmas clothes and hair I told her I will only do Christmas for the kids because I don’t have money she frowned her face and started giving me attitudes and on top of that she has invited her 4 siblings when I don’t have a kobo to feed all of them. Even the food we have in the house won’t even last until January because I bought enough for 5 people but now with 9 of us it won’t last and her siblings are expecting me to do Christmas for them too , I don’t blame them because they are small children 20,18,15,12 who thinks that I have a skeleton in my cupboard where I get free money lol . What should I do right now ? I am not happy Your advice is needed please

ModestGal:
That's good for you, shebi you said you like your wife to be full house wife ni, just because of your useless ego. Your wife doesn't even know how you earn, your monthly income because you think husband should not inform their wives, now she thinks you are a millionaire.
Sorry, I don't have any good thing to say to you, you are the architect of your problem

T817:
I returned home from my shop only to find my wife 4 siblings in my house I wasn’t happy because she didn’t informed me they were coming over and in this economy when the country is hard why would they come all four of them at the same time. my mother in law came for omugwo she stayed for 5 weeks she left 3 weeks ago I had given my wife 30k the money I borrowed from a good friend of mine to get her some few things to take home then 3 weeks after her 4 siblings are here too, they are 6 the last born who is 10 have been staying with us for 2 years now , I take care of her my wife doesn’t work and I am only managing I don’t know why her people want to
drain me.
Can you imagine as soon as I entered the house her sisters were asking me about their Christmas gifts , brother where is our gift as if I am their ATM . I just ignored them because I was already angry seeing them in my house without my permission but keeping calm was the best thing to do . what shocked me was the fact her brother was comfortably sleeping in my bed next to my 2 months old baby , my wife didn’t see it as anything bad she said he is her brother and wouldn’t harm his own niece but my point was not about him doing something wrong with her but the fact that he doesn’t have any respect for my bed that what really got me angry which led to my wife and I to quarrelled not in their presence but in our room but since it’s only parlour and room self con I believe they must have heard everything but I don’t care . My Wife thinks I am overreacting and I don’t like her siblings and she said she will tell her parents everything I said to her in anger which I didn’t meant to but nobody in my position will be happy if he happened to be in my shoe . How do I handle this problem
With my wife without causing any further problems between us and her parents because I don’t have money to feed 4 more mouths for 2 weeks because they are not leaving any time soon not until the 3rd or 4th of January and before her siblings came she complained about her Christmas clothes and hair I told her I will only do Christmas for the kids because I don’t have money she frowned her face and started giving me attitudes and on top of that she has invited her 4 siblings when I don’t have a kobo to feed all of them. Even the food we have in the house won’t even last until January because I bought enough for 5 people but now with 9 of us it won’t last and her siblings are expecting me to do Christmas for them too , I don’t blame them because they are small children 20,18,15,12 who thinks that I have a skeleton in my cupboard where I get free money lol . What should I do right now ? I am not happy Your advice is needed please

RedPanthar:
Continue deceiving yourself. You can deceive gullible people but not me.


You're the breed of men that are so overly possessive you don't want your wife to be around anyone of influence especially her family besides you.


YOU COVERTLY HATE YOUR WIVE'S FAMILY AND SADLY YOU'RE NOT DISCREET ENOUGH TO HIDE THE DUSGUST. YOU CAN'T STAND THEM TO TOLERATE THEM LET ALONE TO EMBRACE THEM AS YOUR OWN.

I PRAY YOU KNOW THE FUTURE AND CAN SEE IF YOUR KIDS WILL NEVER NEED THEIR HELP FOREVER THAT WAY I CAN ASSURE YOU TO CONTINUE WITH YOUR ANTICS. UNTIL THEN, TRED SOFTLY.

There are a specie of men that hate it when a woman's family or friends is around her. And use all sorts of antics to act victimised.

Only God will deliver you from you and teach you different ways of doing things. Your children would grow up too and become adults, should brothers not visit sisters and vice versa. When it's time to shine with opportunity some men act coy.


7k will enough rice and small meat to entertain your guests for the short duration they will be around.


Be Christ-like, Christ-mas is about sharing not only about eating rice.


Stop deceiving people in the time being. You know it's hatred you have for her being around her family and not about money




Should anything happen to you tomorrow, those are the ones that would stand for her, your kids and even you. And it's how you draw them close with what you have now that will make them endear to you should the chips fall down on your end however plenty your tiny peanuts maybe as of the moment.


You will know them ladies. They are the kinds that assume thier wives fell from heaven. Once they get married to them they don't want their wives to be around anybody, friends or family.



There's also female versions. These women marry them give them the entire world. They will never be with you or love you atall and will only stick around cause of favors they get in the marriage. They won't give happiness and after a few years leave you down the line.


It's a personality-complex. Open your eyes to find these kinds out to do the needful.