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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by philip0906(m): 8:25pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
SweetCunt97:Do you also know it is culture for a man to be a patriarch and be polygamous? ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by KhingLufem1(m): 8:25pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
I love this thread 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by OdenKelechi(m): 8:27pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: Too much Nollywood is worrying you... According to the girl, her man has visited her mum before and got stuffs for her. So you want to say it's everytime he's going to visit her he should get something for her? Shey you dey whyne me ni? What sort of lifelong ritual is that?? Abeg take back seat pls, which nonsense honor are you talking about. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by sammychimex(m): 8:27pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: My dear Tracey, listen carefully your mom only pointed out a red flag to you, it is either your fiance is stingy or foolish wether he is woke or still sleeping. Imagine if you visited his mum empty handed what would be the case? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by LadySarah: 8:27pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
BusinessCity: I think you are wrong. This was a casual and unplanned visit and not his first too which he came bearing gifts according to her. 1 Like
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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 8:27pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: Your guy did badly and you did not do well also. He should not have gone to your mum empty handed it is not proper. But must you hang up on him because of that? What if the same irresponsible blood that runs in the veins of those insulting you on this thread is what runs in him too. ![]() What is the essence of being in courtship? Is it not to shape one another into what you both desire? If I were you, I would defend him and give an excuse on his behalf. Telling a lie for him won't be too bad too. You should have calmly corrected him afterwards. Tell him you wouldn't do that when going to his mum. That is the essence of courtship. You overreacted and you are wrong although he did not do well either. Call him and make peace. Tell him you are sorry and then explain why it is wrong to him. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Burgerlomo: 8:27pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by NeoWanZaeed(m): 8:27pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Checking the c0mments. . It shows and proves that NL consist of 98% kids and stupid adults. THIS IS NOT A MATTER OF RICH OR POOR. . this is a matter of common sense. How would u go visit ur in_law for the first time and go EMPTY HANDED? EVEN if ur inlaw is otedola and u go visit him empty handed. .IT SHOWS U LACK ALL RESPECT AND MANNER. . thats what it means in our land here in AFRICA. OP, ur guy needs to apologize to ur mum. . Thats if he loves u truly 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by BusinessCity: 8:27pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Shokoloko: Appraisal ![]() |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by oluwaseyi0: 8:29pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Fiscus105: Hope you read the part that she said the guy came with gifts the previous time he visited 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by LadySarah: 8:29pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Nchenches: read her write up well
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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Sixfeetbelle: 8:29pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
descarado: Is it everytime he visits that she'll give him gift? Won't he bring his own gift as well? Won't it get to a time that it would start looking somehow? |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by ginus001(m): 8:30pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: he just told d simple truth |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by OdenKelechi(m): 8:30pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: Lool...this hold is a bad one and if you don't put it in check, you'd have serious issues going forward. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by ElderStateMann(m): 8:30pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by chronique(m): 8:30pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: This generation ehn, una matter de tire person. Everything is always a red flag for you people. Who made the law that it's a wrong thing for you to visit the mother of your spouse without buying them something? Yes I understand that out of courtesy, one should buy gifts and present them to your would be inlaw when visiting but it's not a must. Some people don't like the stress of buying things and carrying about and would rather give cash to the I laws... Please, let's pay attention to more important things and leave out all these mundane things that brings up unnecessary red flags. There are too many important things to look out for when marrying than getting angry over someone not bringing gifts especially when the person has visited before and brought gifts. It makes it look like they are hungry and broke. 5 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by oluwaseyi0: 8:30pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
britiko: The previous gift the young man gave the entitled woman what happened to it? It's no longer valid? 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by descarado: 8:30pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
At10tion:Everybody has different meaning for courtesy. That same courtesy will make the mum give him something even if he came bearing gifts or not. Why didn't she do that? Cos she lacks courtesy! U see, you have to remove the spec in your eyes before u see another's eyes properly ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Lashist(m): 8:31pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Sixfeetbelle:Courtesy is about being polite not bringing gifts...one can still bring gifts and misbehave..so if ur bf brings bread and fruits and misbehaves and speaks rude to your mum, the goodies he brings covers up for everything. Bringing gifts doesnt mean you have courtesy...there are somethings you might expect but when it doesnt come, shame no suppose allow you complain about am...its courtesy to offer a visitor a cup of water or what you have(that's if you have) not for visitor to bring bread by force...even if you dont have your offer a visitor, he no suppose complain..learn this today 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Drone95(m): 8:31pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
The guy self too stingy. 2bigi cola isn't too small na 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by obstead200(m): 8:32pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles:I do it regularly. We live in same state, infact same area of the state. They are not hungry people at all. They are even too happy to set eyes on me once in two months sef. I just chose those special occasions e.g Xmas and make sure I take a worthy gift to them, as well as to my own parents. Both my parents and my in-laws are very comfortable. They don't need those petty show of love to feed well 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Lamasta(m): 8:32pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles:You are an hypocrite, do you know you are also insulting someone's mother or father that innocently gave advice and point out mistakes of the OP and her mother ![]() ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by descarado: 8:33pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Sixfeetbelle:Then you don't know how to get somebody by your side. That woman can make him love her more than his own mum by her act of kindness. You want him to bring gift everytime he come bit don't want to part with yours ![]() I hear you 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by desthan(m): 8:33pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
My dear, your mother is in her right to be vexed. Na your big head boy friend wey no sabi behave carry him problem go greet am. Your boy-friend had no business going to visit your mum in her house in your absence. Next time don't alow people all in the name of boyfriend see your parent anyhow. What was even the purpose of such visit ![]() You boyfriend is not well cultured, and that is the reason your mother is vexed. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by NoToPile: 8:33pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
WILLuKPquiet: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() The bolded made me laugh. @topic Iam amazed at some responses,lots of kids boys roaming about this forum, all they know is redpill and simp. They can't even handle the elderly with wisdom. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Sixfeetbelle: 8:34pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Lashist: I can decide to not give my visitor a cup of water based on my state of mind. It's still courtesy but I know how it would be perceived. Same is applicable to the visitor coming to my house. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by BusinessCity: 8:34pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
LadySarah: It's a reflection of his character to some extent. It could be a onetime thing, it could also be his regular attitude. If he had shown remorse then the mum could be said to be wrong. Not showing remorse and claiming right and keeping malice aren't trait a man who wants to marry should have. If a couple or intended couple fight, they shouldn't be doing first to apologise is weak which is what he's doing. If I were him and made the mistake and loved her truly. I'll call the mum directly and apologise saying it's an error. That's to show the relationship is worth fighting for. He's the man, he ought to do this. The remorse will then cover up all the flaws of all parties. He's expecting the mum to come beg him or the girl to kneel when there aren't particularly at fault When we were kids, my dad worked as a manager at a bank and had his private company and we were wealthy. We had no lack but in laws brought things we didn't need but give out. They never for once came empty handed. It's wrong. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by solofresh(m): 8:34pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
I have seen a lot of comments and i must say that a lot people are bitter |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by OdenKelechi(m): 8:35pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: For the first time, No. But subsequently, it definitely won't be everytime i go visiting.... And the guy in question here is Vindicated because he has visited previously and with gifts. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Lashist(m): 8:35pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
NeoWanZaeed:You are one of the stupid adults...where did he become their in-law. When did it become a must to carry gifts when visiting your date's mum every single time. Then tell us where a parent like otedola got angry because his daughter's bf didnt bring him gifts 5 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by oluwaseyi0: 8:35pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: Of cause he will apologize but the way he will start seeing your mother and by extension your whole family has probably change owing to the fact that he was loved and welcome when he came with gift but he was treated like trash when he doesn't Trust me the damage has been done, he may apologize because he sees no point flogging a dead horse 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by comtem2011: 8:36pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
izzou:Na that in-law dey ask their children husbands to contribute money whenever they have a function in the family!! In fact, the amount will be specified. Wahala wa o. 1 Like |
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