baralatie:

what happens when the ex husband on learning that the child is not his dies of heart attack

Nato008:

it would be unfortunate if that happens but it should be on the lady not the OP....OP didn't abandon the child neither did he have an extra marital affair that resulted in the baby.....

Nato008:

is ur brain aware of this comment or u just pick ur phone and rant.. read what u wrote again slowly

Pierocash:
I read it.... That is the law. The legally married husband is the father of any child that was born out of wedlock, DNA or not.

Nato008:

which law please....in law courts why do the request for DNA test if ur assertion is correct, don't come and be misleading people

Pierocash:
get educated bro,don't argue what is plain.I didn't write the law. Go carry out your investigation ,and you will be shocked that what I said is true.

Roseey0:
Option 1
People donating egg or sperm dont claim ownership of a child. Fatherhood goes beyond DNA.

Why is she telling you now?
Because things are not going well for her spouse.
She is mad.
Let her carry her cross. If she was a President's wife, will she remember to tell you?

See yourself as a sperm donor.Noting more.
The boy already has a father who has been going all out to take care of him not minding his current circumstance. I repeat, you are not his father. You only donated sperm. Focus on your family and the children who You father.

Please tell your wife the story first before she hear it outside. Cut that ex off totally.

Option 2
Blood is thicker than water.
If she is saying she can't take care of the child any longer, you can offer to bring him into your home and raise him completely.
No attachee or child support thingy.
Just hand over pikin to you and you raise him. If Not, make she carry her cross. Wash your hand comlt. You have done your part

Pierocash:
Forget about the child, focus on your family by law he isn't your child.

Slimslimqq:
this is a very sensitive issue.
my advise is, before u proceed in claiming the child. why not go for a DNA test if u can afford it. then if the test comes out positive then u know what to do. am sure u won't watch ur child suffer.

CalliDora1:
Learn to zip up and save us all this stories. If you didn't go there she won't add you to the list.

woleabayo:
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS TO SIT YOUR WIFE DOWN AND EXPLAIN EVERYTHING TO HER AND BEG HER TO FORGIVE YOU

Pierocash:
Forget about the child, focus on your family by law he isn't your child.

charles009:

Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

Nato008:

bro u wrote the legally married husband is the father of the child out of wedlock....this statement is subject to technicalities in law court..if the wife says otherwise then what happens??

Pierocash:
the wife is not a determinant on this issue, the law determines it.

Nato008:

how can the law determine it without testimony from the wife....is it possible, if the wife says otherwise...then there is problem

CalliDora1:
Learn to zip up and save us all this stories. If you didn't go there she won't add you to the list.

LadySarah:
you were cumming inside the fiancee of another man for you to debate who or who doesnt own the baby.

Tueeh! I just feel for the jobless man who'd be loosing a child in this times.

charles009:

Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

charles009:

Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

CalliDora1:
Learn to zip up and save us all this stories. If you didn't go there she won't add you to the list.

charles009:

Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...