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Helios14:
okay, this is the mail I sent, I've edited a bit though


Sir Harddon, hope you're good. I recently started following your dating drills thread on NL and I need your help on something. I've been chatting with this girl for sometime now, I've been balancing the cocky, funny and seriousness well and I've been able to make her chat dirty. We've never met before, but it's certain we'll see this year. 


So we chat dirty sometimes and she says I make her wet an all that and she can't wait for us to meet. So the issue now is, when we meet, would sex on the first meeting be wise?

Also, I'm 21 but still a virgin(that's the embarrassing part), she's not. I've never told her that, but from our chat's I've assured her I can give her an orgasm, and she says she'll have to find out. 


I've read your drills on sex, about using the lips to explore her body and all that to build anticipation. But I would like to know if you have more tips I can use so that our first encounter would be truly memorable. 

it's not like I'm chasing sex or anything. but I'll be done with school soon, and I would prefer I lost it before then. most people think I'm a pro st it cos of the way I talk

P.s: I'm just interested in a friends with benefits relationship



Awaiting your response Sire

You have to learn from experience bro, the truth is no amount of drill you read can help you if you don't practice them in real life. Put on your confidence coat and go ahead and make mistakes it is part of life.

You have already done the most important part which is breaking down her defense with fun and words. It is easier than you think, you don't need any special tips

banjicom:
You have to learn from experience bro, the truth is no amount of drill you read can help you if you don't practice them in real life. Put on your confidence coat and go ahead and make mistakes it is part of life.

You have already done the most important part which is breaking down her defense with fun and words. It is easier than you think, you don't need any special tips

lol...thanks. Wish me luck

Guys, please help me. I'm a newbie in this dating thing. There is this cute girl I'm crushing on. How do I walk up to her and tell her I love her and I want to die for her?

Please, help. It's urgent before another man takes her from me. I don't want to lose her. I can't breathe without her.

iLegendd:
Guys, please help me. I'm a newbie in this dating thing. There is this cute girl I'm crushing on. How do I walk up to her and tell her I love her and I want to die for her?

Please, help. It's urgent before another man takes her from me. I don't want to lose her. I can't breathe without her.

trolling as usual

Good morning
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Take the redpill adekunlegold9ja and you'll be glad you did

Jeremiah89:
Take the redpill adekunlegold9ja and you'll be glad you did

Indeed, the best advice to him.

Jeremiah89:
Take the redpill adekunlegold9ja and you'll be glad you did

Please what does redpil mean

Mide3367:
trolling as usual

I swr

Adekunlegold9ja:
Good morning
I have a concerning issue in my life.
I will be 27 October this year. Can I say I seem to suffer form poor self esteem, lack of confidence, unsociable or what?
I a kind of intoverted(shy) guy. I have tried to work on myself several times though. But all to no avail.

I can consider myself as a virgin even though 2017 I had encounter with a girl(my gf of 4months) during nysc. We kissed and smashed we couldn't go further because she insisted on going raw.

She ended the relationship after service when I said we should go on a break till I get a good job. (I said it because she wanted a serious relationship I also do. I said it out of love). After the break up, I begged her to reverse it for several months my mind was still on the relationship, cause I had an infatuation on her. She declined, thank God she did though.

I moved on after the 13th month when I got a job in a new city

On this new job. I struggled with performance a lot. Owing to my lack of social skills. I was alone all through. I then profess love to one of my female friends who's older by 2years. I realized I was a mistake, I ceased calling her ever since the day I professed the love. Even when she contacts me I decline.

So I found this new girl.one of our customers She a very beautiful Nerd. I loved her from the very first day I saw her. I got her number, I began chatting with her to know her more. She became my friend. She invites me to her church services gives me gifts etc. We Make long unfruitful conversations on phone spanning hours etc. I thought it was love.

She told me she doesn't like her job, that it's not befitting for her has a graduate, I began assisting her to get a new job. Even though she's rich and her parents are very rich too. She even called me one-day that she will like to work in my place of work.
After about 5month of friendship she started refraining from me I realised I didn't play the game well. In the period of her refraint I realized I was lonely. I started going to a betting shop. I got addicted to betting till I lost all my money savings included. Then a night I had to I call her stutteringly that I wanted to be in a relationship with her she said NO. I cut the call. We didn't communicate for close to 3days until when I chatted her with an apology she said she understands. She called me the following day that I should wait for her after work so I can escort her while she goes home.
I then became broke I told her to borrow me certain amount of money which she obliged I promised to refund her when I get my salary at the end of the month.

Then a week later I was sacked from work due to low performance. I informed her about it. I felt really bad. She tried consoling me.

She tried getting some ridiculous jobs for me that pays 20k. Which was 6 times below the salary I received while working. I actually due to fear of new having something to do accepted one. A week on the job. I realized I had downgraded myself and followed an advice from somebody whom I did love but doesn't love me.
I resigned from the job. Then she called me that I need to refund her money. I did.

She rarely call again ever since. Even when I call she yawns and gets disinterested.


Obviously I have made some huge mistakes in my life. How do I make myself better, presentable has a man.


Apologies for the long read.

you really made a big mistake...

you made her feel like she's all you got...
Why would an alpha help a lad look for job when you're on a 50/50 in your job??
Never trust a hoe

Guys please where do I start from now. I have been shattered by this girl. I keep checking her status and her profile secretly. She chatted me one day and she told me she would call me and she never did.

I am a simp I know. I just wanna stop. I have read the nuggets here several times though.

Adekunlegold9ja:
Guys please where do I start from now. I have been shattered by this girl. I keep checking her status and her profile secretly. She chatted me one day and she told me she would call me and she never did.

I am a simp I know. I just wanna stop. I have read the nuggets here several times though.

First, you need to delete her number, block her on all social media and move on with your life.
Here. Read starting this thread from page 1..It's the best thing that can ever happen to you as a man.

https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know

Adekunlegold9ja:
Guys please where do I start from now. I have been shattered by this girl. I keep checking her status and her profile secretly. She chatted me one day and she told me she would call me and she never did.

I am a simp I know. I just wanna stop. I have read the nuggets here several times though.

Post other girls pics and make sure she sees it via WhatsApp status....

post wonderful time you spent with ladies...

Happy Sunday guys. I'm back again o, lol. I went to know, is my wahala too much.
There's this girl I've been chatting with for a while now. she's had a crush on me for almost 4yrs now. (she told me four years ago, and still two years ago and once in a while). So, I dig her a little and I've been using the drills on her and we basically talk like we're dating, but the ish is that she's boring. she calls the most, but I end up doing most of the talking, even while chatting. so recently I'm getting really tired of her boring chats. she replies well, but you know when most of the contributions are from you and all. so I told her about it, she apologized and said she would work on it. there's no difference, so I started ignoring her a little, when she asked why I told her. she begged and said she'll try. it has happened 3 times now, and I feel it's no longer a useful punishment. Fast forward to yesterday, I messaged her on WhatsApp, she read it a few minutes later and didn't reply, even till midnight, she was even viewing my status, so no excuse of saying she forgot. she did it last week, it was after ignoring her for about 2days. I called her, she let it ring for a while before cutting it. and didn't call back that day. the next day she messaged me, I asked if she cut the call, she said yes that she was having online classes and forgot to call back. I know she has online classes sometimes, but the seconds her phone rang for before cutting makes me feel like she was trying to make up her mind, and she viewed my status again that night, so I know she didn't forget, but I let it slide.

so today she called me after church(we go to the same church), we had a youth meeting and I left immediately after, she probably wanted us to go together. but I'm actually pissed because I feel she's taking me for granted and that's like the biggest sin you can commit against me. so when she called, the caller ID didn't show, so I picked, if I knew it was her, I wouldn't have.
I asked who's this please, she was like when did I leave church, when I recognized the voice, I just told her 'WO, don't disturb me' and cut the call.



so, I wanna know if my wahala is too much or not

thanks

Adekunlegold9ja:
Please what does redpil mean

Play around Nairaland romance section and you'll find what you seek

Helios14:
Happy Sunday guys. I'm back again o, lol. I went to know, is my wahala too much.
There's this girl I've been chatting with for a while now. she's had a crush on me for almost 4yrs now. (she told me four years ago, and still two years ago and once in a while). So, I dig her a little and I've been using the drills on her and we basically talk like we're dating, but the ish is that she's boring. she calls the most, but I end up doing most of the talking, even while chatting. so recently I'm getting really tired of her boring chats. she replies well, but you know when most of the contributions are from you and all. so I told her about it, she apologized and said she would work on it. there's no difference, so I started ignoring her a little, when she asked why I told her. she begged and said she'll try. it has happened 3 times now, and I feel it's no longer a useful punishment. Fast forward to yesterday, I messaged her on WhatsApp, she read it a few minutes later and didn't reply, even till midnight, she was even viewing my status, so no excuse of saying she forgot. she did it last week, it was after ignoring her for about 2days. I called her, she let it ring for a while before cutting it. and didn't call back that day. the next day she messaged me, I asked if she cut the call, she said yes that she was having online classes and forgot to call back. I know she has online classes sometimes, but the seconds her phone rang for before cutting makes me feel like she was trying to make up her mind, and she viewed my status again that night, so I know she didn't forget, but I let it slide.

so today she called me after church(we go to the same church), we had a youth meeting and I left immediately after, she probably wanted us to go together. but I'm actually pissed because I feel she's taking me for granted and that's like the biggest sin you can commit against me. so when she called, the caller ID didn't show, so I picked, if I knew it was her, I wouldn't have.
I asked who's this please, she was like when did I leave church, when I recognized the voice, I just told her 'WO, don't disturb me' and cut the call.



so, I wanna know if my wahala is too much or not

thanks

The last part wasn't even harsh and itwas the right thing do .... Ignore her totally... She is obviously using you to catch cruise ...

Remmedy:
The last part wasn't even harsh and itwas the right thing do .... Ignore her totally... She is obviously using you to catch cruise ...

alright, thanks mahn

Helios14:
Happy Sunday guys. I'm back again o, lol. I went to know, is my wahala too much.
There's this girl I've been chatting with for a while now. she's had a crush on me for almost 4yrs now. (she told me four years ago, and still two years ago and once in a while). So, I dig her a little and I've been using the drills on her and we basically talk like we're dating, but the ish is that she's boring. she calls the most, but I end up doing most of the talking, even while chatting. so recently I'm getting really tired of her boring chats. she replies well, but you know when most of the contributions are from you and all. so I told her about it, she apologized and said she would work on it. there's no difference, so I started ignoring her a little, when she asked why I told her. she begged and said she'll try. it has happened 3 times now, and I feel it's no longer a useful punishment. Fast forward to yesterday, I messaged her on WhatsApp, she read it a few minutes later and didn't reply, even till midnight, she was even viewing my status, so no excuse of saying she forgot. she did it last week, it was after ignoring her for about 2days. I called her, she let it ring for a while before cutting it. and didn't call back that day. the next day she messaged me, I asked if she cut the call, she said yes that she was having online classes and forgot to call back. I know she has online classes sometimes, but the seconds her phone rang for before cutting makes me feel like she was trying to make up her mind, and she viewed my status again that night, so I know she didn't forget, but I let it slide.

so today she called me after church(we go to the same church), we had a youth meeting and I left immediately after, she probably wanted us to go together. but I'm actually pissed because I feel she's taking me for granted and that's like the biggest sin you can commit against me. so when she called, the caller ID didn't show, so I picked, if I knew it was her, I wouldn't have.
I asked who's this please, she was like when did I leave church, when I recognized the voice, I just told her 'WO, don't disturb me' and cut the call.



so, I wanna know if my wahala is too much or not

thanks

ghost that girl

Uuooooouuch!
That feeling when u finally finish the thread after few months of intense drills.. Makes u wanna pay homage and say thank u to the boss Harddon for turning boys into men in the world of dating/relationship.
In the course of this thread I have seen stories that are very similar to mine..
I have learn and now am better informed.
I'll be going back to sch tomorrow to complete my ace program. And am definitely going to apply this drills in the next phase of my life.

Hello guys,



How do I get a girl to fall in love with me online,we met offline but she was just around for season visit,my first day meeting her was the last as she travelled back to her home in another state
Though that day,I think she wanted me to toast her else I wouldn't have gone and her sister and cousin accepted me that day,we had a lot of fun while she was busy on her phone also giving me attention but I couldn't say much

I call her twice in a week but she never call or flash

Though while collecting her number, she told me she wouldn't call but I insisted and we exchanged numbers. She didn't even save mine.

Due to work, I didn't call her for long and I did today

I asked her why she didn't bother to say hi and she said she doesn't have airtime


I asked her why didn't she reply my WhatsApp message and she asked me if I knew the last time she came online also I could check on WhatsApp


I want this girl to fall hard for me


p-s I'm an introvert
I ain't funny
I love laughing
I don't talk too much


cc. Harddon
Stanliwise

Thazard:
Hello guys,



How do I get a girl to fall in love with me online,we met offline but she was just around for season visit,my first day meeting her was the last as she travelled back to her home in another state
Though that day,I think she wanted me to toast her else I wouldn't have gone and her sister and cousin accepted me that day,we had a lot of fun while she was busy on her phone also giving me attention but I couldn't say much

I call her twice in a week but she never call or flash

Though while collecting her number, she told me she wouldn't call but I insisted and we exchanged numbers. She didn't even save mine.

Due to work, I didn't call her for long and I did today

I asked her why she didn't bother to say hi and she said she doesn't have airtime


I asked her why didn't she reply my WhatsApp message and she asked me if I knew the last time she came online also I could check on WhatsApp


I want this girl to fall hard for me


p-s I'm an introvert
I ain't funny
I love laughing
I don't talk too much


cc. Harddon
Stanliwise

she's clearly not interested in you or
you can search on YouTube for simple love spells it might work for you
Why don't you just ask her out and know your stand

Thazard:
Hello guys,



How do I get a girl to fall in love with me online,we met offline but she was just around for season visit,my first day meeting her was the last as she travelled back to her home in another state
Though that day,I think she wanted me to toast her else I wouldn't have gone and her sister and cousin accepted me that day,we had a lot of fun while she was busy on her phone also giving me attention but I couldn't say much

I call her twice in a week but she never call or flash

Though while collecting her number, she told me she wouldn't call but I insisted and we exchanged numbers. She didn't even save mine.

Due to work, I didn't call her for long and I did today

I asked her why she didn't bother to say hi and she said she doesn't have airtime


I asked her why didn't she reply my WhatsApp message and she asked me if I knew the last time she came online also I could check on WhatsApp


I want this girl to fall hard for me


p-s I'm an introvert
I ain't funny
I love laughing
I don't talk too much


cc. Harddon
Stanliwise

Why were you asking her about why she didn’t do this and that?

As per relationship those questions are rhetorical questions.
Bro, you are taking this chic too serious, if she likes you, she would have find time to call you.

Also let me ask, has she acknowledged she likes you?? I didn’t see that in your post

stanliwise:
Why were you asking her about why she didn’t do this and that?

As per relationship those questions are rhetorical questions.
Bro, you are taking this chic too serious, if she likes you, she would have find time to call you.

Also let me ask, has she acknowledged she likes you?? I didn’t see that in your post

Well I don't think she really likes me but i want her to grow feelings for me.

Thazard:
Well I don't think she really likes me but i want her to grow feelings for me.

Guy ah no be guru for this matter but I will tell you this.
Read this thread from first page and thank me later.
Read 1 to 10 if you didn't see any new light then you may leave.

Thazard:
Well I don't think she really likes me but i want her to grow feelings for me.

OK good answer and I like how bold you're are about what you want.
Have you in anyway before now talked to her about relationship and being interested in her? if yes that could be the problem.

Now push the question back to you, if a girl likes you and made you know about it, unfortunately you don't seem to like how. What do you think she can do to make you start liking her

The simple answer is she has to simply show you that you're not her only option, she has to make you believe you're a project in trial and she is on the move, she gat no permanent anchor on you and she doesn't think you're just too special to hang on.

The simple answer from me is to start seeing her as part of potential girlfriend, keep trying her but don't take her too serious, up your game, chat with other girls, think of other girls, hangout with other girls, this doesn't mean you don't like her, this means you're trying not to get to the point when she becomes like an angel in your eyes. This is the only way to deal with girls of her nature until they start giving you attention, and if she does fine, if she doesn't you never lose, later on you may realize she is not worth it after you meet like new 5 girls.

The beginning of mumu button is when you start to think or put people in position and start making it seem in your head that only them can occupy that space, aside God in your life, no man has a permanent in place in your life except you let them and now you are just asking me one strange question and this is it "HOW CAN I MAKE THIS GIRL A GOD OF MY HEART" , you don't realize it but as a gee I have to slap you back in to reality.

Henceforth, your goal now is how to meet as many beautiful ladies as possible, stop limiting and shooting your legs to one small beautiful lady next door, earth is 7.1 billion people about 3.5 are females, about 1 billion are so beautiful, so baba your aim no is how to keep meeting as many and keep learning, don't tie your neck, get used to pretty ladies in 2021.

I hope you take my advice. incase you're confused, no problem, just ask, when I have the time, would answer.

stanliwise:
OK good answer and I like how bold you're are about what you want.
Have you in anyway before now talked to her about relationship and being interested in her? if yes that could be the problem.

Now push the question back to you, if a girl likes you and made you know about it, unfortunately you don't seem to like how. What do you think she can do to make you start liking her

The simple answer is she has to simply show you that you're not her only option, she has to make you believe you're a project in trial and she is on the move, she gat no permanent anchor on you and she doesn't think you're just too special to hang on.

The simple answer from me is to start seeing her as part of potential girlfriend, keep trying her but don't take her too serious, up your game, chat with other girls, think of other girls, hangout with other girls, this doesn't mean you don't like her, this means you're trying not to get to the point when she becomes like an angel in your eyes. This is the only way to deal with girls of her nature until they start giving you attention, and if she does fine, if she doesn't you never lose, later on you may realize she is not worth it after you meet like new 5 girls.

The beginning of mumu button is when you start to think or put people in position and start making it seem in your head that only them can occupy that space, aside God in your life, no man has a permanent in place in your life except you let them and now you are just asking me one strange question and this is it "HOW CAN I MAKE THIS GIRL A GOD OF MY HEART" , you don't realize it but as a gee I have to slap you back in to reality.

Henceforth, your goal now is how to meet as many beautiful ladies as possible, stop limiting and shooting your legs to one small beautiful lady next door, earth is 7.1 billion people about 3.5 are females, about 1 billion are so beautiful, so baba your aim no is how to keep meeting as many and keep learning, don't tie your neck, get used to pretty ladies in 2021.

I hope you take my advice. incase you're confused, no problem, just ask, when I have the time, would answer.

99% of your comments are full of wisdom that's one of the reasons I'm following you.


I haven't talked to her about relationships ish.One of my problems is that I don't easily come across girls.I don't fancy meeting girls online and i can't get interested in a girl without knowing a little about her no matter how pretty she might be because I usually think 100-200 guys are on her DM and she's replying as much as she could so;



why do i think i would be the lucky chap?


Even if you could get her, don't i think she would be able to cheat with the number of guys on her DM?

Thazard:
99% of your comments are full of wisdom that's one of the reasons I'm following you.


I haven't talked to her about relationships ish.One of my problems is that I don't easily come across girls.I don't fancy meeting girls online and i can't get interested in a girl without knowing a little about her no matter how pretty she might be because I usually think 100-200 guys are on her DM and she's replying as much as she could so;



why do i think i would be the lucky chap?


Even if you could get her, don't i think she would be able to cheat with the number of guys on her DM?

Brother you are taking things too far.
Stop I want to date this fine girl this 2021
Change your mindset.

stanliwise:
Brother you are taking things too far.
Stop I want to date this fine girl this 2021
Change your mindset.

If a girl walk up to you now and greet you like a nice stranger, introduce her self briefly, and ask for your number. Why would you give her

1. Just curiosity
2. Because she is bold
3. She maybe beautiful
Etc


When next you see a fine girl quit these things from your head

1. I want to be her friend
2. I want to be her boyfriend
3. I want her to like me
4. I want relationship

The single thing that should be in your mind is that I want to flirt, talk to her or I want hangout.

You need to get comfortable with expressing your boldness in front of beautiful ladies. This “thinking of relationship” at first sight is not going to help you.

Whether she has up to 400 boyfriends and 600 slaves, your is you want flirt, talk or just do basically anything.

Your first task, get comfortable with expressing yourself boldly in front of nice, sexy sweet ladies.

By boldness I mean ability express how you feel, talk with confidence, ask her questions you feel like, careless of what she actually thinks, laugh comfortably etc and finally ability to ask what you want without fears.

You do this things in front of your guys day in day out, you need to learn to do this in front of sweet, hot girls with big ass and b**, forget who is dating her, that is not why you’re sparking up a conversation, you’re doing so because you wanna get use to them.

They too like being naughty, playful and even flirt too. But their beauty is deceiving you. And that deceit will lead you to Goan be buying unnecessary gifts, cards, cloths, call 24/7 and ultimately worship her.

Henceforth any beautiful lady or attractive lady you see now is a project for you to practice your boldness. By the time you’re done with like 7, this so called girl you’re looking at now will be of no important threat, you will know how to handle her

SEXINESS = CONFIDENCE

Apt and the next thing is.....please don't laugh. How do I flirt? Both offline and online,I don't know how. Still yet to have a first girlfriend.

Thazard:
Apt and the next thing is.....please don't laugh. How do I flirt? Both offline and online,I don't know how. Still yet to have a first girlfriend.

Flirt means behave as though sexually attracted to someone, but playfully rather than with serious intentions.

Do you understand the above statement. The wrong thing you’re doing right now is that you are not doing the last part “but rather playfully rather than with serious intentions”.

Warning: Flirting is very complex, but one thing is that the intention is about sparking sexual interest in anyone without strings and without any plan of future, without this mindset, your head would get trapped by pretty ladies. It is way technical than you can imagine, I have even done a bad description here

Any pdf?