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Know your place, Ka ira ya otu Okwaya?? Maka onye arara opu na uzo ( Who them knack gives way)

chinedumc91:
My dear people in this great forum. I seriously need your advice.

I'm dating a deeper life lady, we have seen each other up to six times but four of our meetings were at eateries while the remaining two we met was her own house and I always go with gifts like shoes, sandals, slipper, clothes etc.

The issue now is that, I wanted her to at least know my place since we are both living in the same city. But she said no, that her parents wouldn't approve it even though, I told her to come along with her two sisters if possible. She insisted no is against her church.

In this last Xmas, she asked me to buy her Ankara materials, which I did but she was expecting me to either take her out and use the opportunity to bring the gifts I bought for her. But I used covid19 as an excuse. As I'm writing this now those gifts are still in my house.

Now, she urgently needs 50k to register her carry over courses and her parents said no money and she is crying everyday because Tuesday next week is the deadline.

She is begging me to either give her or borrow her the money. But I told her that there's limit of what I can do for her now since we have not yet married. In fact I told her it is against my church to be spending on her when we are yet to marry.

Note, we are getting married this year even though we have not started our church courtship.

What do you advice me to do.

Cholls:
My brothers should we tell him?

Nope! Allow him some time to figure it out for himself.

no we don't want to, let him find out and get sense by hinsef

Cholls:
My brothers should we tell him?

chinedumc91:
My dear people in this great forum. I seriously need your advice.

I'm dating a deeper life lady, we have seen each other up to six times but four of our meetings were at eateries while the remaining two we met was her own house and I always go with gifts like shoes, sandals, slipper, clothes etc.

The issue now is that, I wanted her to at least know my place since we are both living in the same city. But she said no, that her parents wouldn't approve it even though, I told her to come along with her two sisters if possible. She insisted no is against her church.

In this last Xmas, she asked me to buy her Ankara materials, which I did but she was expecting me to either take her out and use the opportunity to bring the gifts I bought for her. But I used covid19 as an excuse. As I'm writing this now those gifts are still in my house.

Now, she urgently needs 50k to register her carry over courses and her parents said no money and she is crying everyday because Tuesday next week is the deadline.

She is begging me to either give her or borrow her the money. But I told her that there's limit of what I can do for her now since we have not yet married. In fact I told her it is against my church to be spending on her when we are yet to marry.

Note, we are getting married this year even though we have not started our church courtship.

What do you advice me to do.

my brother I think u are only dating urself, 50k that money is tantamount to drowry na

If you want to help her, give the money to her father and he will give the money to her.
likewise boys, if you want to help a lady or fellow boys like that, do it the other way round so that there will be no any issue.

chinedumc91:
My dear people in this great forum. I seriously need your advice.

I'm dating a deeper life lady, we have seen each other up to six times but four of our meetings were at eateries while the remaining two we met was her own house and I always go with gifts like shoes, sandals, slipper, clothes etc.

The issue now is that, I wanted her to at least know my place since we are both living in the same city. But she said no, that her parents wouldn't approve it even though, I told her to come along with her two sisters if possible. She insisted no is against her church.

In this last Xmas, she asked me to buy her Ankara materials, which I did but she was expecting me to either take her out and use the opportunity to bring the gifts I bought for her. But I used covid19 as an excuse. As I'm writing this now those gifts are still in my house.

Now, she urgently needs 50k to register her carry over courses and her parents said no money and she is crying everyday because Tuesday next week is the deadline.

She is begging me to either give her or borrow her the money. But I told her that there's limit of what I can do for her now since we have not yet married. In fact I told her it is against my church to be spending on her when we are yet to marry.

Note, we are getting married this year even though we have not started our church courtship.

What do you advice me to do.

confirm!

Babara1994:
Don't be surprised she has a nigga somewhere
that is giving it to her steady.

Your job is to buy her gifts and send her money, while the other guy's job is to smash her.

Be wise, guys. Don't spend a dime on any woman you're not yet married to.
I cum in piss

Karleb:
So her parent can not afford N 50k.

My only concern is, she'll eventually become your responsibility when you guy's marry.

Are you sure you can cater for two in this Buhari economy?

They can if they want to, but they know she has a sponsor boyfriend.

InfernoNig:
Don't blame her. She is avoiding temptation. Or she don't want you to find out that she is very wild down there. Just Saying

What temptation? She should refuse all the gifts too because temptation starts from there.

chinedumc91:
My dear people in this great forum. I seriously need your advice.

I'm dating a deeper life lady, we have seen each other up to six times but four of our meetings were at eateries while the remaining two we met was her own house and I always go with gifts like shoes, sandals, slipper, clothes etc.

The issue now is that, I wanted her to at least know my place since we are both living in the same city. But she said no, that her parents wouldn't approve it even though, I told her to come along with her two sisters if possible. She insisted no is against her church.

In this last Xmas, she asked me to buy her Ankara materials, which I did but she was expecting me to either take her out and use the opportunity to bring the gifts I bought for her. But I used covid19 as an excuse. As I'm writing this now those gifts are still in my house.

Now, she urgently needs 50k to register her carry over courses and her parents said no money and she is crying everyday because Tuesday next week is the deadline.

She is begging me to either give her or borrow her the money. But I told her that there's limit of what I can do for her now since we have not yet married. In fact I told her it is against my church to be spending on her when we are yet to marry.

Note, we are getting married this year even though we have not started our church courtship.

What do you advice me to do.

Kolo Onirin - Metal Piggybank

Keep depositing and investing my brother, your rewards are in heaven but find another wife on earth sha!

Righteousness2:
That's a special woman you have there.
You may not know or value her now.
She is doing all she can to help you, herself and the Family you two will become.

Coming to Know your House might look harmless and innocent, but that harmless action could cause you two to Defile your marriage and open the door for the devil to strike.
The devil is smarter than what you know. That guy could Collaspe your glorious destiny in less than 2mins.

As for your gifts to her, you are not bound to give her. It's your choice to make. But if you know she is really the woman you wanna marry and you have the cash, I Advice you to give it to her.

Nice advice there sir but you cleverly avoided the one about N50k to sort carry over.

Isn’t that unchristian like to bribe lecturers for better grades?

Modified...Isn’t N50k a lot of money to register courses?

This is the parent’s responsibility.

inspiration my foot

2dice01:
Boss spend on her
You will harvest the fruits of your labour soonest

Don't hear won't haters are saying
They are Jealous

Continue being a perfect Gentleman
You such an inspiration

Timbers:
I can bet my balls that your girl has a side nigga and she probably spends the money you give her on him.

She needs 50k to register carry over courses and she didn't ask her parents but she asked you.

My guy she is just using you to fund her lifestyle

Goodluck ಠಗಠ

after u blame God when you balls are gone.

Lol, 50k to register carry over courses , na all the courses for the semester she fail?

I stop reading at

Now, she urgently needs 50k to register her carry over courses and her parents said no money and she is crying everyday because Tuesday next week is the deadline.


PLEASE IMMEDIATELY LEAVE THAT HOE SHE IS USING YOU WHEN WILL MEN WAKE UP . THE 50K SHOULD BE A RED FLAG FOR ANY SMART PERSON

Fellow nairalanders i need your consent should we let the cat out of the basket?

chinedumc91:
My dear people in this great forum. I seriously need your advice.

I'm dating a deeper life lady, we have seen each other up to six times but four of our meetings were at eateries while the remaining two we met was her own house and I always go with gifts like shoes, sandals, slipper, clothes etc.

The issue now is that, I wanted her to at least know my place since we are both living in the same city. But she said no, that her parents wouldn't approve it even though, I told her to come along with her two sisters if possible. She insisted no is against her church.

In this last Xmas, she asked me to buy her Ankara materials, which I did but she was expecting me to either take her out and use the opportunity to bring the gifts I bought for her. But I used covid19 as an excuse. As I'm writing this now those gifts are still in my house.

Now, she urgently needs 50k to register her carry over courses and her parents said no money and she is crying everyday because Tuesday next week is the deadline.

She is begging me to either give her or borrow her the money. But I told her that there's limit of what I can do for her now since we have not yet married. In fact I told her it is against my church to be spending on her when we are yet to marry.

Note, we are getting married this year even though we have not started our church courtship.

What do you advice me to do.

is this a joke or what?

This is 21st century for goodness sake

I dislike to talk about issue that has to do with religion but I think I need to share my opinion about your matter provided that it's real

I see no reason why your gf whom you planned to marry should refuse to know your house, there's more to marriage than religion. Personally, I don't place religion above other qualities a woman must possess before you consider her worthy of marrying.

I expect both of you to know & understand each other better whereas coming to your house spending quality time together is part of it. Forget about issue of sleeping with her because I assume both of you are adult & must be disciplined enough to avoid such as it's not part of your agreement.

HenryThegreat1:
You are very wrong on this. Deeper marry from other churches. About 3 of my friends married from there.

He is very right, deeper life doesn’t marry outside, even if you’re a member and you are not a worker, no marriage for you.

Katier00:
special wetin? Na this kind woman de cry on her wedding night say her uncle raped her when she was 12 cos there don become Lagos ibadan express way.

Take e-kiss for this comment.

Fiscus105:
They say marriage is a black market, the one you about to enter is a blind market

Woman you plan to marry this year, yet can't go to ur house with her sister or brother!
The doctrine that forbids girl not to visit man house, it is supposed to forbid guy spending heavily on girl who is yet to marry to

Sex is just fragment of what can keep couple together for long,but companionship, the exact behaviors of two partners and ability to reach compromise in their dealings more important.

Without coming to ur place not even once before you married? Sorry is ur nickname!

Of course she might not involve in infidelity, what about other attitudes that make woman a good wife

Ability to cook well
Making house clean
Nagging
Respect to neighbors
Involving 3rd party in marriage affairs. etc

Oga, if you are not yet leaving with a partner, you haven't known 10% of what she or he capable of doing ooo

God bless you richly for this wonderful submission

She does not love u. Take it or leave it. Even Mary used to visit Joseph in the Bible.

Cholls:
My brothers should we tell him?

Tell him ke? Nooo

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Righteousness2:
That's a special woman you have there.
You may not know or value her now.
She is doing all she can to help you, herself and the Family you two will become.

Coming to Know your House might look harmless and innocent, but that harmless action could cause you two to Defile your marriage and open the door for the devil to strike.
The devil is smarter than what you know. That guy could Collaspe your glorious destiny in less than 2mins.

As for your gifts to her, you are not bound to give her. It's your choice to make. But if you know she is really the woman you wanna marry and you have the cash, I Advice you to give it to her.

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Gibberish.

My brother,
Don't be deceived. You want to marry someone this year and she doesn't even want to know where you live?
Wait, forget about sex or temptation, how can she even claim to know you or anything about you? Even cares to know the kind of life you live?

In my own personal opinion... she doesn't have the intention of marrying you.

If you fail to end it before it's too late...it will end in premium tears.

Shalom!

You are talking about the woman you want to marry. Have you prayed about it before making that sweeping statement? Has God approved it ahead of you? If this foundation is missing, there is a problem!

chinedumc91:
My dear people in this great forum. I seriously need your advice.

I'm dating a deeper life lady, we have seen each other up to six times but four of our meetings were at eateries while the remaining two we met was her own house and I always go with gifts like shoes, sandals, slipper, clothes etc.

The issue now is that, I wanted her to at least know my place since we are both living in the same city. But she said no, that her parents wouldn't approve it even though, I told her to come along with her two sisters if possible. She insisted no is against her church.

In this last Xmas, she asked me to buy her Ankara materials, which I did but she was expecting me to either take her out and use the opportunity to bring the gifts I bought for her. But I used covid19 as an excuse. As I'm writing this now those gifts are still in my house.

Now, she urgently needs 50k to register her carry over courses and her parents said no money and she is crying everyday because Tuesday next week is the deadline.

She is begging me to either give her or borrow her the money. But I told her that there's limit of what I can do for her now since we have not yet married. In fact I told her it is against my church to be spending on her when we are yet to marry.

Note, we are getting married this year even though we have not started our church courtship.

What do you advice me to do.

I have some questions.

Are you a Deeper Life member yourself?

What is church courtship?

Are you able to verify some of her claims? For example, is it possible for you to know if she indeed needs money to reregister failed courses?

chinedumc91:
My dear people in this great forum. I seriously need your advice.

I'm dating a deeper life lady, we have seen each other up to six times but four of our meetings were at eateries while the remaining two we met was her own house and I always go with gifts like shoes, sandals, slipper, clothes etc.

The issue now is that, I wanted her to at least know my place since we are both living in the same city. But she said no, that her parents wouldn't approve it even though, I told her to come along with her two sisters if possible.She insisted no is against her church.

In this last Xmas, she asked me to buy her Ankara materials, which I did but she was expecting me to either take her out and use the opportunity to bring the gifts I bought for her. But I used covid19 as an excuse. As I'm writing this now those gifts are still in my house.

Now, she urgently needs 50k to register her carry over courses and her parents said no money and she is crying everyday because Tuesday next week is the deadline.

Marrying this girl would be the biggest mistake you would make in life so far. Yes i wrote it in bold so you can still see it, in case you have any eye defect.

When a woman loves you, she can move mountains for me. Religion? pfft, what is that. We all know women that changed their religion for the men in their life. I personally know a deep Jehovah witness babe that celebrates her boyfriend’s birthday and more ....

This girl is poor, needy, isn’t enlightened in the ways of reciprocity. Has she ever bought anything for you, even its a bottle of chin-chin. She would be a great liability over your neck that would drown you in a sea of sorrow.

You set a precedence with your approach to courting her, which she would vehemently follow because its benefits her in every way at no expense her. You better cut ties with her, you don’t even know this babe.

Righteousness2:
[s]That's a special woman you have there.
You may not know or value her now. [/s]

Just be supporting total rubbish. For your information even our great grand mothers visited their prospective husband, even with sumptuous food.

Love makes the heart grow fonder. This babe obviously doesn’t care enough even to know the living situation of the man that wants to “marry himself”. Who won’t want to see the house they are going to pack into after marriage.

Like i said if a woman loves you, you would know.

let her be deceiving you, check her Toto now, e go turn Atlantic ocean


I dated one then and my plan was to marry but she love money and I wasn't financially cool then, I tried to persuade her and use man trick for good 4months just because I don't want to lose her then, unfortunately I disflowered her, this is a lady that didn't even have earring hole in her ears, 4months after she left me because I couldn't provide for her


2years after I was single and we coincidentally met again in her school, we reconcile and started dating, to my surprise this lady had open wide to the world, Ruth now súck dick, she súck like a porn star, I never get raba much then but I dey give tips which made her to stay for 6months, after I lost my small job then, she started giving me red flag, I set her up with a friend Facebook to test her and she fall yakata because that one promised her 200k


she was dumbfounded when I caught her because she was always acting godly girl, she late confessed that after I dated her, na one married man with big gbola date her and that taught her all the styles she know


please I beg you stop believing all this church or deeper life girls, they're wild than club girls

I don't have anything to say..... On this note, I would like to shout a big LOL

chinedumc91:
My dear people in this great forum. I seriously need your advice.

I'm dating a deeper life lady, we have seen each other up to six times but four of our meetings were at eateries while the remaining two we met was her own house and I always go with gifts like shoes, sandals, slipper, clothes etc.

The issue now is that, I wanted her to at least know my place since we are both living in the same city. But she said no, that her parents wouldn't approve it even though, I told her to come along with her two sisters if possible. She insisted no is against her church.

In this last Xmas, she asked me to buy her Ankara materials, which I did but she was expecting me to either take her out and use the opportunity to bring the gifts I bought for her. But I used covid19 as an excuse. As I'm writing this now those gifts are still in my house.

Now, she urgently needs 50k to register her carry over courses and her parents said no money and she is crying everyday because Tuesday next week is the deadline.

She is begging me to either give her or borrow her the money. But I told her that there's limit of what I can do for her now since we have not yet married. In fact I told her it is against my church to be spending on her when we are yet to marry.

Note, we are getting married this year even though we have not started our church courtship.

What do you advice me to do.

THERE ARE TWO KNOWN THINGS : YOU are Either Lying or You are Hypocrites Wanting Marriage through Church Attendance. No Official Courtship but U have Started Visiting and Exchanging GIFTS... "All LIARS shall have their Parts in d Lake of Fire..." Bewarned.

Makes no sense.

Why should anyone get married to a woman without having sex first to see if she is great at it?