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Pheurly:
U made sense small.. But everything nor be s**.... I don't see women as s** object...
They re meant to loved..
Making her my buddy.. Wld try..

na the best advice that guy give you but your mumu head no go fit reason am

Pheurly:
Hi Nairalanders..
I don't know how I would start, but let me just begin.
I met this girl in my area, a beautiful, intelligent lady. Each time I saw her passing I always wish to talk to her, make her my friend. Cos I talk to her sis, I used that to start the conversation with her.. Then later I saw her one day, greeted her asked for her name and we started talking, we are good friends now... Days passed and now I'm having another feeling to be with her, probably to even get married to her... There are enough reasons to be with her. I'm not a player, the feelings I'm having for her are not infatuations.... Talking to her about my feelings to her or something like that is not the problem... She even told me she broke up early January...
Wat is then the problem? .... She is graduating this year, but I'm starting.... We're age mates though... But I'm feeling she might look at her class(not class in school o)... Her level... Will she even look at my side... I'm scared of it... I don't want to lose her... She is too precious oo..
Probably she might say I'm still in school stuffs like that... Money is not really a pro.. Me starting school now u know we need our course na.. I bleeped up sha.... That aside...
Please should I go on to ask her out.. Will I be rejected, i'm just so confused.. it's now I'm feeling what they call love.. We re both young.... No bash my age pls. If u see me u won't know I'm that young.. Lol.. I be fine boy sef.. Like I said, I hope to get married to her..
Nairalanders, the big lovers. Big daddies, mummies ... If u were in my situation before.. Please advice me too hw u did yours...
You're loved Nairalanders..

U think she's precious? Like seriously?

U're jst starting out. You'll meet more precious girls trust me.

Offpoint:
Are there still Window 7 die hard fans like me out?

I got stuck with window 7, I felt terrible when they announced about stopping updates on Window 7.

I have tried higher versions of windows 8/10, but I keep downgrading, Don't just like them especially w10.....


what's your view about W7 compare to her younger sisters?

I have never used windows 7 before. Hate it like hell.

Windows 8 is cool but 10 is heaven. It's probably because you 'grew up' on Windows 7. Try forcing yourself to use Windows 10 for a month or two with an open mind, you'd be surprised.

skymight:
I am beginning to suspect that now bro cox I do not see how we just had sex on Monday and on Saturday she is pregnant. She is not even helping as she refuses to pick any of my calls again

Bros na she carry belle. No be you carry am.


Leave the calls. When she's seriously she'll call you.

Don't accept responsibility when you're not sure. Question her well well. Personally, I feel 95% sure that you are not the owner of the pregnancy if she's truly pregnant.

Pregnancy symptoms start manifesting most times around a week or two not 2 days.

Forget those she's shy talk. Lots of girls are undercover hoes. All the need is someone with good privacy for them to unleash their true nature.

Darkzayn:
What are you people even saying who gets pregnant in one week? like are u guy this dumb or what? How do you met someone on Monday sex on Thursday then on Saturday she is pregnant op are you stupid or foolish?

the thing weak me o.


Either she's not pregnant or she got pregnant already, doesn't know the right guy and want to pin the responsibility on the op.

Op you're being naive and a simp. Forget connection, this love may just be happening in your head.

That girl might not feel a thing. No de take women at face value o.

Landnaira5:
Nobody demands trust or respect you earn it. If he has to ask for it he’s doing something wrong. I will never marry a man that believes he owns me and my money never - because nobody does - not even my father who has spent millions on me lays claim to me or my money. I won’t even be in such situation to start with.

My partner (not married) knows how much i earn, he does not believe he owns me and my money, he has no reason to ask for my ATM or STEAL MY CARD. I’ve given him my card/pin to do my grocery shopping many times and that’s because I trust him.

If I was dating a man like hers (which is really impossible, our values are different), I would NEVER hand over my card to him. Only God knows where people find all these men with archaic mentality in 2020. When we ask women to love themselves and know their worth they’ll say feminists have come again.

And yes if a woman marries a patriarch who has such terrible beliefs, she needs to look out for herself FIRST. If she marries her EQUAL and Partner - they should work as partners with transparency.

A woman who is married to a man who believes it’s his right to dictate how she spends her money/ or for the wife to submit her money to him should better hide her money and invest it very well for herself. Life is too short to be a fool.

Any man that can open his mouth and say he owns a whole human being cannot be trusted.

OP YOU BETTER PROTECT YOURSELF, DONT LET ANYBODY MANIPULATE YOU IN THE NAME OF SUBMISSION. BE WISE OH.

Bros he didn't ask or demand for trust or respect.

He asked her to be transparent. Stop all this theory of patriarchy bs

BananaPeel:
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You are your own problem and will be the reason your marriage will collapse if you don't change such attitude. It is not a prophecy but your marriage will go the way of all those nollywood actresses. You don't know what marriage is all about before you married. You need serious counseling. I don't even know what to say to you.
But let me just tell you one simple thing. I'm married and my wife knows all about my income and I know about all hers. We both agree on every financial transactions before it is done. Even if I do any transfer to family and upon return I tell her and she will be fine because we trust each other. Secrecy breeds mistrust and then collapse.
When you put money before marriage and trust, then, sorry will be the outcome.

Abeg tell them

Landnaira5:
A man that says he owns you and your finances IS A CONTROLLING MAN. A man that seizes your ATM CARD IS A CONTROLLING MAN. For a man like this SHE SHOULD NOT TELL HIM HER EARNINGS.

Yes couples should be open with each other with everything including finances if they are in a TRUE PARTNERSHIP but definitely not when one party has assumed the role of lord and savior aka “I OWN YOU AND YOUR FINANCES” That is not a partnership.

Nigerian men will be wanting patriarchy benefits but without patriarchy money

abegi

The man may have said that out of desperation nothing more.


He asked peacefully and she didn't comply. Only God knows how many times he must have asked her before taking another line of action.

The woman does not in any way talk about him not providing enough for the family so I wonder where you are drawing all the patriarchy bs you're talking about.

Like i said, the woman should have been opened to the man from the onset. She's very wrong in that aspect especially when the man hasn't shown any sign of wastefulness or excesses.

She had no right to hide her finances from him. It's the type of you that think it's right for a woman or a man to carry out capital project with the knowledge of their spouse.

If you can't share your life, why get married in the first place?

chiddyok:
If you don’t have a gold digger as an in-law please be quiet.

don't compare someone's marriage with another person's. Did she say her husband was a gold digger?

chiddyok:
And so we marry people we don’t trust with our finances because we must marry. And you need to see where married women are putting down unmarried ones, as if they were born married.
Madam, cancel your atm card and don’t bother with a new one. Bring one or two relatives around or let him know you are responsible for them. Inflate what you spend on them and save the rest in another account. And think very hard of the future of your marriage. I don’t know how you people share bed with someone you can’t share your purse with.
And nobody should quote me and ask me if I’m married and when I marry I’ll understand. I’m not, because I didn’t ask anyone to feed me so I can’t feed anyone’s son.

Chai

You'll las las destroy the marriage.

michlins:
People go into marriage with all the wrong footing. Like how did you go into marriage making something as important as your salary a secret. You lost that right the day you decided to marry.
Both of you need to know what your earnings are and then make plans based on such.
How did you both make plans about the marriage in the first place. Like plan kids, your house and other essentials like cars and investments.

Having said that, your husband is all shades of wrong by seizing your � card. Like why should he seize your card?

The foundation of the marriage was built on zero trust so the effects are what we're looking at

Guy the thing surprise me o. And some people up there are advising the woman that her husband is not supposed to know about her earnings.

How are they going to plan for the future? They think marriage is still bf and gf level.

Marriage is like partnership in business. Awareness is very important.

While the husband may be wrong in seizing her card, we need to learn what pushed him. He'd been asking her and any reasonable woman should have responded favorably but the woman didn't. This probably pushed him.

I don't see him as controlling. I see a man that knows his wife doesn't trust him and he's probably desperate to get a peek into her life.

... who said this is the first time such an abomination will be happening in the community.

When all the men are Simps

sacajawea:
I have an Athletic body, just normal Like the average Footballer's Body, is that hard Enough?

And who told you I like them Soft

you no like soft women?

They like you as hard as you want them soft

liabilities ladies time to hook up with a serious nigga

Maybe you guys should give Kuda bank a try

Axiel99:
She's your gf abi? Those other rape victims have no such connections with their raper. So when a girl is screaming and begging the rapist to stop, she's indirectly telling him to continue?

de there na.

Wives the accuse husband of rape talk less about a gf.

Some girls go follow man enter hotel room. Do the do and go cum still de accuse you.

Girls who have nothing to offer also want to shame guys.


Ladies are the fakest thing a guy can lay his hands on. We've been there seen them and done them

One way or another, Buhari caused this

Na wetin I de talk wey some girls de say me I no de romantic.

Which nonsense. I'll provide financially. Buy her all she needs including the food she'll eat and you expect me to still cook and wash plates and even my own clothes?

Wetin come be her own contribution to the relationship? If both of us are working and contributing to the house even if it's not equally I may want to do some part of the work.

But my wife gat understand say na help I de help am do the work no be because we de equal. That's trash.

If females want to be equal in marriage, they should tell their fathers to stop collecting bride price.

No b today women start to the self service

Eberechi24:
She is right. We live in constant fear of men.

Quoting me won't ease your pain when you are done wailing, you sleep.

awon we want to join the club too.


Who wan rape you?

JasonScoolari:
The way you're taking it personal, one would assume that you're a full-blown rapist or a potential rapist.

She did not say anything wrong in her post, infact, what she stated there was nothing but the truth.

They're now living in constant fear cos of some randy he-goats.


This is not right.

there are female rapists there too.


If it's a man that have made the generalization that she has made concerning women they would have called him a misogynist.

Not all men are rapist. Just as not all women are rapist. She's not saying any truth

duality:
Your schools and business are not essential too but open market? And the so virus has it's "timing" for open market transactions?

You are in danger, wake up!

market opens for foodstuffs.

Do I get food stuff from skul?

Malawian:
This Virus, where is it?

it's in hell fire

AntiWailer:


When will he apologize for slamming poor people on chairs and using them to satisfy his wrestling fantasies in the name of deliverance.

I swear he has unfulfilled wrestling fantasy

duality:
You are interested about infection in Church, but have no issues with markets. People still travel all over.


You are in danger and you don't know it. Wake up before it's too late.

market is an essential

So my sisters just returned from church and were asking me why didn't I go to the church.

I asked if they didn't hear about the lockdown and the told me the church was filled today.

Can you imagine that?

In the village here, the pastors whose opinion these people trust more won't care to educate them or obey the lockdown order.

Instead they will start church as early as 5am and close around 6-7. I don't know if they expect the virus to be sleeping by then.

God knows what will happen if someone is with the virus one Sunday.

Nggs121:
And you have no fvcking brain.

I see people like you and I spit on the floor. I don't need to read any book to know that the Aryan race has furthered civilization a lot

Abeg Aryan people refers to the special German blood Hitler wishes to protect.

It has nothin to do with the progress of the world. Rather they've sought to destroy the world and start all over again.

My 1 cent

hoMegas:
Premiumwriter

Guys no just wan open eyes.

Wait mk I go form one