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I agree the guy I date is Nigerian and he was saying I love you after 2 weeks of online chatting and the few other African men I encountered through work and friends were the same way they would meet a girl and a few weeks later they were telling them they love them. Sure I guess some women like to hear those things but it creeped me out.

Heart broken if he really just married you for a green card then you should contact your local immigration office. They will be able to advise you better but are you sure he didn't love you at one point of time then grew tired of you and now your just bitter because he left you and now you want to see him deported?

I can do without all those things but if I had to choose one I would say money, I mean I don't drink, I went longer then 3 months without sex, the phone I don't really care because, the internet can meet all your communication needs when I was in college I ate noodles every day for like 4 months and noodles are not my favorite food.

Abortions from molestation and incest I can agree with but unwanted pregnancy or teen pregnancy I don't agree with. Thats like using a abortion for birth control.Women and teens need to either keep their legs closed, use condoms or other forms of birth control when it come to unwanted pregnancies.

How is any of these current affairs? Wouldn't they have to be current? Meaning recently?

All my slutty friends from high school are happily married so I guess it worked for them.

Those people have other mental issues going on.

The Nigerian man I date is romantic.

Had he not broke the law then his nephew might have helped him stay. The US is cracking down big time on drunk drivers.

I wonder if the men in the church got some of this holy milk lol.

Lol! I don't think that came from the west most women here don't mind letting a guy know that they are interested in him but hey maybe that worked for the author.

Afamdman: I have no idea too. Something fishy going on. U sure say them no wan use you for sacrifice?

Lol who knows? They just might try to sacrifice me.

Everything is good we are fine we came up with a compromise that me, him, and his mother can agree on. We are both still learning each other, and to tell you the truth I have know idea why this man tolerates my attitudes, mood swings, and sometimes temper but he does and I love him for that.

Everything is good we are fine we came up with a compromise that me, him, and his mother can agree on. We a

chikeorji123: I' not comfortable with this Op
she sound so arrogants that's america for u.hey this is nigeria.
she can't cook..l pity this young man or is he under a spell?.
Even sexkill have to argue b/f she bend to understand to flow..
Divocee no 2? which means no 3 is inevitable? offcourse l bet my last card on it..
Just imagine her name Princess1982 from america? what happen our nigerian 1982princess down to 1990?..Honestly our guy need to visit synagogue immediately l smell foul play here.. *no offence*.

I don't think he is marrying me for my cooking, Amd I can't say that I know any spells but even if I did I highly doubt I would have to put a man under a spell to get him to agree to marry me. Oh and as far as me choosing the screen name Princess that is something my boyfriend calls me that's not even my real name and 1982 was the year I was born I am 30, However as far as me being arrogant goes that's not fair you don't even know me.

Onegai: A smart matured nigerian man told me that nigerian women are artificial because nigerian men are insecure. He's very right: what this nigerian man will never accept in his nigerian gf, is what he's willing to tolerate in his foreign gf. OP, I was on your side from your first post, then you began to post some more and now, I'm on his side. More stuff like this is going to happen and it's best you decide to accept his culture without losing yourself or know that you wanna stay proudly american (you sound black american) and leave this guy.

I am half black and half Native American if you must know and I do accept his culture that wasn't the problem. The problem is I don't accept being told what to do and I didn't think that was part of Nigerian culture.

AmBeautiful: But na wa sha oo!
In this day and age a full grown man would sit with his mother and give a full grown lady a list of do's and don'ts ?
Abeg op if I may ask, how old are you? Are u a teenager? Hmm..... Odikwa serious matter oo!
But wait oo! Is this guy in question an only son or an only child? Is he a teenager?


Well sha....
Try to discuss this issue over with him and let there be a compromise between both of you.If a compromise is reached, Also be ready for more interventions from this guys momma in the future.
But remember marriage is for better for worse....... If you know you really can't fit into the plan of him and his mum, its better he knows now. Please do not pretend.

He is the oldest boy there is actually 4 Children in his family a younger brother and 2 sisters and he is actually 42 years old.

When I say I always speak my mind its not like all day I just go around speaking my mind. What I mean is if I am engaged in a conversation or if somebody is doing or saying something I don't like or agree with then I will state my opinion and sometimes I am very verbal about it. Then as far as me not being ready for marriage well its not like Im getting married tomorrow. Then as far as Nigerian men marrying foreigns they all have there reason but I highly doubt his is a self esteem issue I think he just like who he like.

The US has a lot of silly laws that should be taken off the law books most are old and has never been enforced. If those laws are actually laws they were probably written in the late 1800's.

P4VS20: this is beginning to sound like fiction. i berra bounce to another thread

Bye bye!

SAFO: Wow that man must really love you.

Lol I told him in the past I couldn't cook all he said was no wahala! Then he said he can cook if we get hungry

SAFO: .

For clarification purpose, does this mean you don't know how to cook or that you're just not allowed to cook an American meal for his family on that particular day.

....... Please say it's the latter :::prays::::

It means I don't cook and really can't cook not unless its simple.

So I apologized for over reacting and explained to him that I have never been submissive and I don't like being told what to do, his response was you can be guided. WTF is that supposed to mean? Lol but that's another story!

I guess the two most unreasonable things on the list is he don't want me to talk to much about my pass which is kind of understandable. I'm not ashamed of it however I'm not exactly proud of it but I'm willing to compromise and not say to much. Then the other he wants me to cook at least one meal from his culture on his house helps day off now that might be a problem because, I can't cook American dishes but he promised something simple and said his mother would be there to help. The other things on the list .are just a few tips so I don't feel out of place.

I guess my problem is how he brung it up to me. He basically said I have a list of things you will follow on your next visit. I guess I reacted the way I did because, of the tone don't tell me I will follow anything when you can easily talk to me and suggest a few things.I am not a puppy that needs to be trained. So anyway I finally returned his call after 17 voice mail and he's going to send text the list anyway he says what I don't like then don't change so if I see something to over the top I will definitely post them here. I love this man and I definitely don't want him to look bad in front of his family so I will compromise on somethings.

My parents don't like that he is Nigerian or that he is 12 years older then me or the fact that he wants us to live in Nigeria but they know they have to accept it or lose me and thats how he should feel when it comes to me.

Like the me being married twice to him thats something that should be never mentioned. Its not like I'm going to be proud or open a conversation with it or even bring it up, but if somebody ask me Im not going to lie about it because, I am not ashamed about it.

I know how to behave its not like Im just going to start insulting people I been a wife 2 times already like I told him but he insists that Nigerian inlaws are a little different from American in laws.

obicentlis: I pray you don't end up with a divorce again.

Me either!

Mercy-u:
Wait ooo...I want 2 get something straight,@OP,did ur fiance tell u him and his mother are going 2 list for u their cultural/societal 'dos' and 'donts'or their own personal dos and donts.

Both!