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I am yet to see one. I don't admire men that do it and if i were to be a man, seriously i will marry one wife and live a peaceful and happy life.

I will not advice any man to marry more than one wife.

Nice one i am learning o!

chaircover: I learnt a long time ago that as you make your bed you lie on it. . .basically as you make your marriage you enjoy it. invest in the marriage and you will enjoy it and The best teacher is learning by example.

Our very first proper vacation as a married couple, I booked it all myself with my own money. I arranged childcare, packed his clothes, a sexy negligee, packed chocolates & wine. I even took some DVD's with me, Picked him up from work (he left his car parked at work) and I drove us down for the weekend and we had fun and that is how it all started and now no quarter or at most half year goes by without us spending at least one weekend away on our own. Even when we go on holiday in Nigeria we make sure that we do whispering palms/restaurants/shopping together . .NO Kids!

The thing is that you are going to have to make the effort and stick your neck out and invest in this. Dont believe that men have to do everything cos many dont even know what to do. Its when you show them, what to do and how its done, then they get the hang of it. The same man who bought me a exercise ball on valentines day those years back is the same man who this year arranged for a valentines hamper and valentines cake to be delivered to me in Nigeria whilst he was in back in the UK.

Id say baby steps so as not to scare him or overwhelm him. Make him enjoy the experience and he will want more and more of it, so leave the longer and further vacations out for now and Start from quality time within your city first. Arrange solid childcare, Offer to drive him to work one friday morning and take over the steering and straight down to whispering palms if you live in Lagos. Give him mindblowing sex & good company and Let him see what he is missing. Tease him and do all those silly things that you used to do while you were still dating.

As for gf, threeesome etc etc I beg you sister to sister please please please tell the devil to fcuuk off. the devil wants your marriage to come crashing down which is not your portion Amen.

LOL this got me laughing real hard. Jenny, i'm a work o lol

jennykadry: Has anyone told you how crazy and stoopid you are/sound? Let me be the first to tell you that

LOL this got me laughing out real hard. Jenny i'm at work o lol

jennykadry: Has anyone told you how crazy and stoopid you are/sound? Let me be the first to tell you that

Make sure you give the same advice you gave here to your, daughter, sister, neice and any female friend who comes to you with a similar problem.

hiden_conyo: in every relationship one person must kneel and d other must stand for d relationship to move forward.
in this case,u are the one kneelin...so,u hv to apologise to him since u stil love him and maybe him doing the same.....beside u only saw text msg and start to d vex carelessly

vivian chinaza: as if you don't know that some guys lick a lot of shi..t, watery shi..t for that matter.

@poster,

Apologise for what? After six months he didn't show any kind of remorse instead trying to look for something to blame you. Let me catch you apologising to that fool. In fact don't let me pour my anger on you please.

@ Jenny and Jidegirl, why are you two always quarreling?

@ topic, i need help too cause i am obsessed with shoes

Why don't you go back to your parents house? If he really loves you, he will come looking for you.

mofolorunshoabi: My dear familylanders! Quiet sometime now that we have communicated last. I have been trying to redirect the course of my journey. Now if u can recollect my last post, I told u he had taken me to court and we are still on the matter. The issue now is that he is sending a trusted friend of his to me saying he wants me to come and enjoy the largese he is currently enjoying with this "rich and matured" widow. Now he travels more often overseas, he changes cars and has even bought house in london. Going back to his marriage with me means going back to poverty. How can the lure of money make a man sacrifice his children and wife( that started life with u when you had nothing) for things money can buy? I have told the friend to tell him to pls go ahead and enjoy life with his 'mummy and adopted' children. As long as God is still on the throne, we will never lack! Pls pray for us.

DIVORCE that man, divorce that man, DIVORCE THAT MAN! Okay!

Happy birthday dear. Many happy returns of the day, enjoy.

Royal Roy: Click on madam CC's user name to view her profile, then go to the bottom of the page. Then click on send an e-mail. She wl get a notice about ur pm!!

Thanks Royal boy. I've done that

where?

CC, can i please have your email address i need to discuss something with you. Thanks!

corazoni: Ok sir

I am female

I thank God for your life. Nothing will happen to you, you shall live to see your great grand children. Amen!

Not my own jenny o, biko.... it is well with you hun.

I hope she does CC. A friend of mine is in the same situation and i just found out that she wants to travel to go visit her ex She has already discussed that with him.

My advice is, stop all form of communication with him, delete him from your facebook friends, deactivate your account if possible. You have a peaceful home (i guess) and a loving husband please do not throw all that away. Focus on your marriage, on your husband and studies you do not need an "EX" to distract you. There is a reason why you two broke up, there is a reason why he is called an "EX" let him go, let him know that you have moved on and now married, YOU need to make him respect YOU and your MARRIAGE.

I'm sure you won't like it if you were to find out that your husband is doing the same thing. Do not make a mistake by giving him your number o.

chaircover: I think its high time that a law is passed that no one lives with a married couple for the first 3 years of marriage.

About time CC.

@poster

You are better off without this man trust me. Move on with your life, get a very good female lawyer and take care of your kids. They deserve the best and really do not need all this wahala. Be strong, you'll be fine.

It is just not right for you to call her "idi ot" for wetin naw? and yet you say you love her so much?i don't get it... Total DISRESPECT

NO WAY!!!!!!!

jennykadry: Happy new year everybadyyy. I opened a thread on abuse last year and had to ask to mods to lock the thread no thanks to the railuway crew.

This is for those that suffered and are still suffering abuse.

How did you get out of it?

How do you plan to get out of it?

Did/do you think you could/cannot make it in life without the other person?

What was the last straw that broke the camels back?

What made you put on your bathroom slippers and say, enough is enough, I don't have to put up with this?

FOR THE ABUSED, NON ABUSED, PLEASE DEFINE IN YOUR OWN WORDS(WITHOUT LOOKING AT A DICTIONARY) WHAT YOU THINK ABUSE IS ALL ABOUT. When do we draw the line between abuse and mere couples quarrel? I read a thread last year on the romance section that made me realize that some people don't even know what abuse really is. One of the abused actually thought it was normal boyfriend/girlfriend quarrel..... she thought his behaviour was normal because he loves her death hence the jealousy. It got me thinking, how do we tell them what abuse is and what a normal and healthy argument/fight is. This is where I would expect the men to come in and contribute and let us know what they consider to be a normal argument/fight.

*Grabs popcorn and coke, reading replies

kulyie: i love you jenny,i love you,i love your posts,i love your way of thonking,i love your threads and i am totally in love with your personality on nairaland and of course i am not suprised if nairaland men hate you.when you start exposing their inferiority and superiority complex they get offended,infact i didnt even tell yo this,i fought with a friend of mine because he is a big time hater of you on and off nairaland,he calls you a frustrated woman that wants to mislead other women and i am always like you men always hate bold daring women that can stand up to your face and tell you f*k you and f*k your ego,am so so proud of you :*

I'm all smiles right now. You see wetin i dey talk, she's just too sweet, she is the more reason i decided to join nairaland. I've been reading a lot from her and i have also learnt a lot seriously...

to you again jenny

maryini: I am a fan of Jenny and the cabal too. At some point it became stalkerish

They are awesome