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anigbajumo:
See how u turn the table by giving excuse for cheating, am highly disappointed in u....

That small fine babe abi and the untellable word she called me yesterday still dey pain me today...lol #need4rematch Do become re-appointed with her if she starts making sense.

Psoul:
You ended up saying nothing. I wonder how you think you can advise someone reasoning this way.

Until you give me one reason from the story the Op painted, why he should leave the girl, I will keep believing that you are confused and not qualified to render advise on this matter.

Because he is in emotional tatters as a result of the girls confusion and ways confusing him. A man in emotional tatters can't focus to make enough money with which to confuse other ladies before his d*ck starts confusing him enough to make him go to Olosho to cure his confusion but get more confused by them when the babe finally bails. Do you need more confusing confusions to clear your confusion on the confusing matter as to why he should bail asap from the confusing relationship with a confused confuser?

resurgent4oodua:
Who can marry without money in Nigeria? Do you know how many bills one has to pay in a month?

And how many Nigerian women will marry a man without money? You think it's all men that have time to beg entitled Nigerian women?

When I said "buy" I knew what I was talking about. And please where are the good women in Nigeria? I haven't seen ooo.

Most of them saying "make money then find a girl later" actually insinuate in reality, for the guy to make money and buy a lady cos that's actually what it entails.

Naijaguy12345:
Na so Igbo women be, too controling. She's only waiting for Akeredolu to die so she can inherit his money. If am Akeredolu's family member I'll chase her out. Stupid 1bo b1tch.

Yet leave them for others.... for were? So either you are lying or...

Favor99:
Lol! I thought you said there was no tribalism against Edo!
Lmao!!!
Stop showing your ass to everyone
There you go being tribalistic proving my point like I said. I exposed you and your lots and you got mad.
But on a serious note what do you do for a living?
You do online work, yes lol

Do you work for nairaland? Are you a technician on this site? Shouldn’t you be working on the online website you work for? Or is it getting harder do dupe oyinbos out of their money?

You and your people are too inconsequential for one to be "tribalistic" to but since you called for it especially in the wrong section.
Mr job, what are you doing online by now are you not supposed to be serving your yahoo boss for monthly peanuts now or soo he will take you to Libya to be sold?

dami456:
The fact that you think that men will be better off either way, shows that your ignorance about statistics and the actual preference of women. No one in feminism is advocating for equal rights without responsibilities. Feminism has been, from the beginning, a movement that has encouraged women to work and financially contribute equally to their marriages. It's men that don't want that, because they know that with women working, the only thing that they used to bring to the relationship/marriage loses some value. If he messes up, he can no longer use that "well, shebi I pay all the bills around here" excuses anymore, because he knows that he's only paying for half of the stuff and she's paying half as well. The is the true craw that bugs a lot of men about feminism. They want to retain the power and have women dependent on them so that they can be allowed to do whatever they like. Well, too bad. Women are making more money now and with that, demanding the respect and equal treatment that they deserve. And with the worsening recession in Nigeria, every man knows that only a mumu will go with a woman that has never worked a day in her life or is making chicken change, over a woman that has her own and can contribute financially, so all of that burden isn't on him. A man that has his wife share in the financial responsibilities while expecting his wife to also do majority of the housework and do whatever he wants in the name of submission, is a useless fool that is too selfish to be a husband. And he deserves the terrible treatment and attitude from women, that he gets. Hate to break it to you, but lots of women that don't cook, get married. Lots that don't clean, get married. Sorry if that bothers you, but it happens often enough. In our current economic state, being able to cook and clean is not enough, and men know this. A lot of them are just no longer able to solely financially support their marriages. They have to find women that are making money as well, and the ability to cook and clean are often sacrificed, esp if the man can also cook and clean. A sensible man will share responsibilities instead of stupidly complaining about feminism.

Lol why is it paining you that women are giving their money to small boys for sex? It's hilarious because you're bragging about how men are running after oloshos and that means that they'll be alright at the end of the day. Yet, its paining you that women will be the same. Lol! You can insult women who do this all you want, that's your problem, but in my opinion, more power to them. Worldwide statistics actually show that married men are happier than single men, while single women are happier than married men. Men actually get a lot more from marriage than women do; married men make more money and they live longer. The women that are paying small boys are enjoying themselves. Instead of being bound to and having to take care of a man-children that will most likely be selfish in the marriage, she can be with a virile young man at the peak of his sexual prime instead of a balding, lazy old husband that demands and demands and gives little to nothing. Abeg.

Not sure where you're getting your info from (probably from other bitter, clueless men like yourself), but no, most feminists are not ugly. Sorry to inform you. A lot of them are attractive, financially successful women with good sexual acumen (and some also actually have good domestic skills, they just don't want to be the ones doing all the domestic duties all the time), and bring a lot more to the table than a woman that is sitting around waiting for 32yo Gbenga making 60k/month, to come and save her. Such a woman who has no clue about sex and is the boring, missionary, lights out scheduled sex at 8pm every Wednesday with the "Jesus does not want me to do that" mentality when it comes to every new sexual activity or position you bring to her. The one that most Nigerian men will end up cheating on anyway, with the oloshos, and then there is suddenly no more money for her to even cook stew for her children, because Gbenga did not realize that soliciting prostitutes on an 60k salary, is not conducive for being the primary breadwinner. Lol oshi.

Feminists are here to stay, and will only grow. Men can bleat like goats all they want about it, it won't change. If you're not useless and are ready to give mutual love and respect and share in household responsibilities as you're sharing in financial responsibilities, then as a man, you'll be fine. If not, in a few years/decades, you'll be left by the wayside with oloshos as your lifetime achievement and legacy, while everyone else is laughing at him. Congratulations.

In all this rant yet if you are not delusional, you will notice the increasing number of women jumping from crusade to babalawo looking for ...here it comes....A MAN even with all their money. Who said am in any way pained by women giving money to boys? Who is pained with alternative source of income. That way guys get to enjoy an alternative source of submission in financial form. Which responsibility when most ladies cant even pay their share of the bill on a date nor deem it comfortable and normal to house a guy during a relationship? Responsobilities guys take on naturally without a second thought. Lots of guys are currently a source of poverty alleviation for lots of women (training them in school, etc) in the Nigerian society. When you've got a higher % of ladies ready to comfortably undertake such responsibilities and more equally like guys do then your case for feminism as not just a cover for selfish, irresponsible, shallow minded ladies can start making sense. For every feminism who is looking to drag equall right without equall responsibilities their are a million other girls that the man can marry who are ready to undertake cooking and cleaning as their responsibility to ensure efficiecy based on division of labour in the home. All the man has to do is change wife often and long enough having all the time on his side to do that which women dont normally have.

Feminism will even help men to easily enjoy both the money and pussy of women and bailout easily if she happens to become financial incapable since she will become utterly useless given her inability to take up cooking and cleaning. So basically the marriage or relationship is hinged on the steady supply of the womans money and if anything happens to that the man bails. Hence women will become only as useless or usefull as the money they bring in just like you accuse men to be now.

With feminism, men now have the option of fuckmates with financial benefits wow...life just got better. Which man in his beast mode will be against feminism? Imagine a man being paid for the very activity he usually pays for.

Favor99:
It doesn’t. But when it becomes a pattern. Every Edo notable figure gets attacked on this nairaland in such a ferocious manner compared to other Nigerians then that only makes one thing.
I’m sorry you couldn’t figure that out. I’m here to help you understand the obvious if you need any help

You are the one who needs help and understanding here obviously. Imagine Edo people claiming hate lol. What exactly will one hate them for even for the wrong reason?

gbosaa:
Onazi is not an Igbo man.

Ogenyi Onazi must be an Edo name.

jafol:
Their is no YORUBA Christian and muslims we r one. We r past dat. Do you know Davido that is with chioma is Muslim, do you know FFK is Muslim and have Muslim name, almost all yoruba ibo loving bastards r muslims not even christians. Most YORUBA Muslims can even quote the bible. Go n Google the names I give u. They r from Muslim families. Even tobi baker, Leo dasilva, bode george are all muslims.
So give them their due respect

So they hate igbos but love their women. Thats some crazy combination there. Also, FFK and a number of those you mentioned are not muslims.

But so you say "no Yoruba christian nor muslim" yet went right ahead, just a couple of lines later, to point out those you claim belong (exclusively) to Muslim families. So thats the nonsense line you guys use to deceive Yoruba Christians - hiding under no Yoruba Christian or Muslim yet covertly acknowledging the exclusively Yoruba Muslim families or not? Just reserve it for them it doesnt work on less naive people.

Favor99:
It doesn’t. But when it becomes a pattern. Every Edo notable figure gets attacked on this nairaland in such a ferocious manner compared to other Nigerians then that only makes one thing.
I’m sorry you couldn’t figure that out. I’m here to help you understand the obvious if you need any help

I beg to differ. Unarguably, the most criticized tribe in Nigeria, NL inclusive, are the igbos yet you wont see them so paranoid and insecure to become overtly tribal in even mere football matters. The only area Edo people really get criticism here is in matters of prostitution in Italy.

Favor99:
Nigga that’s what I said! Take it how ever you want. Wtf!

And btw, how does criticizing Ighalo become criticism of Edo people? How does that even make sense? One can call Ihenacho a one-legged player and it will really take someone high on some ingrained ethnic bullcrap to see it as an insult to Igbos. I mean, how can a full grown human be reasoning like a...........somebody should complete it so you say I hate you

Favor99:
Are you this self-centered? When did I say Igbo?
I’m talking about Nigerians in general attacking my people, and your making this to be about Igbo
Anyway I will prove my point later

Look at your replies and the very post you concurred with as quote and claim innocent again. Or are you now insinuating that the entire Nigeria hates Ighalo for being an Edo indigene? Because that will really be more dumb.

And btw, how does criticizing Ighalo become criticism of Edo people? How does that even make sense?

Favor99:
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The criticism Moses and Ighalo got was kind of extreme. The name calling etc. the others were not criticized as much and was done lightly in comparison.
Look how hate and animosity is spewing out of this your mouth

Nationwide and even worldwide, players get as much criticism as the weight of their perceived offense. Many believe as they saw, that Ighalo cost Nigeria the world cup and criticized accordingly and the criticism was nationwide but out of your inherent negative bias, you heard only that of Igbos. Now I asked you, how about thesame igbos praising Musa and Ekong, then and now and those happy for Ighalo now for "redeeming" himself? Football is one area in Nigeria where people forget for a second their ethnic background but unfortunately you guys have to bring that into it just for the misguided hate of igbos. Whenever Ighalo or Musa traps the ball I an opponents 18 yard, every Igbo man watching prays to his Chi that he scores and the joyous deafening shout of gooooaaaalll!!!!! they makes when they do eventually score like today, attest to that fact. I only had to add a little venom so you know how utterly disgusting and out rightly stupid your ethnic bent on the matter is .

Mhoyorsawreh1:
Soar super eagles, looking out to Ola Aina's performance

The guy did Superb. Now the team has 3 fantastic left backs - Tyrone, Shehu and Ola...#Great

Favor99:
Very true! They all hate Ighalo and Moses because of tribe and state.
These people don’t want to admit. They’re here bashing you.

Crazy nonsense. So the Igbos criticizing the keeper, Elderson and Onazi then did it for what? How about thesame igbos praising Musa and Ekong, then and now ? Stop projecting your stupid ethnic bent on others as if Ighalo was performing well and got criticized. Someone cannot make informed criticism on a very glaring matter without having village goats bleating crazy hate.

jafol:
Common igbo woman taking charge of ondo state, so if ATIKU/OBI comes to power you can imagine what that ibo will do. I have heard about this woman and the way she controls her man. She hates yoruba people but funny enough this osu from nowhere married one with charms. I'm sorry for our YORUBA brothers that marry igbo or make them girlfriend. Have you noticed that Ibos strategy is to take our well influenced brothers e.g. Davido, FFK, Freeze etc. These men have run mad and narcissistic after their encounter with these women. It must be the oha soup. They are gradually becoming irrelevant. These women r going to east to get better charm to charm our brothers. My older brother experienced this from this ibo girl he dated na only God delivered him o. He became so much in love with this girl that we have to go out and find out what was running him mad. That ibo girl almost ruined him financially. He don send that bitch away, he is married and happy now. Abeg o mybrothers igbos are not smiling o. They r giving away their daughters for a reason. Most of these ibo girls have told their family how much money you get. They r desperados

Yoruba Muslim spotted with the sole aim in life to drive a wedge between Yoruba Christians and igbos.

Postfut:
True. I hope the awakening begins. All hail Nho4

I try to understand those who agree with but I have not given up on women and love...yet and appreciate the blessings therein. So not a full supporter....yet .I believe in fair play so give every lady a chance and benefit of doubt to see her true colors. I do relationship for the fun, positive bias and mental compactible if they are not there then and only then.....

Postfut:
Now let's break down this golden post. My parts in bold

Sorry to say young man but obviously you are a fool....same thing goes to any young man out there undergoing emotional trauma all in the name of keeping a girlfriend.

Agreed he is not a smart one. Getting worked up over a woman. Who does that?

To hell with ladies and those dating them.
Why must you subject yourself to such emotional agony just because of a mere lady you are senior to with almost 6 years and you are here crying like a sissy.

Despite the age difference he still acts slavish to a woman's whims. Pathetic.

I will never encourage my worse enemy to go into what you guys call girlfriend relationship that turns men into puppets.

Exactly!. Relationships today are strictly transactional. Men have all to lose and nothing to gain from these cum dumpsters.

Dating is a way of placing yourself under emotional slavery. Your Heart and mind keep bleeding at all time and before you realizes what is going on you will start battling with one health issue or the other all because of nothing.

True. Men today allow their emotions do the thinking. A corollary of entering a relationship is the loss of logic and independent thinking. He puts in all the efforts just for sex. Yet what she brings to the table is only sex, nagging, ability to cheat surreptitiously, fianancial and emotional demands. Who wants that?


Look at the rate at which our men are dying and the cause is directly and indirectly due to the fact that they want to please women and that is why women have taken advantage of us.
Women should be the one begging us to date them and not the other way round.

Truer words have never been said. We go through hell to please them yet never get a tangible return. Thanks to the desperate men they now feel they are doing us a favor by dating us. Silly statements like "you used me", "be a man and do this for me" reflects the hubris demnstrated by women. But of course sperm is cheap, eggs are expensive to them since they have lots of suitors on the table they are free to behave as they wish.

I once dated a lady who thought she was doing me a favour for dating me...the moment I realised it, I simply placed her where she belonged by severing myself from her.... When she realized it, she was now the one forcing herself on me and she was trying to get me back but it was too late for her because my mind was already made up to be single and happy....that was the best decision I ever made in my life and I never regretted it till this moment.

Only if all men behave like this the world would be a better place. Developing abduance mentality and never showing care emotion or "love" is the only solution. Only with these behaviors can we reset their heads and the toxic dating culture that abounds in today's society



Men have become almost nothing in the hands of women and yet vast majority of our young men are thronging in the wrong direction all in the name of love that doesn't exist.


Believe it or not" Love doesn't exist between girlfriend and boyfriend.

Real love only exists between mother and child...

[b]Here is the gold in this post. This is where Men make mistakes. They think women will love them like their mother. They seek the same affection their mother provided to them from women. How mistaken they are. The only woman that will love you unconditionally on earth is your MOTHER. Women are incapable of showing the same affection as your mother. Men love Women, Women love children, Children love puppies or toys. This is how it works. Love does not exist.


I bet you the number one reason our young men, including you allow yourselves to be traumatized emotionally is simply because of sex.

You don't need to have a girlfriend before you can have sex with ladies.

This what they don't get. You don't have to commit into a relationship to have sex.

Instead of killing yourself emotionally dump that girl and be free, because you were born free...don't allow anybody to put you in bondage all because of sex you can get easily.

Since the beginning of the world and forever, the only bargaining chip women have his sex. As soon as you show them that sex is nothing then your freedom comes.

I don't do relationships or dates and I am the happiest person all because I am free emotionally.... I sleep like a baby without having to worry if my partner is cheating on me because I have no bleeping girlfriend.

The only realistic solution is to stay away from any form of commitment. Instead, commit to your goals and prioritize your mission


Each time sexual urge comes in, I simply walk down to the nearest ASHAWO JOINT in my vicinity to ease off the urge with just N1000, and I am relaxed. I am in control of my happiness and not any bleeping lady.

A visit to the red light district helps to demystify sex and make you aloof.

I am in control of females around me because they can't control me with their pussies and they have regard for me....because I don't own them a dime.

If you don't belittle yourself as a man all because of sex, women will respect you...but is unfortunate that most of our young men have reduced themselves to power zero in the hands of ladies just because of sex.

All I can tell you is that you own the key to your happiness...

Enough said. The above tells the story. Freedom from the bondage of glorifying sex enables you see things in a new light and learn to put women in their place and call them out on their bullshit.

Thank you once again for this post. I bookmarked it.

Looking at the sheer number of likes and shares which will keep increasing before tomorrow and in the coming days, its gonna be red as lots of guys appreciate and use that wholly/ partly as template and go into beast mode towards women. Anarchy on womanity is finally upon us as warned. DEJA'VU unloaded.#Sad

2buffagain:
Very true.
At least with olosho, you know what you are dealing with so you can wrap that thing twice.

Some of you who have wakawaka girlfriends only wrap once or don't even wrap at all because you think you're in some exclusive ish

Yeah most Gf especially the wakawaka ones encourage, convince and deceive their guy overtime (that he is the only monkey with access to the banana basket) to go raw (especially if they believe the guy to be financially capable on event of any eventuality) so she can have someone to plausibly hold/blackmail if she gets pregnant in the course of her merry-go-round thereby putting the naive addicted ones at great risk of STD's HIV etc

Note: This is not advocating or advising people to go to ashawo because thise one i believe have their huge problems abd inherently heinous spirits and mindset that turned then into whores.

DeckXavier:
Has there ever been a time in history where love wasn't transactional? "love" as we know it, is merely a chemical activity in the brain... Through out the ages, men have been the sole provider and protector of the family, that should be him keeping his part of the transaction otherwise that same love is not reciprocated by his wife... With the advent of feminism everything is beginning to change.. Transactions are changing rapidly... I might get married, I'll live up to my own part of the deal, while my wife does the same.. But I don't think I can be emotionally attached to anyone, I can't even imagine myself thinking of someone day and night, that should be the appex of stupidity... As regards what the dude wrote, I support him.. But I feel sex with prostitutes isn't something to joke with

Lol . Guy sex what a Gf whose promiscuity is unascertainable to a good degree of certainty is almost as, if not more, risky health wise. The main difference is psychological i guess.