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Eyeness:
thank you dear

Where my own thank you and dear? #Epainme

rosalieene:
what a fo.ol
get lost!

First shoot fired. I for say you must be a dullard to find that out this late and be announcing it to the world like a mad she-monkey but I'll let that slide. Dusts off imaginary dust from my shoulders

kunkelhanspeter:
My own advise if you really love a girl don’t even go near her phone bro u will feel heartbreak
I have tried it twice and it did not end well

How will you know her true nature, what she truely is beyond the glamour and promises of bliss? better a break up at bf/gf level than live in a fools paradise till marriage where you bring in kids to suffer your naivety due to incompatibility when her person finally gets revealed. Rush her fast (even if it means hiring a hacker to break her phone code), know her fast and make right informed decision as early as possible when its easy. That's what a relationship should be. It doesn't take me long to know much a about a gf cause that's what am in the relationship for because though I may be attracted to a lady but I appreciate the fact that am not a spiritual alien to know enough about her) - to know her and get her to know you sincerely so we can rightly appraise our compatibility fast before emotions are sex becloud clear reasoning.

Oreofepeters:
This an example of ladies we are talking about.

#Bytheircommentyoushallknowthem...

Exactly. Anyone sharp guy who has anything to offer on finding out she is only/mainly after offers will have little choice but to dump her if he has been using her and thinking otherwise or keep using and dump her later then she will complain that men are bad meanwhile her orientation made the man change his mind towards her. Most men who dump ladies don't plan to initially but overtime gets to notice their selfishness or other ugly characters but just hangs on since they are already addicted to the juice jug and berries until a better (more compactible) lady comes along.

gloria34:
hmmm, won't deny. yet I won't go around calling all guys bastards and cheats

Soo many don't play by that rule but you may not be too sure of what you will become given/after repeated terrible relationship experience with number of guys overtime. It's not going to be a few guys joining that pattern of behavior but many as you can see from the number of likes on that post because its an almost involuntary bend for self-protection at least of their mind and money.

gloria34:
spender? Lol, I work 4 my cash, I take my bf on outings. at first he didn't like it but he got use to it. now I don't even know who spends more. well, girls should go out and work, men will respect them more yet its no reason 4 a guy to disrespect a lady (respect is reciprocal).

Your case is about 10% . Now if he cheats on you I bet your pain will be double than if you were not doing soo much spending. That's what men generally face. This is why sugar mama's are more offensive to their sweet boys than normal gf's to their bf's.

gloria34:
what about guys who have turn girls to beasts? I didn't want to comment but with d issue of girls being at fault is so annoying. we have bad people everywhere and if anybody wishes to join d train cos of an unfortunate even that he is not d first and won't b d last to go thru, good luck to him.

Yeah the issue is if women start competing with men in these things, it's likely the women will suffer more for it. And like I tell people, the spender in a relationship feels more pain at break-up. In most cases men are the spenders hence more dangerous if they unleash there beast side given the greater physical and financial strenght with which they can muster in executing. Also men have a longer time range to play the game and emotionally men can easily get addicted to terrible things since their is less restrain on them- a husband can beat the have to restrain her but want can a woman do to a player man? The most is to leave his house while he continues in his ways.

itsmeurLady:
Who is deceiving who? At the end of the day, they will suffer it too. U think men have not done worse things to women as well? Is that what you think? It's only a man/lady with no values that will allow a wrong relationship change him/her. Let's call a spade a spade. Nigeria's economy is bad but will u gaan do yahoo because it's bad Only a person with poor moral upbringing will follow that path come what may. Life is a Choice!

I am not a yardstick to others. I only know and say how others will very very very likely respond. And what i see is that more and more men will tend towards being emotionless brutes towards women given the orientation of ladies -feminism, quest for more etc. And you cant be too sure of my sainthood towards women. I once dated a girl and from her attitude and orientation i just knew she will suffer badly in the hands of men. So I left her so as not to be the one to eventually suffer her. Lo and behold some years later I met her almost at the point of death and had to save her life just for goodness sake. While, most probably, due to her attitude her other ex's and even bf who put her in the terrible state watched and left her for death. I saw the plumpy girl I used to know looking like an AIDs patience i had to see her HIV test to believe she didn't have AIDs. It was that bad and I cursed the day I left her knowing her most likely eventual fate. My helping her was even considered foolishness by the normal standard but I knew down in my heart she will most likely die if I looked the other way like others.
Most times you ladies have no clue as to the level of wickedness you provoke in men by mere wacky attitudes especially to men who are already struggling in life.

For a long time even till recently I keep telling Nigerian ladies that their mentality will turn men into beasts and it will be very negative on them ladies but they won't hear. Most of the guys supporting him shared or have tales of how a girls orientation and doings changed them from otherwise lovely folks to mindless f*ckers. This is just the beginning unless the men see real changes.


It all was sounding like nonsense when I kept howling to them that Nigerian men will sooner or later turn to emotionless beasts towards them but they took me for a naysayer. Now they are even bringing feminism into an already bad case that one will finally be the final nail to mens love towards women. It is already written....

GOFRONT:


Dude should be drunk by now, going by the way people are ordering crates of beer for him......

Infact he received a credit alert from somebody ontop that comment

Who saw that part where someone suggested to him to share the money with some other less privilege guys online?

Well, as for me, I have done all he wrote on that comment before, that is, (staying without having a girlfriend because of the trauma that is involved). But I came to a point, I couldnt continue that way. I gave it up, cos I couldnt cheat nature. I need a woman.

We must need a woman, we cant cheat nature, We must need a woman, I repeat we must need a woma

Lol

CHoccolaTE:
I don't even blame them.
There are more males on Nairaland so therefore male oriented topics draw more traffic that's why you see mods putting shiiits like this on frontpage every time.

Someone is suspecting and rightly painned that his juice jug and berries are fast becoming public property and you include the matter as sh##te? You are heartless. Instead of finding solution to how he can recolonize and monopolize his privates or find another one. You no be better person.

CHoccolaTE:
Lol
Back to sender like I said before.
Is it not funny that you know me so well on Nairaland but I have never heard of you before today?

Am bitter but your fellow men insulting women left and right are sweet abi?
Mtsheewwwww

Why Una wan turn op bad case to fight? Abeg you guys should go outside and cool off we are dealing with serious matter here.

rosalieene:
see them NL guys turning the table around making themselves victims.

You lots once made a girl cry over you now its a crime to cry over a woman?

Once a guy brings up his story here gbam! you'd see encouraging comments but when a lady brings up hers, even when clearly she was wronged, you lots would end up bashing her. sometimes Calling her names

Always playing the victims game.

sometimes, we should seat down and ask ourselves, what if you're in this person's shoes, what will you do? Besides, you don't even know her part of the story or if the OP exergerated at some point.
I know how this works, girls always get advances what's more important is how to handle it.
from what I am seeing, that girl loves you but she is confused as she also wants to settle down. Every lady wants that comfortability, some would be fortunate If it ends well while some are unfortunate. What if you re not the one for her? what If she misses her chances with the right one? so most times a lot of ladies are just confused
And don't blame us either.... its best you just let her go.



and most importantly, don't punish your next for this sins of this one!

Come down from there first before dissing us see face like that of my 4th to last semi-girlfriend.

ALAYORMII:
You’re someone’s mistake and making ur own at the same time.

There is a mistake in this sentence sef. Lol

safarigirl:
women are emotionally and mentally stronger than men. YES! Just because you bring a few coins out does not give you mental and emotional strength. Who is the lots that don't want to work for their money? Most homes in Nigeria today are surviving because of the woman

Millions of Nigerian women are working hard everyday, putting food on the table and providing for their children while covering their husbands' shame by lying to everyone that he is the one paying. Nigerian women are resilient, they are surviving. Most of them work multiple jobs, they not only work in civil service, they are also business women. Hardly will you find a married woman in Nigeria who isn't working two jobs and trying to make ends meet


I don't know where you people are meeting these leeches you surround yourself with, but most of the women I know are hardworking women who provide for their families without making noise. I know women who pay their kids fees. When my mother was alive she was paying I and my sister's school fees, she doled out 500k per year for our school fees, and let me not even count the clothes she always bought and the snacks she got from work everyday. My father only had to pay my little brother's fees. They both paid house rent with combined salaries, same with food.


Stop judging millions of women based on the ten or so you know. Are your sisters also leeches? Are you judging women based on stories on social media? The woman in Niger state that is entering a farm to break firewood, harvest cassava and cook, is she on social media? You think I am talking about the small girls you men enjoy courting? People that can barely stand on their own, are those ones women?


Nigerian women are strong and resilient. Women will always be emotionally stronger than men. Millions of women are living without husbands, many of them widows, they are making it work, they are surviving. The minute a man's wife dies, he is already hunting for another woman. Men only have brute force, they do not know what mental and emotional strength is. They will never understand it

Usually after they marry, they become reasonable especially for the children until then their confocious confusions dey confuse guys.

vikstandon:
What did he say or do that God is blessing him for.

He started well but ended bad... A girlfriend is a sex mate I agree...and not to be taken serious. Your commitment to her is being friends with benefit. But a friend is different from a girlfriend, you owe her a lot, you could offer limited sacrifice not to the expense of ur life.
A wife, you could die for and go the extra mile.

Sex before marriage not good, doing with one premarital sex partner bad, Ashawo very bad

Don't help this man buy ticket for STD homeland!!

You dey mind them, leave premarital sex dey no go gree. Now, he is too addicted to one small girls juice box (that's what he is afraid to miss) that he is too confused to do the needful and we all have to do the assignment to find him a way to help him monopolize the juice jug and berries or leave it for others.

Lalas247:
whoa....

opinions of a non bearded ninja ... who cares..
my back.is covered in it and a special.area
if u know.u know

spiritual KO...na only naija witches n wizard dey worry una...




olori buruku make forever gf kill u there nonsense..
can u imagine y'all didn't see that trash abi ... smy.....

idontbelivit unless you show me

rosalieene:
see them NL guys turning the table around making themselves victims.

You lots once made a girl cry over you now its a crime to cry over a woman?

Once a guy brings up his story here gbam! you'd see encouraging comments but when a lady brings up hers, even when clearly she was wronged, you lots would end up bashing her. sometimes Calling her names

Always playing the victims game.

sometimes, we should seat down and ask ourselves, what if you're in this person's shoes, what will you do? Besides, you don't even know her part of the story or if the OP exergerated at some point.
I know how this works, girls always get advances what's more important is how to handle it.
from what I am seeing, that girl loves you but she is confused as she also wants to settle down. Every lady wants that comfortability, some would be fortunate If it ends well while some are unfortunate. What if you re not the one for her? what If she misses her chances with the right one? so most times a lot of ladies are just confused
And don't blame us either.... its best you just let her go.



and most importantly, don't punish your next for this sins of this one!

What we should understand from all these is that una confusion dey confuse the men wey dey confuse una. So the best way to avoid confusion or be lost in confusion caused by confused ladies is not to go too deep with confused people but to do what you came for and leave them with their confusion before they infect your life with their confusion like the op is experiencing now because if a man is in confusion he can't make money with which to confuse other ladies and his d*ck will give him bigger confusion so he will have to go to olosho to cure his confusion but then become more confused by them . Did i get you or is the whole thing confusing your confusion?

Slimmacho:
Wow!
First time I read comments on NL without seeing stuff like IPOBPIGS, AFONJA, SKULL MINERS, CONE HEAD, FLAT HEAD, BUHARI, ATIKU etc.

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Now that you are here...Afonja spotted.. Your middle name should be lol.

midehi2:
Exactly why I blame them, why stoop so low to sex for 1k, why will men even indulge in sex with 100k to women, they are both sick.


the bottom line: he should make money first before girlfriend, if not someone with money will boyfriend her under his nose

Yeah after he makes money, he now sees the girls coming to him as only chopmates so takes them as f*ckmates while they think they've caught a big fish. This una advice only makes guys put una for their list of future f*ckmates after making the money.

epelumi42:
When I said women should be free... Free from the box that men have placed them in. The patriarchal nature of the society. That's what they need to be free from. Freedom in many sense isn't an illusion unless you wanna get all philosophical. People decide their notion of freedom.

The question is, how do you define the dignity of womanhood without falling back to what the society has defined or what you have formed in your head. Why can't we all decide our notion of morality especially women?

Freedom comes with challenges and responsibilities and to ask for one while downplaying the other is just selfish.

ADEOD:
You see, there are various mistakes people make when it comes to relationship and one of those reason is not understanding why you are in the relationship. its obvious that your feelings for the girl is no longer as strong as it was when you guys just started and you are only trying to put up with things because you pity her and don't want to be labelled. Relationship is not a do or die affair, it is meant for us to check and appraise each other and if along the journey you find some things you cannot stand in your partner, you talk to her about it and give room for correction but if she still doesn't change or improve then you have no reason to continue such relationship because it goes a long way to shows that she is not as committed to the relationship as you are. Remember, your happiness also matters.......so don't keep yourself in the relationship if you are no longer happy because either you like it or not, you guys are still going to break up if such things continues.

Exactly - Go into relationship to see if marriage is possible not to just marry. One of the simpliest and mature comments here. You are followed.

general09:
No! Don't leave her yet. Help her to live the life that she want.
How do you do that?
1. Control your heart from loving her
2. Convert that love to anger
3. Channel that anger to your di*k
4. If you do the item 3 sincerely, you will notice the reaction on your di*k. It will become aware of your pain thereby becoming malicious that when you look at it when it's charged, you will see the malice written all over it. It will be thick, strong, full of veins..that's your weapon bro. That's your weapon!
5. Now use it to attack her kpekus vigorously
Note: when attacking, don't do it for you to enjoy. Tell yourself that your doing it for her ie that your trying to liberate her from a curse.
6. Keep doing it at every opportunity. Boy! She will take off and will never blame you. Instead, when ever she sees you she will be like good afternoon bross.
Try this and thank me later.

Where do you usually get your snuff? Abeg. Asking for a friends friend

1StopRudeness:
Regret what...??

Taking charge of ur emotions ??
and not allow a woman determine ur happiness like the OP is what he will regret....??
U are the one that deserve slap cos u didn't see his message.....U might not agree with his idea of visiting prostitutess because u have customized one lady to urself in the name of marriage in Dec 8....
Weda in marriage or just sexxual relationship, a man still needs to get a grip of himself and not allow sexx-drive rule him.....because women will always use sex as a weapon against u weda outside marriage or legally in marriage, even though they want it as well, but will make it look like it's a favour they are doing for u...

Happy married life in advance anyways

Slappers, abeg make una direct these E-slaps well before another person cheeks go collect am.

emerged01:
You think he is so on point? With time he will realise women are the greatest problem men cannot avoid. If it is too late for him realise that ,he will regret it.
I'm married with two lovely kids. I can't tell you marriage is so sweet,if I do I'm decieving you. But at the same time I will let you know that one of my regrets is not marrying early(I married early 30s). The joy of taking responsibilities for the future of my kids is lovely and can't be compared. Until you understand that life is about sacrifice you won't achieve great things. Start taking steps toward taking responsibilities,that's how to become a true man.
He said he goes after olosho for sex. I'm very sure he knows it is not right except his conscience is dead. Going after olosho put your life in danger physically and spiritually. Don't be misled.

A mans life is more in danger from gf since most times they make the man believe he is the only one soo overtime he starts bleeping raw (thinking he is the only king of the jungle ) unlike with Olosho where both parties are always careful and on their toes (like a midget at the urinary) to play safe (especially the guy knowing fully well that he is in no man's land). Spiritually, both are bombs range away from righteousness.

Note: This is not advocating or advising people to go to ashawo because thise one i believe have their huge problems abd inherently heinous spirits and mindset that turned then into whores.

luminouz:
Not me dou...she can have d rest!!!

Grammar matter soo much to her than the matter at hand. The guy is talking were e dey pain am, she is weighing his grammer. Lol

luminouz:
So na grammar dey bring money abi??
Or na him mama tongue??
Why are u girls so fvcking confused
This one just focused on his grammar as if that makes u real man!

lol.. Nigerian men are on a long thing with these ones.

Godson32:
So u advice him to stop being in love and having good relationship which can leads to marriage rather ur advice is for him to start screwing ashawo anyhow. Although being in a love/relationship is emotionally stressful but can give u a great deal of joy if there is understanding,respect,tolerance etc. My brother, dont give up u can try another girl if that one doesnt work. Screwing ashawo cannot give u love, it can only satisfy ur sexual urge and can distroy u spiritually, they re full of bad lucks.

He did not add anyhow, my frien.

Is your orientation compatible with her attitude and is there fun in it all? If not what are you doing with her? Do you have the heart to keep her as just a f*ckmate? "crying that what her friends were advising her was true, I was just using her, I am just like other guys, she know the reason why I am doing this, is because she asked me to go and see her parents bla bla" is just emotional blackmail and mustn't make a difference in your mental approach towards her. What is a relationship without compatibility and fun but cat and mouse emotional tussle. If you can't find it with her, try to change if she is not willing to change, bounce into the next available........... Or first rearrange your rules of engagement ( to reduce the probability of getting into such sh*t )then......


A relationship is supposed to be for you to check if a girls ways are compactible with you and can give you joy not a must to marry her when those parameters are not there or when you've not ascertained if those parameters are their or not. Is it not stupid to just meet someone and just start thinking marriage when have not ascertained what she is disposed to and if you are comfortable with her dispositions? From the onset, get your orientation right so that informed decisions like quitting the relationship will be easy to make.

amakadihot87:
.......jupiter

Lol

Mrblaster:
Biafra terrorist caught

As a convulated brain like your beloved lifeless dullard, who dont see the real barbaric FH terrorists.

Most of the people supporting Buhari here are Yoruba muslims always ready to deceive Yoruba Christians with tribalist BS. Debates between VP's to divide the south who e epp? Fulani never gree debate Fulani southerners are pissing on themsleves for the matter.