₦airaland Forum

Dothans:
Any advice or recommendation on the skill I can sign up for?
I really appreciate your feedback, would never take it for granted

What are you good at with your hands?

Are you hands on or more of a mental person?

Dothans:
Mostly after the work hour and on full time on weekends.

If it's after work hours, set daily targets for yourself that you must accomplish every day which must be offline.

Like walking 30-1hr daily (for health)
Sightseeing
Jogging or visiting new places but they all have to be offline without you checking your phone

As for earning more money, you need to sign up for a new skill that can be learnt during the weekend.

WrriterNig:
⚡️An official close to President Biden in India said the 🇺🇸 US, 🇸🇦 Saudi Arabia, 🇦🇪 United Arab Emirates and 🇮🇳 India will announce a major infrastructure project this evening that will connect South Asia to the Middle East through a network of railways and ports.

The main goal of the project is to counter 🇨🇳 China and the “One Belt, One Road” initiative.

If this is true, then expect it to become a reality in 30 years if that of China takes 10 years.

Dothans:
Yes I work,..but remotely from 9 to 5 MondaytoFriday. Work is strictly online and overwhelming but with poor pay. Zero social life, few good friends. owing so many debts which somehow got me tied to gambling in orderto pay off. But it's been 2 steps forward, 5 steps backward.

I believe I need an offline hobby or activities to replace gambling. But I need help

Not too hard but it all depends on you.
Do you gamble during the 9-5 work hours?

Princewill1:
All businesses that in it all you do is to speculate are the same. Examples: stock trading, sports betting, Forex trading, binary options, crypto currencies trading. They are all the same, nothing different. Just a change of name.

Speculation is simply prediction.

It's stupidity to call sports betting gambling and Forex trading an investment or business.

Gambling means "risking money to make more money." the Same 'risking money' that people do when trading Forex.

Forex is bet9ja in disguise!

So people who went to the university to become stock traders are gamblers?

People who went to the university to study weather forecast are gamblers?

Prophets (seers) are gamblers?

Traders who risk money to buy and sell to make money are what since gambling to you is about risking money to make money?

Is there anything you're not risking something to achieve in this life if this is your definition of gambling?

Economics graduates who use economic data and indices to forecast boom or doom for companies, businesses and even countries are gamblers?

An entrepreneur who create products with the hope that there's going to be demands for these products based on market research and forecast is a gambler?

Even you who went to bed with the speculation that you'll wake up the next day is a gambler?

Big companies (Dangote, MTN, Accessbank, JB, Dowjones etc) listing their market value shares on the stock exchange for speculators to buy and sell which in term help their company do well in the eyes of the public are also gamblers?

Everything listed above are speculations(forecast)

Life itself is all about speculation.

All the above analogies are based on your response.

I want to see you seperate these realities from forex trading/stock brokage since they're same with sport betting /baba ijebu.

Astar007:
Why u nor go sit down for nigeria back abi dem ban u from naija....??

Maybe nothing in Nigeria to return to again.

Don sell everything.

gfon:
no wahala, come back Boss.

To what?

Do you know if he or she sold everything to move including burning bridges?

Stanweezy:
Spit on your father boy.

You could have ignored me and respond to the post than exhibit ur Ill mannered attitude like someone with poor upbringing.

Because you have access to internet you think u can insult anybody without reasoning. If that's how u insult ur father, I will instruct my son to do same to him since u don't have sense.

No I refused to ignore foolish 'old men' like you who have chosen to destroy the continent further.

I hate those who hate themselves, they're a problem to others.

By the way, you're not an elder, can't be a father either because if you're one, then you're a mismatch of a father.

Shameless inferior human being.

Infact I'm very sure you're still being fed by your parents.

phemmyfour:
Exactly, and the fact that you earn in foreign currency and spend in naira

And can then afford to save for holidays abroad.

phemmyfour:
Exactly, but then your tax goes higher. Its not worth the stress in the long run but if you're pursuing a target, you don't have a choice than to take those extra shift

Advantage here is that most remote income earned in Nigeria hardly get taxed.

Stanweezy:
Children everywhere, insulting their fathers because they have access to internet.

You father?

What a misnomer.

You called tall people in Nigeria problem yaro while praising those outside, yet call yourself a father?

I spit on you.

APOPTOSIS:
The Right Question finally asked here.

Anyway, some humans derive so much joy in traveling, and that includes me. Not just trips but long distance and interesting trips.

I love to travel too not for greener pasture but for memories.

juliuscaesar:
I moved to America more than a decade ago, and I can tell you that it is almost impossible to make 100m naira at once abroad. At least l, not from just your salary alone.

When I got to America, I got into tech after working a few years as an office manager for a rehab Healthcare clinic. When I got into tech, my first salary was $125k with a sign on bonus of $20k.

I was not married then, so I was able to save more. A friend then advised me to trade stocks instead of letting my money sit in the bank and get only 1.5% interest in return for a year. I decided to trade stocks on the side while working full time. I got married and was making a decent amount on the side. One day, I fortunately caught on the GameStop boom a couple of years ago and made over $900k in one day as the stock skyrocket from just above $3 to $600 in 24hrs. The SEC had to put a hold on trading, but I had quickly sold.

I took that money and invested it in real estate.

Not many people are that fortunate. So, again , I say, if it is just salary, over time, you might be able to save up 100m naira, but you can NEVER do it at once.

You didnt make this money from your salary, rather from investment which anyone can do from anywhere.

And yes, the skill and industry you find yourself matters alot.

Thank you for your honest response.

phemmyfour:
100million naira is around 100k pounds. That should take me 100000/12000 after tax...
That's 8yrs but if I m taking extra shift, that's 100000/18000, that's around 5yrs

Thank you for the honest answer.

So if he also include shift, maybe it would take him less than 4yrs then.

Princedapace:
So, every child abroad now has a great future? Like everyone automatically born or raised abroad is sure of becoming rich and useful to the society?
How una dey think sef.
Who are those drug lords in the USA, Europe, crime lords? Smoke addicts? Who are the struggling ones? I know how my whites client laments about life. I know how so many Americans hustles so hard to look if they can attain financial independence but many still can't. That is why inspirational speakers make a living well there.
The way some of u paint this abroad eh, u go think that once u are abroad, all ur problems are done.
Baba, that ur child is raised abroad is not a guarantee that he or she would be a responsible citizen to the society or family.

The way abroadee paint this thing eh. I know some abroad for over 6 years now, they still borrow money from some down here. I even borrowed one money last two weeks.
The koko is anywhere u find ur self, work hard and it can be anywhere.
Some of u even go as far as rubbishing anyone who is not in Europe or America or Canada. Omo, Nigerians have K leg mentality.

Someone I know moved to CA more than a year ago, got a car and lives in a 2 bedroom condo with his wife and child.

What if I tell you he doesn't have anything to save after paying bills per month?

Mind you, they both work and his wife's been there for years before he joined.

His lamentations eh..
I still lend him money from time to time.

This is someone that had 2 cars (bmw and benz) in Nigeria paying almost 2m yearly as rent in Lekki.

When we talk, I sense a bit of regret in his speech.

They won't tell you until you directly join them

See them

They won't answer the question

Very simple question o

All they spend time doing is painting anywhere outside Nigeria heaven.

99% of you abroad traveled because of money, nothing else.

tensazangetsu20:
I think the better question will be to ask what the value of 100 million will be in six years time and what would happen if you lose your job while in Nigeria and how easy it would be to get another one. 1800 USD isnt a lot or a mind blowing salary

How did you arrive at $1800 when he used 6.6yrs (78 months) to make ₦100m?

Great job OP.

I like your question.

Dothans:
God bless you for this wise response. I'm actually in same shoe like this woman's husband...just that I'm not married and gambling is what is delaying me from getting married. It's like I'm under bondage. Money hardly stays in my account. I'm always thinking of sportybet. And anytime I manage to win a little, I lose it all and become zero broke. I really need help. I hate gambling but it has become my addiction and I'm hating myself for it. I believe I need serious help as I'm really tired of everything.

Woman, please seek spiritual counsel for your husband, he might be under something stronger than his will. I'm talking from similar perspective.

You need tips on how to replace your gambling addiction with something else.

You need a hobby that's majorly offline.

Do you work?

Prettycute90:
But he said he said, he will be with the children. The same children, he can't even afford food to feed them not to talk of other bills.
I'm just tired. I just want peace and I don't know how to achieve that.

You've started cooking for yourself and the children right?

That's one way to start
When is your rent due? Make arrangements for where to move to without him once it's due, do not renew unless he does:

(1) Get a job if he doesn't have any now and make your account the salary account for the first 3 months

(2) Learn a skill if he doesn't have a job and can't find one (But must change his phone to the type that won't allow betting apps)

(3) I won't advise him to learn Forex because real forex trading is not for strugglers or desperate people, it will drive him and yourself down the hole.

I gamble for fun because I can, yet I trade Forex apart from other businesses I do by the side.

Though I am about to even stop the fun gambling too because my mentor said it's distracting me.


Now to the op, what exactly do you want to achieve with this thread?

How to help your husband stop gambling?
How to help him get a job?
How to help him get something to replace the gambling with?
Or gather support for what you have in mind to do already?

You can't stop anyone from gambling without something to replace the gambling with though.

kingviny:
Often times, we look at a problem on the surface. But if we look deeply, there could be more than meet the eye.

If he is a good man but just that he has money issues ; he has little and in a bit to make it big he is trying gambling but always loosing it, perhaps it could be that he needs spiritual help , he also need counselling and then let him search for Jeffrey Benson on YouTube and be his devoted student for 1 year since he already likes speculative endeavour. Trust me, he would be ok.

Gambling is just a means to an end, it is not an end itself. He would need to learn functional skills as well. He can go into food business, digital marketing etc.

What type of gambling is he doing? Hope not lottery o ? as that one is a no no but If it is Forex, there is money in it oo. He just need to learn from those who are doing well in it. Out of 4 things I am doing, it is Forex that is giving me the most money to run my home right now and we are talking of 6 figures expenses monthly. I have 2 kids like you too and my wife is a teacher.

I know of someone who makes at least 10m monthly trading , his wife can never say he is gambling, she would say my husband is a fund manager and is doing so well .

Please don't leave him yet, help him if not for anything but for the sake of your children who need the presence and love of the 2 of you.

I am happy that you are a good woman. You have tried to have held forth for him all this while, not many women would do that even though it is not supposed to be a big deal if it is temporary. But if there is no end in sight , then it is right to shout out for help. Taking care of kids is a big job on its own.

How is your husband's family like? Are there successful siblings there ? Is your husband a lazy man or is it that he has not found help/job?

Try and get someone you feel he would listen to to join you in this mission. I can be of help to talk with him if you wish. We need to save your home .

Most men would want to work and provide for their families, only an irresponsible ones would not .

Above all, you need God's intervention.

Forex trading is not gambling just as trading stocks, shares and indices.

Where do you guys get the notion that forex is same as gambling?

What kind of life are you living that location determines your happiness?

WrriterNig:
⚡🇺🇸 Business Insider:

Russia is returning to global trade despite sanctions and a weak ruble.

The volume of goods unloaded at the three largest ports of the 🇷🇺 Russian Federation (St. Petersburg, Vladivostok and Novorossiysk) in August approached the pre-war maximum.

It is unclear where the goods came from, but activity at Russian ports was surprisingly high.

Russia was never outside world trade, some foolish countries just decided to cut their noses to spite their faces, sensible ones didn't stop trading with Russia.

Stanweezy:
This is the real Dogo yaro, the one's we have here are problem yaro


But this ppl don't live long due to distortion in certain organs and tissues in the body caused by overgrowth

Foolish inferior twerp, always downgrading his own.

What else is wrong with fools like you self apart from being a fool?

YoungCabal:
I don't care ! Wikipedia is a great resource for anyone who wants to learn and become an expert in any domain especially computer programming, if you go looking for politics, that's what you'll keep seeing

Pathetic

Babaalajo:
that's very correct,some are scared to know the truth cos it can lead to their early grave.

So some just want the sleeping dog to lie because where do you want them to start afresh from?

Babaalajo:
DNA is still not affordable because if it was many home for don break, and again men don't always think of doing DNA unless he's suspecting his wife for cheating.

How many people actually know about DNA?

And from those who do, how many truly wants to face the truth?

An apple Doesn’t fall far away from.......

Why not the logo of the state?

Why not print in BOLD letters all over the bag "FREE RICE, GOVERNMENT PALLIATIVE SUPPORT - DO NOT RESELL?

iammo:
Because the cadet DSS that shot the tailor got employed to DSS under Tinubu in the last 3 months abi

Abeg make we dey reason before commenting

Like DSS just started shooting people 8 years ago?

The agberos, police, opc and co that were killing people in Lagos when he was governor nko?

You must think some of us are children on this thread.

Trying to make us believe Tinubu is some angel that formal and informal security agencies never killed people under his watch before.

iammo:



DSS now acting like thugs


The recruitment process messed up everything


The last EFCC cadet recruitment, Buhari alone allocated a crazy number to Katsina... Not ordinary citizens but kids of politicians

How will a rich kid with Gun handle stress of law enforcement especially with stubborn Nigerians



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From DSS, see how this one diverted to efcc.

Una go deg look for others to blame


Buhari is no longer there, face who's in charge now.