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chidiokay:
Digest, think/reason before you talk, Anybody can make no money, before now they told with education you can amount to anything but today skitmakers, influencers, hypeman are cruising benz and living in highbrow areas,

Dangote is a business mogul, that you think a business man will represent people interest shows ori e o pe rara ! cos a business man is out to represent his business and maximize profit. who are the followers of Dangote, if staff or shareholders is your answer then fool ni e !
Is dangote making decision that influence the lifes of people or influences his profitability ratio .. oponu
Tinubu is a leader by world standard, under no condition can he revert to "follower" ... what you need to know is Leaders in there growth stage have "Mentors" and when they attain leadership post and get to certain stage they become mentors to upcoming leaders ... king pass king is immaterial here ode !

Coach is a profession, you must enroll for it and be certified, i think "CONTEXT" is what is messing up your brain. just anybody with require resume can be Leader of a team BUT i am talking real LEADERs here
Check all the leaders in the bible, its either God chose them or people did, cos Leaders are singled out and chosen.
Obi cubana is a leader afterall it is not easy to be a billionaire useless fool

It is that easy to make money and Nigeria and Africa is still the poverty capital of the world lol , why do Nigeria still have so many poor people if it really that easy to make money ? you are delusional and messed up in the head.

Yes Obi cubana is a leader in his own right in Nigeria, i'm sure he control and command a lot of people, for you to doubt and belittle that prove how stupid you are, you don't have to be in a political office to be a leader as long as there are people that follow and listen to whatever you say, you are a leader. You have this obscure mentality that only people in political office or power can be a leader, even your class captains or school prefects in secondary school are leaders in their own right.

There's nothing like real leader as long as you command a small group of people even if they are 5 or 10 people and they respect, listen and follow whatever you say you are a leader, but there are greater leaders or leaders can be greater than each other.

I see it is religion that messed up your brain, no wonder you can't think critically combine religion with inability to think and we have a big slowpoke like you with skewed mentality about life.

I have no time to waste on a numbskull element like you.

The Mysteries Behind Women's Behavior

Do you find yourself confused by women's behavior? Unsure of who she really is?

Just who is the real woman?

"The real woman is a sensitive, overly emotional being."

"You're wrong. She's a bitchy, complaining, mean thing!"

"No, you're both wrong! She's a sweet, caring individual."

So many different opinions! Why are women's behavior so mysterious? Will we ever figure them out?

What is the REALITY behind women's behavior? Who IS the real woman?


Be prepared, for what follows might upset the way you picture women. But this revelation is NECESSARY to bring you future success.

Women are NONE of these! A lot of the time, anyway.

And here's the reason...

Women have a plan for their network of relationships. In their mind, the world revolves around them. So they assign different relationships to different kinds of people.

What this means is that women also have a plan for how each guy she meets will fit into her life.

This means YOU!

And whenever a guy doesn't seem to want to fit the mold SHE THINKS she wants him to, she'll use DRAMATIC TACTICS in an attempt to manipulate his behavior to fit her mold.

These little women's tactics are often mistaken for the REAL woman!

And if you're not aware of them, like many, many men, it becomes impossible to distinguish the REAL woman from her DRAMA. Women's behavior can create an illusion.


I assure you, this mistake is common -- too common among most men.

It is only by being aware of women's behavior... that these dramatic tactics are cheap tricks used by the woman, but they are NOT the real woman.

Here, we're going to explore them. There are three main tactics women use...

1) Sob Stories
2) Temper Tantrums
3) Flirty Displays

Women will attempt to use any one of these behaviors to get you to do or behave the way THEY want you to! ... to get you to mold to the image and role they want you to play in their life.

But not fitting the mold she wants you to form to -- by not altering to women's behavior -- is the big secret to creating attraction.


How to Handle Women's Sob Stories

Women use Sob Stories to play on your PITY. She uses Sob Stories and complaining to encourage you to feel SORRY for her.


The message she communicates is, "Oh poor me!"

And how do you respond? "Oh, you poor thing! Let me help you."

This is trouble! Let's take a closer look...

How does complaining look? What kind of behavior does she display?

They don't necessarily contain tears -- perhaps in the most severe cases. But they generally come in the form of a woman complaining about a problem in her life, or some other emotional hailstorm she's experiencing.

For a lot of guys, they have a tendency to want to respond in a helpful way. They start to listen to a woman's problems, and offer advice or solutions.

But this is doing exactly what she wants you to do. You may think you're helping her, but really, she is MANIPULATING you!

Here's a simple clue...

If she's complaining about a problem that effects you in some way -- like a flat tire -- find a solution by doing something about it. But if she's feeding you a Sob Story about ANYTHING that has NOTHING to do with you...


... DON'T listen to it!

The key handling a woman's Sob Stories is to never play her therapist!


How to Handle Women's Temper Tantrums

Women use Temper Tantrums to target your GUILT. She uses emotional explosions to encourage you to REGRET something you did.

The message she sends is, "You better do what I want, or you'll be sorry!"

And how to do you react? "Oh no! She's angry at me. I may lose her. Better apologize immediately!"

Whoops! Now we're heading down an eerie path.

How do you identify Temper Tantrums?

These are generally easy to see. I think most of us have seen them. They're any angry or pouty outburst by a woman. And generally, any form of emotional stirred disapproval directed AT YOU.

A lot of guys buckle to a woman's Temper Tantrums. They think they have displeased a woman and now have make things right.


But nothing could be farther from the truth!

She wants you to be in her DEBT... or her perceived debt. That way, you feel like you owe her something. Again, you're being controlled by her manipulation.

The solution? If a woman gets angry at you, LET HER!

Treat the situation the same as you would a fly buzzing around your head... mildly annoying, but nothing to lose your cool over.

The key to handling women's Temper Tantrums is in dealing with women's disapproval.


How to Handle Women's Flirty Displays

Women's Flirty Displays are directed at your PRIDE. She uses flattery and attention to make you feel masculine or ATTRACTIVE... you're the chick magnet.

Not really, though... but she doesn't want you to know that.

The message she communicates is, "Oooooh... you're soooo SEXY!"


And you respond how? "Yeah... that's me. I'm hot! She likes me."

Big mistake!

How do you know when a woman is simply putting on a Flirty Display?

This can be anything from a woman giving you unusually forward attention to touching to overt or obviously revealing behavior, like bending over to give you a nice view of her assets.

Most guys tend to lose it here.

They think a woman is actually into them. And if they haven't had a date in a long time -- or haven't had a woman into them -- they get sucked in.

Now, the woman has the guy around her little finger. He would probably do just about any FAVOR for her at even the hint of a request.

And chances are, she already has had something lined up for him before she put on the Flirty Display.

How to get around it? Back off when women come on strong. Recognize immediately that it's fueled by an agenda.


The key to handling women's Flirty Displays is don't be part of her agenda.


Face the Reality and Set Yourself Free

To become successful in dealing with women, you must FACE the reality that women WILL attempt to manipulate you. And you must LEARN how to deal with it.

Don't let this anger you. Don't get angry at women for being who they are.

Instead, accept it. It's fun to be put to the test.

I know it can be tough to look back into your past and realize that a woman was 'deceiving' you. Noticing that women have used these dramatic tactics on you in the past is tough...

... and perhaps to great effect!

But the truth is, you LET yourself be deceived. I definitely used to let myself be deceived! And now, I look back with a smirk, knowing I've learnt from those experiences.

Now, I'm invincible to their dramatic tactics. And so are you, when you learn to identify them... and deal with them on the fly.

And you want to know a secret?

... the man who is COMPLETELY unaffected by all of woman's dramatic tactics is the man most sought after by women. By not buckling to women's expectations of you actually creates attraction.

Ironic, isn't it?

https://www.sosuave.com/articles/jj/mysteries.htm

The Mysteries Behind Women's Behavior

Do you find yourself confused by women's behavior? Unsure of who she really is?

Just who is the real woman?

"The real woman is a sensitive, overly emotional being."

"You're wrong. She's a bitchy, complaining, mean thing!"

"No, you're both wrong! She's a sweet, caring individual."

So many different opinions! Why are women's behavior so mysterious? Will we ever figure them out?

What is the REALITY behind women's behavior? Who IS the real woman?


Be prepared, for what follows might upset the way you picture women. But this revelation is NECESSARY to bring you future success.

Women are NONE of these! A lot of the time, anyway.

And here's the reason...

Women have a plan for their network of relationships. In their mind, the world revolves around them. So they assign different relationships to different kinds of people.

What this means is that women also have a plan for how each guy she meets will fit into her life.

This means YOU!

And whenever a guy doesn't seem to want to fit the mold SHE THINKS she wants him to, she'll use DRAMATIC TACTICS in an attempt to manipulate his behavior to fit her mold.

These little women's tactics are often mistaken for the REAL woman!

And if you're not aware of them, like many, many men, it becomes impossible to distinguish the REAL woman from her DRAMA. Women's behavior can create an illusion.


I assure you, this mistake is common -- too common among most men.

It is only by being aware of women's behavior... that these dramatic tactics are cheap tricks used by the woman, but they are NOT the real woman.

Here, we're going to explore them. There are three main tactics women use...

1) Sob Stories
2) Temper Tantrums
3) Flirty Displays

Women will attempt to use any one of these behaviors to get you to do or behave the way THEY want you to! ... to get you to mold to the image and role they want you to play in their life.

But not fitting the mold she wants you to form to -- by not altering to women's behavior -- is the big secret to creating attraction.


How to Handle Women's Sob Stories

Women use Sob Stories to play on your PITY. She uses Sob Stories and complaining to encourage you to feel SORRY for her.


The message she communicates is, "Oh poor me!"

And how do you respond? "Oh, you poor thing! Let me help you."

This is trouble! Let's take a closer look...

How does complaining look? What kind of behavior does she display?

They don't necessarily contain tears -- perhaps in the most severe cases. But they generally come in the form of a woman complaining about a problem in her life, or some other emotional hailstorm she's experiencing.

For a lot of guys, they have a tendency to want to respond in a helpful way. They start to listen to a woman's problems, and offer advice or solutions.

But this is doing exactly what she wants you to do. You may think you're helping her, but really, she is MANIPULATING you!

Here's a simple clue...

If she's complaining about a problem that effects you in some way -- like a flat tire -- find a solution by doing something about it. But if she's feeding you a Sob Story about ANYTHING that has NOTHING to do with you...


... DON'T listen to it!

The key handling a woman's Sob Stories is to never play her therapist!


How to Handle Women's Temper Tantrums

Women use Temper Tantrums to target your GUILT. She uses emotional explosions to encourage you to REGRET something you did.

The message she sends is, "You better do what I want, or you'll be sorry!"

And how to do you react? "Oh no! She's angry at me. I may lose her. Better apologize immediately!"

Whoops! Now we're heading down an eerie path.

How do you identify Temper Tantrums?

These are generally easy to see. I think most of us have seen them. They're any angry or pouty outburst by a woman. And generally, any form of emotional stirred disapproval directed AT YOU.

A lot of guys buckle to a woman's Temper Tantrums. They think they have displeased a woman and now have make things right.


But nothing could be farther from the truth!

She wants you to be in her DEBT... or her perceived debt. That way, you feel like you owe her something. Again, you're being controlled by her manipulation.

The solution? If a woman gets angry at you, LET HER!

Treat the situation the same as you would a fly buzzing around your head... mildly annoying, but nothing to lose your cool over.

The key to handling women's Temper Tantrums is in dealing with women's disapproval.


How to Handle Women's Flirty Displays

Women's Flirty Displays are directed at your PRIDE. She uses flattery and attention to make you feel masculine or ATTRACTIVE... you're the chick magnet.

Not really, though... but she doesn't want you to know that.

The message she communicates is, "Oooooh... you're soooo SEXY!"


And you respond how? "Yeah... that's me. I'm hot! She likes me."

Big mistake!

How do you know when a woman is simply putting on a Flirty Display?

This can be anything from a woman giving you unusually forward attention to touching to overt or obviously revealing behavior, like bending over to give you a nice view of her assets.

Most guys tend to lose it here.

They think a woman is actually into them. And if they haven't had a date in a long time -- or haven't had a woman into them -- they get sucked in.

Now, the woman has the guy around her little finger. He would probably do just about any FAVOR for her at even the hint of a request.

And chances are, she already has had something lined up for him before she put on the Flirty Display.

How to get around it? Back off when women come on strong. Recognize immediately that it's fueled by an agenda.


The key to handling women's Flirty Displays is don't be part of her agenda.


Face the Reality and Set Yourself Free

To become successful in dealing with women, you must FACE the reality that women WILL attempt to manipulate you. And you must LEARN how to deal with it.

Don't let this anger you. Don't get angry at women for being who they are.

Instead, accept it. It's fun to be put to the test.

I know it can be tough to look back into your past and realize that a woman was 'deceiving' you. Noticing that women have used these dramatic tactics on you in the past is tough...

... and perhaps to great effect!

But the truth is, you LET yourself be deceived. I definitely used to let myself be deceived! And now, I look back with a smirk, knowing I've learnt from those experiences.

Now, I'm invincible to their dramatic tactics. And so are you, when you learn to identify them... and deal with them on the fly.

And you want to know a secret?

... the man who is COMPLETELY unaffected by all of woman's dramatic tactics is the man most sought after by women. By not buckling to women's expectations of you actually creates attraction.

Ironic, isn't it?

https://www.sosuave.com/articles/jj/mysteries.htm

chidiokay:
If messi is the leader of the team then what does the coach represent ... are you insinuating there is an hierarchy above leader or no be coach go decide if messi go play olofo

Osiwin ! poverty is why you ascribe leader to every tom & harry that has a name your father don't have.
Oponu ! ashiere ! anybody can have money, even pets inherit gross wealth,

Leadership entails representing the interest of the people while money making entails making wise investment decisions. ode learn

Anybody can have money lol. Your stupidity is beyond comprehension. So you think Dangote don't represent the interest of a lot of people ? so you don't know that being exceptional in something you do even something like making wise investment decisions can make you a leader of a lot of people that respect and acknowledge that exceptional feats?

So you don't know there are leaders among leaders and bosses among bosses ?

Tinubu is a leader in Nigeria but even he would become a follower in US or other part of the world or when compare to politicians in US or UK. There are kings among kings and emperors among emperors but i don't think your brain can cover that.


You are even contradicting yourself, so the coach that you think is leading messi didn't seek knowledge and trained for it, he just became a coach the day he was born ?

Your outburst is typical of people with small brain, i'm just tutoring you for free but i'm happy to help a retard like you.

Bridget95:
where is the original or fake your tribesmen produced. Be bold to declare your tribe let's weigh them in influence and wealth spreading from your homeland to elsewhere including outside Nigeria and Africa. Can we know your tribe and let the weighing begin.

Can you list Igbo successful businessman outside Nigeria ?

Yoruba is the richest African immigrants in US and Uk, all you know is empty noise.

EreluRoz:
He's just a playboy, I wonder why this one thinks she has a chance with him.

I don't even like him, too much muscles everywhere and from research it's confirmed that men like this have small penis and don't last long in bed

Nobody ask you if you like him, i don't think he will like you too

Statement like yours actually mean you like him and want him badly if you are interested in his peepee to the extent of guessing the size.

ppogba:
You are wiser than everyone at CBN.

Congratulations

With the growing rate of crypto currency recently and all over the world if no one in CBN or Nigeria feel the need to create a body or department full of experts in crypto currency dedicated to regulate and monitor crypto currency activities, yeah maybe i'm wiser than everyone at CBN, the quickness to
make decisions like that distinguish countries that are leaders in the world today.

chidiokay:
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Stop reasoning like a slowpoke naw , Being a Leader does not mean you will grow up in white house or your beginning must be as rosy as Dangote net worth
Driver is a profession, You need a lesson teacher to teach you leadership and profession are not the same. As successive as Bill gate or dangote his they can't be called Leaders
All these brain gymnastic you are doing only resonate crossbreed stupidity .. learning is part of Life .. you might as well begin to shalaye how many titus dey inside sardine naw

You just want to argue, you can't even differentiate leadership from profession .. messi is a leader shey

olofo motherfvcka

You are the fool that can't realize that when you distinguished your self enough in your profession or career, you automatically become a leader and role model in that profession and career you don't necessarily have to join politics before you become a great leader in something , every thing that you do and say will be follow by a lot of people in that profession but i think something as simple as that is difficult for your small brain to comprehend.


This omo were said Dangote and billgate are not leaders lol what a dumb fvck. You think it is easy to become a billionaire without having leadership qualities. You keep distinguishing yourself as a great retard.

chidiokay:
You are just arguing blindly, your arguement is all over the place

I am talking LEADERS that "RULE" with Power or Authority, it is shameful you can't differentiate SCHOLARS from LEADERS

Albert einstein, williams Shakespeare are not leaders, they can be categorized as scholars or author.

Apparently you are a FOOL, if not you will know some profession are more of inborn than preference, people learn music but most great musicians had it inborn .. check the age M.J, beyonce, usher started singing
People learn football but there are people like Messi that are naturally gifted, academic or not Messi, ronaldo, neymar would be great footballer any day anytime. enough of the digression

Stop mixing Leadership with Profession, as a leader there are attributes you must possess for people to follow you, no lecturer or textbook can transplant attributes

A classic example is Tinubu and Peter Obi, one is inborn one is reading textbook ... are they mate on the field

Even Tinubu was once a driver in the USA and people can learn to lead overtime through knowledge and experience no one just suddenly become a leader without putting in the work and knowledge.

You are the fool here, yes some have inborn skills and talents but they still have to work on themselves to develop themselves to become whatever that are those who didn't fail to achieve anything and a lot of people learn to do a lot of things, they just don't get there.

So messi and Ronaldo and all the players you listed didn't get any training they just became a great footballer the day they were born, what do you think the academy and training equipment in Football clubs are for ?

Pointless to discuss with a great retard like you, you are also becoming a great leader among retards.

To God be the glory great things he has done. Hearty congratulations to the entire House of Oduduwa and Olori Tobiloba, who today birthed a Prince and Princess to the Royal throne of Oduduwa.
Mother and children are doing well to the glory of God Almighty.

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chidiokay:
You can be entitle to your Opinion buh desist from shooking mouth in what beyond your IQ

Leaders are born not trained , go n read about great leaders in the world, martin luther king, mandela, mahatma gandi, abram lincoln and co.. read extensive on these men and educate your ignorance

Anyone can put anything online, i can create a website or blog and put anything there it doesn't mean it is true or fact even science theories are not static and final, you are stupid if you believe everything online hook and sinker without ability to think critically on your own.

If your mindset is already confined and limited to one theory, it is such a waste of time to discuss with you. Ironically you are the one portraying low iQ here for having such a close mindset.

"Leaders are born" lol what a very stupid statement, most of the people you listed and many people that are leaders in their craft today were once losers and average people.

The people you called leaders were also dominant in one or two aspect they were not leaders in all aspect of life. One may command authority or be a leader in politics but not in science, relationship, marriage, Journalism, acting, writing, Advocacy, law etc

Everyone have the potential to be a leader in whatever they do as long as they improve themselves and get the necessary training and knowledge, nothing is inbuilt someone you know as kind and quiet can easily become wicked and aggressive under some bad influence, environment and experiences. People learn to do many things although many also have special skills and talents but even that will be useless without the right work and efforts.

If someone is a leader in science like Herbert Einstein it doesn't mean they are also a leader in Law, Politics, Journalism etc Herbert Einstein was only good in science and even one aspect of science which was physics just like William Shakespeare was good in Poetry and Playwright, some men can also be good in more than one aspect though. You think Herbert Einstein and Williams Shakespeare became a great scientist and a great poet the day they were born ? they didn't learn or train for anything before they became what they were.

Your statement is like saying people are born as a scientists, Politicians, Journalists, Lawyers, Doctors etc, you are really stupid and close minded. People with your mindset will be very stagnant in life with no development. No great companies or establishments will employ people with your mindset.

chidiokay:
The threads say "What's The Difference Between An Alpha Man And A Simp?)

The same way i define ALPHAs is the same extension to Simp .. inbuilt : intuition, discretion , strength and intelligences level are the major differences between an Alpha & Simp

i see people using Women as the sole yardstick, which is not valid enough

You are wrong

It is not truly inbuilt our environment and knowledge influences who we are but humans is capable of development and change. If you acquire the right knowledge and ready to take actions human can change.

You think people that are leaders in their career, business etc became that because it was inbuilt ? there are many losers in life that later become winners and alphas.

Your statement is like saying human is not capable of change, human change and develop all the time. Nothing is inbuilt

DCmaverick:
I'm just being curious, so I won't be a SIMP

First know the meaning of Alpha
Alpha mean to be the leader in something, a group, a class or relationship etc

When we are talking of an Alpha in a relationship, we are talking about guys that are very dominant in their relationship or interaction with women, they can not easily be manipulated to do women's biddings, be disrespected or treated poorly, they won't jump through hoops and obstacles to impress any woman, more over they can easily walk away from any women that won't treat them well.

An Alpha man is the leader or dominant one in his relationship or interaction with women, his women respect him and his opinions and submit to him and will try their best to please him and make him happy because they know he won't tolerate any disrespect or mistreatment.


A simp is the opposite of what i listed above, he is not the leader or dominant one in his relationship or interaction with women, he will jump through obstacles and go overboard to please and impress women, his women don't really respect him and his opinions and won't submit to him, he is the one trying hard to please women and make them happy because he's afraid to lose them or make them dislike him instead of being otherwise.


To be an Alpha is not limited to relationship as long as you are the leader or command authority in something like a group, career, business etc You are an Alpha in that thing.

lexy2014:
off point.

what are the "a lot of thing" that the floating will stabilise?

the UAE Dirham is 3.67 to a dollar. what are they producing and exporting?

You are stupid if you don't know what UAE is producing and exporting

Antell95:
Walking through the Azikiwe road brings back the WUSE ZONE memories; top tier buildings, constant power supply, no single brown roof, etc.

As an Akwa Ibom boy, I can confess to you that Aba is miles ahead of "tin pot" city of Uyo.

Over there at Uyo, most citizens are very poor, few good buildings except ewet housing which is dominated by Criminals in Government.

Yes, Uyo is very clean, but na Cleanliness we go chop?

Who said Aba was dirty?

Maybe it's your Father's house.

Now, over to their girls, .... Out of 10 girls, 7 are well shaped... But I had no courage to approach any coz I'm going through severe tinubulation ...


Lite up my weed in peace ✌️

DJ play me "NWA ABA" by Ruff coin 🪙

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Aba that can't even make Abia state to generate more IGR than Osun state with all the noise and bogus industrialization is what you call Japan of Africa lol

lexy2014:
what are the "a lot of thing" that the floating will stabilise?

the UAE Dirham is 3.67 to a dollar. what are they producing and exporting?

are you intelligent at all if you questions what UAE is producing and exporting ?

Nigeria won't have problems with forex too if our earnings from crude oil continue to Increase and our crude oil production and earnings didn't decreased . So many illiterates forming economic experts

Nairaland is currently rank 18 in Nigeria

Nairaland is not as popular as people think, in my area i don't think there are anyone that know about it apart from me. I think Seun should let people know about Nairaland and run ads on TV, Radio and Internet, just call it a Nigerian platform where people can discuss, ask questions etc.

There should be a section on Nairaland Nigerians can ask any questions like quora, Nairaland should also have its own AI by now

jeromestarks:
You have a good understanding about life.

I just know a thing or two not much.

You don't have any problem apart from showing little interests and giving too much "i don't care" energy , you know women clock is always ticking unlike men that can start a family anytime they don't want a man that will waste their time so if you date for 1 to 3 months without showing more interests and keep giving the not giving a fvck energy they will think they have no future with you and exit before wasting too much time with you.

I think those women that were trying to make you jealous resorted to playing those silly games when they couldn't really gauge your interest in them. When your reaction was still very aloof they thought you were just wasting their time and didn't like them at all, you should also be more proactive to ditch any girl that play silly games before they do it first.

You should also be more assertive and stop playing a Nice guy when you are not really nice it make you look very fake. You don't have any business talking with any woman boyfriend or trying to act like you care when you don't really give a fvck.

Men too may doubt their friendship with you if you don't show interest in their personal life, family, education etc.

Mind you many people still won't fvck with you even if you do all these for so many reasons known to them but who give a fvck anyway. I like spending most of my time alone and don't want a long term relationship with any woman so i don't really care but if you want friends and women to stay in your life you have to care about all these.

jeromestarks:
BEWARNED! THIS IS A LONG READ.

I have noticed that at some point in every new relationship or friendship I started, the person must test my love for him/her by making me jealous to see my reaction. Check out the following cases.

Case1:
When I got admission into the uni, I met this great guy that i shared hostel with. We became close friends; sharing food together, doing assignment together, washing together etc. We even went to classes and church programs together. These went on for about 4 months or so.
Suddenly, this guy wokeup one beautiful Saturday and called a guy in the next room to escort him to the launder! I was like "what!"
We use to go washing together. Why call this guy and not me? I didn't say it out. I just wondered and pretended not to care.
Before I knew it, he had started cooking and sharing food with the other guy. Soon, he became best friends with this other guy.
I kept my cool and moved on with my life.
We graduated and everyone went his way. Note, we didn't fight. We do talk once awhile but it wasn't as it were.


Case2:
I went for an interview and I met this guy there. He had a car. We got the job and became close friends.
This guy always drove me home after work. We would talk about politics, women, alcohol, life goals etc.
This went on for about 2 months then suddenly, one evening after work, this guy called another colleague of ours and offered to ride home with him. I wanted to still follow them since I didn't plan on going home alone (I didn't hold transport fare). To my surprise, this my guy said he was not going home directly. That he wanted to see someone first. The other guy hopped in his car and they drove away. They got in his fvcking car and drove away.
Demnn! I thought in my head "today ehhh, you go trek. Who say make you no get your own car?"
I was heading towards the exist when one woman in her 50s offered to drive me home. Lucky for me, she was going to see her son who happened to be my neighbor. Guess what? I got home and met my friend's car parked at his gate.
We met with my friend the next day at work and he seemed to be very observant of me. Trying to see my reaction. I greeted him normal. Smiled and walked into my office.
Since that day, our friendship cracked. I didn't follow him home anymore.
I later learnt, through office gossipers, that he wanted to see my reaction that was why he ditched me that day.

Case3: My girlfriends.
I have dated a handful of women and I can confidently tell you that at some point in our relationship (3-4months later), ALL of them tried to make me jealous.
One girl I dated on campus hugged a guy in my presence and looked at me as she did it. I didn't flinch. Days later, this girl called off the relationship.

Another girl I dated in my neighborhood told me the names of guys crushing on her. She showed me text and chats they sent to her. I didn't flinch. I pretended not to feel threatened. Smiled and said " these guys really like you ooo". The following week, this girl called of the relationship.

The third girl woke up one morning, called me and said "if another man asked me out and he is very cute and has a lot of money, what would you do?"
I replied " nothing! If he's better than me and you chose him, I will be happy for you. I can't compete or fight my fellow man because of a woman"
She literally hissed on the phone. The following month, we broke up.

There was this girl that I dated too. After some months into the relationship, she started to form busy. I would call and call, she wouldn't pick up. She would wait until I called like 5 times before she would pick and say "I'm kinda busy now please"
I stopped calling. Days turned to weeks. Weeks turned to months. And that was it.
After two months, she called me and I replied " who is on the line?" She hug up and that was the end.

Another girl who was my ex. Started showing me green light (Calling to ask how I am doing, asking if I have eaten, texting me , blah bla blah balablue). So I asked her if we can chill at my house. She quickly told me that she has a boyfriend. I said ok no problem. I requested for the guy's number, called him and we talked like friends. I then called her back and told her that the guy is a great guy. He will be perfect for her. I sent the screen grab of my chats with her boyfriend in which I told him to keep her and take good care of her because she's like a sister to me.
The moment she saw the message, she blocked my line.

The latest one was a girl whom after we had been together for over 6 months, started to tell me about a certain guy that was very caring to her and how she had grown to like him a lot. She told me he makes her laugh and calls her all the time. In my mind I was like " this one want me to struggle to impress her. You dey whine?"
One day, she brought up the guy's name as we were talking and I said "Omo, this guy will be perfect for you ooo."
Boom! That was the beginning of the end of our relationship.

Who do you think is the problem. Is it me or them?

nlfpmod

I didn't read your post properly because i don't have the time but i will state what i deduced.

A lot of people won't fvck with you if they can't easily use and play you, those women ditched you because they know you can not be manipulated by their silly games know this and know peace. It is very hard to meet genuine people out there that your relationship will be base on mutual respect instead of one person trying to take advantage of the other, especially relationships with women. Those women that cut you off also didn't really have interest in you or like you as you thought, even bad boys that are plain evil in all aspect have several women that are obsessed with them.


The Problem you have is in doubting yourself for not having so many fake people that don't really give a fvck about you in your life, even people with genuine bad characters still have several friends and lovers.

What i can really advice you is that when it come to relationship with women, you can play the aloof game in the beginning of the relationship like the 1-2 months but you have to show more interest if you really want the woman around or else expect to lose her, same with men too you have to show you are interested in their life and family somehow not just doing things together.

I'm the type that don't give a fvck about a long time relationship with a woman, 1 or 2 months is enough but if you want to keep them longer than that you you have to play like you are really interested and make some efforts but no woman is really worth that to me. You may also be lucky to meet a woman that will be very interested in you no matter how long you play you are not that interested, i think those women are the real deal you should be seeking for

ibechris:
Igbos have been existing in Nigeria before ur Oduduwa came from no where.

There is simply no historical records that claimed yorubas educated igbos...not even one bit. Igbos are more refined,educated and less noisy than yorubas and even richer than yorubas in every aspect of life.

And finally,igbos are the oldest among the four major tribes of Nigeria.

Igbos are 2,550 years older than Yorubas.
Igbos are 2,250 years older than Hausa.
Igbos are 3,140 years older than Fulani.
And 550 years older than Benin.

One of the reasons u may not agree with this,is that we never fought or conquered our neighbours. Because we were not seeking for lands to take over.

It was only migrant tribes like Yoruba,Hausa and fulani that were only fighting because of land.

What I say here is a fact and u can fact check anywhere.

Igbos have been existing 6000years Before Christ. And the oldest tribe in Nigeria are the ijaw people.

Ironically you are the one making noise

The Europeans documented how they met your people, You were bush dwelling, naked cannibals

ibechris:
We are not a violent tribe...historically,igbos aren't known or identify with violence. U pushed fulanis to Sokoto that means u don't know ur history well enough.

Go and ask how u guys lost Ilorin to fulanis.

Funnily,u can't tell me that u push them down to sokoto and same fulani took the entire kwara state till this day.

Let me say this before I leave u to ur lies,Yorubas are talkative people noisy neighbours and so is ur history...ur history isn't consistent with facts on ground.

How u can claim what u don't know. Same way Oduduwa ur ancestor lied that he originated from Egypt,another say he came from Israel,another one said he came from Mecca in Saudi arabia and the one that still confused historians is that version that says he descended from heaven...sleep over this matter and ask why yourself why u guys have inconsistent history?

Who civilized you if not Yoruba ?

Look at the person talking, do you even have History at all or are you not the same set of people claiming jew even when Isreal denied your existence trying desperately and shamelessly to claimed jewish heritage?

Did Nri founder of Onitsha not descended from heaven like Oduduwa according to the history ?

Everyone know the noisemakers in this country and it is not Yoruba.

I can bet my balls that she was wet and having serious Orgasm.

Most women easily achieve orgasm and cum from something as simple as this, even sex with a man for several hours may not make them cum.

123yes:
Definitely not ESN/IPOB members, but rather private gun fabricating factory scattered in the south east that fabricates local gun for hunters. and private security guards.
ESN/IPOB does not use use this kind of Dean guns.

You think you are untraceable


You will talk what you really know when hand touch you, it seem you know the real ESN hideouts

Usmanovic95:
From the write up ,you can see the boyfriend doesn't take the relationship seriously. He is only using her to catch cruise,how are you even sure the boyfriend and the girl didn't collude to play a fast one on this our bros OP.

I'm sure they didn't collude

that guy didn't really know about their affairs

Even if he's not serious with her it doesn't mean he would tolerate every bullshits, he is the type that won't tolerate cheating even if he cheat a lot.

Muyiddeen:
Hello guys I need your advice I met a girl ask her out so she told me she have a boyfriend but her boyfriend doesn't take the relationship serious reason because he tell lies and womanize alot.... she don't want to continue the relationship with him anymore...

so, I convince her that my own time with her will be different from her boyfriend and she accepted me and we started the relationship the relationship was going well smooth and nice along the line she requested for some money and also she asked me to get her a new phone because the phone was bad so for the sake of love and care I have for her I provided her the money she requested and also provide her a better phone....

recently, she begin to act up somehow whenever I called her on phone telling her that I would like to see her she will say she's busy, she's always busy so I begin to suspect her that was happening so during the weekend she told me that her ex-boyfriend is back again and both of them were together when she was telling me she's busy because she doesn't want her ex to know what is happening that was the reason so she told me was was busy with work....

so she pleaded that we should end the relationship we just started, since we have been dating I have spent money on her and I have also get her a better phone
my question now the phone I bought for her should I collect it back or I should leave the phone with her let her go with it and continue her relationship with her former guy

She just used and played you, don't take it easily with her

Find a way to get back your phone and also let her boyfriend know of your relationship with her, tell her boyfriend she has been cheating on him with you. I bet that her boyfriend will break up with her and it would be very painful to her more than anything. Give her a big dose of the pain

OneCandleAway:
Imagine if the European monarch was marrying like this, the citizens would have beheaded them.

The money he would have used to help his people with better life is used to taking care of women. Just imagine king Charles should say he wants to marry one more wife, imagine what uk people will do to him

Just bitter and jealous

Do you know the networth of British Royal Family ? 28billion pounds, the luxury they spends money on daily i don't think Ooni of ife would ever be able to match that even if he married 50 wives.

No king in Nigeria can match Ooni of Ife in several initiatives and programs to help people in Nigeria even the women he married he is helping them lol

I don't have much problem with Peter Obi as a politician but i just hate how some people want to whitewash him like he is different from every other politicians in this country.

They think we are stupid like them.

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