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Redpill isn't about hating women in fact redpill isn't for only men, it is also useful for women.

Redpill is about how to deal with manipulation in any relationship.

Women are hypergamy by nature every redpillers Know that but men are different.

A man can still be attracted to a woman regardless of her social status, her finances and educational background, of course men wouldn't be in support of something that is so different and opposite of their nature in a disadvantageous way.

In your mind you are very enlightened, we are in the era and generation of Simp and Wimp, the army of simp is growing stronger.

The problem with our modern interpretation of power is to think of it in extreme, absolute terms.

Control in a healthy relationship passes back and forth as desire and need dictate for each partner. In an unhealthy relationship you have an unbalanced manipulation of this control by a partner. Although control is never in complete balance, it becomes manipulation when one partner, in essence blackmails, the other with what would otherwise be a reinforcer for the manipulated under a healthy circumstance.

This happens for a plethora different reasons, but the condition comes about by two ways – the submissive participant becomes conditioned to allow the manipulation to occur and/or the dominate initiates the manipulation. In either case the rule still holds true – the one who needs the other the least has the most control. Nowhere is this more evident than in interpersonal relationships.

- The rational male

Goodlady:
I m here watching

Redpill isn't for only men it is useful for women as well.

fattprince:
Guys help me with this girl matter. You already show no desire for me. I wrote epistle about how I can't be her just friends. If we aren't fvcking, we can't be together. But she still wouldn't stop greeting me on WhatsApp every fvcking day with her boring chats and all.

Starve her of the attention she crave by all means and move on with your life, even if it means blocking and deleting her number if you can't ignore her chats.

You already told her your position so stick with it don't let her manipulate you into any friendship or get any of your attention, don't care whatever she thinks. If she is not ready to be in a relationship with you and you are also not interested in being her friend then she should stop talking to you, enforce that by all means and move on to someone else that is interested in a relationship with you.

Unless you have already fall deeply for her and just can't move on. Then you are already her dog lol

What is Power in a relationship ?

The definition of Power is not financial success, status or influence over others, but the degree to which we have control over our own lives.

In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.

This is a foundation of any relationship, not just intersexual ones, but family, business, etc. relationships as well. It is a dynamic that is always in effect. For my own well being and that of my family’s, I need my employer more than he needs me, ergo I get up for work in the morning and work for him. And while I am also a vital part for the uninterrupted continuance of his company and endeavors, he simply needs me less than I need him. Now I could win the lottery tomorrow or he may decide to cut my pay or limit my benefits, or I may complete my Masters Degree and decide that I can do better than to keep myself yoked to his cart indefinitely, thereby, through some condition either initiated by myself or not, I am put into a position of needing him less than he needs me. At this point he is forced into a position of deciding how much I am worth to his ambitions and either part ways with me or negotiate a furtherance of our relationship.
The same plays true for intersexual relationships. Whether you want to base your relationship on ‘power’ or not isn’t the issue; it’s already in play from your first point of attraction. You are acceptable to her for meeting any number of criteria and she meets your own as well. If this weren’t the case you simply would not initiate a mutual relationship.

In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who
needs the other the least. This is a foundation of any relationship, not just intersexual ones, but family, business, etc.

-The rational male

pansophist:
E be like say you be apprentice, you de learn work

To see a woman that takes accountability for anything scarce like snow in Kaduna. And if you meet one, wife her up, no waste time.

Na why I no answer her, because na waste of time. But your response was good. I mean I won't treat a woman bad, I'll meet my own end of the bargain 100%, she probably won't accept subpar treatment from me.

But want me to accept it from her, because, guess what? She is a woman. She wants to be treated as an adult and a child at the same time.

Just let them talk, they'll tell you everything you need to know if you should take her serious. I greet you comrade.

You can settle for less that's your own cup of tea.

I won't accept any subpar treatment from any women.

You are kind of a very harsh person , always try and overlook some girly behaviours in women, it’s a natural trait. Same way a woman would easily forgive her cheating man. This your tit for tat approach to relationship isn’t a good one, you must learn to accept some flaws from a partner as no one is ever perfect.

You are the wrong one here

It depend on personal standard and self respect not everyone will settle for less.

Not all women forgive their cheating men, some will file for divorce immediately they discover it.

If he wouldn't disrespect his woman for anything then why should he take any disrespect in the form of Insult, name calling etc from his woman ? if the woman apologize later and recognize her misbehavior then he can let it slide but if he just let it slide without sincere apology, it will just worsen the relationship later. If she can not keep her emotions in check without lashing out on her partner for no reason then maybe she should be in a psychiatric hospital not relationship.

questioner What are you afraid of ?
The worst case scenario is losing your girlfriend, which i'm very sure you can handle.

There is no need to be sneaky or over analysing things, tell your girlfriend straight up that you are very bother with the fact that she is stopping you from interacting with that guy.

As a man you should strive as much as possible to be independent and be your own man in a relationship. She is your girlfriend not your mommy that will be telling you what to do or who to interact with.

She is the one that have issues with the guy not you, you have a different opinion about the relationship with the guy and you should man up and let your girlfriend know your opinion is different.

If she is trying to stop you at all cost it means she is hiding something and keeping secrets, and when your girlfriend is hiding something from you she is already taking you for granted and walking over you.

Now the real question should be how much bullshits you can tolerate from your girlfriend or where your boundary is ? Only you know.

Your girlfriend shouldn't be stopping you from interacting with people , she is your girlfriend not even your wife, you are a man and can make decisions for yourself, man up and stop acting like a wimp.

If your girlfriend successfully stopped you from interacting with a guy you are ok and cool with just because she is not okay and cool with it , the show of weakness and lost power will haunt and destroy your relationship later.

Redpill doesn't mean to be a arrogant jerk and an abusive scumbag.

Treat your woman nicely not overtly nice

Being a man of Quality and not quantity


Have a passion and don't be needy, you should strive as much as possible to be Independent.

Be outspoken and decisive, say your mind and opinions all the time about everything and be the leader in the relationship.

You should also have boundaries you will never break for anything in the relationship.

Also make sure the effort to make the relationship work is always 50/50 and you are not the one doing most of the work

When everything failed you should also be ready to move on, sometimes somethings can't just be control life is chaotic.

Read books so many books out there you can read.

advanceDNA:
He did not point at all women......he only advised men not to be like his dad who went out of his way for the women in his life and was treated like trash.....

Its almost like u women here are alegic to hearing about u women's fvckup.

i'm glad someone finally get the message, i was actually blaming my father in that post all along for being weak and Pathetic. He could have easily walk away and move on to better things to save his dignity but he didn't

GloriousGbola:
Just another red piller trying to build a following so he can sell red pill merch.

I did not read that wall of text - but if you have been married and divorced from 3 different women - you are the problem.

Yes my father is the problem

He did not have any clear goals with women and believe he could just marry any beautiful woman and make the relationship work as long as he is loving and tolerating enough.

Ishilove:
So many messed up people. Like my friend Kobojunkie usually opines, "go and visit a mental health therapist." You need am.

My parents have been together for decades and when I need inspiration and marital advice, I look to them. It hasn't been smooth, far from it, but patience, tolerance, perseverance and compromise is what has made their marriage last. Don't use your own experiences to paint marriage in bad light. Your dad made his choices and he suffered the consequences. You need to ask yourself why he ended up marrying three bad women. Haba, is he the only one? His own mother left his father as well, and his wives left him. There is a pattern in your family that should be critically examined rather than coming here to write about things you don't fully understand

You guys are jumping to conclusions lol

I also blamed my father for his choices, because i said not to tolerate any shits from any woman doesn't mean i am blaming only the women.

Banilla:
Always negativity. Share the experiences of married men in happy homes.

Your unfortunate father isn't the majority.

Yes I know but you still have to learn from both negative and positive experience

Positive experience means the man is doing something right, plus it could still be negative experience when you remove the facade or become negative later when the dynamics of things change.

As a young man in this modern world the greatest thing you can become right now is a redpiller, you need to understand woman and how to starve them of the attention and power they crave so badly if you don't want to spend half of your life going through shits and learning the hard way before you man up.

My family and father is a very great example, my father was such a very Nice guy because my grandfather died when my father was still a baby he never get the opportunity to see his father, my father's mother abandoned him to married someone else as a Young boy and my father grew up with his father's relatives in a village and farm stead with no real love shown to my father when growing up as a kid, all he did as a kid was to labour on the farm from dawn to dusk.

Finally he became an adult and worked very hard to get his shits together and the mother that abandoned him as a kid for another man and for his father's relatives to took care of him came back and he became her emotional support even until she died my father was by her side.

Overall this experience turned my father to a very nice guy might be because of the affection of his mother that he crave or something like that, my father married three women consecutively including my mother but they all left him.

I knew my father was such a nice guy because of his experience that he shared with me, he told me about the shits he tolerated to make the relationships work but unfortunately it never work out, women like the drama and crave the attention he said they would just start a fight for no reason, i thought he was speaking out of malice, pain and hatred that it is not possible for someone to just start a fight for no reason, but i'm very glad i never have to find out myself the hard way.

He told me his first wife my first step mother was impregnated inside his house while he was busy at work, he found out later and helped her aborted the pregnancy and my father said he had to let it slide to kept the peace and the marriage. When i heard it for the first time i opened my mouth wide agape and couldn't close it for a long time and the ironic thing was the woman still left, he described several circumstances where he had to go and begged my first step mother's family to helped him get her back, she would left and he would begged her family to get her back it happened several time until the woman left and never come back no matter the begging that my father did.

All the shits my father tolerated from her was in vain, my father said several men were having affairs with her inside their matrimonial home while he was busy and away at work until she was impregnated, he took all the shits and the woman still left back to her hometown to married another man. You are better off not tolerating any shits from a woman it wouldn't help you regardless.

My father's experience and relationship with his first wife messed him up but he picked himself together and decided to work on his career because he thought his little success in life let all that shits happened to him. He started a new business and the business became successful, he attracted another woman the woman that became my father's second wife, the woman demanded a very big wedding and my father granted her wish and they organized a very big wedding and invited a lot of people.


My father still regrets spending so much on that wedding till this day, he said money he could have invested or used to buy a big land he blew it all on a wedding to a woman that didn't deserve it, he said he told her to reduced the spending and wedding but the woman wouldn't listen and he also went to the end to satified her desire for a very big wedding.

After a successful marriage and they gave birth to two kids business nosedived when economy started to change and the money was no longer coming like it used to, the woman started showing attitude and the drama began.

My father couldn't focus on his career and business and there was no more peace in his life so out of desperation for solutions i don't know who gave him the idea to go and married another woman in order to curb the devil at home.


My mother was available and just coming out of a failed relationship so she married my father as the second wife, the first wife didn't stop fighting but it gave my mother the opportunity to proved herself to my father.


The first wife was a devil but my mother was an angel in the eyes of my father, little did he know that he was dealing with two devils but it was that one devil just happened to tamed the other. The first wife did not stop the fighting and Drama, the neighbourhood was always noisy and their house was very notorious for that in the neighborhood, conflicts was always being settled in the neighborhood everyday by elders in the neighborhood.

During these periods my mother behaved very well, she showed my father the love and care and was the typical house wife. My father was deceived he really believed that my mother genuinely cared for him he didn't know that it was because of the competition with the first wife lol. Women are really a manipulative creature if you don't understand women you will really suffer, in my father's quest for peace he believed the only obstacle to his happiness now was the first wife, he believed if he get rid of the first wife he would live happily ever after with my mother the one that was showing him love and care at that moment.

My father went to the court and local council to filed for divorce because the first wife wouldn't leave otherwise, after a lot of struggles the first wife finally left even though he lost some properties because of it. Now all that remained was to live happily ever after with my mother the angel lol since the devil that was disturbing the union has been chased out, but soon my mother started her chaos when she finally settled as the main wife.

My mother was running her own Yam selling business and it was successful, my father said no matter what he gave my mother it was never enough even despite the fact that she was also running a successful business, he said my mother would cooked several types of meal all at once and placed it all on the table and the moment he mistakenly asked for his share chaos would break out in the house. He said despite the fact that my mother was having a successful business she would still asked for money and support for everything and if he didn't give it there would be no peace.

He said my mother could start abusing him for no reason and insulted him verbally and he wouldn't respond until a stranger that was passing by would decided to intervened on his behalf out of pain and my mother would start a very big fight, my mother left my father several times and my father would do everything to bring her back until he finally gave up and my mother also moved on to married another man.

Now he is just single and the idea of marriage to any women just terrified him, my father just have affairs with no strings attached. In fact I currently know a primary school teacher that is married with children that usually sneak to my father's house at night for sex. My father know that i know and in fact the woman know that i know too, i am an adult who i'm i to judge ? they are old enough to decide for themselves, but i just can't help but think about the husband of that woman that may think he have a loyal and loving wife or even her children that would believe their mother is all sweet and innocent lol.

When i was a child and living with my mother, my mother told me several times that my father was super stingy and a miser and that was the reason she left him, but I know about the relationship she was having at that time my mother a christian was now attracted to a Muslim man with one wife already and i know very well that she wasn't getting anything from the relationship. The man wouldn't bother to visit my mother for several weeks or months not to even talk of giving my mother money and that was what my mother left my father for ? but surprisingly my mother was so into this man.


Women may seem difficult to understand or complex but in reality they are very predictable and not that difficult to understand. If i did not learn anything from my father's experience with three wives, i deserve to suffer. You are better off not tolerating any shits from a woman or doing anything to please woman, know that no women could ever love you unconditionally like your parents, Know this and know peace. If she is acting like she love you, she is not in love with you but your power , influence and charisma etc the moment you lose it or she get something better then the love will disappear like smoke.


My father would have been more successful in life without all those women today , they just sabotaged him and wasted his time and resources.


Some guys in the comment section think the of experience of my father that i shared was all about blaming women and anti marriage campaign and bullshits but it is not.

All these women were toxic and abusive but my father also deserved to be blame for being weak, he could hardly stand up for himself. He had no boundaries and women could walk over him as they pleases, and in the end it never work but resulted in more chaos. This is the true message i want to pass, letting your partner walk over you and being overtly nice and passive will not help you in a relationship, it will only make you disgusting , weak and Pathetic, unattractive and you will lose your value, masculinity and power in the relationship

My father believed he could make the relationship work as long as he is loving and tolerate enough bullshits, but it only worsen the situation. He could have easily save his sanity and dignity and easily walk away from those situations. For example my father would have never married my abusive mother, if he was not so desperate to control the wife at home and he attracted my mother that only found him attractive because he was a married man. So many situations like that he could have avoided if he could just man up and walk away from the relationship instead of trying to make things work.


He could have also saved himself from marrying the second wife when she insisted on a very big wedding to satisfied her ego and he did not like it, he would have never get together with those women if he was the kind of man that can stand up for himself and he wouldn't be attracting all those women

The relationship could have also turned out differently if the women see him as a true masculine man and truly respect him, women can perceive weakness. His fear of walking away also contributed to how those women started having attitude, they didn't respect him.

A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life

No More Mr. Nice Guy is a 2003 self-help book by Dr. Robert A. Glover. He describes what he calls the “Nice guy Syndrome.” This syndrome is a condition in men who appear to be always nice and try to avoid conflict.

In the first part of the book, Dr. Robert Glover describes what a Nice Guy is and how these Nice Guys operate. Unfortunately for the Nice Guys, their approach to life will prevent them from reaching their goals. In fact, their approach is likely to do more damage than good.

Later in the book, Dr. Robert Glover delves into the nitty-gritty and shows us how to eliminate Nice Guy Syndrome. Subsequently, Robert offers a healthier solution.


Dr. Robert A. Glover’s Perspective
Dr. Glover is an internationally recognized authority on the so-called Nice Guy Syndrome. He is a frequent guest on radio talk shows and featured in numerous local and national publications.

Dr. Glover is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Washington. He works with individuals and couples to identify the symptoms of the Nice Guy Syndrome.

He leads therapy groups and seminars around the country and is the co-director of the Center for Healing and Recovery.

Not only that, but he has transformed thousands of “Nice Guys” from passive, bitter victims into empowered men. As well as personal changes, these men also undergo changes in their professional careers and intimate relationships.

Dr. Glover founded Total Personal Integration (TPI) University in 2012 to better help men and women put their intention into action.

Introduction

Do you avoid conflict and try to please others at all costs? Does the approval of others make you feel best? Are you trying to convince women that you’re different from other men? If so, you might be a Nice Guy. A Nice Guy believes being passive and pleasing others will make them happy. A Nice Guy struggles to get his needs met because he does his best to ignore them. This leads to a lot of resentment or rage.

No More Mr. Nice Guy is a bestselling self-help book by Dr. Robert A. Glover. He describes what he calls the “Nice Guy Syndrome.” This syndrome is a condition in men who appear always to be friendly and try to avoid conflict.

In the first part of the book, Dr. Glover describes what a Nice Guy is and how these Nice Guys operate. Unfortunately for the Nice Guys, their approach to life will prevent them from reaching their goals. In fact, their approach is likely to do more harm than good.

Later in the book, he delves into the nitty-gritty and shows us how to eliminate Nice Guy Syndrome. Afterwards, he offers a healthier solution.


StoryShot #1: Reclaim Your Personal Power and Masculinity

If you have Nice Guy Syndrome, it’s usually because you were forced to give up some of your personal power as a result of your childhood circumstances. You may have grown so used to making that sacrifice as an adult that you’ve locked yourself into a career or relationship that fulfills that expectation. But it may lead you to feeling frustrated, helpless, and resentful. You feel more out of control when you approach life with the coping techniques you developed as a child.

So, how can you reclaim your personal power?

For starters, when you have personal power, you believe you can deal with unpleasant situations. You recognize that you are human and that you experience fear from time to time, but you also believe in your ability to overcome obstacles on your own.

Being honest with yourself about your needs, weaknesses, and desires is an important part of reclaiming your personal power. You must become comfortable sharing your feelings and opinions. It’s fine if expressing these leads some people to leave you. Those who care about you will value your feelings and thoughts even if they disagree with them. Accept that you can’t influence or manage how others feel about you, and that you may experience rejection and criticism occasionally.

Reclaiming your masculinity goes hand in hand with reclaiming your personal power. To various men, being a man means different things, and it’s your responsibility to figure out what that means to you.

Embracing your masculinity entails forming strong bonds with other men and seeking a mentor, particularly if you don’t have a father. There’s no reason to feel bad about engaging in hobbies and connections that bring you joy.

StoryShot #2: Have Higher Standards and Don’t Accept Second-Hand Behavior

If you are too nice to people, somebody will take advantage of you. Both men and women take advantage of guys who try to be amiable all the time. So, what do you do to stop this from happening? The answer is to have higher standards for how people should treat you.

For example, imagine you’re with a group of friends. One of these friends makes a joke about you, and everyone starts laughing. Banter is a natural part of male friendship groups, so it is normal. Consider if your friend kept making jokes about you every time you saw each other. In this case, these jokes have gone from being lighthearted and fun to outright disrespectful. At this time, it is time to say something to him about it.

So, to stop being too nice, you have to set high standards for yourself and others’ behaviors. If the girl you like is always playing hard to get, you need to know your limit. If she persistently falls below your high standards, you should cut her off immediately. Apply these standards to all areas of your life. Never tolerate any behavior that crosses the line or disrespects you.


StoryShot #3: Speak With Conviction

One of the fastest ways to tell if a man is too nice is to pay close attention to how he says something. A man who’s too nice tends to speak with little conviction or with no personality. He wants to avoid hurting your feelings or any conflicts, so he will say what you want to hear instead of what he really believes.

Speaking with conviction is a powerful way of demonstrating to other people that you know what you want. It also shows that you’re confident in what you say. So, when someone asks you something, make sure that your words show your conviction. It will be easier for the person on the other end of the conversation to listen and understand your point of view.

If you want to speak with conviction, here are the four things you need to control:

1. Keep your voice at an even volume.

2. Keep it at a steady pace.

3. Avoid shouting.

4. Don’t talk over people.


StoryShot #4: Stop Agreeing So Much

Agreeing with someone is an easy thing to do. We all do it subconsciously, but every so often, it isn’t the most helpful thing for your wellbeing. Studies show that people perceive those who always agree with others as less intelligent and less confident.

If you’re the man who always agrees with people, simply practice disagreeing with other people on purpose. You can start that by disagreeing with people about little things. For example, if you enjoyed a movie and your friend didn’t, you should challenge them and try to understand why they think it was disappointing. Ask them what points they were disappointed by and come up with counter-arguments to the points you disagree with.


StoryShot #5: Tracking Your Good Deeds Leads to Resentment and Anger

Tracking your good deeds is one of the biggest mistakes you can make. This can be one of the most significant sources of frustration for nice men.

Nice Guys will do something pleasant for someone, especially girls, and then keep track of that deed. This deed is one of the hundreds of other nice things they have done for people. Nice Guys will then secretly expect something in return. The attractive girl that a Nice Guy is trying to impress is not keeping track of these deeds.

Tracking good deeds can be the cause of many problems for Nice Men. Anger is a common emotion associated with giving good deeds without people reciprocating. It is also common for Nice Guys to start to resent those who do not repay their good deeds. This feeling of being indebted is not healthy and will only lead to negative emotions. Dr. Glover does not recommend you avoid good deeds. Do a good deed and then move on. You can enjoy the good deed at that moment, but you should not look back and use that as evidence for being indebted.


Give without expecting something in return.


StoryShot #6: Don’t Hold Back

Nice Guys hold back despite their urge to say something. The foundation of this is that Nice Guys find conflict and people not liking them scary. They also dislike showing who they are to people. So, they filter their thoughts and keep quiet when they want to say something.

Holding back is a massive problem because avoiding expression and your true self will mean others will never actually know who you are.

A man who doesn’t hold back is much more of a man than one who is afraid to rock the boat. Fewer people might like the man who doesn’t hold back, but they will like him for whom he really is.

If you want to say something, then say it. If you want to do something, then do it. Don’t be afraid of what others will think of you, and don’t let this fear hold you back from simply being you.


StoryShot #7: Stop Fearing Confrontation

Many guys allow girls, and other men, to walk all over them. They allow others to verbally control and dominate them because they are so scared of confrontation. Imagine a bully in school who picks on a smaller child because he’s skinny and weak. What if, one day, the kid finally stands up to him and fights back? The bully in school constantly searches for the easiest targets. The skinny child in school is weaker and will likely be targeted. Being courageous enough to stand up to the bully will put them off. This courage makes this child a slightly more challenging target. The bully will move on to another Nice Guy.

Once you start embracing confrontation, you will realize it’s not that scary at all. Even if it’s something as simple as not agreeing with other people’s opinions, you are confronting fear.

Embracing confrontation will make you feel more like a man than ever. Each time you engage in confrontation, you will build your confidence in who you are. Not to mention, you are making yourself a more attractive man overall.


StoryShot #8: Make Your Needs a Priority

Realize that only you are responsible for meeting your needs. Stop blaming and start acting. Be assertive about your needs, and get rid of any hidden agendas.

Never be a wimp and never act like a victim. It helps if you are thankful for difficult situations. These circumstances are the ones that present a chance to grow as a person and learn for future circumstances.

Express your feelings, face your fears, set boundaries, and develop integrity. Don’t try to control uncontrollable things. Some circumstances will be too challenging or time-consuming to control, so you must be willing to walk away from circumstances and people. Don’t try to make an unhealthy relationship work. End it and find somebody more suitable for you.

StoryShot #9: The Importance of Boundaries

The common theme throughout this book is the importance of boundaries. If you are a recovering Nice Guy, this might be the most critical factor for you. Boundaries are particularly relevant when considering your relationships with women.

Nice Guys often believe that not having boundaries, being overly tolerant, and accepting everything their partner does is a beneficial strategy for a relationship. Nice Guys often learn the hard way that this isn’t true.

You will need boundaries to strengthen the relationship. It is a need for you and your partner that can strengthen the relationship for both sides. Boundaries equal respect, and women desire a partner who sets boundaries. So, incorporating boundaries into your life will create personal respect and improve your chances of developing a healthy romantic relationship.

StoryShot #10: Choose a Partner Who Doesn’t Need Considerable Support

Dr. Robert Glover provides multiple tips on romantic relationships in this book. These tips cover the categories of sexuality and women.

Robert recommends you focus on the relationship, not the partner. Ask yourself: How does the relationship meet my needs? Is the relationship healthy? Can we learn from the struggles we encounter together? (NEEDS WORK) Use your boundaries to stop your partner from engaging in undesirable patterns of behavior.

One of the common mistakes made by Nice Guys is to choose a partner who needs considerable support. These partners often need help and want somebody to fix their lives for them. Nice Guys are attracted to problems and want to fix their partners. These relationships will allow him to show the world what a good boyfriend or husband he is. The motivation behind this is always the approval of others. Suppose you have been in an unhealthy relationship. In that case, you will know that this often stems from one partner seeking the approval of others.


StoryShot #11: Choosing the Right Sex Mindset

When it comes to sex, you will also have to change your mindset. This is easier said than done, but using the following guidelines can help you re-orient back to the best approach. Use these tips to improve your chances of becoming an integrated male:

1. Get rid of shame and fear about being sexual.

2. Get your needs met: quantity and quality.

3. Get comfortable being pleasured and ask for it.

4. Never avoid conflict because you are scared to lose a sexual opportunity.

5. Get rid of porn.

No More Mr Nice Guy Final Summary and Review

Glover’s premise is that childhood and society have conditioned Nice Guys to act the way they do. They have been told that they will only be successful if they make everyone happy and don’t produce conflict. That said, this desire for approval results in self-loathing. In other words, nice guys want approval but don’t think they deserve it. This creates internal frustration since nice guys never try to obtain what they want in life.

The Nice Guy’s desire to obtain approval from everyone (especially women) can cause him to behave in unnice ways. These behaviors include dishonesty (about themselves) and passive-aggressive behavior (being unavailable, forgetting, being late, or not following through).

Dr. Glover’s prescription involves encouraging Nice Guys to recognize that their needs and desires are essential. To make others happy, they must first learn to make themselves happy. One of the best ways to seek happiness is to learn to embrace and develop your masculine traits instead of fearing and suppressing them.

No More Mr Nice Guy Quotes

“Self-respect, courage, and integrity look good on a man.”

― Robert A. Glover #nomoremrniceguy



“List one fear that has been controlling your life. Once you decide to confront the fear, begin repeating to yourself, “I can handle it. No matter what happens, I will handle it.” Keep repeating this mantra until you take action and stop feeling fear.” – Dr. Robert Glover

"In general people are not drawn to perfection in others. People are drawn to shared interests, shared problems, and an individual’s life energy. Humans connect with humans. Hiding one’s humanity and trying to project an image of perfection makes a person vague, slippery, lifeless, and uninteresting.” – Dr. Robert Glover

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Idiko1:
The bolded is one of the idiotic statements read on Nairaland. Why UN instead of the study conducted by UniIbadan or UniLag or UNN? I ask why Ibadan has not been claimed as being developed by one goofy and loudmouthed Yoruba peep?

SAVE THIS COMMENT, Ibadan is developing very fast now with good road network and it is third in industrial development after Lagos and Abeokuta .

Ten years to this time it will be the next Lagos because a lot of people are migrating there, the reason why it is still low key is because Ibadan is very big. it is a state on it own and it as big as entire Anambra state so the developments is taking a while longer to spread around.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HzNjcpKjwXs


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XLQ6tD6mMtI

Sirheny007:
Wasn't it a Yoruba Paedohile who was jailed in the UK for 3years and 9months?

He wasn't Yoruba , he was an Edo man

MadarasBlade:
You can troll all you want but you know it's the truth i am saying, we come to Lagos and after some few years own properties.
You've had an head start for years and still have nothing to show for it.

Lazy set of men who wait for their father to die just to inherit his properties, omo una no work.

still better than your Osu generation in every sectors, what if we now decided to be hard working ?

5starMan:
Only people who don't know how much his people hate Easterners will be be surprised....
They hate us because they know we are greater than them on free world arena. Nigeria is giving them a little push.

free world arena ?

You are really delusional , in the UK and US typical free world arena can you really claimed you are as successful as Yoruba ?

Yoruba are top government officials in UK and US and also the richest africans

So Afenifere should sponsor Tinubu and Arewa should sponsor Atiku too according to this tribal Eze idiot?

PointZerom:
This can only be described as the tantrums of a spoon fed child.

And your own post can be described as the rambling of a delusional nonentity.

How are you feeding Yoruba when most of you are the one making your living across South west? How can your businesses survive in the west if Yoruba people are too poor to afford whatever you sell? We are the one feeding you by patronizing your businesses not the other way round.

If every Igbo pack their businesses and move back to the East, Yoruba can easily adapt by looking for any other traders or alternative to fill the void or start doing the businesses themselves which will even create more Jobs for Yoruba, but you guys will suffer the brunts because of the customers and markets you will lose that's not available in the East. Your IQ is probably too low to Understand

Naijanascam:
And they are still reasonable to themselves and the society.... many of them own most of the houses you posted while you are a loiterer sleeping under bridge pooing and bathing inside gutter with numerous girlfriends in all Parks around Lagos..... lagosian with eczema

So many delusional Flatron here.

Which house do you own in South west? Most of the houses in Lagos and west belong to Igbo and some of you still went online and complained that Yoruba people are tribalistic and don't allow Igbo tenants or rent their houses to Igbo? Most of you Nyamirin actually live in lala land, making ridiculous and fallacious claims. You own most of the houses in Lagos and Yoruba still own most of the real Estates in Lagos, you own most of the properties in Lagos and the west and your women still dominate the brothels across South west and many Igbo still pushes wheel barrows and hawk snacks in traffic, hawking men boxers and belt and fan yogo, something you should be able to do in the East easily if it is not barren. You are really delusional

PointZerom:
Igbos are far ahead of you and your tribe. You depend on Igbos for survival. Your mechanics, carpenters, bricklayers, plumbers, electricians, engineers, tillers etc depends on Igbos for daily bread.

Are you not ashamed that Igbos are feeding you even in your region?

Stop being delusional, typing hogwash doesn't make it true. How are you feeding Yoruba?

It is the other way round, you are the one trooping out of the East to the west like the East is Barren and War torn.

How are you feeding Yoruba people lol? without Yoruba Patronizing your 4 by 4 shops and businesses across Yoruba land most of you would have been out of businesses and starved to dealth. We have the money to patronize your businesses across South west that's why most of you are still in the west and still coming Yoruba are the one feeding you and far above you.

successmatters:
Tinubu built Lagos

Our 1 trillion naira IGR couldn't buy us one single fire truck.

Even Abia state without IGR have fire trucks in every local government.

Sad.

You are the real enemy of Lagos

Always trying to politicize every negative
that happened in Lagos, who told you Lagos don't have fire trucks?

So the fire truck will disappear to the location after every fire? May whatever you wish Lagos happen to you and your Lineage, rejoicing over others calamities.

Only Nairaland or social media gives this man relevance he is just a nonentity in Yoruba land, A typical Yoruba Muslims don't even know who he is

ObosiUkwalla:
You are just spiting everywhere. Lagos is a no man's land. You can take sniper like awolowo if you don't like it

Start saying it to Lagosians face in Lagos if you are not a Coward like Ojuwku and see if you won’t be send to the great beyond like those three dead Alaba traders.

You can hide behind your phone like Ojuwku hid in bunker during Biafra war to say trash online.

ObosiUkwalla:
Bla bla bla... Still doesn't change the fact that Lagos is a no man's land. Try anyhow see anyhow

Like those three dead Alaba traders

Try anyhow see anyhow, the joke is on you.

You cowards call Lagos a no man's Land online, but I have never seen you say it offline, start saying it offline in Lagos if your generation are not cowards like Ojuwku

Innocentman86:
Why are yoru bad people always filled with hate,liars and propagandaa.
Everytime spreading fake news and wishing follow nigerians bad and death.
I have never seen such a tribe before in my life.
After sending opc to killl and burn innocent Northerners alive, they have turned to Edo state.
But just know that ss/se will resist any klilling of Edo indigenes

You rate yourselves too much

A typical Yoruba on the street may not be able to point to Edo on the map and call you Igbo

Zorn:
funny enough lots of his employees are yorubas and kogi people.

Funny enough you are talking as if he have other alternatives

We all know Yoruba have the highest numbers of professionals in this country, he can't do without the Yoruba if he want to run a successful business.