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10. And she feels really comfortable telling you all the gross things like how bloody her period feels like.

Dis tew much. Forreal.

9. When she tweets “I am single to stupor” and you guys have been talking for almost a year.

Very tragic!

8. Or she tells you she wishes to find a guy like you.

But still refuses to make you her bae.

7. When she starts to tell you of a guy that she likes and that guy isn’t you.

So much evils.

6. When she replies “Awww” after you just sent her a 3-paged epistle on how beautiful she is.

Eh yaa !

5. Or has she called you her “best bestie in the whole world”.

but...

4. Are you helping her pick dresses for dates with other guys?

As per chief stylist.

3. When you suddenly become her brother or any member of her family.

Sorry, bro!

2. If she says “God forbid” and makes this face whenever the topic of both of you being in a relationship comes up.

Yup! She is highly disgusted by the idea of dating you.

Friend zone aka the “you will never be bae zone” should have a lot of warning signs for would-be occupants of the zone. See, we are the good guys and know just how painful it is to be cast into that zone.

1. When she tells you she isn’t ready for a relationship then goes on to date someone else two weeks later.

Smh !

https://www.zikoko.com/life/oldies/12-signs-a-nigerian-girl-has-friendzoned-you/

I went to a PHCN office today for something and i saw three Male PHCN staffs tripping over themselves to rub and massage the bruised leg of a female staff and i'm sure she is likely a married woman.

The woman said one of the female staffs already helped her to applied an ointment and rubbed the leg for her but still yet they wouldn't take it and were trying so hard to be caring lol, they said a male staff like them could handle it better and she still need to reapply the ointment and let a male staff help her to rub the leg.

I could see the disgust in the woman's eyes, three men tripping over themselves to rub the leg of a woman that is likely married. If the woman was a man would they be tripping over themselves like that to help him ? their Shamelessness and simpness disgust me and i'm 100% sure all those cares about rubbing the woman's leg is just a facade to get in her pant. We have the same situation all over different work places in Nigeria.

NigerianAngelo:
Going by your post, SE has 88% pass rate and SW = 79% (including Igbos in Lagos).


SW is actually now very empty. Only fornication songs and dances morning to night. No bank. All Banks are Igbos. Igbo glory reloading.

You must be living under the rock to have typed that lol

Only inferior people blow their trumpets every time , empty barrel make the loudest noise

GTB, Wema bank, First Bank , FCMB etc are all Yoruba bank check the CEO of banks in Nigeria and you will see more Yoruba CEO

NigerianAngelo:
Cultism, ritualism on the high rise in places like Ogun State, slums in Lagos, parts of Oyo etc.


Current yoruba youths have lost it and are behind Igbos in all ramifications.


You don't pray Our Father and Hail Mary. Scam yoot.


Pray Our Father and Hail Mary daily; Everyday. To be properly educated and to subdue janjawe.ed.

NigerianAngelo had As in his Waec. He wasn't struggling for mere pass.


Labour Family on yoruba yoots (after SE/SS/NC youths).


Thumbprint LP to be rid of Secondary School cultism.

Lol South west have the highest numbers of students that sat for Waec and the highest numbers of students that passed with 5 credits including English and maths.


The National Bureau of Statistics release the WAEC result statistics few days ago for 2021 data and that was where StatiSense also did the data analysis for the WAEC result Statistics they released few days ago.

However, StatiSense do not give all the true picture of the statistics as intended.

From the Data released from NBS, the SouthWest has the highest number of students that sat for WAEC and also the highest number of students that have 5 credits and above including English & Maths. This is followed by the South South Zone

Below are the charts derived from the NBS official data and below is the link to the data.

https://www.nairaland.com/7292449/south-west-highest-number-waec-students

LegitGuy22:
Rollo Tomassi is just a noise maker, he doesn't practice what he preach.

He is a Noise maker because he is not a women hater

Who told you Redpill is all about Hating women ?

Redpill is all about how to deal with manipulation in Relationships both men and women and how to have a more fulfilling relationship and better mental health.

So many deluded Guys on Nairaland think Redpill is all about anti marriage, hatred and disdain for women.

Goodlady:
Curse all redpillers. They ll make you lose your dream woman

Dream Man or woman is a Myth though

There are a lot of Dream women and men for you out there.

Redpill isn't about hating women in fact redpill isn't for only men, it is also useful for women.

Redpill is about how to deal with manipulation in any relationship.

Women are hypergamy by nature every redpillers Know that but men are different.

A man can still be attracted to a woman regardless of her social status, her finances and educational background, of course men wouldn't be in support of something that is so different and opposite of their nature in a disadvantageous way.

In your mind you are very enlightened, we are in the era and generation of Simp and Wimp, the army of simp is growing stronger.

The problem with our modern interpretation of power is to think of it in extreme, absolute terms.

Control in a healthy relationship passes back and forth as desire and need dictate for each partner. In an unhealthy relationship you have an unbalanced manipulation of this control by a partner. Although control is never in complete balance, it becomes manipulation when one partner, in essence blackmails, the other with what would otherwise be a reinforcer for the manipulated under a healthy circumstance.

This happens for a plethora different reasons, but the condition comes about by two ways – the submissive participant becomes conditioned to allow the manipulation to occur and/or the dominate initiates the manipulation. In either case the rule still holds true – the one who needs the other the least has the most control. Nowhere is this more evident than in interpersonal relationships.

- The rational male

Goodlady:
I m here watching

Redpill isn't for only men it is useful for women as well.

fattprince:
Guys help me with this girl matter. You already show no desire for me. I wrote epistle about how I can't be her just friends. If we aren't fvcking, we can't be together. But she still wouldn't stop greeting me on WhatsApp every fvcking day with her boring chats and all.

Starve her of the attention she crave by all means and move on with your life, even if it means blocking and deleting her number if you can't ignore her chats.

You already told her your position so stick with it don't let her manipulate you into any friendship or get any of your attention, don't care whatever she thinks. If she is not ready to be in a relationship with you and you are also not interested in being her friend then she should stop talking to you, enforce that by all means and move on to someone else that is interested in a relationship with you.

Unless you have already fall deeply for her and just can't move on. Then you are already her dog lol

What is Power in a relationship ?

The definition of Power is not financial success, status or influence over others, but the degree to which we have control over our own lives.

In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.

This is a foundation of any relationship, not just intersexual ones, but family, business, etc. relationships as well. It is a dynamic that is always in effect. For my own well being and that of my family’s, I need my employer more than he needs me, ergo I get up for work in the morning and work for him. And while I am also a vital part for the uninterrupted continuance of his company and endeavors, he simply needs me less than I need him. Now I could win the lottery tomorrow or he may decide to cut my pay or limit my benefits, or I may complete my Masters Degree and decide that I can do better than to keep myself yoked to his cart indefinitely, thereby, through some condition either initiated by myself or not, I am put into a position of needing him less than he needs me. At this point he is forced into a position of deciding how much I am worth to his ambitions and either part ways with me or negotiate a furtherance of our relationship.
The same plays true for intersexual relationships. Whether you want to base your relationship on ‘power’ or not isn’t the issue; it’s already in play from your first point of attraction. You are acceptable to her for meeting any number of criteria and she meets your own as well. If this weren’t the case you simply would not initiate a mutual relationship.

In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who
needs the other the least. This is a foundation of any relationship, not just intersexual ones, but family, business, etc.

-The rational male

pansophist:
E be like say you be apprentice, you de learn work

To see a woman that takes accountability for anything scarce like snow in Kaduna. And if you meet one, wife her up, no waste time.

Na why I no answer her, because na waste of time. But your response was good. I mean I won't treat a woman bad, I'll meet my own end of the bargain 100%, she probably won't accept subpar treatment from me.

But want me to accept it from her, because, guess what? She is a woman. She wants to be treated as an adult and a child at the same time.

Just let them talk, they'll tell you everything you need to know if you should take her serious. I greet you comrade.

You can settle for less that's your own cup of tea.

I won't accept any subpar treatment from any women.

You are kind of a very harsh person , always try and overlook some girly behaviours in women, it’s a natural trait. Same way a woman would easily forgive her cheating man. This your tit for tat approach to relationship isn’t a good one, you must learn to accept some flaws from a partner as no one is ever perfect.

You are the wrong one here

It depend on personal standard and self respect not everyone will settle for less.

Not all women forgive their cheating men, some will file for divorce immediately they discover it.

If he wouldn't disrespect his woman for anything then why should he take any disrespect in the form of Insult, name calling etc from his woman ? if the woman apologize later and recognize her misbehavior then he can let it slide but if he just let it slide without sincere apology, it will just worsen the relationship later. If she can not keep her emotions in check without lashing out on her partner for no reason then maybe she should be in a psychiatric hospital not relationship.

questioner What are you afraid of ?
The worst case scenario is losing your girlfriend, which i'm very sure you can handle.

There is no need to be sneaky or over analysing things, tell your girlfriend straight up that you are very bother with the fact that she is stopping you from interacting with that guy.

As a man you should strive as much as possible to be independent and be your own man in a relationship. She is your girlfriend not your mommy that will be telling you what to do or who to interact with.

She is the one that have issues with the guy not you, you have a different opinion about the relationship with the guy and you should man up and let your girlfriend know your opinion is different.

If she is trying to stop you at all cost it means she is hiding something and keeping secrets, and when your girlfriend is hiding something from you she is already taking you for granted and walking over you.

Now the real question should be how much bullshits you can tolerate from your girlfriend or where your boundary is ? Only you know.

Your girlfriend shouldn't be stopping you from interacting with people , she is your girlfriend not even your wife, you are a man and can make decisions for yourself, man up and stop acting like a wimp.

If your girlfriend successfully stopped you from interacting with a guy you are ok and cool with just because she is not okay and cool with it , the show of weakness and lost power will haunt and destroy your relationship later.

Redpill doesn't mean to be a arrogant jerk and an abusive scumbag.

Treat your woman nicely not overtly nice

Being a man of Quality and not quantity


Have a passion and don't be needy, you should strive as much as possible to be Independent.

Be outspoken and decisive, say your mind and opinions all the time about everything and be the leader in the relationship.

You should also have boundaries you will never break for anything in the relationship.

Also make sure the effort to make the relationship work is always 50/50 and you are not the one doing most of the work

When everything failed you should also be ready to move on, sometimes somethings can't just be control life is chaotic.

Read books so many books out there you can read.

advanceDNA:
He did not point at all women......he only advised men not to be like his dad who went out of his way for the women in his life and was treated like trash.....

Its almost like u women here are alegic to hearing about u women's fvckup.

i'm glad someone finally get the message, i was actually blaming my father in that post all along for being weak and Pathetic. He could have easily walk away and move on to better things to save his dignity but he didn't

GloriousGbola:
Just another red piller trying to build a following so he can sell red pill merch.

I did not read that wall of text - but if you have been married and divorced from 3 different women - you are the problem.

Yes my father is the problem

He did not have any clear goals with women and believe he could just marry any beautiful woman and make the relationship work as long as he is loving and tolerating enough.

Ishilove:
So many messed up people. Like my friend Kobojunkie usually opines, "go and visit a mental health therapist." You need am.

My parents have been together for decades and when I need inspiration and marital advice, I look to them. It hasn't been smooth, far from it, but patience, tolerance, perseverance and compromise is what has made their marriage last. Don't use your own experiences to paint marriage in bad light. Your dad made his choices and he suffered the consequences. You need to ask yourself why he ended up marrying three bad women. Haba, is he the only one? His own mother left his father as well, and his wives left him. There is a pattern in your family that should be critically examined rather than coming here to write about things you don't fully understand

You guys are jumping to conclusions lol

I also blamed my father for his choices, because i said not to tolerate any shits from any woman doesn't mean i am blaming only the women.

Banilla:
Always negativity. Share the experiences of married men in happy homes.

Your unfortunate father isn't the majority.

Yes I know but you still have to learn from both negative and positive experience

Positive experience means the man is doing something right, plus it could still be negative experience when you remove the facade or become negative later when the dynamics of things change.

As a young man in this modern world the greatest thing you can become right now is a redpiller, you need to understand woman and how to starve them of the attention and power they crave so badly if you don't want to spend half of your life going through shits and learning the hard way before you man up.

My family and father is a very great example, my father was such a very Nice guy because my grandfather died when my father was still a baby he never get the opportunity to see his father, my father's mother abandoned him to married someone else as a Young boy and my father grew up with his father's relatives in a village and farm stead with no real love shown to my father when growing up as a kid, all he did as a kid was to labour on the farm from dawn to dusk.

Finally he became an adult and worked very hard to get his shits together and the mother that abandoned him as a kid for another man and for his father's relatives to took care of him came back and he became her emotional support even until she died my father was by her side.

Overall this experience turned my father to a very nice guy might be because of the affection of his mother that he crave or something like that, my father married three women consecutively including my mother but they all left him.

I knew my father was such a nice guy because of his experience that he shared with me, he told me about the shits he tolerated to make the relationships work but unfortunately it never work out, women like the drama and crave the attention he said they would just start a fight for no reason, i thought he was speaking out of malice, pain and hatred that it is not possible for someone to just start a fight for no reason, but i'm very glad i never have to find out myself the hard way.

He told me his first wife my first step mother was impregnated inside his house while he was busy at work, he found out later and helped her aborted the pregnancy and my father said he had to let it slide to kept the peace and the marriage. When i heard it for the first time i opened my mouth wide agape and couldn't close it for a long time and the ironic thing was the woman still left, he described several circumstances where he had to go and begged my first step mother's family to helped him get her back, she would left and he would begged her family to get her back it happened several time until the woman left and never come back no matter the begging that my father did.

All the shits my father tolerated from her was in vain, my father said several men were having affairs with her inside their matrimonial home while he was busy and away at work until she was impregnated, he took all the shits and the woman still left back to her hometown to married another man. You are better off not tolerating any shits from a woman it wouldn't help you regardless.

My father's experience and relationship with his first wife messed him up but he picked himself together and decided to work on his career because he thought his little success in life let all that shits happened to him. He started a new business and the business became successful, he attracted another woman the woman that became my father's second wife, the woman demanded a very big wedding and my father granted her wish and they organized a very big wedding and invited a lot of people.


My father still regrets spending so much on that wedding till this day, he said money he could have invested or used to buy a big land he blew it all on a wedding to a woman that didn't deserve it, he said he told her to reduced the spending and wedding but the woman wouldn't listen and he also went to the end to satified her desire for a very big wedding.

After a successful marriage and they gave birth to two kids business nosedived when economy started to change and the money was no longer coming like it used to, the woman started showing attitude and the drama began.

My father couldn't focus on his career and business and there was no more peace in his life so out of desperation for solutions i don't know who gave him the idea to go and married another woman in order to curb the devil at home.


My mother was available and just coming out of a failed relationship so she married my father as the second wife, the first wife didn't stop fighting but it gave my mother the opportunity to proved herself to my father.


The first wife was a devil but my mother was an angel in the eyes of my father, little did he know that he was dealing with two devils but it was that one devil just happened to tamed the other. The first wife did not stop the fighting and Drama, the neighbourhood was always noisy and their house was very notorious for that in the neighborhood, conflicts was always being settled in the neighborhood everyday by elders in the neighborhood.

During these periods my mother behaved very well, she showed my father the love and care and was the typical house wife. My father was deceived he really believed that my mother genuinely cared for him he didn't know that it was because of the competition with the first wife lol. Women are really a manipulative creature if you don't understand women you will really suffer, in my father's quest for peace he believed the only obstacle to his happiness now was the first wife, he believed if he get rid of the first wife he would live happily ever after with my mother the one that was showing him love and care at that moment.

My father went to the court and local council to filed for divorce because the first wife wouldn't leave otherwise, after a lot of struggles the first wife finally left even though he lost some properties because of it. Now all that remained was to live happily ever after with my mother the angel lol since the devil that was disturbing the union has been chased out, but soon my mother started her chaos when she finally settled as the main wife.

My mother was running her own Yam selling business and it was successful, my father said no matter what he gave my mother it was never enough even despite the fact that she was also running a successful business, he said my mother would cooked several types of meal all at once and placed it all on the table and the moment he mistakenly asked for his share chaos would break out in the house. He said despite the fact that my mother was having a successful business she would still asked for money and support for everything and if he didn't give it there would be no peace.

He said my mother could start abusing him for no reason and insulted him verbally and he wouldn't respond until a stranger that was passing by would decided to intervened on his behalf out of pain and my mother would start a very big fight, my mother left my father several times and my father would do everything to bring her back until he finally gave up and my mother also moved on to married another man.

Now he is just single and the idea of marriage to any women just terrified him, my father just have affairs with no strings attached. In fact I currently know a primary school teacher that is married with children that usually sneak to my father's house at night for sex. My father know that i know and in fact the woman know that i know too, i am an adult who i'm i to judge ? they are old enough to decide for themselves, but i just can't help but think about the husband of that woman that may think he have a loyal and loving wife or even her children that would believe their mother is all sweet and innocent lol.

When i was a child and living with my mother, my mother told me several times that my father was super stingy and a miser and that was the reason she left him, but I know about the relationship she was having at that time my mother a christian was now attracted to a Muslim man with one wife already and i know very well that she wasn't getting anything from the relationship. The man wouldn't bother to visit my mother for several weeks or months not to even talk of giving my mother money and that was what my mother left my father for ? but surprisingly my mother was so into this man.


Women may seem difficult to understand or complex but in reality they are very predictable and not that difficult to understand. If i did not learn anything from my father's experience with three wives, i deserve to suffer. You are better off not tolerating any shits from a woman or doing anything to please woman, know that no women could ever love you unconditionally like your parents, Know this and know peace. If she is acting like she love you, she is not in love with you but your power , influence and charisma etc the moment you lose it or she get something better then the love will disappear like smoke.


My father would have been more successful in life without all those women today , they just sabotaged him and wasted his time and resources.


Some guys in the comment section think the of experience of my father that i shared was all about blaming women and anti marriage campaign and bullshits but it is not.

All these women were toxic and abusive but my father also deserved to be blame for being weak, he could hardly stand up for himself. He had no boundaries and women could walk over him as they pleases, and in the end it never work but resulted in more chaos. This is the true message i want to pass, letting your partner walk over you and being overtly nice and passive will not help you in a relationship, it will only make you disgusting , weak and Pathetic, unattractive and you will lose your value, masculinity and power in the relationship

My father believed he could make the relationship work as long as he is loving and tolerate enough bullshits, but it only worsen the situation. He could have easily save his sanity and dignity and easily walk away from those situations. For example my father would have never married my abusive mother, if he was not so desperate to control the wife at home and he attracted my mother that only found him attractive because he was a married man. So many situations like that he could have avoided if he could just man up and walk away from the relationship instead of trying to make things work.


He could have also saved himself from marrying the second wife when she insisted on a very big wedding to satisfied her ego and he did not like it, he would have never get together with those women if he was the kind of man that can stand up for himself and he wouldn't be attracting all those women

The relationship could have also turned out differently if the women see him as a true masculine man and truly respect him, women can perceive weakness. His fear of walking away also contributed to how those women started having attitude, they didn't respect him.