₦airaland Forum

hopedey:
Dis one dey hungry

As you starved me. I don't know why you can't see women as human beings like you. Some guys think that every good thing is for men alone.

hopedey:
Who send you go there? The pepper soup is meant for men alone.

As Gods only favorite now. Misogynistic dark bullshit. Services are only for men.

I don't believe in all this poor man is faithful stuff, coz me can't judge any man based on his monetary capabilities, why; coz money n power brings out the real personality of a man. A poor man who u think is faithful today would become the worse cheat tomorrow when he eventually gets rich, poverty really hides the real character of a person, it makes one seem humble when infact they're not. Though it doesn't apply to all Sha.
So back to ur question, I choose none.

The narrative that poor always means kind, humble and good is false. They are as human, and as capable of good and evil, as any other rich person.

Curtis03360:
coming from a woman
If you notice how women quickly aged face and body wise after 27yrs, you won’t be saying this…….the average girls who didn’t use themselves roughly only aged face wise but those who have amount enough body count or use themselves roughly in their hoephrase which half of girls are guilty of, you will see it in their body and face. Skin like melt nylon bags and breast almost reaching their navels which would have lost its firmness and be soft like Amala wey wan turn to water after leaving it uncovered. And a woman 30 above is bad investment for child bearing because of complications so you don’t unburden yourself with loads not yours. All in all Aunty 30 is VERY old for a woman. You can’t even call a 30yrs LADY because they are now WOMEN

It is you men that are old at 30 years. Say amen. With all your strength and agility, may wrinkles and body pain of a 60 year old fall on you guys when you are 30. Since you want to call a 30 years old woman who has a long way to go old out of spite.

It is those women you know who are all old at 30 years, you can go ahead and put them in nursing homes or start calling them old mama let them be tying wrappers like the 60 years old women in your village, or kukuma bury them last last let's know the women in your life past thirty have finished their life cycle.

idahme:
As usual zero accountability and responsibilities for actions taken by women men are always at fault

If the actions are taken without any form of pressure or coercion, or deceit, we would have no problem accepting them as our total fault.

Lets take you as the experimental sample only, how many relationship have you had? How many break up have you initiated and how many eas initiated by the men you dated ? A close thought process will tell you that all what you wrote up there blaming men is actually very wrong.

Since you already concluded that a close up thought procession of my life would vindicate men, your mindset is already fixed. No need for me to argue in futility.

Learn accountability and responsibilities as a human it helps, do you see men all over shouting how much they have lost? If women are in mens shoes they will cry blood...

Perhaps men should not push women into relationships on the condition of premarital sex with only the aim of using them for said sex and later ask women to take full responsibility for it.

idahme:
Why do you ladies feel men used you when men are the ones doing the break up but never think this way when you are the ones doing it? Mind you 70 to 80% of relationships/marriage breakups are initiated by women, why?

Sex is often insisted upon, it becomes the only important thing in the relationship to the man while the woman tries to show her worth but unfortunately the men don't care for that, probably the women are not even their type. After being satisfied the man goes on to end the fake relationship and therefore the woman feels used. Women are rated by their purity while men are not, so they feel at a loss when broken up with.

If a woman breaks up with a man, mostly that man might have shown her he doesn't want her and he doesn't even care if she leaves. Hence not feeling it's of any loss to him if she leaves. Definitely there are times when the man has given his all and yet the woman is still self centered and doesn't understand his pains, but I feel that situation is less.

I don't think break ups are initiated more by women as they are more emotional, and stand more to lose with the dominance of premarital sex, plus the heavy judgement of society. Men on the other hand live a sexual adventure, life is their adventure ground as nobody will blame them for having multiple relationships for fun so they care less and may be entering relationships and coming out as they wish. Even in old age a man can be on the dating scene to the max as long as he has money but once a woman is old, even her money doesn't give her the same freedom. So men initiate break ups more, it's more comfortable for them, in my opinion.

What is this? It's irritating if true. The girl just followed him immediately he won, like a pest.

I don't believe it.

Mariangeles:
You actually think it's that easy?

Some men think what makes them strong men is being able to insult and degrade a woman boldly to the extent that they want and regardless of the woman's emotions.

Mariangeles:
You actually think it's that easy?

Some men think what makes them strong men is being able to insult and degrade a woman boldly to the extent that they want.

They'll pick their mothers.

By the way, what sort of silly question is this? Why must a wife ask for someone to be chosen? They are to be loved in different ways. I would be offended if a mom asked this too.

GboyegaD:
Thank you for the compliment.

It isn't all my efforts all of the time as my wife also cooks when she's chanced. That said, I don't think most men that don't cook don't do so because of time. I think it is usually about interest and perhaps, circumstances. My wife usually works till 6pm or 7pm most days when she is scheduled. Do I expect her to drive home and then cook when I get back not later than 5:15pm? Wouldn't that be unreasonable if I know how to and just decide not to?

Good husband.

ogaemma:
I want to believe she did not commit suicide because of the 2 cup of rice dispute.
A lot of people are going through depression unknown to them, any little thing can spark up a suicidal thoughts.
People should learn to open up about their mental health.
Rest in Peace

There was a buildup. There were probably quarrels, hard words and silent treatment which accumulated over time into what happened. How can they say it was just the cups of rice.

It is a good message but men love to live their lives like a sexual and emotional adventure and they are the ones to come forward with the toasting and seduction plan, so don't expect this destructive trend to end any time soon. To go around sleeping about is especially the way of men.

I'm sure many women want to and even plan to just meet someone great and settle down, but with men's agenda of free sex hidden under dating, and women's low self esteem partially influenced by the society, it won't happen. Women want to be validated by men so enter relationships where they are told 'lets see where it goes'. They accept relationships that have no plan, no way so they can be seen as beautiful, wanted, experience romance, and also claim they have a man.

Except her husband.

Or if she hasn't had her heart broken mercilessly or been used mercilessly over time. Then she can still love.

danvon:
He probably found out the child wasn't his.

Quickly drop something, let your fellow man be off the hook.

I trust una.

Most guys would just let you get frustrated as they use and use you until you run away. Abortion upon abortion until you run away by yourself after nearly dying. Them no go tell you anything, they would still come if you call them, it's up to you if you want to get sense. They don't care.

This one even ended it himself and add two goats on top 🤣 What a noble man. Thank your stars because most girls no dey get shi shi unto break up. Not even sorry. Insults go follow on top of the shege wey de guy use your eye see sef.

Afolue:
left for me, she is good, but the guy is not. Women fall in love with words guys tell them and also judging from his appearance, every lady will fall for a guy that is at least independent financially to an extent. She was enticed which his normal. But yet still was sincere to him of her presence relationship status. How many lady will want to do that. If he was sensible isn’t that enough for him to have backed off and respect himself. There are many ladies out there

The guy is the thief. Putting himself in another guy’s shoes, how will he feel if his girlfriend friend is being taken away from him.

He is taking away the guy’s girlfriend outright. If for example that her original guy was a cultist, them go dey see am as a violent fellow. Who does that. !

Let us take it as reverse the case, no be women dey disgrace themselves for public for this kind thing as well.

Whoever says I can not fight for a man or I can not fight for a woman, hasn’t met with some situations. This is Nonesense!

This can lead to a big problem

You said it, but my analysis is based on influences from this platform. Today you agree the girl is innocent, the next few months I only encounter male monikers who keep emphasizing on the ladies part but blatantly ignore the guys deliberate attempt to seduce and confuse the girl. So, to avoid annoyance and strain, I include the girl. Apart from few like you, most men don't wish to acknowledge purposeful deceit and coercion of ladies. They pick up the argument that the girl saw exactly what it was and entered it, which no sane and totally mature woman will do.

Afolue:
sincerely, as a guy I won’t advice the lady to pick this very guy in question. He has nothing to offer, same way he got her, he could go get someone else in not time as well. He may even have them numerous. Imagine him saying he is looking out on 3 years time to wife her. Does that make sense. As far as 3 years..! He is not a good person, knowing fully well that she was open to him about her status, he still went ahead to show affection. If the girl marries such a guy, Aswear she will regret it. He is a red flag! A clear sign of mistakes ladies make. Not all that glitters that is gold. I hope she has someone to advise her.

They are not good for each other. No honor amongst thieves.

I know how guys always want to exempt themselves from blame and give the woman double blame, but actually both of you are wrong.

It may be painful but she has to make a clear choice about what and who she wants. And give that person a timeline so that she can leave cleanly and find another partner if it doesn't work.

Though I wouldn't advice her to pick you. Your relationship with her is already tainted by the way it came about.

It's a pity, he didn't think it through deeply enough. Might have been a great dad. [sup][/sup]

tollyboy5:
@bolded My friend's mum who has 11 children disagree with you. Bless her soul.

Female roles are easier and if you're Christian then you should know the Bible called them weaker vessels.
Their roles in the society are important but not equal to men's role.
Wtf! You equating child delivery to dying at war front!
What an hypocritical comparison

I'm happy for your mom's friend, but really, we cannot ignore the mortality rate of other moms out there due to her good luck.

Well, you've never experienced it so you would call it a hypocritical comparison. I'll come for your opinion after you've given birth.

Meanwhile, men on the front are absolutely honorable, however, there are a few women out there experiencing same too. Countries now have female soldiers. I have never seen a man give birth though.

Walahi anybody who says bring 20 naira let me give you 200, 000 na scam...

And anybody who is too good to be true, like a celebrity, you don't live in their vicinity and you don't belong in their circle, why would they leave fellow celebs and those around them to date or know you? Until you see in person, in an open space, be very careful.

So sad she went through this, people are heartless.

tollyboy5:
There's no equality in life.
Will you be happy if it were women fighting at every war front?
Look at the Russian and Ukraine war, how will you feel if men sit at home and women die at the battle field while men sit at home?

Stop forming woke. You're a lady and you have limitations, and it comes with some advantages too.
While men privilege comes with more responsibility and pressure many woman can't withstand

It is even because as men die at the war front protecting life, that's how women die a lot giving birth (life). We are not at the war front because we are taking care of the community, homes and most importantly the future generations of those fighting on the front lines. Or would you prefer that your generations die and your kids at home don't receive motherly care because we want to switch roles?

The roles men and women play are equally important and straining. I noticed guys downplay the effort and roles of women because they seem easier to them when in fact a woman's role has its own hazards and death rate.

We are equal while life is not fair so we should give ourselves same standards to the greatest extent that it is possible.

tollyboy5:
Know this and know peace.
Life is not equal, it is not right for both partners to cheat but the judgement for cheating are different.
The guy will always have an upper hand. So you don't set a guys standard base on that.
But you have to set woman standard based on that.
The girls I see now flexing and enjoying themselves will never stop even after marriage.
Because their slightest escape to financial burdens is to spread legs

Will you be happy with this arrangement if you were a woman? If this arrangement was turned on men, will they accept it?

Drella:
There’s freedom of expression.

Yes, we are all expressing ourselves here and exploring opinions.

blackgold2018:
NO, the worthiness only lies in the eyes of the beholder.

We reap what we sow. That's the rules of Nature. We should accept reality first.

Grace and luck can still find such people, not because she turned a new leave. We should be able to leave with our consequences.

Past can never be erased. Stop twisting Nature, but embrace it. It will be kind to you. God is not a man you deceive. You can be praying with tears for years. But he alone knows what lays in our heart.

You only make aggressive prayers to God when you WORTH something. You can only beg him for forgiveness and mercy, that's the right prayers

I hope this applies to you guys as well. Because many guys believe they deserve a virgin with a clean life after being community dicks.

Drella:
Is it only women that should have standards?
He raised a valid question that any man with standards should have, what is wrong with that?

Men are always loud about their standards, on this forum alone, not to talk of outside. Is it not one guy that goes round here, or even several, screaming about how men must marry virgins? They do it on every thread, reminding guys of virgins, rich women or DNA. Women on this platform have left them alone. So I am surprised that a man made a low blow with a comment like that. This question about having a problem with another genders' standards should therefore be directed at you guys.

tollyboy5:
A woman who has standard must be a good example to a man with standards

Yes, that's true. Even if you guys don't apply it to yourselves when looking for virgins and remaining promiscuous.

She can be a good standard even if she has had a bad past by changing. She can be a good standard by keeping to the right path from puberty. All join. As long as at that moment she's asking, she reflects the kind of thing she wants in her partner.

blackgold2018:
no, it's only weak men that cant Stand women that "WORTH it" with high standard.

But those that doesn't worth it its regressing. What happens when this same ladies should take the right decision right from when they attend puberty. It's there choice.

Whats the meaning of bride pride??
Does it make sense to you when a lady's family demand millions for pride price, plus a befitting wedding for their daughter but the daughter isn't a virgin or has devalued her body in the past?

If you feel morally disturbed. Then trust me, it's not right.

If people turn a new leaf they can make themselves worthy. A person that has changed and has remorse can have the bride price and every good thing. Our final judgement is not on this earth so no man or woman should make it seem so by being a casual judge.

Ishilove:
Why doth thou throweth thine pearls of wisdom on swine?

Honestly it's my fault. But you can't always know who's worthy of conversation.

blackgold2018:
hes right dou, it's a lady with high morals. Both past and present has the right to set a high standard for herself.

God cannot be mocked. Virgins are still celebrated all over the world. Even dou the lady is not a virgin but atleast have a clean past.

Is that why guys work overtime to make some ladies useless, hunting down sex partners right from when both male and female are attaining puberty, is it so that the ladies can
not have what they want or set standards because they have been used?

Generally I see men go crazy when a woman has standards, especially if it's a woman they don't rate. You said she can't have standards unless she herself is high standard, but even when a woman is high standard, like a virgin, players would go out of their way to deflower her just to kill her pride and make her lower that standard. That's where you got your hoes and non virgins from.

That's why I said men can't stand women having standards.