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KingOfThePay:How |
Sapiosexuality:Is there opportunity for someone like me with no skills to intern in the company and learn these skills? |
Lorayne:Study yourself and find out what distract you and work on them. All the best. |
Edu3Again:Only those who don't find out would be deceived by your lies about Quran 38:44 |
Pls OP, did every other staff attend work that day? 2. Was he expected to attend work by his boss? |
Drop your phone number. |
I dey come, I wan shit |
hello everyone, which is the best state in southwest (that pays). Eagerly waiting for ur answers. thanks |
AGUBANZE:That is hatred for no reason bro. Check yourself. |
oyeezah:It's giving you the result because you are trying to register with a phone. U. Can't do that except with a computer |
GiggsTk:Use the school you got ur certificate from. It doesn't matter. |
It appears that you love her unconditionally. Let me guess, she is super beautiful. But the truth is that she got married to you because of the financial security she perceived. In timaya's voice, "when money no dey, people go run away". |
tinkinjow:Which part of Lagos do you reside? |
dadaha:You are so wrong. |
I suggest you take to a wild parties a few time. She will change. |
Who would have known this if you hadn't tell the story. It's appalling, thanks for sharing this. |
Where is the father. No be father's day? ![]() |
Why would the mod post a thing like this to front page. Insanity. |
truthspeaks:Are u insinuating that , Atiku, Tinubu, even Jonathan n highly related connected politicians can't be arrested? Thinking aloud *We have a long way to go through in this country* |
Spikey |
A very bad idea bro. Funnyly - jokingly. |
Hello fellas. I'm in need of a feasible project topic in telecommunication science that involves design and implementation or any other topic with materials (feasible topics). Help a brother! |
It seems she has learnt some sense and she's ready to be a responsible mother. #omolomo ni month pity. |
Good question baba asked!! |
LarrySun:What are the shortcomings there? Pls correct him. |
5. Expecting perfection
Often, when we catch our child misbehaving, we
wonder why he’s acting in such an unpleasant way.
We must remember that none of us is perfect. We
aren’t, and neither are our children. It can be helpful to
remember that we want Allah to be merciful and
patient with us when we make mistakes. We should try
to enact these same virtues when managing our
children. When we accept the fact that our children
will err and disappoint us at times, this helps us accept
them as fallible humans and not view them as simply
bad children. We are here to guide our children to be
God fearing Muslims, but they have their own mind,
desires, and temperament–it’s not easy to avoid
sneaking into the cookie jar for one more of Mom’s
delicious chocolate chip cookies.
Patience should be our motto when disciplining our
children. This will help us accept those disappointing
times when our children don’t live up to our
expectations. It will also help us become a more
superior parent to help us avoid the 5 common
discipline mistakes parents make. |
5. Expecting perfection
Often, when we catch our child misbehaving, we
wonder why he’s acting in such an unpleasant way.
We must remember that none of us is perfect. We
aren’t, and neither are our children. It can be helpful to
remember that we want Allah to be merciful and
patient with us when we make mistakes. We should try
to enact these same virtues when managing our
children. When we accept the fact that our children
will err and disappoint us at times, this helps us accept
them as fallible humans and not view them as simply
bad children. We are here to guide our children to be
God fearing Muslims, but they have their own mind,
desires, and temperament–it’s not easy to avoid
sneaking into the cookie jar for one more of Mom’s
delicious chocolate chip cookies.
Patience should be our motto when disciplining our
children. This will help us accept those disappointing
times when our children don’t live up to our
expectations. It will also help us become a more
superior parent to help us avoid the 5 common
discipline mistakes parents make. |
4. Not respecting your child
As Muslims, we have an engrained understanding that
children should obey their parents. Allah tells us
in Quran about being kind to our parents. The Prophet
Muhammad has instructed us to be especially kind
to our mother. A child who is not respectful to his
parents is certainly behaving in a way that is contrary
to our religion. But not only should children be
obedient and kind to their parents . . . parents should
also be kind to their children.
When interacting with our children and even when
correcting them, we should remember to be gentle and
kind with them. People are more inclined to pleasing
those they have a positive relationship with. Speaking
in a calm, respectful tone to your child does not
convey a sign of weakness. To the contrary, it let’s
them know that you are indeed in control—not only of
the situation but also your emotions. |
3. Do as I say, not as I do.
Demanding of your children what you do not do
yourself is bound to result in failure. Parents are
children’s first role models. Even older children who
model after their peers, continue to look up to their
parents for exemplar behavior. “If Mom isn’t making
Fajr regularly, why does she expect me to make salat
on time?” your child might ponder. Being a parent is
an enormous responsibility . An important part of
parenting is being the type of person that you
encourage your child to become.
Of course no parent is flawless. And this is okay. In
fact, periods of failure can be a learning experience for
your child. Let your child see you take responsibility
for your errors—apologize to others in your family
when you know you’ve treated them improperly. This
will give your child an example of the proper way to
correct his mistakes with family and friends. |
2. Comparing Children
One of the least effective ways of achieving
compliance from your child is by comparing him to his
brother or sister. “Hason always does his homework,
why don’t you ever do yours, Jamal?
The problem with comparing your children is that
rather than causing the child to want to comply, it
makes him resentful of the other child and you. Sibling
rivalry is common between children. There are many
factors which contribute to such quarrelsome
behavior. Comparing children to one another can
accelerate disagreements between siblings, which only
contributes to additional discipline problems in the
household.
Instead of comparing children, a better method
would be to reward and complement the child when
he performs as desired. This is more likely to cause
the child to repeat the desirable behavior. |
We can all probably spurt out a list of mistakes our
parents made with us when we were young. For some
reason, faults are often more memorable and vivid
than the numerous sacrifices our parents made for us.
Even though as parents we will make mistakes now
and then when raising our children, it’s helpful to
know which mistakes we should try to avoid when
trying to raise them up to be good Muslims. Here are 5
discipline mistakes to avoid when directing your child
toward proper behavior.
1. Getting enraged when disciplining.
One of the biggest mistakes parents make when
disciplining their children is getting enraged when
correcting them. Expressing your rage when
disciplining your child is problematic for several
reasons. First, it directs your child’s attention away
from his mistake and causes him to focus on your
wrath instead. The object of discipline is to guide your
child towards proper behavior for both short term as
well as long term period. If your child is more worried
about how you will react in your anger rather than
what he did that was wrong, he is unlikely to benefit
from your counsel or choice of discipline. Rather, he
will become irritated himself and resentful. This
doesn’t mean the child won’t comply in the short term.
To the contrary, many children respond to an angry
parent. What it does mean is that the lesson you are
trying to teach may not sink in. It might even get
completely lost depending on the extent of the anger
shown. When disciplining, you want your child to
behave not only immediately, but even when you’re
not around, as well. Responding to your child’s
misbehavior with shouting and aggression does not
help him learn to self-manage his behavior. It merely
teaches him how to respond to you when you’re angry.
The second problem with expressing anger when
correcting your child is that it provides the
opportunity to be excessive when punishing. This can
lead to abusing your child. Often times, when a parent
is angry, she vents the anger onto her child. She does
this by using hurtful words or by correcting with
excessive and harsh smacking. To effectively
discipline your child, try your best to avoid correcting
them when angry.
According to hadith, The prophet has said: Whoso
suppresses his rage, while he has the power to show
himself, God will call on him on the day of
resurrection before all creation, and reward him
exceedingly. 1 |

