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BABANGBALI:
you can lie

abeg leave me..make laff no kill me..

YourCoffin:
Stop talking trash. You don't shout at kids for any reason and call it discipline. It affects their psyche negatively. If a mother is frustrated, she should go and play Ludo or something ...

OP, talk to your wife and make her realize the consequences of shouting at kids. Maybe she would have a rethink once she realizes her actions are turning her kids into vegetables

You are the one talking trash here..I have taken care of kids countless times so I know what it entails.so a mother should watch her kids do whatever they want even when they are wrong abi?Tomorrow the world will say they were not properly trained?Even the bible says spare the rod and spoil the child.That should tell you that parents have to discipline their kids reasonably so they don't become brats.Get your facts right ok.

Eketem:
It seems you leave all the disciplining of the kids to her then undermine her when she is doing it.

Kids need some kind of structure and discipline, I understand you have different mentality towards child rearing, you guys should have sorted this out before getting married.

You are both two extremes, she likes structure you like a carefree unrestricted environment. Parents should join forces and raise kids not divide and rule.

You want to be the kids favorite and you leave her to deal with tantrums and public melt downs. I am sure she spends more time with the kids and their noise and hyper activeness can get upsetting.

My advice work more with your wife and reason together, give them some structure and also some freedom. Let there be rules, there should be places where they can play and places where they cant.
They should be rules on what they can touch and what they cant.

They should also learn not to touch everything and stick to their toys.

Stop making your wife the bad guy. When they go and start misbehaving in public it's the mother who gets the bad stares

best reply for op..I have aunts that almost ran mad when their kids were growing up.The husband is never involved o,rather he will go upstairs in their duplex,shut the door of his room and leave her to deal with all their tantrums.Oga you should appreciate your wife,cos taking care of kids can drive you insane.I give my aunts props because kids can make u lose your mind.E no easy at all o.The kids will turn the house upside down,spoil things,cut their leather chair with blade,draw pictures on walls and all sorts of annoying stuff. Its your wife that gets to see all that crap mostly,so allow her discipline them. I am sure you don't know what she is passing through to make sure your kids don't end up being spoilt brats.Its better you mould your kids now to be well behaved, than later o.Not when they are already wild you start asking God 'why me?'

mumbasa:
Nigerian women see sex as a charitable gift to the man.

In Dia brains they will be like “ how dare he invite me to his house he wants to have sex with me”

But if he gives you that iPhone as a gift or spend as much as 10k to 40k with you in a day you never sit down to think“ this is unfair what have I ever contributed to his life to receive this much”

Life is give and take.

If you think it's disgusting that he asked you for sex, don't ever accept any form of gift you didn't work for from him , it's disgusting too not romantic.

Like Iyanya would say " Na me dey put am ( penn1s) in the hood( vag1na) so baby COME OVER MY PLACEE OOH!!"

If you make it all about money he will make it all about sex so

After the reggae ( spending and dancing) play the blues ( Romance and sex)

I don't see anything wrong with going to visit the guy..If he seems decent,and you feel you are safe with him why not?Abi na for tantalizers una wan do the relationship?We ladies have a lot of issues honestly..There is no sure fire way to go about relationships,just do what u really want.@ur opening statement,I totally agree cos the nigerian society teaches most women to see sex as sth they do to please and keep a man.Wheras, its for your own enjoyment too o.That's why I admire americans..A lady can meet a guy while clubbing,if she likes him,they go home..after the do,everybody waka. Life goes on..It doesn't make her a LovePeddler.Nigerians are just too hypocritical,and na we corrupt pass!The girls who appear to have so many rules end up being screwed over the most by sharp guys who can pretend well enough.abeg e!

Whether he insists or not,I can't make that costly mistake.I don mad?Its good to love a man o,but always use your head.In case he starts misbehaving,you would have something that is solely yours to fall back on.Even when you purchase a property or build a house jointly,let the documents carry your individual full names to avoid stories that touch.

Omotayor123:
Show off

serious one o..the guy is too old for this display of childishness.

Nigerian celebrities have a lot of growing up to do.The real billionaires are thinking of how to expand their empire,acquire assets..A matured man like freeze is on instagram telling us about how he is the first one in Nigeria to acquire the 2015 rolex watch.So we now know you are the first,anything else?Oh..maybe he can take that to a bank and get paid!Rubbish.Abeg seun and nl mods,try to bring enlightening articles to the frontpage before nairaland becomes a sick joke!

amtaken:
The OP didn't make this story up.




Mr. Grayline is using reversed psychology on y'all and you are buying his panadol.




Grayline come out here and answer the following questions and stop acting like you are making a caricature of the whole saga:

1. Do you know the OP?



Did she ever send you airtime?
3. Did you go to her house?



4. Did you ask her for T-fair?



5. Did she give you money to buy yam for her?



6. Did you buy the yam?



7. If you didn't buy the yam, did you refund her money to her?




Am not easily deceived. Am a Police Officer.



Thanks.

God bless u for making good use of your brain.I am not buying into the cr.ap jokes made by grayline to throw scent off the op's story.There is more to this thread o.

donphilopus:






Y'all have successfully spewed gibberish. Even the dullest ones among you are calling the Presido a dullard. How can one be duller than iruocious? You guys didn't even bother to read the write-up.

guy,why waste your time quoting the cows, when they are on a mission to showcase their worldclass stupidity.As a lawyer I know what the judge did was unethical and I fully support his compulsory retirement.The morons will soon start blaming buhari when they can't impregnate their wives.I recommend they get a life and try shutting up when you have nothing wise to say.I am sure they don't even know the meaning of 'fiat',NJc' or 'preliminary objection'.

charlemon:
Lol can't you see that he doesn't love you? He has seen a good reason to drop you. A reason that wouldn't make it seem like he is wicked or evil. You are being naive. Do you think any man will even allow u entertain a suitor not to talk of telling you to get married to one.

A man that loves you will even get enraged when u let him know u have a suitor but this one is telling you to marry one. Hahahahahhahahahha

Open your eyes ooo. The more you look the less you see. Your BF does not love you

thanks for helping me speak my mind.I no get energy take type.The op knows what to do.Make she dey ask us waec question.

You alone knows what's best for you.The ball is totally in your court.

ESHOIZA:
Pls sm1 shud educate me on wich Tablet to buy with a good camera unlike Techno and wil cost like 25k to 30k at Jumia or Konga

very few tablets have good cameras.Phones are better suited for taking nice photos.You can get tecno driopad 8,its 29k.Its a nice tablet.

misspicy:
congratulations oooo,we will not hear any bad news this end of year IN JESUS name....hope he is getting better,my regards to him....

thanks dear..The plan of the devil failed woefully.He is getting better.Its just for the fracture to heal,but its very minor.Hopefully,2 weeks from now he should be out of the hospital.I can't believe I am still standing after these few days o.God is just so excellent in his ways.

Nuellah,let me announce my presence here.Please all should help me thank God o.My younger brother was hit by a bike on sunday,at a point he was having seizures and unable to breathe.he was placed on oxygen and taken with ambulance to a teaching hospital.He is much better now sha and on admission.There was no brain injuries or serious damage,Just a small pelvic fracture that can be treated with drugs.God is wonderful indeed.If not,it would have been another story by now.

I support divorce when there is a case of domestic violence.It would be very lame to stay for the kids.When the woman dies,who will be a mother to the kids she was enduring the beatings for?In other cases,where the parties are not happy anymore and can't stand living together,they just have to go their separate ways.A conflict filled environment is not healthy to raise kids anyways.There are many kids from broken homes who turned out ok.The parents must not turn to matyrs and live sad,depressed lives just to keep up appearances of being together.

SAMBARRY:
like the mind blowing sek WIll make him behave. You have just given him the license for him TO turn your house into an 0r/g*y centre with no inhibitions or regard for you

A round of appluse for You. Kontinu living in fool's paradise

well sha,let's just assume she did it for peace sake.Seriously,from her previous post,the husband's serial cheating isn't just a one time thing.Op,if you must stay with him,get tested for hiv other deadly stds.In the main time,keep your legs closed or use a condom.Many men these days that cheat don't bother about protection,that's why you have to look out for yourself here.That's my advice for you sha.God will give u the wisdom to manage the situation. @sambarry,all these stories of shocking behaviour of men after marriage is scaring the hell out of me.Na prayer mode I dey o,for my fiance to remain who he is now.

SAMBARRY:
Congratulations curtains. I thought you had wisdom.I only wasted my advice on going for test

Next

lmao..the op na wa sha.Your husband had a 3some with a badoo babe,you get mind straff am after you know.I am at a loss for words.

shezy:
love Alex.see what piper did in season 3?she is a bitch.still love her sha.the way dis Hollywood people are robn bisexual movies on our face is a bit infectious.they did it in the way that you wouldn't just want both Alex and piper to split.

lol..the series can make a straight person gay or bicurious.That vee sha na devil Herself.See the way she just dey use people up and down like tissue paper.Red messed up,she should have killed her in season 2 when she had d chance.Thank God rosa took her out.That was my sweetest moment in season 2.Vee was just too manipulative and wicked.

mmsen:
Why is it so important that these ladies have children?

Is Nigeria running low on people?

God bless you..I was about to ask the same thing.Enough already with marriage talk here and there..Nowadays,its hard to know whether you really want to get married because you want to,or because it is what society requires of you.There is more to life abeg,marriage is not the holy grail.Even if a lady has reached menopause,so what?Is it compulsory for everyone to want kids?or even get married?I am sick of this issue honestly.Many people like their own space too much,but end up getting married to make the society stop asking questions.Afterwards,they start having conflicts and eventually get a divorce.If the high rate of divorce isn't telling people anything,its so sad.Many clamour to be married only to rush out when they can't stand the heat.My advice,do you!Its hard coping with the pressure.I get pressurized also.Just don't let it get to you and spur you into making a bad choice.Forever is a long time..What's d hurry to get married?Many even set a time frame for themselves like they are their own creators.Why won't divorce be on the increase.People should stop stigmatizing singles.There is more to life than being married at all costs.If its in the cards for you,it will happen at God's appointed time.

Its already been more than 7 years of no contact with him.By law,he is presumed dead.She is certainly getting her divorce.

This one is strong...kpele op.Just take time out to clear your head.Its going to be tough,but u'll be fine eventually.Some men sha!Na wa.

Since linda ikeji bought her banana island home,everyone wants to be a blogger.What they forget is that you have to carve your own niche in life.For instance,there can never be anyone like micheal jackson... ever..bottomline,do you and pray for success!All fingers are not equal.

Kpele op

Empire is getting boring..I don port to how to get away with murder.

olahero:
This phone should not more than 26k...

Your head dey there..Because the specs are not so fantastic..except for screen size.

IamThrive:
My brothers and sisters, it is high time we differentiate between religion and christianity. I think you are talking from the angle of religion, how far has your religion taken you. Religion is where your fellow human being makes you to understand that as a man of God or pastor you can only get to heaven through him/her or his/her church. Like you rightly indicated, religion takes,promising prosperity at end. Christianity is doing the way Christ wants us to do according to the scriptures. In summary of this,Christianity is simply living a christ-like life. Remember God looks at the heart which is your character and attitude towards your fellow human being and not what you give as an offering or what you wear to church. Christianity gives as it is written in the bible 'Ask and it shall be given to you' and does not concentrate with what amount of offering you give. Do not judge for not be judged. I rest my case! Shalom

1000 likes for u.My thoughts exactly!Many people go to church just to warm seats,like the op.If not,I don't see how he would have been able to assess the financial worth of the lady giving 20 naira offering.The service of God has been dragged in mud by so called "pastors".On sunday,I sit at home..read my bible and pray.Because many of the pastors out there are just scam artists who went into ministry to earn a living.Its not about going to church 7 days a week,its all about your personal relationship with God.Which is very cheap to achieve if you ask me..Buy a bible of 200 naira and read it daily.Let it be your Pastor,your mummy G.O and daddy G.O.I have an uncle who has never stepped foot in a church.He is very successful because he is a radical giver.Those he helps are always blessing him.He pays the fees of most children in his area,gives fowls and rice to the poor in his neighbourhood.That's christianity IMO,not enriching a pastor.At the end they will use your offering to build fancy schools that even the church members won't be able to afford the fees for their kids.Nigerians idolize pastors and it is downright annoying!You are the best prophet over your life,the earlier we realize that the better o.The prayers the pastor prays for u is nothing special.You can do that for yourself if you are serious about knowing God.

I am currently seeing this series...Damn!I love it.My favourite character is alex vause..The babe just has one kind of aura..asides the lesbian shii tho.Piper is so emotionally screwed up.I mean,who doesn't know if she's straight or gay.The fiance is just scared of being alone if not he should have dumped her sorry behind since he discovered she was still doing alex in prison.Prison life abroad is a vacation compared to our prisons here.See the better food when dem dey chow there.No wonder tastey committed a crime to get back into prison after she was freed..lol.

awesome11:
I'm afraid you are being sentimental. You think the medical profession is a difficult one because of the risk of getting infections. What about the engineering professionals, more often than not, any safety mistake can send him/her and many others into their untimely graves.

You think 15k is not enough for the call allowance of medical practitioners during their service corp but should be enough for the upkeep of a trained architect. And don't go into that joke of Medicine being more stressful and financially demanding! Ask students of Architecture, your perception will change..

my dear there is risk in every profession.It doesn't make doctors any special.Try being a public defender to an armed robbery suspect.E fit slap you sef on top say na u dey do e case.If its the duration of study,law,engineering and architecture requires 6 years or more of your life.Besides,how many doctors are paid 130 in private clinics and hospitals?Many after school still look for jobs like the rest of us na.Its just those in govt agencies and hospitals that are paid well.

BigBenoski:
You guys should also understand that ebonyi state doesn't have a lot of money right now, and this is NYSC..they are supposed to be volunteering .. Wait a minute, you mean these people were actually paid 130k monthly WTF!! How much were the engineers and other corps members paid?? If I be the governor, I go pay everybody 15k flat. When they are done with NYSC and get a job of their choice, they can then negotiate whatever pay they want. Nawa o

I tire o..corp doctors in EKsuth were paid 50k and they close by 4pm.I served with ministry of justice Ekiti .I settled land boundary and ownership disputes,matrimonial cases,tenancy matters and in fact any matter concerning breach of a citizen's right.I was at work from 8 to 4pm daily,talking like a nursery school teacher to stubborn clients.Guess how much I was paid as a barrister...Nothing!We were told to drop our account numbers on top the 5k they were meant to pay us monthly.I survived on my 19800 alone.The doctors can do it too in my opinion.NYSC is a scheme for youths to serve their nation (most times without pay).Lawyers with ministries are professionals too na,I don't see anyone rolling out the red carpet for us.

See as spoilt phone just dey hungry you?That was how my itchy hands navigated to talkback.I saw hell that day.I don't even know how I managed to get to the acessibility setting to remove it from the "blind man mode".A friend messed with camera settings on mobile uncletools,and that was the end for him.Even after flashing the phone,he still couldn't take pictures.

This also happens in oleh (isoko speaking community in delta state).On the day she is to be thrown into the forest,shops and markets are closed.Its really babaric!