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swaggerdgrt:
Do I bleame u,by d tme u clock 30 upwards u won't evn luk for workin class again,na barrow pushers for aba nd nnewi go fnd u...no b cause or spell bt such tins wil b gud for a broke nd hugry girl lke u..rubbish

What is wrong with those guys at least they're working.
Nothing's sexier than a strong man who lifts lol.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
people like u are the reason why some girls including me will not accept help from a man cos they will always want to pay. And when u don't pay for their charity, they call u names. I'm sure u will Bleep ur daughter b4 u give her school fees or even buy bobo foe her. I blame girls who fall for silly men just in the name of material things. Do u thing all a woman needs in her life is gifts from a man.? Gush, men like u will gang rape the girl if she doent pay for the big she borrowed from u to fill in her bank teller.
U must be a very broke guy.


My happiness is that there are still good men out there. Very good ones I say.

Welcome to nairaland! Home of Misogynists!

johnnycrew:
u are a clueless olosho

Are you unemployed?

Nina4u:
This is the most redicioulus thing i ever seen a woman say ...i said love dont cost a thing so if u aint got money no sex? This what she said....
Abioooo, nonsense, wetin I won carry d dick do self, broke dicks don't turn me on, u got to prove to me dat u are a real man who can take care of a women before, dick don't turn me on, am satisfied evn sexually wen my man maks me comfortable, no man on earth can satisfy me sexually or other wise with a dick, gross, plzzzzzzz, plz ladies just tell such men to go transfer such energy in getin a lif dan comin after u, I rader marry a bus driver who can takia of me dan an asshole who only hv to offer me his broke lazy dick....

Abi oooh, choose whoever you want and are comfortable with. Finance is a very important part of relationships and your are right to consider it!

I expect this thread to be full of comments attacking women as per usual lol.
Here we see butt-hurt unemployed men running their mouths claiming "We will be rich in the future ".
Duh! Everyone wants to be rich, what are you doing towards it?
This is why I cringe whenever I see those front page posts, telling a man to go for the unemployed woman instead of a career woman LOL!
If you intentionally pick a woman who depends on you for money, why cry foul?

Back to you OP.
For me, ambition is key, not a Job. Because naija has an high unemployment rate. Are you looking for a job, starting a business , studying to gain credentials or wanting to be a stay at home dad? I can date any of the above! I just don't date people who are not ambitious.

Madam, you are not married

4C2215131:
That is what I am talking about. Its now the norm in male female relations. Something gotta give. I spend the chedda you give up the goods. Why do you think most girls prefer dating married chaps? The foregoing is the underlying principle to this development.

Again you must understand that a man on the average doesn't just up and classify a lady as a cheap LovePeddler. She must have sent feelers that informed his coming to that conclusion. A girl that gets a response like she did for asking for recharge card leaves little to the imagination -that's all he sees her as being worth a notion again informed by her character. Will a guy you ask for recharge card tell you this?

I spend the chedda , you give up the goods? My God, such bad thinking.
Spending money on a girl is a choice (yours), a girl sleeping with you is a choice too (hers).
This is why rape is very prevalent in africa because men do believe that spending money on a girl means free access. If they don't get it, they use force.
No No, This is an archaic thinking that needs to be nipped in the bud.

4C2215131:
Its kinda easy to cry misoginy when it comes to issues bothering on the female folk but y'all don't know the amount of mental torture y'all give to your hubbies and lovers. Society says a man gotta be a man so he should 'man' up and handle his business.

Thus he suffers in silence until he passes on. Do you know the alarming amount of abused men extant in our society today? No body cres about this cos its a man's world and it's considered weakness to admit such.

I know that men have their issues in society but this is not what my post is about.
I am talking about equating recharge card to sex.

4C2215131:
Not holding brief for the chap but you have to understand that the responses from the men folk are just a reflection of what obtains in the society; women are materialistic and men are cheating Hot he-goats. So don't sweat it as both views didn't come about by chance. They are proven behavioural facts of both sexes. Choose this day which side you'd belong. That's all one should be concerned about.

Yes some women are materialistic and some men are cheating Hot goats.
But this post doesn't show that, It shows a man refusing to help a woman with a paltry sum (Which he is allowed to !) because she refused him sex.
My major problem is that we are encouraging this man. It is not how it is done. Especially in Nigeria. This girl stands no chance. Damned if she do, damned if she don't.

4C2215131:
A white lie there woman! You called a chaps name- Seun Osewa as aiding and abbeting misogyny. You were plain wrong for that.

Yes, Seun is a nairaland man, he owns nairaland. He has the power to remove misogynist articles from the front page.
Everyone even down to some mods know that nairaland aids and abets misogyny. It has been discussed severally.
Links : https://www.nairaland.com/2519176/pandering-anti-intellectualism-nairaland-part-1/4

Below was my post.. Let me highlight certain parts you seem to have missed

This is the kind of thread that you will see hungry nairaland men run to celebrating.
Simply because, its a picture showing hate for a woman from a man.
Seun keeps promoting misogyny through his front page.

If this poor girl had slept with the man before getting the recharge card. Men will call her olosho or cheap thing.
This girl refused to go to his house. It could have been thousands of reasons why.
She ran into hard times and asked for recharge card from him and he refused because of sex.

We are cheering a man who lacks empathy and kindness. No woman is entitled anything from a man but basing it purely for sex is wrong especially in our society where sex before marriage is frowned upon.

I hope that nairaland does not corrupt the rest of the good men out there!

4C2215131:
Its a public forum and the views expressed here are not representative of that of the owner(s) and/or operators of the site. You'd be doing well to remember that.

This is why I specifically address nairaland men in my post.

4C2215131:
Nobody in their right senses will hate on an upright, goal seeking and gainfully employed woman (not me aanywa). It's the attitude her so called liberated state informs that is the problem. Honestly its nauseating and leaves a lot to want for.

This is why I quote nairaland men because they seem to have it out for career women. Anytime a post is referenced where a man wants to choose between an educated or uneducated woman. They always advise to go for the woman they can control.
I don't see anything wrong, we have all been in situations where we need someone's help. We can choose to help them or not.
We should not approve this man's behaviour. If she had slept with him and she asked for a favor (we will call her gold-digger).

3rdlegxxx:
lat time i checked, sex was a two way thing and both parties get pleasure from it, sometimes you ladies derive more pleasure, we just do all the work, so you girls should saying it like you are doing guys a favor by opening wide, you want just as bad if not more than guys want it.

That's my point sex should be based on attraction not money.
The girl may have refused the guy sex because she was not attracted to him (From the story, she refused before she asked for recharge card).
But the man based his actions on money. He equated recharge card to sex.

4C2215131:
Don't make this about Nairaland. Address the issue as it is.

This is nairaland forum.

The bride is so beautiful.
What a Lucky man!

EasternLion:
Whatever made the women join the protest, it is important and dear to them.

There are on going women protest in Enugu too.

Aba as I heard, the women will do a similarity of 1929, the info keeps rolling in.

Nnamdi Kanu is loved by the women folk in Biafraland.

Can you tell me what Nnamdi Kanu is doing. I am not biased or anything. I just want to know.

Everything I hear about him on nairaland are bad and I know nairaland is very biased towards ibos

I get a huge female bboner when I see women in action!

However I don't support this Nnamdi Kanu of a guy, so my bboner is confused !

Paulpaulpaul:
Men?

You aren't destined to rule, yours is to beg them for 100 mtn ba?

Yes Men
After all, women according to nairaland, should be confined to the kitchen and bedroom. Because a career woman is not wife material.

God forbid, I beg a man for recharge card!

#OffTopic

Hypocrisy is when you insult a girl for not sleeping with you after buying her recharge card , only for you to call her an ashewo if she actually sleeps with you.

Hypocrisy is crying on nairaland that women are chopping your money only to insult and disagree with women that want to face their career to better themselves.

Na wa ooh.
Nairaland and their standards for women.