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My mom loves telemundo. I don't like it myself but when her favourite comes up, and I'm visiting, I join my siblings to watch withe her. We laugh, we scream, we cry, we bond.

After the show, we talk about it a little, and we go to sleep. We wake up the next day, we are still intelligent, we are all excelling at our careers. Our relationships between our partners and friends are still great.

I have been watching telemundo with my mom for over 20 years.

Do you think women are babies that cannot different between movies and real life?

The problem op is describing is simple. Men especially nairaland men cannot stand to see women take joy in anything. We allow you to watch football 90 minutes, play video games, watch 24 and breaking bad.

But God forbid, a woman decides to watch something, Men have a problem with it. Men term the show to be dumb and shitty.

OP maybe you should check yourself, these are signs of internalized misogyny that you are exhibiting. Why don't you want women to be happy and have fun.

Do you feel emasculated because your wife/girlfriend cannot be your slave for one or two hours in a day? Maybe it's time for you to confront the real issue.., your fragile masculinity.

revolt:
do u knw what will make a man decide to leave his marriage if 20yrs? Do u knw what an egotistic,unsubmissive, abusive wife can make a man do?

Anything but blame the man. The man can never be faulted! Never!

Even though he had options like Divorce and marriage counselling.

Glad to see the misogynists in full force today.

danot1030:
Another scenario of adultery from that zone, again this is not a yoruba lady trying breaking another woman's home. The holier than thou saints always seeing pecks in their neighbour eyes while they live the logs in their own eyes are not saints after all, they are rotten and smelling.

Yup, tribalism is now the issue lol!

Anything as long as we don't blame the man, we'll take anything.

bloomin:
Shameless home breaker! the devil you serve will punish you!

I assume you are talking about the man.

papauju:
if she is respecting her husband and do what she is supposed to do I don't think the man will go for another wife

Now blaming the woman, even after a man cheats, we blame the woman for failing. What a misogynistic world we live in.

ominskie:
Ngozi, I am a married woman too and will support you in prayers for God to deal with the strange woman in your home.

Which home?

ogbonnajude507:
you sound like a frustrated being but i want you to kmow that what goes around,comes around.

Why the insult? This is my opinion on the issue.
Next time if you don't have something constructive to say, don't mention me at all.

seangy4konji:
I hate women who destroy homes.

Always looking for ready made homes to touch down.

Sure God does not like such. They might have started from gateman to street gawking to mortuary cleaning before almighty blessed them you will just come with your yam leg and hairy toto and want to start licking the sweat of another lady.

If trailer jam you and we laugh instead if rip they will now start abusing us on nairaland.

No be so now?find a hustler make una build riches together. Hoes everywhere.

Destroying homes, please who left their family to marry another man? Someone decided that his wife of 20 years was not worth it and decided to marry another woman?

For all we know, this woman might not know that this man was married.

There's only one home destroyer in this story and its not the woman.

cruzita:
when will women stop stealing husbands and when will men stop chasing everything under a skirt?a marriage as old as 20yrs u allowed a karishika destroy it for u.

How can you steal someones husband? I don't believe this woman stole anything. this man carried himself, ignored his family, toasted and married a young woman. Is this your definition of stealing?

The man is 100 percent to blame.

jeffizy:
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Why have women stopped being virtuous?
Always eyeing the other woman's candy shop , why??

Is it the poverty in the land or sheer promiscuity? [/color]

When did men stop being virtuous, when did they loose self-control? When will they stop thinking with their peenis?

He decided to throw away 20 years of marriage and a beautiful family for a woman? How do you know this woman is not virtous? How are you sure she wasn't deceived and lied to seeing that his family was abroad?

When are men going to start taking responsibility for their actions?
When are men going to be held accountable?
Why have men been stop being faithful?
Why have men lost their integrity?

I simply do not understand why the woman is insulting the new wife.

You husband of 20 years and the father of your 2 Children decided to start a relationship with someone else. Who is breaking Home? Is it not your husband?
Why are you attacking this girl who may not have even known what was going on? Your husband decided to leave you, court her, pay bride price and marry her, and here you are screaming that she stole your husband??
How? Is your husband a toy? How is it stealing?

I am 100 percent sure that your husband didn't start cheating today, you must have known but you turned a blind eye, thinking he won't leave you.

Not only did he leave you, he went ahead to marry her. Do you think all your social media rants will bring him back? He doesn't want you. He has made it very clear.

To all the women out there, staying with cheating husbands thinking he will stay, keep dreaming, one day you will also see your husband marrying someone else.

To the man, what can I say. You have decided to embarass yourself, your children and your family because of lust. You should have done the honourable thing by not getting married or divorcing but instead you choose to be unfaithful and deceitful. Do I blame you? Not really! you and your stupid wife deserve each other

odepacy:
my dear if you want to know if all this rule are real or not please come and marry real esan man, you are talking of gender equality, those that make you to comment adultry bcuz u wnt equal rite wit ur husband, all this still happened in were I came frm in Edo state the rule this pason laid or gave out hia is just the tip of the iceberg. There mor to dis in my place, you do anyhow you see anyhow, you hardly hear divorce or adultry d chance of it is 3%

Gender equality means that both adult men and women are treated equally regardless of gender.

I have no problem if these rules apply to both MEN and WOMEN.

I'm very proud of her!

May God continue to bless her handwork.

Looking at the laws, you would think it's only women who exist in the world.A lot of oppression and hatred towards women.

Thank God for feminism and education that has been teaching women that this treatment is wrong and should not be tolerated.

Everyone should be held to the same standards and should be treated equally regardless of their genders!

Tough spot you're in!

Your girlfriend's friend is obviously very attracted to you, since she went above and beyond to take care of you when you were ill.

I'm leaning towards not telling your girlfriend. Your girlfriends friend seems reliable, she was willing to help you and your girlfriend out without hesitation. I don't think she's a bad friend to your girlfriend.

Make sure you send a clear warning to this friend, telling her that you are not interested in her and that you sincerely love your girlfriend. Let her know that next time, you will definitely let your girlfriend know. Document all interaction with her. Screenshot and save.

Then also avoid her, don't put yourself in compromising situations.

If she does not back down or tries it again , then inform your girlfriend.

I really love this man and his voice.
His wife too has been very supportive, she's always at his concerts.

It breaks my heart that their marriage didn't work out. I pray they both heal. This is so sad.

Before we crucify an innocent 10 year old girl, Please note a few things..

The medical check for virginity involves the hymen. In many cases the lack of hymen can be associated with virginity being lost.

However , they are so many reasons why a woman may not have an hymen.

1) She was not born with one.
2) Damaged hymen while playing sports
3) Heavy period flows.
4) Use of Tampons.
5) The Hymen wears away

Remember the hymen could be really thin

A lot of women, including myself, did not even see blood during our first time.

There are chances that she may be sexually abused but take note that any MAN sleeping with a young girl is a sexual predator and should be locked up in jail.

This 10 year old girl is very Innocent, she is not promiscuous, her eye NEVER Shine!

A 10 Year old girl CANNOT CONSENT. It sickens me that some of you are thinking that this girl is "bad" or "sleeping around".

My own favourite is " men are naturally promiscuous " or "all men cheat"

When I hear any of these statements, relationship Don end, any fire in me had been quenched lol.

I can't joke with my future happiness.

You look very yummy and handsome too!

Congratulations on your graduation!!!

sinizia:
It still beats my imagination how some/many people still take this OP's threads serious. I usually ignore ALL his threads cos of his skewed mindset and condescending views especially against women. He usually hides his misogynistic and pervasive beliefs sublimnally between several avalanche of poorly-constructed dissertations OR migrane-inducing sanctimonious epistles. What a dumb and pathetic thread. Just man up and say you support men cheating.

I am very glad people are calling him out on this thread. Immediately I saw the topic, I just rolled mg eyes.
He is a very well packaged misogynist, most of his threads are degrading to women.
But this one is just the worst.

apholaryn:
are you not?

I'm not

bfatoba:
Dowry is not buying your woman, its just a token in appreciation to her parents for doing a beautiful job bringing her up.
Don't loose sight of your Culture, its part of what makes you stand out, both the God and the bad. Trust me, i'm of the belief that culture restricts even more than religion does lolz, but it is just that, its what makes you who you are. and once stripped of that then you become Nada

Women aren't objects, but they are VALUABLE as people, don't you agree?

I'm not saying you should pay dowry, everyone should do whatever they like.

Like I prefaced in my post, it's my personal opinion. No one will pay anybody to marry me.

Now Op directly says that a woman's worth is her dowry and should be lessened if she doesn't have a hymen.

Isn't the op saying that women are synonymous with goods and she can be bargained for if she has a defect.

This is why I don't like dowry personally.

apholaryn:
you will understand better when you are 18

Lol.. Your argument is that I'm a teenager!?

apholaryn:
leave thrash for lawma....na pikin brain still dey your head tho...btw this Africa...Nigeria precisely.

And so?

I am very sorry. Please accept my condolences!

Dericman:
Fine, but una parent, culture go agree?

Me personally, I'm not doing traditional marriage, I'm not going to be bought. My parents and boyfriend are very aware of this.

Dericman:
I am fighting for the men, you should be in better position to say what happens to them!

Why do you think a woman without a hymen is better than those with hymen.

Dericman:
This is to my fellow guys that are planing on getting married soon.
If you didn't disflowerd ur girl or u didn't meet her/she no longer a virgin and u intend marrying her, i don't think you should pay/complete her bride price. Afteral, sm1 else has taken the dignity that u were suppose to have, her pride has been stolen away.. Ladies go just dey mess around, changing/sleeping with guys anyhow, when the whole body don collapse/scatter finish, them go con dey fine who dem go settle down with... Only but very few ladies marries as virgin these days! May God help the ladies of this our generation....

And what about men that are not virgins?

If you are going to compare the worth of a woman to mere money, you're probably not worth it at all.

This is 2016 and we should stop this dowry nonsense. Women are not articles to be bought and sold.

This isn't a real question. Besides most live in maids know and sometimes have access to some important items in a home.

Secondly, why are you attacking women that are in a very tight position where they have to choose between staying home with a child or providing for the child.?

chronique:
Can you just listen to yourself again? This time around,try to put on your thinking cap so you can have sense while reading this nonsense you wrote. Where do they breed human beings like you? So being in abject poverty is enough for someone to be this cruel and commit this type of gruesome murder? Removing a child's intestine and suffocating the other in hot water? May God never allow me come near your type for any reason.

No being in abject poverty after giving birth ia enough reason for new and abandoned mothers to kill their babies. It's called post partum depression and it's no joke.

Women like this need help, not insults. The people to blame are the family and the man who put her in this way. Most especially the government, that have blocked women rights