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She has a boyfriend even if he's across the oceans. For her to admit she has one means she don't need another. Look for a single girl to play your tricks on. It might just work for you

_{Please next time add paragraphs to your essays. Seun has enough space}

It all depends on when a woman feels ready. If she feels ready at 15 that's her cup o' tea and if she feels ready at 40 that's her own Sushi.

Fhemmmy:
when the innocent people like children and women that have no way to support themselves.

It's called hardship or poverty.

Fhemmmy:
They both fall into that category, however, if i have to fight for one btw the innocent women and the kids, i will fight for the kids.
So i guess that explains why aint cutting the ladies any slack, but if it was the women and the useless men that are supposed to be there for them and be in their lives as fathers and brothers and husband, i will serve those men to the dogs. . . . sorry.

Femi, you're too confused about the situation. Calm down. If you want to fight for any party it should be the mothers. When you make them comfortable of some sort then they can take care of their children. You don't take their children away and leave the women in the pit to survive.

The situation is scary to say the least. Only God knows where the men are. Probably armed robbers, serving jail time, somewhere in Libya trying to swim across to greener pastures, under Lagos bridge struggling, dead, I mean u name it.

I am not justifying the situation but I'm trying to explain the reason for it. I've been calling Yaradua and I hope he'll answer one day. This country is decaying. The people are dying and no one cares! We shall all care one day. God help us.

Fhemmmy:
innocent people like children and women that have no way to support themselves are involved

What do you call this?

Femi, I respect your judgement.

Agnesqueen:
@ Radiant
He is in law school. I dont mind us being so close in age cus im not a big fan of much older men.

Ohh that's fine. I mentioned the age thing due to the way you sounded about his age and the gap between you two. Sorry about that.

Well, like I said, just share this with him and you'll be amazed at how he'll take it and you may end up reaching a comfortable agreement. If you don't let him know how you feel he wouldn't know and giving him an attitude won't help matters either. Be open to him and share your thoughts.

Femi, I understand 419 is a terrible thing but sincerely speaking if you think selling your child is the same as 419 then you need to be admitted to a hospital urgently.

Don't have time to go through this shit again. Read my posts, paying attention to every word and not just glance through it.

Akinagirl:
I cant believe there is no matured response on this thread. There are some situations that will cause someone to make quick and sometimes irrational decisions. You never know unless the shoe is on your foot.

Poster, That is a tough question. I will think about it more in depth. However, can you tell us what you would have done?

Busy_body:
Exactly, people live such closeted  and sheltered life on NL, everything they read is Nollywood

What is preposterous about this story People have been known to donate their kidneys for free to loved ones without getting a penny in return despite the risks involved, people plan with their partners to take their own life so the surviving partner can cash in their life insurances in the Western world . . .

So, "blood money" is now accepted?  Where do you live? What money are we talking about? So, we now believe in blood money? How true is this blood money to start with? How long does it last? What are the consequences? Lord!  How can you compare such bizarre story to "donating a kidney" and saying things like "you never know unless the shoe is on your foot". Kiss my foot indeed!

You two need to consult your doctors if you have any. What are we debating here?!

I have already and will still do it again.

Rooneyboy:
U probably dont think u deserve being a bride.

Can you define "bride" please?

Getting married in church does not equal a large crowd of well wishers and haters and all 'em road blocking head ties. You can still exchange vows before a priest and have your families around to witness.

Personally, I don't need all that madness around me. I would just love a family thing but for the heck of it anyhow it goes is fine with me. It's once in a lifetime  

agabaI23:
Thinking about getting shagged! ?

Probably thinking about slapping stupid people.

_{Can't remember what I was thinking about when I was 22. . .}

Sweetie, you're just not ready for marriage. Don't force yourself to be ready. I understand you love your boyfriend but I think you have issues with his age. You're like "he's only 25" and it's just "3 years gap". May be you need someone older and more mature instead of some sagging ass pants around you I'm just playing

On a serious note, discuss this with your boyfriend. It's always good to talk about issues like this with your partner instead of trying to figure it out alone. Like the other guy said, him and his girlfriend cut their waiting to 3 years and this was because they talked about it and came to a compromise which they both feel comfortable with.

If it's your education you want to face now, then tell him. What does he do at 25 anyway? If it's the age difference, tell him as well. You probably don't see your ideal husband in him. There's still time for decisions dear.

And if it's just the whole "I'm not into all that family thing" then I say relax. The urge to share your life with someone comes as you get older and have a man that's just worth it.
I used to be like you but trust me that feeling fades as you grow. Take care

hollandis:
Sadly your statement isn't true.

It's very true. Expand that box on your shoulders.

When you say greed I expect you to tell me that these women are from a well to do home and perhaps just want money for extras that they can actually do without. You know, they'll just get pregnant for a man and get 130k after 9 months. Come on! We gotta be real now.

The only reason that must have driven them to do it in the first place is POVERTY!!! I rest my case.

Yaradua please it's not only Rufai and Ribadu who need attention. There are devastating situations in the country. Wake up!!!

~Sissy~:
if they do a follow up to this story you would see that some of these women are in for pure greed and take it as business not as something they would do once and use the money to start or better themselves.  and from the tone of some of the women you can see that this isnt their first time.

Do you know the burden in their family? Sick parents, school fees, house rent, feeding, clothing, hospital bills, you name it. What can N130, 000 solve in such a situation? When the basics have been taken care of then you can think of business.

~Sissy~:
and yes its their body and their choice. for instance, you always/sometimes hear some ppl say they prostitute their bodies bcus they are poor but you have to realize that not every poor woman out there who leaves in abject poverty would ever agree to prostitute their body for money.

I agree but have you asked yourself why they had to adapt to this measure? If you say it's greed, that's your own explanation. I don't believe a woman will sell her child out of greed. What does she have that she's greedy for more?

Sissy please!! What bloody greed are you talking about? Greed and poverty should not even be mentioned in the same breath.

Anyway, what do you suggest these women do?

Yea, like we go about asking virgins to loose their virginity. What are you saying? If you've lost it you've lost it. Who is encouraging the other to loose it?
Why are we acting like we got a house full of virgins? I don't play such games, sorry.

The men please, if you're still a virgin hold on to it and y'all stop coming here at 35 looking for a 15 year old to 'pop ya collar'.

One cannot watch their people die as a result of their circumstances. You're forced to do something about it. This is entrenched poverty. It knows no boundaries.
Please, this is not a question of "their body", "their choices". Do you think this is the only measure they've tried? They've been through it all and this happens to be their best deal. Pray never to find yourself in such situations. These people are wretched and drenched in hopelessness and anxiety.

Only poverty can make a woman give up her children just to survive. What else can it be please?

Problem. . . 

Listen, it's only men like you who think every girl wants to "be" with every guy she meets. Some just hit and run like some men do. It's not a one gender game, sorry.

princekevo:
Not only my sister who ever it is i will not dance for her, but lead her to a better option. Whereby  i can't give her a better option but enjoy being at my comfort zone and watch her die in poverty, therefor i lack the moral justification to judge her acts.

Precisely!

oluwawunmi:
Pls
help me on this i had a miscarriage on 1st of october and i got know by 7th an did d evacuation on 10th of october but since then the blood refuse to stop pls help me am grwoing tin day by day .

It's only 7 days since the DnC. It's normal to still bleed. It should resolve soon. How long was the pregnancy?

Lmao. .

Becomrich, can you please shut up and be quiet.

What respect do you deserve? Why would I want to keep myself only to end up with someone like you? My friend, even prostitutes get married let alone people like your girlfriend.

While it sounds "good" and "respectful" to be a virgin/marry a virgin, he/she may also become disastrous when they eventually loose it in marriage. Better figure it out.

I will not believe this!

aieromon:
She is the refined version of Patience Ozokwo

Couldn't agree more. If she's happy to be back to her first love, let her do it.

Fhemmmy:
Or your mother decided to tell you that she did not sell you cos you were cute, that she has sold few while she was younger, i guess, you will go to church and give thanxgiving.

Rofl  _{Femi, please my ribs are cracking} 

@topic, POVERTY! It knows no boundaries. This ain't no SURROGACY people. This is POVERTY DRIVEN!. No Nigerian woman on a good day will agree to have babies for random men for money let alone not knowing where the baby goes next from her womb.  Regarding the 'barren' couples, No Nigerian woman is empathic enough to have her child for another person. That's just it.

Poverty has stricken to the point of selling your 'life' for N130,000 just to survive. Yaradua, wake up!! your country and people are DYING! 

Rofl. . . Tiffy, is that you?