₦airaland Forum

Mccloud, I just expressed my idea of how we should approach friendship/making friends and probably keeping them. It wasn't a direct response to your story. 

@your story, it can be sad to loose "friends" when you loose what 'attracted' them initially but I still believe 1 or 2 would always stick around to help out. If yours all left then they were never friends. Sorry.

Was the man in the car with them or was he walking?

How many people face such charges in Nigeria? How many people have a driving license to start with? N200m say wetin happen? Puhlz!

Epi:
@poster

Good criticism or Bad criticism. Which one?

Fair criticism

I still don't understand the story How did Ibinabo cause the man's death?

I don't understand. Was the accident intentional?

Umm. . . I don't go looking for people for friendship but when I start talking to someone and they seem interested that's fine with me. I'm not saying I give chances to everyone that comes my way though.

I think the problem we usually have is taking off in the initial stage of friendship when may be the person has offended you in some way. We're usually not patient with people. We think they're "pathetic", "nosy", "weird" and so on. When we get passed that stage we tend to discover that we can actually be good friends with that person.
I think it takes maturity to look beyond assumptions and give room for change if need be.

I like to keep to myself too and don't like people wanting to know evrythin but really that's fine if you've got good friends. Kini big deal?

obyann:
I disagree with you here.

Some people criticize out of jealousy. I have this lady who spoiled my marriage with her critique. she doesn't know me too well, though I was to get married to her inlaw. Months later she came looking for my help.

U didn't marry the man eventually or what?

Femi, we both know the truth

pete:
@Radiant and Fhemmmy,
you both got very valid points.I'll be all means choose an African club, by the way I went to one way back in NY and it was off the chain, ,back on the subject, you choose base on individuals, but you just are unable to rule out the fact that, some stereotypes got some truth in them.
Don't judge a book by it's cover, but hey, you got to select your bookshop though, right?. As I had stated earlier, I love everybody,say hi when I see em,even sometimes offer assistance, but I don't do the big Nigerian "parapo" thing. I once had a license plate that read GREAT IFE, love Nigeria, but also love my peace. I once went to an all Nigerian church and come and see how they were fighting over rice, I was like really? in America?, lol, you got to be kidding me, love my people, I must add, but, hey, love my peace and sanity too. How about the Nigerian Progressive Union?, I attended once and it was like I was back in Ife, and its ALUTA continual, I was like, hey, I'm too old for this sh**t.

LOL

Fhemmmy:
yes u cld, but shd not be based on tribe, race or even ethnicity, but based on individual

If you were asked to choose between a Latino club and a Nigerian club which one would you choose to attend more often?

I wonder what Obama has got to do with Nigerian passport.

Nairaland

You've just described "wild" and "domestic" prostitutes. You're wrong since a prostitute is a prostitute. You should have discussed about the 20% non-prostitutes and the 80% prostitutes. That would have made sense. I love your stats though. Ewu

Nijasingh:
Anyway wetin u day look for here??  

The same thing weh carry you come

vincey:
Gals keep saying abuse, looks like they have no point here.

4 me, if a gal don sleep with more than 2 guys, thats it,

I will go look 4 another.

2 guys before or while married

furiban:
That's the problem with some pple,  they completely miss the whole lesson or point and rather choose to become inappropriate,

there can't be two pilots on a speed boat lest destine on collision course, partnership brings success, but if there is no unity I wonder how the partnership is going to work and my you as time passes it becomes more difficult

I get your message but of course I disagree with a few things. Besides, if you took time to know ur ex better and did all your research well you would have found out that she was also a "pilot" herself and perhaps we wouldn't be here discussing about a divorce and a new wife.

Bravo Osaze, Bravo Siasia

I would actually like to know if her sister is complaining or the poster is the one to decide who her sister marries. I understand she cares for her sister though but does her sister care too?

Orilee9ice:
@ fURIBURN, like i said, i feel u jare, 
@Radiant and chaircover, ok now, see their life in public, the other party now wants to stop divorce proceedings, hummmmmmmmmmmmm 

Only people like you will fall for this kinda bloke.

furiban:
Nonchalant how?   In the sense the other party has been discretely calling to see if "we" can get back and trying to block the divorce proceedings       as a colleague said           it is let slapping the full tank of a trailer to draw the attention of the driver             


@radiant            as earlier said this blog is for other people to learn from mistakes               and mind you not really strangers per se but I need not go into details lest the whole lesson would be lost in long boring story     just leaving it succinct           cheers!

You sound just like the wide gaps in your posts. Who takes pride in divorce anyway? Only you!

Good job.

chika98:
LOL ha haha ha ha ha ha ha ha
How many of you will really leave when he abuses you? Tell me ? How many of you?

For physical abuse, I'll leave for sure. It all depends on what you want for yourself. Would you live with a man that hits you?

furiban:
Thanks to you all, but guess no one in right frame of mind goes into marriage with intention of failure,       , these things do happen and you never know whom, when or where,        , it is pretty easy to point accusing fingers,      fair enough    but then again divorce is almost, always messy               regardless your situation always seek a legal advice and leave nothing to chance        there is a lot of misguided people (both male and female) out there         but a lifetime mistake like this takes a toll      though things have pretty much returned to normal for me         I wonder what will become of the other party          just out of sheer sympathy anyway        wish everyone the very best

Stop making ridiculous statements for common sense' sake! You're saying that picking a stranger for a wife is the same as courting and eventually getting married? Nonsense!

I wonder why you found someone close to ur ass this time. Thought you were nonchalant about who and where. The other party will be just as fine. She's probably worried about your sanity too  

chaircover:
How are you certain that he is Nigerian?

ubiaa5:
Is sexual assault,having a baby,being jobless,not speaking english clearly synonimous wit being nigerian.Any man irrespective of where he is from,could easily do evting uve said,nothing strange.

@Topic, it doesn't sound strange. In fact that's a very clear picture of the wrong man to marry irrespective of his country. (I mean if he sexually assaulted her)

Nijasingh:
Is this a ploy to find out his whereabout?? Is this what you are saying?? Not impossible but let us take her for her words and advise accordingly. If she finds him and makes it work then why not? If not then let her try at least before cutting the strings completely!!

Her request is for a divorce. If she was really serious to get it done with she wouldn't even think of placing ads. Who does that?