ifyalways:

@Radiant,accomodation issue is sorted.They have a place at Ayobo.They've not moved to Ayobo cos they feel if they move in now,people might assume their problems are over while in reality,accomodation with no source of income wud take them back to the streets again.

Yea I read that. Hopefully the guy will contact them soon.

Well done, Ify. U try no be small

Guys, I guess we have a plan now. . .

ifyalways:

Future Plans . . .

Mr Obuh says he wants to go into Timber biz.He was very passionate about that and when I tried to find out why,his response was that he was always wanted to sell timber.I asked him how much capital he thinks he would need to kick off,he said 150K but he can still start off with anything lessfanything he's offered.

Dupe wants a small provision store.She says it would give her time to manage and take care of the husband and kids and also ensure they have atleast food on the table daily.I asked her how much start up capital we are looking at,she asked the husband(LOL) and then replied 100K plus small Generator and Fridge.

Ohh  

What about accommodation? Are they willing to move out if we found somewhere good for them?

ifyalways:

Back. . .

Mr. Obuh said they did get and rejected Ogun state accomodation offer because "the place is not good" and a native doctor lives there.

The Ayobo room was paid for,2 years upfront by an annonymous donor who also promised them other things(biz) though they've not heard from him/her since then.

The Atm lady did not buy them stoves and buckets as reported.The lady came with a proposal instead.She wants them to use her account and re direct donors(including us) to assist them via her account.Mr Obuh rejected the offer and she left in annoyance.

There is/was no Ojota/Ikota accomodation offer.

Mr Obuh looks(to me) very sane and drug free.The wife,Dupe corroborated every thing he said.

Exactly why we needed one of us to go there and sit with them. Why would anyone want to live with a native doctor?

So, what did you decide with the family? As it is I think we should carry on with our plans for the family.

Many thanks[b] Ify.[/b]

ifyalways:

I would try and reach Monday Obuh again today.This time for a long chat and peep into his future(what he wants to do etc)If the enviroment is safe,I might get it on video or audio.

Would report back here later today.

Way to go babe. Many thanks! _{Waiting. .}

r231, good job!

Here's my 2p. . .

I am a pro-charity person. I love the whole idea of helping people in need and I commend this great initiative.

However, I would suggest we do things this way: "pass the basket for donation" each time we find people with genuine pressing needs. Because of how fast money can go ("I use am pay rent but no vex I go refund una" kind of stories) I don't advise we contribute all year long for it to be used annually.
We are very kind hearted people on NL and I'm sure if we have genuine cases people will donate to a good cause. We can have the charity set up and all that but only donate when we have a case.

In conclusion, count me in when a need arises and please count me out for the year long contributions

All the same, it's a great idea.

yamakuza:

lolz.

Doesnt work that way in Nigeria.

That is waaaaay out of our league, as Nairalanders.

Over to Fashola.

Meanwhile, we were thinking we could have your 2cents on the other thread?

Seriously, I don't think this man is sick upstairs. He just needs some 'talking to' so he can understand the extent to which people are willing to help him and his family. It's not a rush rush situation though someone else wouldn't have blinked before accepting the offers. People are different indeed.

Can 2/3 NLders go and visit them again and get the real gist of the current situation. I'm sure we can resolve this in no time if we have people to go for us.

_{Which thread?}

yamakuza:

what do u propose  we do, in the interim ?

Welcome aboard. Now you understand my stance.

If the guy is an addict then we should send him to rehab and while he's there let his family move into a safe environment and set up a business for the wife. That is if the man is mentally unstable.

tpia@:

@ radiant

^Not sure what you're getting agitated about.

So far, there's a an indication the man may have a drug addiction problem.

His insistence on receiving cash, his seeming indifference to the fact that his family is living under a bridge and his wife is expecting another baby soon, his avoiding the accommodation offered him- these are all pointers to the fact that substance abuse may be involved. In addition, his parents are there in lagos (he said) and the wife's family might also have their own side to tell.
Like i said, its a possibility which cant be ruled out.

If he's been doing odd jobs in the two years they seem to have been under the bridge, then the bulk of his income might have been used on a drug habit.

What is certain is this family needs help not just in the form of cash alone.
Some people might know what i'm talking about.

Agitated? Not sure why you have that impression. Are you telling me that you're not a bit confused about the whole situation. If you're not then please can you tell us what to do? Thanks. I don't pick money off the ground so I'm rather careful.
And yea I know they need more than just the cash. I said it before.

OAM4J:

Something is definitely wrong with his reasoning and until that is addressed, there is little or nothing anyone can do about his case. I am not in support of just giving him 100K to spend as he likes.

So we'll wait for him to go to rehab and back?

Hi Menek, how have you been? I'm sure you're a busy man now How's your business going? All the best dear

Naijasexy, thanks for the update

yamakuza:

What do you say?

So, does he want to remain under the bridge and have a business? That's why I said that whoever is reporting this news is not giving all the details.

I suggest we find out where he wants to live with his family, move them and set up a business for him. I doubt if he's bent on the building materials business. I'm sure he has other options. Someone needs to sit down and chat with the family. Please don't say beggars don't have a choice.

I remember in Menek's case. We didn't advise him to do provisions business instead of his dream to run a pharmacy. He wanted to run a pharmacy and we made that happen for him. (Haven't been on that thread in ages ) We can also do the same for this man. We're all willing to help just a bit confused atm

Man never chop na drug hin wan use?. . . na wa for una o. What about those people living on water in that same Lagos? I watched the Puff Puff seller in her Canoe on CNN the other day. Couldn't be more embarrassing! Those ones are on drugs too? I hear una. . .

LadyT:


So your first statement also applies to you too abi?

No long story. What are we doing for this family? We need to define a purpose and not just donate without a genuine plan with the family. The initial plan was to pay for accommodation, school fees and health care. I loved the idea and quickly showed interest. However, with the developing story we're a bit confused as to what exactly we still want to do. I just want to know what we are doing and I'm not trying to tell the family what to do.

_{Nigerians and the way they force people to do what they say when someone is at their mercy.}

The developing story doesn't make sense tbh. Why will he reject the offers? Someone is not reporting this story exactly the way it is.

I wish I could visit this family. They sure need some kind of therapy. Someone needs to explain to them that where they live is not safe and conducive if nothing else. His wife is pregnant. He needs to understand all the risks involved. That little 2 year old can't grow under a bridge   The man doesn't want to leave his comfort zone. Talk about fear of the unknown!

Anyway, because I work very hard for my money I will not be making any donation just yet until I'm sure what the money will be used for. Accommodation, business, school fees, feeding and upkeep, etc ? Or, if you guys decide you want to donate to an Orphanage or Motherless Babies in December that's fine with me. I will make my own donation in December if we're still up for this plan B then.

I think the best thing is for us to have an account where we can pay in the money. With the latest development, if there are people who are still willing to help this family then they can go ahead and contribute. The only thing is that people might change their mind on the amount they want to give. But whichever way, every little helps. (Tesco ) if we can still send the 300,000 to them it will only better their lives. We shouldn't hold back since people are willing to help.

r231, crack on.

Come on guys! This family needs all the money possible. Moving them into a house isn't the only solution to their problem. That's just one problem out of the way.

Odunnu, if you know any family that needs urgent assistance why don't you bring the story to NL? You don't expect people to donate money for something they know nothing about regardless of whether we know people live under the bridge or not.

Great!

There is no a/c yet where the money can be paid in from what I've read so far. I will visit regularly for updates so I can send my own contribution.

Thanks to all those who are also willing to contribute. What a turn around this will be for this family. Bless!

r231, how smart of you. Thanks dear.

This story is so sad. And that poor child!   My heart bleeds for this family  

I'm willing to contribute. How much are we looking to raise?

I showed my bro the pic and asked him to guess who the 'lady' was. *_{Fasten your seat belts*} He said it was First lady, Patience Jonathan. . . 

medjai, r u Paddy or u copied n pasted?

Is he the only Adenuga child roaming the streets of Lagos or do they all move with armed policemen?

jennykadry:

Not that I have stated it, have I?

You don't have to. It's obvious. . .

I won't be surprised if Omotola comes out in 2012 to fight rumours that she asked her husband to have her back. As long as they're happily married and not just staying married I'm cool.

jennykadry:

Can you prove this? or just assumptions as usual

Just the same way you can't prove the reverse

Sicherheit:

You think any self respecting Nigeria man will agree to option B?
This isn't America. 

Ohh it took him a while to swallow his pride. Many Nigerian men will do the same. The lady will know how to play the game though. Don't tell me you need a smack to wake up!  

I'm not saying she is guilty of anything. I'm only saying that she musta begged and convinced her hubby to 'clear the air'. Who doesn't wish them well?
The man seems to love more attention than his wife. *yawnnnnnnnnnn*

There are two possibilities here.

1. The man sincerely means what he said.

2. Omotola has asked him to say all this to cover up and shut the 'rumour mongers'.

*yawn*

kandiikane:

Pay as you go?

Not at all. My supplier is Utility Warehouse.

Come on guys! My gas and electricity have never been more than £80/month (London) even in winter when all my heaters are on and I don't share a flat/house with anybody.

N101:

men bring as much drama into marriage as women. 

I need to give you a handshake. Bang!