₦airaland Forum

ammamat:
We did that thru kiss icon,

I thought you said he didn't reply you 'cause he was offline. Anyway. . .

Umm. . .you can post all the mails you exchanged with him but if you don't confront him and get this shit sorted then you're as good as fetching water with a basket.

. . . . _{prolly a transgendered} 

ammamat:
The most painful part of it is that i tried chating with him in my original e-mail he refuse to reply coz he appear to be offline

And When we exchange some kisses, he sent me a text telling me how He loves me

How did you exchange kisses

mbulela:
read the entire thread,then ask specific questions.

Didn't want to. That's why I asked for a briefing.

He didn't say that did he?!

mi2009:
Sometimes I find him staring at me, like he is deep in thought. He has done that more than once.

I'm sure in his mind he's like what the heck is this woman doing! Doesn't she get the point!

I appreciate your concern but I still wish to know what happened.

mi2009:
Could he be a good man involved in two fail marriages, possible. Could he be a bad man using people for his own selfish pleasure, possible. Sometimes he can be very sweet and at other times there's a selfish side of him. I know that no relationship is perfect and being hurt is part of life.

These to me are excuses. How would you describe the above?

OAM4J:
All I will say is, if you love him marry him.

In as much as he is not enforcing these values on you, I think it is cool.

It's not all about "if you love him marry him". She has a problem with him "enforcing" housewife values on her. Did you read her posts well?

Remii:
Ibo and money, kidnapping na the new business now, because Akunyili don dabaru fake drugs market, na wa ooo, lol

Did you have to mention that? Why d'u people act this way? Not nice at all.

What's with the Dele guy? Someone brief me please.

mi2009:
I don't fault him for the first wife because she left him, according to him. But we all know that there is two side to a story. The second wife I think he should have not married her for papers. I think that was very wrong of him. Could he be a good man involved in two fail marriages, possible. Could he be a bad man using people for his own selfish pleasure, possible. Sometimes he can be very sweet and at other times there's a selfish side of him. I know that no relationship is perfect and being hurt is part of life. My thought is a sit back and observe him more. I am going to spend time away from until I see what he is really after, if he is even after something.

We women often make excuses for men. I really don't know why it's so. We see a spade but we can't call it a spade. Dear, our gut instincts are never to be ignored. If it doesn't feel right it almost always don't turn out right but we hardly harken to our inner voice.

I guess your plan is good enough. Just make sure you make the right decision at the end of the day.

Nice

bawomolo:
does this include cases of rape and incest? what if the woman's health is at risk?

Theses are exceptions na. Must every thing be explained like we're babies!

It's not getting better, huh?

Isn't this supposed to be in the joke section?

mi2009:
I agreed Radiant. I was commenting on one of the comments made. Radiant, why are some so negative on this site?

Well, we've got all sorts of characters on board. Good, bad, positive, encouragers,haters    Don't take it to heart though. It could get worse than you're just seeing. Just relax 

bluespice:
are u that desperate?
is your guy that dumb?

Are you the hammer I've been looking for?

mi2009:
Every relationship with a Nigerian will not turn out bad. If it does, it's just a learning experience. That can happen with any relationship from anyplace. I can read books. I can ask him questions, but it's better when you ask questions from people who are part of the culture.

It's not a Nigerian thing to have bad relationships. People have their different cultures and some hold firmly to their traditions that nobody can separate them from it. It's not a Nigerian thing. It's everywhere.

Or what exactly are you asking?

Almost everyone I know is on board. A full mad house indeed.

_{*Just thinking*} . . .If my ex sent me a mail with a different address I would actually suspect something fishy.

The dude didn't even say anything about the change of address and didn't even sound shocked/excited to hear from her. Did he actually send his ex a mail? If no, how come he didn't react to this? Or may be he did send a mail. . . lol

Anyway, two can play the game.

Not again! Not again!!

How do NLders have the power to dissect a personality and intentions of a person they don't know? You guys beat me to this game for real.

I mean, a man with a history of failed marriages is a no go area. You've been with him for 8 months you say, haven't you seen enough handwritings on the wall that will help you make up your mind on this man?
You don't sound like you want marriage or you don't want to be a house wife. Why don't you tell him that and leave the r/ship since that's all he wants- a house wife? Trust me, if he's traditional like you say he's just gonna remain that way. Them kinda people hardly change. So, the earlier you decide, the better.

Besides, he's free to marry from any country and not obliged to marry from his own country. He already told you that Nigerian women are not romantic. Well, that's his reason and doesn't mean bad of him anyway. People and their choices.

davidylan:
Africans never cease to amaze me . . . we even discriminate according to skin color.

Ain't that the gist these days! Pathetic.

ellagold:
Please take it easy I am really not in support of your man attitude but you need to really assess the situation frankly before taking a major decison about it , a wise woman build her home. Remain blessed

Yea, you don't want a finger stuck in ur eye for too long 'cause you just might loose your sight. All na wisdom.

Trying to say sum'n?

Khaki suppose separate from leather. If they're "celebrities" then they should live up to their status.

They should start by cleaning their shoes and sandals first if they can't afford new ones

Always leave a space before putting them smileys otherwise they won't show