op is very correct, especially with number 6, infact my current girlfriend is a proponent of don't lay ur egg in one basket mindset & she also adds that a guy in a relationship does not have a right on a girl to be faithful to him & that she can give her prized possession to anyone she so desire, to make matters worst, she always says it to my face when we discuss. When i add to it that it also applies to we guys also, that we are also free to sample different girls, her mood changes. One thing i notice about this is that it is now a mantra of most girls these days.If you as a girl have this kind of mentality, then how do you expect we guys to trust you girls in marriage to be able to be faithful to us? As for me that is a complete turn-off for me from a girl i'll love to walk down the aisle with.

please i need good idea on a business i can start here in Nigeria with 500k as capital, am currently in benin & i don't mind relocating to any part of the country where that business can better flourish.

don4real:


You must be from Edo state. Benin to be precise

geez, how did you know that? thats the truth and the girl is also a bini girl.

obataokenwa:
bro life in school and after school are never the same. enjoy school runs with focus on ur result more and who Knows God's plan for u after. For now, Love dey shack u and school love is characterised more with jealousy and presently u will be a monitoring spirit on her.... one of the signs that you're not yet matured for marriage.

thanks bro for this your wonderful advice, you are the best.

bezimo:
Some folks would say she is playing home and away match.lol

I rebuke that dumb spirit of muguness from you, better starting looking for another girl, because you are in state of "awaiting discharge".

She has the gut to call an ex in your presence, your mugginess deserve award.
Mugu man of the year.hahaha.

lolz am not the mugu in this case, it's the ghana guy that is the mugu, she collect this money for the both of us to spend especially for this xmas outing that we planned to attend.

obataokenwa:
I did exactly that in my days in school. we lived together and the main guy knows me as brother to her. today they are married with two kids and I've moved on.

aww so sorry about that, that is the same mistake i don't want to make hence my making up my mind to hit and run, not allowing myself to get attached to her again

Successjoy:
Joe the best thing you can DO for her is to say your mind. I don't buy the idea of you using her for sex. If you love then let her just go. Success is the best revenge not using her as sex mmachine. I experienced this while in school last year. This guy used me for food, exam, assignments while I was foolishly in love. Later I ggot to know the truth. But thank God I refuse sex no matter how much he pressured me. I would have been miserable after we brokeup. Rght now i am doing my best to achieve my dreams. Just let her go then work hard to be successful. Forget about sex machine revenge. Thanks

thanks alot, she just called me and i asked her if she is still faithful to me, she told me why ask all these questions that she is more than faithful to me anytime anyday. thanks for your advice dear

NkayTiana:
Can God heal a broken heart?

yes, i believe there is nothing God cannot do.

creepsyme:
why willl u leave her? u too get like 2 distant or close relationship as plan b, meanwhile dont take her seriously anymor just keep her for F..u..cckk...inn.. purpose and make sure u protect urself.

omg! i can't believe a girl is advicing me like this, u are a rare gem.

creepsyme:
why willl u leave her? u too get like 2 distant or close relationship as plan b, meanwhile dont take her seriously anymor just keep her for F..u..cckk...inn.. purpose and make sure u protect urself.

omg! i can't believe a girl is advicing me like this, u are a rape gem.

For the records, am not dependent on her, what happened was that both of us were broke, and we both planned to go out this december, so she decided to ask this ghana dude money for us but the guy has a surprise for her, both of them are not financially okay too, infact the one in italy is still in refugee camp, he has nt sent her anything before, only this ghana boy has been able to send he 50ghc thrice and he is nt financially stable yet.

sibepoc:
She loves you, but if you want her to make you her priority, u have to try to be successful like those guys. Try to be independent without her help and if possible help her financially, this u can do when u thru with school. Don't drop her.. Cos she's spent more time with u, so she definitely loves u more than them. Take it or leave it. Just try to be financially buoyant enough and u will completely win her heart. She will completely block them off her life cos of u.

yap, she told me that herself, the thing is both of us are still in school.

Ezeego1:



You get luck say I no dey house.


Mumu you dey Bleep person daughter for her papa house. Smh!

lolzzz bro no be me first start am o, she do am once with this ghana guy, na e make me get that mind to do her, she tell me abt all her sex encounter with them. she dey Bleep dis guy sef 4 outside when people don sleep. me i do her twice her papap hux.

kelzgie:

No read o...dey find woman up and down...na beta CO dey wait u ....

bro, am an excellent student, chasing woman as u call it does not affect my grades at all and she is also bright academically, iron sharpeneth iron.

Blueeyedboi:
..You need to get your acts together and take control of things...she shouldn't be picking your bills..that's a sign of weakness...that's why she treats you like 5hit...you lose your honour and respect the moment a woman starts paying your bills..get that into your head...do you think she'll pick your call if she's with the ghana guy?...if you think so then I'm sorry cos I dunno of any doctor that can help...

bro it's not as if she is the only one that does the spending, we do joint spending, we i have money i spend it for us, when she has, same thing but the thing is that she do have money more than i do. as for her not picking my calls when the ghana guy is there, i dnt care, she calls me alot, like every 1 hour of the day. infact as i was typing this, i just received her call

mikidon:
stupid boy .go tommorow and bang that bitch.she thinks shes smart outsmart her so that she go know where she dey.accept all her help but e nur mean say u go marry am

my bro thanks alot, ur advice is well taken

einsteine:
Op, just one question, are you lashing her?

bro i do lash her like mad, we virtually stay 2geda in school, infact i lashed her at her parent house wednesday and thursday.

Blueeyedboi:
Dude forget that story about her spending money on you..I know you cooked that one up to justify not leaving her cos from the look of things you're the one that's actually love struck..heck that's why you opened this thread in the first place..she answers her boyfriend's call right in your face..each time that happens you end up heart broken...all she does to pacify you is to rub your head and you wag your tail like a loyal puppy and everybarry is happy all of a sudden like nothing happened..smh

jeeez. how did u know these? you are a prophet. that is exactly how it happens bro. God am amazed right now. the only part that is not true is her not giving me money, she do give me money, she also buys me clothes.

Nma27:
Assistant boyfriend, that's what u are dear. I seriously detest people playing with one's emotions. Anyway, you'll still love again.

thank you dear, i appreciate ur advice

blackaxe78:
2,6,8,12 and even 16 can play the game


No problem...keep chopping her till u re done...No chase am o...bang the "V" out of her Vagina

brotherley, ur head is there.

tcheezy:
[tell your self the truth, you dont even love this girl, you are in that relationship because your are broke, you are the one cheating her, you Bleep and at the time take her money.quote author=Ralphjoe post=52225790] am already attached to her but i believe i can leave her at any moment without blinking an eyelid, the day i saw the message on her phone that she love her boyfriend in ghana, i cried and cried like a baby, thatz the day i stopped getting attached to her.

bro i so much love this girl, the day the whole thing became crystal clear to me was the day i checked her whatsapp me where she confess to still love the guy, that was the day my love reduced for her drastically. right now i still love her but i don't want to be broken hearted.

cricifixo:
Bros as long as she dey give u kpekus and money just stick to her like a parasite to its host

my real chairman, na true talk u yarn so, i go chin gum her for those things.

Masterclass32:
There's no way she's going to give you her 100%. She has two other guys (that she really loves) on stand-by. Talking to them in your presence means you are not her number one. She doesn't repsect you that much. YOU ARE DISPOSABLE. She's flexing with you ''on the interim'' as these other guys are not around.

Apologizing to you means nothing. I bet you she speaks to them behind your back. You'll keep hurting yourself. I've seen this countless times. And any relationship where you are not sure of your place, always worried your partner may disappear any minute is toxic, and should be discontinued asap. Its easier said than done, though. But stay longer and you'll start second-guessing urself and watch your self-esteem begin to crash.

Unless you are in it for the sex, no strings attached, then no wahala. But, If you want something deeper, u might have to look elsewhere.

If you can - just go.

my brother, ur analysis made me speechless, why haven't i reason like this before, i wanted to take the relationship serious before but now itz going to be for the sex. thanks for ur candid advice bro, more money to ur bank account bro

stan241:



I get you man, in the long run you'd be better off for it to be honest, i like to believe that there is someone out there for everyone so just focus on yourself for now, you'd be surprised how all these things usually turn out in the end, your woman is out there and you'd come across her when the time is right.

thanks boss, i appreciate that

go to nnebisi road opp stadium, they are there, i used to see them there

stan241:
For your own sake,its best you end the whole thing entirely, i mean you both are in the same department which in almost 99.9% of the time doesn't work out talk more of all the other baggage she's carrying around, end it now and start all over, you deserve to be the one and only option of your partner not just some stop gap or a rebound.

bro thanks for that, the most important thing in my life now is to make it and not woman issues, i am an orphan so i have to work towards achieving something in life. But if i later found a girl that will love me for me, why not, but for now it's not a priority.

@lalasticlala, please help me take this topic to fp, i need more advice from good nairalanders

funkyibodude:
it's in your hands bro

thanks bro

Right now, she and her mother are begging me to come and visit her on xmas day tommorrow, i don't want to go coz i don't want a situation whereby the boy and i will meet. i make up excuses and the mother still insists i come see them tommorrow, am going to really dissappoint them big time.

the worst part is that she tells me everything that goes on between them as i am nt around, she told me that he took her out, they went to market together. Her parents are aware of what is going on because they know me very well, infact i slept at their house for four days, from monday to friday, i left there yesterday. we(she and i) sleeps in her room together althrough out my time there and we made love right there in her parent house for two days.

funkyibodude:
all the best bro, just don't want you to get attached to her because you don't know when and how you'll start falling and by then its too late. unless God designed her for you. But be smart (talking from experience)

am already attached to her but i believe i can leave her at any moment without blinking an eyelid, the day i saw the message on her phone that she love her boyfriend in ghana, i cried and cried like a baby, thatz the day i stopped getting attached to her.