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funkmrflexx:
We Have Been Dating For 1 Year and 6 months now. I’ve met her parents, we wanted to get married last year but her dad told me to wait till she finishes school which is supposed to be next year. I’m 25 years old and she’s 22 .

I live alone in the city while my mom lives in the village. My younger sister who I’m sponsoring through school sometimes comes to my place during holidays and weekends. My girlfriend practically lives with me because she comes from a type of an Abusive family. So she lives with me and I even assist her with school fees and house rents sometimes. I’ve spent even more than her father for her school.

Everyone In my family knows her and she’s a very wonderful girl. Typical wife material. She supports me every time even when I’m broke. I’m not the type of guy that dates a lot of girls . I don’t even cheat on her. Since I met her I’ve done away with a lot of ladies. I’m 100% committed to the relationship

But the problem is that she Has very bad anger issues. I mean she can destroy your property when she’s angry and I’m the quiet type. I don’t like hitting a lady execpt once in a while a general brain resetting slap. When she starts she doesn’t listen to anyone. Not me, not even her parents. So anytime she’s angry like this I will just find a way to make her laugh. Both of you can just be eating and she will get angry if you ate the fleshy part of the meat and left oily part for her (we have quarreled because of that I mean serious quarrel) . Sometimes I get tired of the whole situation. At the end even when she’s wrong I’ll let her for peace to reign. So I try to manage the anger at home so it shouldn’t go out

So we went to visit my mom in the yesterday. Because of curfew we slept over. So my mom bought us mangos this morning and told us to carry.

My girlfriend then said she doesn’t like mango that if I want to eat my mango I should carry it myself. Then my mom (she is the type that always shouts at every body. The real wahala woman) told her that if she can’t carry the mango then she should just put it on my head for me to carry na (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na).

That was the only thing my mom said. Then she sparked. Started shouting at my mom. That she should stop talking to her like that, that she doesn’t like it. In fact she’s going home. So she carried her bag and started going home. Every one in the compound started saying it’s ok (Na dat thing why dem tell u Dey make u Dey vex so) she was still shouting. I was even try to calm her down but no way. She was still shouting. Even my sister who had never seen her angry before became angry (na so you b? She said). I was really disappointed In her

The issue is what even made me angry is how she reacted. If she didn’t like what my mom said made her angry. At least she should have waited till we got home (this was the first time we were both sleeping over) then she would tell me. Or she could have called my sister and told her what my mom said. After all the fracas, she went inside the room till we left. I just told everybody to just leave her.

So when we got home I told her what she did was wrong that she shouldn’t have reacted like that. Na there war start. She started yelling and shouting at me that if my mom talks to everyone like that she won’t take it (my plan was to tell her that she should apologize to her. Because my mom already apologized that she won’t talk to her again like that. Which I know she will o . So we can just forget about the issue. But she never accepts she’s wrong ) She said I took her to my village to intimidate her in front of my family people, I was really angry and called her uncle and told him what happened. He said there was nothing wrong with what my mom told her (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) and that he would talk to her .

I even scolded my mom before I left that I didn’t like what she said what she did that’s she was just causing issue. My girlfriend said when my mom said the word (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) that I should have immediately rebuked my mom. But me sef no see anything wrong with what my mom said( If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

I just Dey follow her uncle advise and leave her be until she calms down and I talk to her

So my people what’s offensive in this word? If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

But this her attitude don tire me. Break up is not on the card for me at least not yet. She always thinks that they are other guys out there because she has a lot of toasters but I know they can’t do quarter of what I’m doing for her. In this modern time it’s difficult to see a guy who will allow his girlfriend stay with him thereby losing his freedom to do certain things. A guy who doesn’t cheat, a guy who takes care of her does everything for her .

I just think the things she went through in her family is affecting her physiological. And sometimes when I think about leaving her I feel pity because she can’t go back to her parents house.

It will end it tears for you or your family members if you don't run for your life....If I call you omo ale (bastard) for scolding your Mom because of one yeye girl now, you go dey vex

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Supredible:
We started dating last year and the relationship was moving fine. I realize that anytime we have misunderstanding, especially serious ones.. She'll always threaten to hurt me spiritually. There was a time last year when we were just discussing, she said she's not ordinary like she has a sort of connection or belongs to the marine/water kingdom. I actually got the message but we were already dating then. I wouldn't have started any relationship with her if she has told me before we started dating. I didn't even know if she's saying the truth or trying to scare me . So she came to my side by Feb to spend some days and I mistaken stumbled upon her chat where she was sex chatting and sending nudes to her ex. I reacted immediately and she started begging. I was really hurt and disappointed. I later realize she still really love her ex despite the fact that the guy to maltreat her the guy even dates other ladies. She said we won't do it again but i find it difficult to forget because d sexchat was mad... Coupled with her nude. Few weeks later, she started complaining, nagging and saying a lot of annoying things then i reminded her about the sexchat i saw on her phone. Then she started saying why do i have to remind her of something that has happened in the past, do i think i can have sex with her and leave, she will "show me pepper" I will regret it, she will not forgive me, she will punish me.. Guys that cheated her before are now regretting and begging her depite the fact that she was the one that cheated and bleeped up.

I told her i didn't cheat her, she cheated on me and i'm not in anyway afraid of her, "anything wey she want make she do".

I actually love her and plan a future with her but with her cheating attitude and constant threat, i cant take it anymore.. i have planned to end the relationship for the sake of my sanity.

How many of you guys have been in this kind of relationship and how did you handle it? I need advice nairalanders, thanks.

1. Don't break up with her.. Just keep drawing back from her.
2. Don't ever try to sleep with her again... When she gets tired, she would take her ogbanje elsewhere.... No give her attention again. Just pick her calls and talk to her like a normal friend

Tell her it's too late... Use your head, and not your ddddkkk

Beautykate:
I am writing to ask if you can help me to persuade my husband to do less around the house. I am worried that he is going to make himself ill from exhaustion. Also, and it is hard for me to say this to him without being hurtful, I married him for his fun personality not his work ethic and I fear I am losing him to domestic drudgery. I want an equal partner, not a slave.

We have a toddler and a baby, born few months ago. During the pregnancy, I was quite tired and run down and my darling, supportive husband started to do more and more around the house and with our son (and despite a full-time, responsible job, he has always done more than his fair share of housework). I am now breastfeeding the baby, which is tough because he barely stops feeding and won't really nap anywhere except in my arms.

So this leaves my husband doing the shopping, tidying, washing and cooking. He gets up at 6am every morning to get our toddler ready for nursery, with a packed lunch, and he drops him off before he can get himself off to work. Meanwhile, I just sit around feeding the baby!

I feel permanently guilty and as if the only way I will get my husband to do less is if I do more. The thing is that I can walk away from mess and he can't.

I hugely appreciate him helping, but, beyond the basics, would rather see him sleeping or even cuddling me on the sofa rather than trying to be on top of everything. I love my husband – he is truly the sweetest, most loving, most wonderful lover and father, but I find myself resenting the fact that I barely see his fun side these days because he is so tired that he is essentially ill – and I can't help thinking it is at least partly self-inflicted

Wetin women want

God please forgive me... These people should stop living like �����

Trayceey:
Fellow nairalanders,

I have a pressing issue on ground and I need your contribution. My boyfriend has been working for about 5 years now. We've been dating for a while now and he has been so nice and caring. The best ever.

In my past experience in relationships, I have been quite generous but the guys turned out to be ingrates so I vowed never to give any boy my penny again.

When I met my man, he melted my hardened heart with the love he showered on me. On one occasion, I have borrowed him money and he paid me back. Now he's asking me to borrow him another money. Because of this lockdown, he has gone so broke and he opened up to me. Initially, I did not believe him but when I noticed he has run out of food stuffs and the provisions he normally stock his house with, I believed him. I have more than enough money. The money he's asking for is like chicken change to me. But I don't want him to get used to borrowing from me and I have vowed never to give a guy my money again except if he's my husband.

Please I need advice. Fellow ladies like me, what do you think? Should I borrow him?

Chai... I pity your life. Something that you could've decided on yourself, you still bring it here. Moreover, it's just money to get foodstuffs. Stop being a selfish being

Hmmm

RIP to the dead

SinisterX:
Coronavirus: A Facebook User’s Experience Of Getting Tested In Abuja

ATTENTION: PRESIDENCY & FED. MINISTRY OF HEALTH

To tell you the truth, NCDC can't do anything for you because they are not ready.
All this PR they are doing they are assuming people will not try that's why.
On Wednesday (25/03/2020) I and a colleague of mine decided we want to be sure of our status before going into #selfisolation.

So we went through the following steps

1. We called the toll free line and after all the normal recorded stories, when we chose to speak to an agent they end the call.

2. We went to University of Abuja Teaching Hospital, Gwagwalada, they told us they don't do testing there, that the hospital is only an isolation center. They refer us back to NCDC office in town, told us that's where testing lab is.

3. We drove to NCDC office at Jabi. There are two NCDC offices there in close proximity. The first office told us they don't do testing but they directed us to the second office saying that's where testing is handled.

4. The second office too absolved themselves of that responsibility and directed us to NCDC National Reference Laboratory, Gaduwa.

5. We visited the NCDC NRL. On getting there, the security at the gate informed us that a lot of people were there too earlier in the day and were turned away. That they don't do testing for individuals unless your state took your sample and submit to them.

6.They refer us to a circular posted at the gate and told us to contact the FCT Epidemiology team lead on COVID-19.

7. When I called him I introduced myself by name and then asked him if he's the FCT team lead on this issue. He answered yes. I then asked him how do I go about getting tested. He asked who are you? Who gave you my number? I told him I'm an Abuja resident and his number is on a circular at the NCDC office. He told us he doesn't know. He said we should go to NCDC. I told him but they referred us to you. He was silent. I then asked him to advise us. He told us to go to "National Health Disease Control" which doesn't exist.

I will send a copy of the circular to this forum.

Obviously they are doing selective testing which is dangerous.

It means a lot of people might have been infected already but for lack of testing they are moving about infecting others.

While the information from the official channels are saying people are not coming forth, the truth is that people are going but are been turned away.

And I know because I was turned away first hand.

It also tells you that either the NCDC are lying to us or they are not coordinated at all. How will you explain three branches of the office each denying responsibility and pointing us to the next instead of just explaining to us the laid down procedures by the NCDC

https://m.facebook.com/673827759324224/posts/3897292313644403/

Drag their ass. On twitter, they will reach out to you themselves

Tife556:
I wasn't fighting for the food...the woman was raining insults at me...I can't keep shut in that situation

You weren't fighting for the food, but you told her you were already eating and you can't release the food anymore

Tife556:
I was at a party today with my bf ..it was his cousin's wedding... After everything and it was time for food at the reception... My bf was greeting some guests and the caterer sharing the food brought me rice...I just took a spoon and behold I saw a woman behind the caterer saying the food isn't for me.. I told her am eating already I can't release the food anymore... Then she began shouting at the caterer before I knew it..people were gathering and I politely told her to leave the caterer alone since she made a mistake but she faced me instead....I was furious and we rained insult on each other..my bf had to drag me away from there...
He took me outside and said all sorts of things to me , even called me a glutton without knowing what really happened...And he said he was tired of my eating attitude and needed a break ..The painful part was when he said all the food I eat goes to waste without it showing in me..I was really hurt and I left there angrily...but I was really ashamed because his mum was there....
I admit I eat a lot but I just can't control my urge for food...
I don't know if I should be angry or apologize to my bf ...
Someone pls help me

You should've let go of the food to avoid embarrassment...ordinary food o

Doyin400l:
So I was planning to relocate to Lagos. I got a job late last month and the pay is 65k. There is a free staff bus to and fro.

My question is it advisable to take this job after staying at home for almost 2 years?

Factor is cost of living in a city like Lagos..

Note: I have my side hustle giving me at least 35k monthly

Any advice?

See this ungrateful being.... I know a lot of people that earn 30k in lagos

Very stupid question

Casalindaa:
Hello guys I’m here again with my life. I have been more like trouble of recent with happening going on back front, you all are a little familiar with my story. Here is the recent one. My fiancé sister have been having difficulty conceiving due to ovulation problems ( ovarian insufficiency), she has reach out to me asking if I could help with my egg since I will be soon marry to the family. But I have been skeptical about the whole request my fiancé has now mounted pressure on me that I should help out but I got mixed feelings about this whole request.

Now he is saying I dnt love his family and that I am been selfish with my egg. And one more thing that he is doubting my love for him. Please guys help me here I honestly need help

I'm tired of seeing your posts here... It's not by force to trend on NL dear... Find something better to do with your life and stop cooking up stories.... No sane person will bring all his/her problems to NL like you always do

Casalinda:
Hello guys, are there any chances that I will get this virus my partner released his sperm inside me. I am not yet on prep yet are mine safe?? We want to have baby and it is not yet 48hours yet.
Should I take prep even tho he said I should not be afraid that he is undetectable. Doctors in the house help me

The day he sees all these your crazy topics on NL, that's the day he would break up with you

Oracle55:
Hello nairalanders I need your advice, I have been dating this girl 8 months now she is pretty which Is one of the quality that made me like her, first time I met her her first request was her birthday gift which I monetized and gave her, she came for a visit and stayed 3 weeks she cooks very well though she can't cook a pot of meal if I didn't give her 3k upwards that shows she can't manage very well but her quest for money is too high, she complained for her hostel fee which is #160,000 of which I gave her half she didn't even say thank u to me rather she complained and asked where she was gonna a see the remaining half,,it hurt me so much that the 80,000 I gave her she didn't appreciate, I scolded her for that and she said she was sorry, today she send me a picture of a dress and told me this is what she wants for her value gift,,pls ladies here is it proper for u ladies to tell a guy straight what u need for your call? I thought it's a surprise gift,,and I am planning to marry this lady pls what is your advice should I quit or go ahead though my siblings told me she is out for my money

She's on a cashing out level

Set awon hole-lo-show

A lot of guys would do it for 10k

Too bad most of our young girls want something bigger than their family( elaborate wedding)... See as they took advantage of nysc and did their wedding on a low key.... God bless their union

dairykidd:
No nor be JT matter feeling like i just used her which is strange. I never feel guilty.... but then she was the one who left

Treat her right when she calls back, and always try to appreciate every moment she spends with you

It's your John Thomas that's making you feeling guilty... Your John Thomas wan chop

2020 ko, 3030 ni.... Where's yar'adua's vision 2020 after a decade?

GreetMe:
China has a history of not accurately reporting outbreaks, so it's hard to know exactly what is happening, especially with no free press, internet, etc.

China's massive response is VERY telling and strongly suggests that the CoronavirusOutbreak is VERY bad, especially in Wuhan.

UN has been begging China not to lie about the figure, but am sure china is not giving the accurate figures

Oluwaye copy and paste I hail you o

This skit is bae

anuma1:
Please I need your Candid Advice my fellow Nairalander's. I joined Nairaland on July 03 2014. So nairaland is like my second home. mean while ignore my typo. Error.
I met this girl three years ago, she is not that pretty but because of her so called caring and calls I was in love with her, since then any time she comes around ( I stay in awka she stay in owerri). she will be going through my phone as if she is a saint. she don't want see me interact with my female friends even the ones I knew before her. she goes through my whatsapp my Sms etc. The day I tried going through her phone we dragged the phone for about 20 minutes and she started explaining. To cut the story short. Her phone was faulty Eailier this year so she's has been using her mothers phone to make calls. So she told me the she will be travelling to Abuja today (Jan 22 2020) that She will come to my on Monday to take a phone because I deal on phones and Accessories here in Awka, so finally she came on Tuesday that was (21 January 2020) So she came to my shop and I gave her a phone. My annoyance was That Immediately I gave her a phone calls started coming in form different persons. I told her "I know that is because of this phone you came to see me " she smile and I asked her " So you did not tell these people calling to buy phone for you abi" she replied why are mine insulting her and I was like I am insulting you now abi. But the one wey vex me pass was when a line called her "kene was the name" so music was playing in my shop so the person ask her " That place is very noisy where are you and she replied " I went to some where to charge my phone " and I was dumb--- I was like -- Eh my shop, is where you are charging your phone pulse the phone I gave you. I was so heart broken my heart was bleeding I felt like a fool. after the call she started telling me that it was her cousin bla bla bla bla bla. when we got home I treated her to swear with a Bible she started telling me a different story that kene is who she dated before that the guy likes calling her. and she said " You know that she's a girl and she's not married yet so guys admire her. And I replied "So guys admire you and you don't want me to admire others girls. and she knelt down begging and shadding fake tears. and I also threatened her to swaer for me with the bible that since she left my house on December 7 that she has not had sex and she was like I should forget all these and was forming fake tears. so when she bathing I came to the bathroom telling her to tell me the truth and I forcefully turned her face only to find out that she was busy laughing. So morning I took her to the GUO park in Awka here. My face was not smilling and and she asked said this one my face is like this are my missing her and I replied " I don't miss you even a bit " and she said swear and I was like If I miss you make I die. Immediately fake tears started dropping from her eyes. I left her and fine my way home. I don't want again. How do I discharge her. please this is my main account. My brother , my dad and my In-laws are in this forum too but there is no need to create a new account because na my matter. Your Advice please

Hope you collected the phone from her o? Because I will be pissed with you if you didn't collect it

A lot of women deliberately get pregnant to trap men

Lagos is fun, but the crazy traffic is hell.... I once entered Lagos very late, and I didn't feel it. All I did was to visit the club at festac First gate.. I spent the whole night there having fun. I didn't even know when it was 6:30am

CAPSLOCKED:
MARRIAGES FAIL WHETHER SINGLE MOM OR NOT.

FROM YOUR NOTE I'VE CONCLUDED THAT YOU WERE THE PROBLEM IN YOUR MARRIAGE. THERE'S A CHANCE YOU KEPT DOING THE UNTHINKABLE, EXPECTING HER TO WORSHIP YOU BECAUSE YOU BELIEVE IT'S A FAVOUR YOU'RE DOING HER BY BEING WITH HER.

I'M HAPPY FOR HER WHOEVER SHE IS. PEOPLE DESERVE BETTER THAN PEOPLE LIKE YOU.

Receive sense in Jesus name