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Kgdavid:
Finally a write up on romance that is aligned with reality.

Grade A effort here bro, well done.

Blyzz:
wow, she just wrote everything about me. thumbs up dear!

demsid:
u Don fck up with this statement of urs, I've liked u since that ur ed Sheeran A Team cover, nd ve been waiting for a day I wd find u again on a thread, but today wc it is u've disappointed me, too bad. So you sef follow for this stvpid hard to get team. MissGdope hai too bad mehn

ehissi:
Now let get the facts right!!

1.) That you think my opinion is invalid doesn't make it invalid; its a matter of perception, in any case I wasn't trying to make a valid opinion. I simply disagreed with the write-up of the OP based on my experience, just as it appears you have agree with the write-up of the OP for whatever reason you chose.

2.) I never said she was virtuous, I simply said I didn't think her hard to get and that's because I valued her companionship; believe me I wasn't the only person who tried to gain her attention.

Infact, at one time, I remember her telling me of someone who tried to date her. - years before I even met her - who she declined several times but he kept persisting for close to 3months.

After declining the young man's request numerous times; one day when she was rushing to catch a tutorial in campus, the guy appears out of nowhere pestering her and professing love and asking her to give him a chance, and then she turned to him, and told him firmly that she was not interested, had no plans of being interested and can never be interested because she had much more important things in her life that needed her attention; one of which as of right now he was delaying her from achieving and asked to be excused. And then she turned to leave.

The same "Mr-Romeo", grabbed her by the shoulders and shook her vigorously and called her a worthless pathetic, ugly, skinny looking bitch who was just totally ungrateful that a successful fellow like him even chose to give her a portion of his time and told her that she was foolish to reject him because he was the best she could ever get in life and then he left!!

Imagine if she was "easy to get", if I may use that expression. No be one-chance motor be that guy so??

3.) I also said the reason a man will call a lady hard to get is because he hasn't yet assessed a lady to establish her worth or better still he tried and didn't get her!!

When I knew the type of lady I was dealing with, I just patiently went after her!!

I also remember saying that I tried for 8 years to "capture" her and for 6 of those years she didn't give me a yes or no answer not even an "I will think about it" answer.

I never felt she was hard to get then really, I was just delighted to meet someone I could relate to and was taking out the time to know her better and find out if she was really who she said she was. Its only looked that way because most of my friends had walked in and out of several relationships with different ladies the same time I used to gain just one which is still solid till today,

Besides, wisdom or common sense demands that she knows who she is dealing with first, so she doesn't get hedged in with a complete psycho!!

if she must say yes; she needs a reason to, if she must say no; she needs a reason to. You can't subscribe to something you have no knowledge about the same apply to people and relationships.

Chikenan!!

ehissi:
Now let get the facts right!!

1.) That you think my opinion is invalid doesn't make it invalid; its a matter of perception, in any case I wasn't trying to make a valid opinion. I simply disagreed with the write-up of the OP based on my experience, just as it appears you have agree with the write-up of the OP for whatever reason you chose.

2.) I never said she was virtuous, I simply said I didn't think her hard to get and that's because I valued her companionship; believe me I wasn't the only person who tried to gain her attention.

Infact, at one time, I remember her telling me of someone who tried to date her. - years before I even met her - who she declined several times but he kept persisting for close to 3months.

After declining the young man's request numerous times; one day when she was rushing to catch a tutorial in campus, the guy appears out of nowhere pestering her and professing love and asking her to give him a chance, and then she turned to him, and told him firmly that she was not interested, had no plans of being interested and can never be interested because she had much more important things in her life that needed her attention; one of which as of right now he was delaying her from achieving and asked to be excused. And then she turned to leave.

The same "Mr-Romeo", grabbed her by the shoulders and shook her vigorously and called her a worthless pathetic, ugly, skinny looking bitch who was just totally ungrateful that a successful fellow like him even chose to give her a portion of his time and told her that she was foolish to reject him because he was the best she could ever get in life and then he left!!

Imagine if she was "easy to get", if I may use that expression. No be one-chance motor be that guy so??

3.) I also said the reason a man will call a lady hard to get is because he hasn't yet assessed a lady to establish her worth or better still he tried and didn't get her!!

When I knew the type of lady I was dealing with, I just patiently went after her!!

I also remember saying that I tried for 8 years to "capture" her and for 6 of those years she didn't give me a yes or no answer not even an "I will think about it" answer.

I never felt she was hard to get then really, I was just delighted to meet someone I could relate to and was taking out the time to know her better and find out if she was really who she said she was. Its only looked that way because most of my friends had walked in and out of several relationships with different ladies the same time I used to gain just one which is still solid till today,

Besides, wisdom or common sense demands that she knows who she is dealing with first, so she doesn't get hedged in with a complete psycho!!

if she must say yes; she needs a reason to, if she must say no; she needs a reason to. You can't subscribe to something you have no knowledge about the same apply to people and relationships.

Chikenan!!

ronald4lif:
This is a better persuasive basis for procrastinating a relationship. Sure there's a need to gauge a guy's feeling to be sure it's sincere and not just a temporal feeling of lust. But that I don't think constitutes playing hard to get.

I think playing hard to is unnecessarily leading a guy on even when the lady is certain he ticks all her desideratum and requisites. That's where the problem is.

ehissi:
Hmmmmmm..............

On behalf of all hard to get ladies and all responsible men who are enjoying their relationships and marriages with their hard won "Eminados"; I disagree!!

Whether men be intelligent, high or low self esteem, direction or directionless, being hard to get isn't a factor.

On the contrary, the only reason any man will consider a woman/lady "hard to get" is if he hasn't taken out time to observe a lady to establish her worth or he is attracted to her simply because of the "goods or luggage" she is carrying or he didn't get her eventually.

Once the true value of a ladies companionship is assessed and established; it doesn't even occur to you that she is actually playing hard to get; that is until you get her anyway!!

It cost me 8 full years to capture my personal, customised, one in a million "asamkpokoto", my original eminado - not all those pirated software everywhere - and for 6 of those years I never got a yes or no answer not even an "I will think about it" answer!!

That didn't stop my vision and dreams, on the contrary it shapened it, because they are lot of things a typical man in life may take for granted, until a remarkable lady with a focus and vision for her own life too and the dexterity to pursue it appears on the scene; na there parade go change Oooh!!

If a man, claims to be intelligent, busy, an introvert, has high self esteem, focus and other such mumbo-jumbo, hocus-pocus, slippity-slam; when he sees a woman/lady that has value and high net-worth in the field of matrimony and a life-long partnership and companionship, his calendar, schedule, ward-robe, spending habits, feeding habits, life-style, even the way he dey waka will change to accommodate a jewel of inestimable value!!

In any case, in my own particular example/experience, the issue wasn't whether she was hard or soft or easy to get. I was more concerned with finding out if there is something I was missing; getting to understand this type of person fully, so I know if I am looking down the wrong lane.

Of course there were times when it looked like I was just wasting my time; especially considering that most guys around me use the same period I use to get her to walk in and out of at least 10 different babes/relationship and chop, clean mouth waka!! But where/what are those relationships now; compared to what I have??

So I disagree with the article entirely; what I don't advise is playing hard to get just for the fun of it!! Like a rite of passage he must go through just because you say so; if you are keeping him on a waiting list so that you can observe if the person in question is sincere and is someone whom you can cope with for the rest of ya life; I think there's nothing wrong with playing "Hard-to-get" or whatever name it is called these days!!

#MyOwn10Kobo

tosyne2much:
If I have interest in you and I woo you, just consider me gone the moment I notice you are playing chess or ludo with my life

wristbangle:
Under which category nai me, tosyne2much, ronald4lif, lalasticlala and seun fall under?

fulfillbill:
Only if some ladies pick some two cents from this...

This is 2016


Carry go Op.

AccaPack:
The Op read my mind

adekhingz:
Kileleyi nso? Ice prince can explain better.@op

Drefan:
And it is so unfortunate that it has seeped into their souls as the homes where they grew created and bred that ancient awareness.

Oliviaarims:
Inasmuch as I don't believe in unnecessary fronting and playing hard to get just for the sake of it, I must say that it's necessary to take things slowly sometimes.

It's not in all cases that women deliberately play hard to get just for the sheer fun of it.. Sometimes, they simply need time to assess their feelings and the guy with whom they are getting into a relationship with, weigh the prospects of the relationship, whether or not it's worth a try and all of that...

Carowline:
All of the above are also hard to leave....

Adasun:
op say dat to da cock

Drefan:
Great write-up. So on point! I wonder the motive the first person who brought about this 'hard to get' bullshït had. Or what she was really trying to prove. I did rather preoccupy myself with complicated mathematical equations. Try indian guys. Naija guys aren't blessed with such endurance.

Cutehector:
I wish a lot of ladies will have the oliviaarims kinda mentality on forming hard to get.

Toks2008:
My life in one single thread.

Awesome

Freemanan:
FREEMAN DAVID

ALKARULEZZ:
#Correct

blueseacats:
Exactly, only jobless guys or players will follow a hard to get lady until they get to her to bed then flee afterwards.

Cholls:
my brother my babe wey try that with me don win be that.......cuz I go make sure Chase until I get her and bang! bang! then move to the next one who will challenge my ego.



Life is too short.

CaroLyner:
what are you telling me.even intelligent guys chase girls.
teamhardtoget#

HungerBAD:
Bros.

akinsbaba2015:
. The several lies that they told you in the run up to the election, if Amaechi truly sponsored PMB's election why has Nyesom Wike found it difficult to show the whole world the money trail. In Dasuki's case at least the prosecutors and confessional statements has revealed how raw cash was taken from the CBN, how several politician's accounts and those of their companies were credited from the ONSA's account with the CBN. Was Rivers State government money lodged in Pluto from where it was disbursed leaving no trace at all? Now equate Amaechi to Jonathan and note that several of those who served under GEJ are being called to account for the stewardship on account of monies appropriated to their offices, departments and agencies. Who has Wike called to question from the dozens of officials that served under Amaechi as governor of Rivers State? These are lies that will keep the body & soul of the opposition and their sympathizers going. They also said Jonathan did not fight anybody but the records of acts of impunity against opposition governors(Nasarawa, Edo, Adamawa & Rivers State) who he tried to impeach and failed (except Adamawa) are very fresh. The heavy militarisation of Ekiti & Osun elections won't be forgotten. The several incidents where movements of opposition were restricted on land and air are fresh. The efforts to frustrate the registration of the APC by INEC are still fresh. The tarnishing of PMB's image under the guise of an electoral campaign is another. The frustration of the APC's efforts at having their supporters contribute to the President's campaign through the use of a short code by the NCC is still fresh. The invasion of APC's data centre in Lagos and so many acts of impunity will forever linger in our memory.

Freemanan:
Loyal sir.... Mingwo

Freemanan:
Agumentum Ad Baculum