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Ladies should learn Hw to get hold of themselves wen it comes to sex

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dachaste:
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7. Relationship Problem: Trust

Trust is a key part of a relationship. Do you see certain things that cause you not to trust your partner? Or do you have unresolved issues that prevent you from trusting others?

Problem-solving strategies:

You and your partner can develop trust in each other by following these tips, Fay says.

Be consistent.
Be on time.
Do what you say you will do.
Don't lie -- not even little white lies to your partner or to others.
Be fair, even in an argument.
Be sensitive to the other's feelings. You can still disagree, but don't discount how your partner is feeling.
Call when you say you will.
Call to say you'll be home late.
Carry your fair share of the workload.
Don't overreact when things go wrong.
Never say things you can't take back.
Don't dig up old wounds.
Respect your partner's boundaries.
Don’t be jealous.
Be a good listener.

Even though there are always going to be problems in a relationship, Sherman says you both can do things to minimize marriage problems, if not avoid them altogether.

5. Relationship Problem: Not Making Your Relationship a Priority

If you want to keep your love life going, making your relationship a focal point should not end when you say "I do." "Relationships lose their luster. So make yours a priority," says Karen Sherman, author of Marriage Magic! Find It, Keep It, and Make It Last.


Problem-solving strategies:

Do the things you used to do when you were first dating: Show appreciation, compliment each other, contact each other through the day, and show interest in each other.
Plan date nights. Schedule time together on the calendar just as you would any other important event in your life.
Respect one another. Say "thank you," and "I appreciate..." It lets your partner know that they matter.

6. Relationship Problem: Conflict

Occasional conflict is a part of life, according to New York-based psychologist Susan Silverman. But if you and your partner feel like you're starring in your own nightmare version of the movie Groundhog Day -- i.e. the same lousy situations keep repeating day after day -- it's time to break free of this toxic routine. When you make the effort, you can lessen the anger and take a calm look at underlying issues.

Problem-solving strategies:

You and your partner can learn to argue in a more civil, helpful manner, Silverman says. Make these strategies part of who you are in this relationship.

Realize you are not a victim. It is your choice whether you react and how you react.
Be honest with yourself. When you're in the midst of an argument, are your comments geared toward resolving the conflict, or are you looking for payback? If your comments are blaming and hurtful, it's best to take a deep breath and change your strategy.
Change it up. If you continue to respond in the way that's brought you pain and unhappiness in the past, you can't expect a different result this time. Just one little shift can make a big difference. If you usually jump right in to defend yourself before your partner is finished speaking, hold off for a few moments. You'll be surprised at how such a small shift in tempo can change the whole tone of an argument.
Give a little; get a lot. Apologize when you're wrong. Sure it's tough, but just try it and watch something wonderful happen.

"You can't control anyone else's behavior," Silverman says. "The only one in your charge is you."

4.Relationship Problem: Struggles Over Home Chores

Most partners work outside the home and often at more than one job. So it's important to fairly divide the labor at home, says Paulette Kouffman-Sherman, author of Dating From the Inside Out.

Problem-solving strategies:

Be organized and clear about your respective jobs in the home, Kouffman-Sherman says. "Write all the jobs down and agree on who does what." Be fair so no resentment builds.
Be open to other solutions, she says. If you both hate housework, maybe you can spring for a cleaning service. If one of you likes housework, the other partner can do the laundry and the yard. You can be creative and take preferences into account -- as long as it feels fair to both of you.

Relationship Problem: Not Making Your Relationship a Priority

If you want to keep your love life going, making your relationship a focal point should not end when you say "I do." "Relationships lose their luster. So make yours a priority," says Karen Sherman, author of Marriage Magic! Find It, Keep It, and Make It Last.

To b cont.

3. Relationship Problem: Money

Money problems can start even before the wedding vows are exchanged. They can stem, for example, from the expenses of courtship or from the high cost of a wedding. The National Foundation for Credit Counseling (NFCC) recommends that couples who have money woes take a deep breath and have a serious conversation about finances.

Problem-solving strategies:

Be honest about your current financial situation. If things have gone south, continuing the same lifestyle is unrealistic.
Don't approach the subject in the heat of battle. Instead, set aside a time that is convenient and non-threatening for both of you.
Acknowledge that one partner may be a saver and one a spender, understand there are benefits to both, and agree to learn from each other's tendencies.
Don't hide income or debt. Bring financial documents, including a recent credit report, pay stubs, bank statements, insurance policies, debts, and investments to the table.
Don't blame.
Construct a joint budget that includes savings.
Decide which person will be responsible for paying the monthly bills.
Allow each person to have independence by setting aside money to be spent at his or her discretion.
Decide upon short-term and long-term goals. It's OK to have individual goals, but you should have family goals, too.
Talk about caring for your parents as they age and how to appropriately plan for their financial needs if needed.

It's the rare couple that doesn't run into a few bumps in the road. If you recognize ahead of time, though, what those relationship problems might be, you'll have a much better chance of getting past them.

Even though every relationship has its ups and downs, successful couples have learned how to manage the bumps and keep their love life going, says marriage and family therapist Mitch Temple, author of The Marriage Turnaround. They hang in there, tackle problems, and learn how to work through the complex issues of everyday life. Many do this by reading self-help books and articles, attending seminars, going to counseling, observing other successful couples, or simply using trial and error.

1. Relationship Problem: Communication

All relationship problems stem from poor communication, according to Elaine Fantle Shimberg, author of Blending Families. "You can't communicate while you're checking your BlackBerry, watching TV, or flipping through the sports section," she says.

. Problem-solving strategies:

Make an actual appointment with each other, Shimberg says. If you live together, put the cell phones on vibrate, put the kids to bed, and let voicemail pick up your calls.
If you can't "communicate" without raising your voices, go to a public spot like the library, park, or restaurant where you'd be embarrassed if anyone saw you screaming.
Set up some rules. Try not to interrupt until your partner is through speaking, or ban phrases such as "You always ..." or "You never ...."
Use body language to show you're listening. Don’t doodle, look at your watch, or pick at your nails. Nod so the other person knows you're getting the message, and rephrase if you need to. For instance, say, "What I hear you saying is that you feel as though you have more chores at home, even though we're both working." If you're right, the other can confirm. If what the other person really meant was, "Hey, you're a slob and you create more work for me by having to pick up after you," he or she can say so, but in a nicer way.

2. Relationship Problem: Sex

Even partners who love each other can be a mismatch, sexually. Mary Jo Fay, author of Please Dear, Not Tonight, says a lack of sexual self-awareness and education worsens these problems. But having sex is one of the last things you should give up, Fay says. "Sex," she says, "brings us closer together, releases hormones that help our bodies both physically and mentally, and keeps the chemistry of a healthy couple healthy."

Problem-solving strategies:

Plan, plan, plan. Fay suggests making an appointment, but not necessarily at night when everyone is tired. Maybe during the baby's Saturday afternoon nap or a "before-work quickie." Ask friends or family to take the kids every other Friday night for a sleepover. "When sex is on the calendar, it increases your anticipation," Fay says. Changing things up a bit can make sex more fun, too, she says. Why not have sex in the kitchen? Or by the fire? Or standing up in the hallway?
Learn what truly turns you and your partner on by each of you coming up with a personal "Sexy List," suggests California psychotherapist Allison Cohen. Swap the lists and use them to create more scenarios that turn you both on.
If your sexual relationship problems can't be resolved on your own, Fay recommends consulting a qualified sex therapist to help you both address and resolve your issues.
To be cont....

It is really true that the world is coming to an end..
First was sleeping with dog, horse or gorilla. It doesn't stop from there. You can't imagine a video I just watched on FB, It got me

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Check this out nigga.. Is this how wicked u are

misspicy:
That number two is erroneous and annoying....why do you guys equate sex with financial gratification......


sex in exchange for money is prostitution so if you put a law that no sex no money you are making it look like she is a prostitute inshort not look like self you have made her a compulsory prostitute......money for hand back for ground......



that means if you apply the number two or you believe it,you are purely oko ashewo

Dnt cry but that's d truth........ An independent woman is the one with pride.....

smileysmiley:
Fellow nairalanders, I saw this post on Facebook and decided to share it cause it's really funny.

My boyfriend and I have been staying together for a while now and he is pretty serious about me cause he has shown it by cutting down some excesses that I never liked. Recently, his unmarried elder sister came to stay with us and she has been very welcoming and nice to me but she has a really weird behaviour, I think she is too possessive. My boyfriend leaves home early in the morning and after he leaves, she would hide the toothpaste and it will reappear again in the middle of the night, I had to get my personal toothpaste cause I didn't want to confront her. She hides virtually everything; pot, buckets, pure water, maggi, washing soap, amongst others and all these things reappear when someone else wants to use it, even the TV remote set. She has never used any harsh word on me before so I don't know if she is angry at me. She has even started hiding the general bathroom slippers, the thing don tire me ooooo... some of these things sef were bought with my money. Should I mention it to my boyfriend?

I know their type, it is common among igbos

Racial

Radoillo:


Religious discrimination or racial discrimination?

makzeze:
Nigerian Man Starts Preaching In London Bus And Is Told To Shut Up Or They Call The Police

A Nigerian man took to a London bus and starting constituting a nuisance of himself there preaching. In the UK, he would most likely be disturbing the peace and could be arrested. The preacher kept insisting that the passengers hear him out ‘because I am preaching the word of life.’


An annoyed female passenger who was obviously frustrated with the preacher’s refusal to get off the bus yelled at him, ‘Idiot!’ He further shocked passengers with his refusal to get off the bus and just stayed on disturbing the peace. It became so embarrasing that the driver stopped the bus and told the passengers he wasn’t moving the vehicle till the preacher gets off.



Another visibly angry passenger even yelled at the preacher threatening to call the police. She was even backed by another man who insisted the preacher must get off the bus or get arrested.



‘Well, it’s up to you,’ the preacher replied.

http://amebobook.com/nigerian-man-starts-preaching-in-london-bus-and-is-told-to-shut-up-or-they-call-the-police/

I smell discrimination

Enjoy cos mine is coming

RIP OLD MAN.... U TRIED IN THIS WORLD OF END TIME........... SECOND TO COMMENT

amiskurie:
nairalanders,I just wanted to share what is going on in my love life today

Pls don't mind the long lines.

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when it all began,I didn't hide a thing for sake of a strong relationship,I tell you everything u needed to know,I let you know my weakness,and I started doing my little care... And I made it known to u how sensitive my mind,brain and heart is,that u should always tell me the truth..because my brain is highly sensitive and I know it when people lie.YES! So,u begin with your virginity which I later found that it's not true,and why u couldn't let me,but u were trying to attribute that to me.but why lie about it,after I told u I loved u for who u are?Who told u that u cant find love without it... But I still love u even though u lied cause It's not really a big issue to me. From the earliest days,I see everything wrong with the way u treated me.from the days when we discuss your school mother.from the calls I got sometimes even purported by your friends.from most of things. From people that are still in your life that u think I'm not sensitive of. I discuss and try to encourage you to free ur mind and tell me things u think I don't know but u didn't.I waited in vain and in pain for u to concede the secrecy I see all over you.even today u left here,I know you didn't go to Ife.I know that school changed you,but U still dwell in the past after I encouraged u not to.u still hold on and never sacrifice the ugly past for sake of our love.u came from good home,u were just a victim of circumstances,advantages,or should I say disadvantages?
But I still love u,and I will always be where u can find me anytime or anyday...the privilege I didn't give to my ex,or anybody I use to know.I will give this privilege to u cause you're special- of all the people I've known in my life.I don't want to leave u to your fate because the world is cold out there.I want to guide you like your best friend/bestie and your brother.
Above all,I don't want to tie my emotion to you anymore because it's a painful experience and its killing me mentally,emotionally and even physically.
don't let this affect your mood,I promised I will be the same person you use to know,I promise I will be your best friend,I promise u won't see a change in me.I want to guide you and be your inspiration into time.I will fight for you like a brother,like a lover,and a friend.
As for me,I want to remain in this state or status till years to come.. A state unconnected to emotions of some kinds.
I promise I won't make you see the difference.Thanks dear!



Lalasticlala. Ishilove. Seun.

if this message was sent to a white lover girl, she will be where she is crying by now but this message went to a nigerian bitch who will be at d club now holding a cigarette and a bottle of star reasoning your matter that how could someone be so dumb like this?

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Why you people get blind on something.. We are all human being irrespective of where we meet. Don't forget we are all bird of the same feather as long we found ourselves under same humbrella

Check this picture out.





CCC lalasticala

Why this making FP? END TIME NAIRALAND WITH END TIME STORIES MAKING FP

prettythicksme:
I get black lips?mummy u need glasses

I forgot it at home. Borrow me urs

prettythicksme:
Not all smokers got black lips!!!shey i get?

you get but Repenter smoker got black lips too

HermajestyQ:
its like u read my mind. I don't know wah I should look for 1st, a husband or a job.

Husband.. Cos looking for husband is like looking for Job. Lol.

God is in control.. We should just have faith that our partner will be exceptional of these lists

mekd:
Are you ready too.. Cos I wanna leave with you

I have already left the market...

It goes like this, when you're looking for a job , you make your resume look good, take care of your looks when going for the interview with the mindset of having the potentials required for that job position
This also applies to dating. Know your strong points, what makes you a potential boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife.
Ask people who know you well about your good and bad qualities. The question then is are you ready to leave the single market.

prettythicksme:
Morning endtime op

thank you end time commenter

If your John don enter the place then no course for alarm.